FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging club buddy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Recently tried a club with a couple I know and did not have the greatest of experiences. We went as a 3 but as soon as the fun started the couples coupled off and I was left as no more than an interested observer.

Would love to find a lady to accompany as a couple to clubs in Yorkshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But isn’t that all a club buddy is? Someone to go with, and then when you get there you all go and have fun?

I wouldn’t like to be someone’s ‘club buddy’ unless we were actually friends - I’d feel like they were using me to try and guarantee a fuck, when in reality I’d he attending as their ‘buddy’ and nothing more. I’d feel sort of obliged to stay with them the whole night.

However OP, lots of people have been successful in this so I hope you manage to find someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was single, I often attended clubs with male friends. I rarely fucked them.

You can chat to the other people there and possibly get lucky, there's no guarantee whatever lady you take with you will be a sure thing either....

Sex isn't guaranteed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The issue I had was that I went and played as part of a 3some but when other people joined in they just wanted to play with the couple. I was effectively frozen out. What I'm looking for is someone to get to know and to accompany in the future rather than being somebody elses 3rd wheel. It seems couples only want couples not 3's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The issue I had was that I went and played as part of a 3some but when other people joined in they just wanted to play with the couple. I was effectively frozen out. What I'm looking for is someone to get to know and to accompany in the future rather than being somebody elses 3rd wheel. It seems couples only want couples not 3's.

They had absolutely no obligation to play with you, and you only

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never said they did. But it was not nice to be sidelined in that way after the 'fun' had started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never said they did. But it was not nice to be sidelined in that way after the 'fun' had started."

No I can imagine it wasn’t, but if I attended a club it would probably be to play, I wouldn’t not play just so I didn’t maybe offend someone or hurt them.

Maybe better communication is needed.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They had absolutely no obligation to play with you, and you only "

Yeah, I really don't get it.

You could have the same experience with a single female.

You're not owed sex, or exclusivity or always being included in someone else's play. Regardless if you attended together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never said they did. But it was not nice to be sidelined in that way after the 'fun' had started."

Some people like a bit of variety when they go to clubs. They like to play with lots of different people.

Others don't play at all or only with whomever they attended with.

It's up to them.

Maybe clubs aren't suited to you if you are upset when you're left out?;

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All of which I understand. The point I'm making is I was included and then suddenly wasn't as soon as another couple showed interest. Not looking to use anyone to guarantee me anything. Just looking perhaps for someone with an interest in attending who would like to be accompanied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All of which I understand. The point I'm making is I was included and then suddenly wasn't as soon as another couple showed interest. Not looking to use anyone to guarantee me anything. Just looking perhaps for someone with an interest in attending who would like to be accompanied."

Perhaps they didn't want to include you in every aspect of their play that night, I still don't see the problem really.

Good luck finding what you seek

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