FabSwingers.com forum: Nice guys finish last

By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago

Stone

Come on guys, where am I going wrong?

I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message

I literally play by the rules!!

The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference

I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...

For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!

I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response

Perhaps this is just not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because you're playing by the rules

Bitches love rebels

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Mate.... snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, need more pictures and profile bio.

You come across as lazy. No offence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your chat is a bit rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There isn't much to go off on your profile. You have one picture of a leg, and nothing in your profile text that gives any idea of who you are, what you like, what you're looking for. You need to sell yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't bother trying to second guess, there are way more variables.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it isn’t for you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Most people read profiles before they even look at the message. You're one guy among thousands, in what way do you stand out? It's a tough gig but that's the long and the short of it

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By *unguy_4_uMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm also the same boat, every message is personalised and not a short "I wanna fuck u" but rarely get a reply? Just to many guys around late 40's/50 I guess?

Most women of 40/50 want a 20/30 something and and most women aged 20/30 want a similar age...

so maybe we should be aiming at 65+? lol

maybe change your photo - as cant tell wht it is until you click in so can be off putting??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried turning it off and on again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately great thighs, nice body and being a "nice/decent/genuine bloke" is not enough for me... I need to fancy your face and personality over everything! If I can't see a face in your first message or on your profile (as mine is showing when I am meeting) then I don't respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women of 40/50 want a 20/30 something"

No...they don't

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By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago

Stone

"Also, need more pictures and profile bio.

You come across as lazy. No offence "
non taken, definitely something to look at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?

I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message

I literally play by the rules!!

The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference

I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...

For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!

I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response

Perhaps this is just not for me"

Firstly chill

I takes a while for people to know you

Read the pages of pages of advice and be you

We guys out number women pretty much 70/30 and yes there are some guys that look like god's but not everyone is into gods make a girl laugh and feel comfortable and everything will click into place.

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By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago

Stone

"Unfortunately great thighs, nice body and being a "nice/decent/genuine bloke" is not enough for me... I need to fancy your face and personality over everything! If I can't see a face in your first message or on your profile (as mine is showing when I am meeting) then I don't respond. "

It’s a fair point but... want to keep my face off here unless in a PM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not personal, I'm told that most men have a hard time.

What kind of messages are you sending?

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?

I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message

I literally play by the rules!!

The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference

I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...

For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!

I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response

Perhaps this is just not for me"

It's just good manners to finish after the lady

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By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago

Stone

"Have you tried turning it off and on again?"

brilliant ha ha

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"There isn't much to go off on your profile. You have one picture of a leg, and nothing in your profile text that gives any idea of who you are, what you like, what you're looking for. You need to sell yourself

This, need a bit more about you, what you like, why you here, show us your personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give less of a fuck, whether you get fucks or not it will make you happier I promise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people would look at profile/pics when deciding whether to answer the message. There is nothing that would entice me to reply with anything but 'thanks but no, thanks' or similar. If you don't make yourself stand out, you won't have much luck.

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By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago

Stone

Thanks ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more effort you put in,the more you get out! Been said so many times. Your profile is as dull as 99 percent of them and your profile photo, what is it? You knee, your elbow? Just strange...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If you finish last it's aided by your choices. If a woman wants to see a photo (and who could blame them if they do?) and they have a choice of two messages - one with a face photo and one with a leg photo - what do you think they will pay more attention to?

If they have a choice between a profile with information, humour and a few photos, or one with a few sentences saying not very much, what do you think they are going to pay more attention to?

It's not that being nice puts you out of the running, it's that you are up against men that will present themselves in a way you refuse to.

You may not be the master of your own destiny on here but there are things you could do to give yourself a fighting chance but don't or won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you want to know more, drop me a message". Really ? That tells me nothing if what you offer or seek, it reflects nothing if your personality. You read other profiles before constructing a message, great, but I am assuming the profiles you read give you something to indicate you seek the same as them. They read yours, they see what ?

More information and and a reflection of you would be better. Oh, and another leg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2nd is first last have you been 2nd?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there's no hard and fast rules, it's horses for courses.

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

Don’t bother to read any profiles ...

Just spam all the women in a 69 mile radius with the following....

“Can I tongue punch you in your fart box”

Works every time.....

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?

I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message

I literally play by the rules!!

The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference

I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...

For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!

I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response

Perhaps this is just not for me"

Think you'll find a face pic does make a massive difference. Why wouldn't you send one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to see a nice face, the body is of less importance to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a good thigh

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By *appyhumper123Man
over a year ago

hull

The only fun you're likely to get here mate is on the forums you've more chance of becoming king of England than getting laid on here, I gave up sending messages, you never get a reply even when it's says on their profile message me, it's just not worth bothering about, stick to the forum mate or look at other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always finish last as I want to make sure she cums first.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Love the line about tongue punching ...

I won’t put a face pic on here but don’t mind sending one, but I do, I get a rejection .. mustn’t be photogenic.. lol

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?

I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message

I literally play by the rules!!

The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference

I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...

For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!

I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response

Perhaps this is just not for me"

Ok I've turned my phone a few times, what is your profile picture of? Jo x

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?

I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message

I literally play by the rules!!

The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference

I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...

For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!

I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response

Perhaps this is just not for me"

Folk often suggest reasons (outside of their control) for their failings or lack of success ..when as often as not the real reasom lays far closer to home.

Have fun

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Why do men keep saying that nice guys finish last? Do you all honestly think all women want horrible men?

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I couldn’t figure out your only photo at first, and that would put me off. Also would want to know more about you in your bio

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?

I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message

I literally play by the rules!!

The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference

I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...

For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!

I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response

Perhaps this is just not for me

Ok I've turned my phone a few times, what is your profile picture of? Jo x"

Ok (I'm not ghey) I did look though . Its his tensed thigh

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

How does my profile come across miss Claire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You always read the profile before messaging yet your profile has nothing on it

The only thing that stands out is your status whinging about women

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

"How does my profile come across miss Claire "

You haven’t got anything about tongue punching or Eskimo Trebuchet’s...

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Come on guys, where am I going wrong?

I ALWAYS read the profiles before I send a message

I literally play by the rules!!

The only thing I will not do (anymore) is send a message with a photo 1st time! Don’t tell me that this is the thing that holding me back, it actually makes no difference

I get it, i’m No spring chicken and i’m No oil painting but...

For my age a have a great body that is well and truly looked after!

I see lots of “sick of time wasters” yet I can’t get a bloody response

Perhaps this is just not for me"

No profile info, one pic of your leg, whiny status and whiny forum post, what do YOU think is holding you back?

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Why do men keep saying that nice guys finish last? Do you all honestly think all women want horrible men? "

Great lovers finish last.

And in answer to your question.. not all women..just the ones we can't have ..its just gotta be why .. isn't it

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

"How does my profile come across miss Claire "

It’s ok, a couple of photos, be good to see more. Mixture of veris, including recent ones. Bio could have more, put me off reading about 3somes straight away, might appeal to some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How does my profile come across miss Claire "

Says you have been here and there, no detail about you particularly. Great photos though

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

"How does my profile come across miss Claire

You haven’t got anything about tongue punching or Eskimo Trebuchet’s...

That’s missing too, no hope

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

A profile is like a shop window. Put something in it to tempt people in.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why do men keep saying that nice guys finish last? Do you all honestly think all women want horrible men?

Great lovers finish last.

And in answer to your question.. not all women..just the ones we can't have ..its just gotta be why .. isn't it

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

My experience is that being nice has lead to getting a better response. Stick with it OP and maybe add a bit to your profile.

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

"A profile is like a shop window. Put something in it to tempt people in."

Add that you are partial to a Mexican pancake and you should be fist deep in clunge by the end of the week.....

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

Finishing last suggests it’s a race. All good things come to those who wait and with time comes experience with experience comes knowledge with knowledge comes the way to achieving what you want.

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By *coxy69 OP Man
over a year ago

Stone

"It's not personal, I'm told that most men have a hard time.

What kind of messages are you sending?"

For example, the last message I sent to a lady she was asking fFor something specific in her profile,

I “fitted the bill” so messaged to telling her I was up for it but asked how a question or two to get the conversation going, at the end I asked if she wanted to swap a face photo, both of us didn’t have face photos on our profiles

She read the message and blocked me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It's not personal, I'm told that most men have a hard time.

What kind of messages are you sending?

For example, the last message I sent to a lady she was asking fFor something specific in her profile,

She read the message and blocked me

Ah, you THOUGHT you ‘fitted the bill’. All I can suggest is don’t get downhearted and don’t take it personally. Try this message: “GIZZASHAGYABITCH”.

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