FabSwingers.com forum: Is it just me....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So it’s a slight rant but I get that you should just move on plenty more fish blah blah blah and it doesn’t bother me about the person it’s more about the principle ...

Known a girl for a while on here and in the ‘real world’ and she recently started playing again. We had spoke about it before and she said yes let’s meet I’m just really busy at present. Plus I can’t meet at present due to other circumstances.....

The next day a veri goes up saying about how good it was etc.... same thing happens the next day

I asked about it and it was like “ it just happened and last min meet...”

So I saw another one today and sent a text just outright asking do you actually want to meet.

She said I dunno.

So we get to the bottom of it.

I said why didn’t you just say and her response was sorry to which I said , “ there’s no need to apologise I just would have prefer it if you just said we cool but I don’t wanna meet like that.”

So I have to ask does it bug others if people aren’t straight like that ? Would you be honest in that situation?

I hope someone gets where I’m coming from....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm. Tricky one. I don’t think I’d be bothered; I’ve been asked to meet someone before and neither of us could, but I ended up being available and I met someone else I was chatting too. Other guy wasn’t bothered at all.

I don’t think I’d be bothered, no. They aren’t exclusive to me.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I'd prefer they were honest and just said they didn't want to meet me, but it wouldn't bother me that much overall, I don't think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although it CAN be frustrating when that happens, it doesn’t really bother us.

If they want to keep putting us off, and we see Verdi’s from others when we offered, we just avoid them.

In our view, they only had us on their mind has a back up plan...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really. "

Well there goes our meet....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really.

Well there goes our meet....

You had your chance...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have got the message after the first veri went up, let alone the second ...

I don't think I'd have even bothered to ask, I'd just get on yapping to people that DO want to meet me

If you are into someone, it ain't great to see veri's from others going up, but hey, meeting more than one person is kinda the idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd have got the message after the first veri went up, let alone the second ...

I don't think I'd have even bothered to ask, I'd just get on yapping to people that DO want to meet me

If you are into someone, it ain't great to see veri's from others going up, but hey, meeting more than one person is kinda the idea "
I wasn’t “into” her like that and this is the point I’m making. I don’t care that much it’s the fact that she asked it came out so why not just say?

She can fuck who she wants as we all do I just meant why say one thing and do another

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Although it CAN be frustrating when that happens, it doesn’t really bother us.

If they want to keep putting us off, and we see Verdi’s from others when we offered, we just avoid them.

In our view, they only had us on their mind has a back up plan..."

Great point !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would piss me off if someone wasn't straight with me. I don't ask for much else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really.

Well there goes our meet....

You had your chance...

Where do you lot get these emojis and why can’t I find them ?!!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It would piss me off if someone wasn't straight with me. I don't ask for much else. "

Right scarlet ?

I’m the same !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really.

Well there goes our meet....

You had your chance...

Where do you lot get these emojis and why can’t I find them ?!!?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah id be well fucked off it could be irreparable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd have got the message after the first veri went up, let alone the second ...

I don't think I'd have even bothered to ask, I'd just get on yapping to people that DO want to meet me

If you are into someone, it ain't great to see veri's from others going up, but hey, meeting more than one person is kinda the idea I wasn’t “into” her like that and this is the point I’m making. I don’t care that much it’s the fact that she asked it came out so why not just say?

She can fuck who she wants as we all do I just meant why say one thing and do another "

Politeness / Guilt / Misplaced obligation / Keeping options open / Not wishing to offend / Saying before thinking

Only she knows the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really.

Well there goes our meet....

You had your chance...

Where do you lot get these emojis and why can’t I find them ?!!?

Do Reply + quote and you can see how it's done OP.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It bothers me if people can't be honest with me, just means they haven't got the balls to be upfront. Which is a pet hate of mine.

I'm pretty open about how I feel when it comes to people on here and in rl.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'd prefer they were honest and just said they didn't want to meet me, but it wouldn't bother me that much overall, I don't think. "
this I guess - I think I’d be annoyed but not for very long.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really.

Well there goes our meet....

You had your chance...

Where do you lot get these emojis and why can’t I find them ?!!?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really.

Well there goes our meet....

You had your chance...

Where do you lot get these emojis and why can’t I find them ?!!?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really.

Well there goes our meet....

You had your chance...

Where do you lot get these emojis and why can’t I find them ?!!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes it would piss me off. But I want to meet adults so it would be a lucky escape really.

Well there goes our meet....

You had your chance...

Where do you lot get these emojis and why can’t I find them ?!!?

Wtf!!!! How ps I love you!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although it CAN be frustrating when that happens, it doesn’t really bother us.

If they want to keep putting us off, and we see Verdi’s from others when we offered, we just avoid them.

In our view, they only had us on their mind has a back up plan...

Great point !!! "

We did have one guy, and indeed, a few couples, who actually said upfront, they had ‘better offers’...nothing ever came of it, but, at least they were honest about it. Strangely, it genuinely never bothered us. At least we did not hang around, and then be let down, without notice....another story for another day...

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By *otstuffbabeCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"grow up"

Who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"grow up"

Savage

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"grow up"

Who ?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So it’s a slight rant but I get that you should just move on plenty more fish blah blah blah and it doesn’t bother me about the person it’s more about the principle ...

The next day a veri goes up saying about how good it was etc.... same thing happens the next day

I asked about it and it was like “ it just happened and last min meet...”

So I saw another one today and sent a text just outright asking do you actually want to meet.

She said I dunno.

So we get to the bottom of it.

So I have to ask does it bug others if people aren’t straight like that ? Would you be honest in that situation?

I hope someone gets where I’m coming from...."

She didn’t want to meet YOU OP, it’s obvious. Don’t think you should have bombarded her with texts. She accepted the veri’s so you got the message. It’s harsh on here sometimes

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"It would piss me off if someone wasn't straight with me. I don't ask for much else. "

Civility and Communication is often overlooked on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So it’s a slight rant but I get that you should just move on plenty more fish blah blah blah and it doesn’t bother me about the person it’s more about the principle ...

The next day a veri goes up saying about how good it was etc.... same thing happens the next day

I asked about it and it was like “ it just happened and last min meet...”

So I saw another one today and sent a text just outright asking do you actually want to meet.

She said I dunno.

So we get to the bottom of it.

So I have to ask does it bug others if people aren’t straight like that ? Would you be honest in that situation?

I hope someone gets where I’m coming from....

She didn’t want to meet YOU OP, it’s obvious. Don’t think you should have bombarded her with texts. She accepted the veri’s so you got the message. It’s harsh on here sometimes

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sigh

It wasn’t through fab we chatted in rl even been to her house. Met through fab a couple years back and we been froendly since

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So it’s a slight rant but I get that you should just move on plenty more fish blah blah blah and it doesn’t bother me about the person it’s more about the principle ...

The next day a veri goes up saying about how good it was etc.... same thing happens the next day

I asked about it and it was like “ it just happened and last min meet...”

So I saw another one today and sent a text just outright asking do you actually want to meet.

She said I dunno.

So we get to the bottom of it.

So I have to ask does it bug others if people aren’t straight like that ? Would you be honest in that situation?

I hope someone gets where I’m coming from....

She didn’t want to meet YOU OP, it’s obvious. Don’t think you should have bombarded her with texts. She accepted the veri’s so you got the message. It’s harsh on here sometimes

The point I’m trying to make is it wasn’t the first time we spoke or had contact. It had moved past the initial is this person a weirdo or are they normal. We were whatsapping in a general way over the last couple years. It just baffled me. Like I said I don’t care that much I just wondered if anyone else can see my point ! I don’t need to be told I need to move on or anything.... I’m not crying its the principle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would piss me off if someone wasn't straight with me. I don't ask for much else.

Civility and Communication is often overlooked on here."

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So it’s a slight rant but I get that you should just move on plenty more fish blah blah blah and it doesn’t bother me about the person it’s more about the principle ...

The next day a veri goes up saying about how good it was etc.... same thing happens the next day

I asked about it and it was like “ it just happened and last min meet...”

So I saw another one today and sent a text just outright asking do you actually want to meet.

She said I dunno.

So we get to the bottom of it.

So I have to ask does it bug others if people aren’t straight like that ? Would you be honest in that situation?

I hope someone gets where I’m coming from....

She didn’t want to meet YOU OP, it’s obvious. Don’t think you should have bombarded her with texts. She accepted the veri’s so you got the message. It’s harsh on here sometimes

Sorry OP think I either mis read or just didn’t understand. Maybe she just sees you as a friend. Talk to her more to get to the bottom of it. Sorry again

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