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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)

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By *onderstuff73mMan
over a year ago

Brum


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

All the time.

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

No yolo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the only one.

Happens to us, plenty of times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I read their profile and it’s clear I’m not their type, I won’t message.

As for them being too attractive, I’ve not come across someone that I’ve wanted to contact first that I’ve found ‘too attractive’.

Usually they message me, and I’m a bit wary to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

Yep. Saw a meet posted earlier then decided not worth me messaging and adding to her queue of 300+ messages. Having said that swinging really has built my body confidence up no end, but that more clubs than Fab.

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

Never. Because I'd match perfectly. What happens next is entirely out of my hands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

Yes but then i do it and hope for the a reply

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By *m389Man
over a year ago

Bromley

Usually it’s because I need time to find inspiration for a great message.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

Years ago we were doing our usual search for who was looking to meet in our vicinity. It was about 9.00 on a Friday evening and I saw a couple looking for a meet and the meet had just been put up. I was 52 at the time, my wife was 32 and I’m certainly no looker! This couple were new, joined up a week previous and the pics looked stunning with both being in their early 20s. Probably more fakes I thought, but messaged anyway with our face and body pics. Straight away an answer came back saying they’d love to meet, with face pics enclosed and their address. It was only twenty minutes away so I said we would be there in half an hour. Told the Mrs and showed her the pics, she thought the same as me, definitely fake, but we set off anyway.

Well when we got there they were exactly as they said they would be and looked just as their pics showed. Fuck me I felt old, and my wife went straight to the loo when we went in and messaged me to say she felt uncomfortable. I said we may have to make it just a social as we may have an issue with the sitter as I read the msg. They said friends of theirs were coming in five minutes and hoped we could stay. We sat chatting and my wife seemed ok then the doorbell goes and their friends, another stunning couple in their mid twenties come in. And I mean stunning, so there’s us sat there thinking wtf?

Well to cut a long story short my Mrs simply did her thing, and before I knew it all of us were having a wild time and any thoughts of us not being good enough were long gone. I took some pics and a couple of them sat as the most fabbed on here for a few days. We subsequently met them again lots of times so the moral here is never think you’re not good enough. People are people, and you could be very surprised with who floats who’s boat. What’s to lose ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post you handsome devil :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (c) always worry about whether I'm good enough..especially as i have a liking for young cheeky guys who can't usually do much better than me

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By *weet Treat 69Couple
over a year ago

North Wales area

Yeah defently feel like that. So get very surprised when we do get a message or a wink.

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By *weet Treat 69Couple
over a year ago

North Wales area


"Usually it’s because I need time to find inspiration for a great message."

Were the same. Especially when the profile reads they want more than just hi. They want something to catch their eye.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)

Years ago we were doing our usual search for who was looking to meet in our vicinity. It was about 9.00 on a Friday evening and I saw a couple looking for a meet and the meet had just been put up. I was 52 at the time, my wife was 32 and I’m certainly no looker! This couple were new, joined up a week previous and the pics looked stunning with both being in their early 20s. Probably more fakes I thought, but messaged anyway with our face and body pics. Straight away an answer came back saying they’d love to meet, with face pics enclosed and their address. It was only twenty minutes away so I said we would be there in half an hour. Told the Mrs and showed her the pics, she thought the same as me, definitely fake, but we set off anyway.

Well when we got there they were exactly as they said they would be and looked just as their pics showed. Fuck me I felt old, and my wife went straight to the loo when we went in and messaged me to say she felt uncomfortable. I said we may have to make it just a social as we may have an issue with the sitter as I read the msg. They said friends of theirs were coming in five minutes and hoped we could stay. We sat chatting and my wife seemed ok then the doorbell goes and their friends, another stunning couple in their mid twenties come in. And I mean stunning, so there’s us sat there thinking wtf?

Well to cut a long story short my Mrs simply did her thing, and before I knew it all of us were having a wild time and any thoughts of us not being good enough were long gone. I took some pics and a couple of them sat as the most fabbed on here for a few days. We subsequently met them again lots of times so the moral here is never think you’re not good enough. People are people, and you could be very surprised with who floats who’s boat. What’s to lose ?"

Great answer. Can't claim to have this exact sort of meeting, but I'm frequently surprised at the number of friends I've made on here with younger people. But then, lets face it, most people on the circuit are younger than this old codger.

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By *weet Treat 69Couple
over a year ago

North Wales area


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)

Years ago we were doing our usual search for who was looking to meet in our vicinity. It was about 9.00 on a Friday evening and I saw a couple looking for a meet and the meet had just been put up. I was 52 at the time, my wife was 32 and I’m certainly no looker! This couple were new, joined up a week previous and the pics looked stunning with both being in their early 20s. Probably more fakes I thought, but messaged anyway with our face and body pics. Straight away an answer came back saying they’d love to meet, with face pics enclosed and their address. It was only twenty minutes away so I said we would be there in half an hour. Told the Mrs and showed her the pics, she thought the same as me, definitely fake, but we set off anyway.

Well when we got there they were exactly as they said they would be and looked just as their pics showed. Fuck me I felt old, and my wife went straight to the loo when we went in and messaged me to say she felt uncomfortable. I said we may have to make it just a social as we may have an issue with the sitter as I read the msg. They said friends of theirs were coming in five minutes and hoped we could stay. We sat chatting and my wife seemed ok then the doorbell goes and their friends, another stunning couple in their mid twenties come in. And I mean stunning, so there’s us sat there thinking wtf?

Well to cut a long story short my Mrs simply did her thing, and before I knew it all of us were having a wild time and any thoughts of us not being good enough were long gone. I took some pics and a couple of them sat as the most fabbed on here for a few days. We subsequently met them again lots of times so the moral here is never think you’re not good enough. People are people, and you could be very surprised with who floats who’s boat. What’s to lose ?

Great answer. Can't claim to have this exact sort of meeting, but I'm frequently surprised at the number of friends I've made on here with younger people. But then, lets face it, most people on the circuit are younger than this old codger."

As they say your as old as the person your feeling. So if you've got some younger friends then hey x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, or I attempt awkwardly and then decide they disliked me and don’t pursue conversation and don’t want to be a pest.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't refrain - if they may be a good match, it go for it.

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By *i_mondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No

Ive always messaged who i like without a thought the worst they can do is say there not interested

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

So do the people who avoid messaging certain profiles only contact people they think aren't very attractive? I've quickly checked, nobody has messaged us but if they had I'd be feeling a bit second best right about now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do the people who avoid messaging certain profiles only contact people they think aren't very attractive? I've quickly checked, nobody has messaged us but if they had I'd be feeling a bit second best right about now."

I got a shot with the uglies

(Joking of course. I only message the sexy folk)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No

Ive always messaged who i like without a thought the worst they can do is say there not interested"

Exactly

Worst they can do is say no or block you. Best case, you meet and fuck.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’m very much, if you don’t ask you’ll never know

What have you got to lose nothing, but damn could have a whole lot of fun time to gain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do the people who avoid messaging certain profiles only contact people they think aren't very attractive? I've quickly checked, nobody has messaged us but if they had I'd be feeling a bit second best right about now."

No but just means we are surprised if we get a reply..lol

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By *exy mature ladyWoman
over a year ago

Newport

You never know if you don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You never know if you don't "

Agreed but if you don't have much faith in yourself...it's hard to believe anyone else would

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"You never know if you don't

Agreed but if you don't have much faith in yourself...it's hard to believe anyone else would "

You need to learn to be confident in yourself and that will show to others

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By *exy mature ladyWoman
over a year ago

Newport


"You never know if you don't

Agreed but if you don't have much faith in yourself...it's hard to believe anyone else would "

Don't let anyone ever put you down..just be you

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By *moMan
over a year ago

Salford

Yeah just message who you want and dont take it personal if people dont reply. Its easier to pull in every day life than it is on here for me x

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

I should think this is pretty normal!

I (mr) have tinnitus (high pitched noise in ears) and Mrs has tried to get me to try some alternative treatments. I haven’t yet, because I know if they don’t work, that’s it, it’s game over. I’m stuck with it for life. However, by not going, I have hope that it could help in the future.

It’s quite similar, by not messaging, you have the hope that you’d hit it off and live happily ever after. But if you do message and are rejected, it’s over!

Humans are stupid really huh?

PS you’ve way more hope of getting a reply than I do of fixing tinnitus so just go for it!

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By *moMan
over a year ago

Salford

Mate, I feel your pain!

I suffer bad with it. The only time I dont notice it is during sex haha. Docs had me trying loads but nothing works..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send first messages, let them come to you maybe

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By *moMan
over a year ago

Salford

Well said

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By *owithflow321Man
over a year ago

Molesey

But what do you have to lose by messaging, it is tedious but you have to work at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont message.

i came across missD and she went into my hotlist... i really wanted to message but thought 'nah ill fuck it up' i thought she was a 10/10 and would have no chance...

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Everyone is more attractive than me so no point worrying about it.

Only message if the profile or forum posts interest or amuse me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never message as I'm too busy reading messages I get, deleting and blocking. It takes the whole day.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

So rare to get a match I always say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely message first and sometimes very surprised as to who messages me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

I mostly refrain, full stop. Just seems futile to try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was this Adonis...

I mailed him

He replied

He’s lush

I’m passable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont message.

i came across missD and she went into my hotlist... i really wanted to message but thought 'nah ill fuck it up' i thought she was a 10/10 and would have no chance... "
and she blocked you, nooooooo

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I just refrain from messaging people generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just refrain from messaging people generally."
awwww hey its the best way, no negativity, no disappointment and no having to doll yourself up for a meet

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

There’s a local man who has messaged me a few times who i’ve refused to meet based on his gorgeousness.

I just know i’d never be able to look at him so there’s no point. I’ve told him and he thinks i’m joking. I’m not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont message.

i came across missD and she went into my hotlist... i really wanted to message but thought 'nah ill fuck it up' i thought she was a 10/10 and would have no chance... and she blocked you, nooooooo "

Thankfully not... not sure what ive done but were having a amazing journey now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont message.

i came across missD and she went into my hotlist... i really wanted to message but thought 'nah ill fuck it up' i thought she was a 10/10 and would have no chance... and she blocked you, nooooooo

Thankfully not... not sure what ive done but were having a amazing journey now "
see theirs something for everyone here, at least 3 weddings next year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do the people who avoid messaging certain profiles only contact people they think aren't very attractive? I've quickly checked, nobody has messaged us but if they had I'd be feeling a bit second best right about now."

No I don’t message people I feel are unattractive at all, I sometimes message if I just can’t resist, but I don’t initiate messages very much. -Mrs

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

Never. If you dont ask you dont get. If they say no thanks then fair enough but at least you tried.x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I rarely send first messages, but until fairly recently I was much more cautious/ sceptical when someone I considered a 10/10 messaged me. Like, honey, dream on, they won't want you, what's the catch?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So do the people who avoid messaging certain profiles only contact people they think aren't very attractive? I've quickly checked, nobody has messaged us but if they had I'd be feeling a bit second best right about now.

No I don’t message people I feel are unattractive at all, I sometimes message if I just can’t resist, but I don’t initiate messages very much. -Mrs "

The general gist seems to me to be that a lot of people feel they aren't good enough for those they feel are very attractive. I find this quite insulting towards the people they feel they are good enough for. It's the same with this bloody leagues and punching above your weight everyone seems so concerned with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally send messages to anyone I like if I think they’ll respond positively. I don’t set myself up for disappointment. However I find it more challenging to stay on someone’s radar after the early conversations.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I did a few years ago. I thought it sensible and didn't want to face rejection or possible laughter. But then I thought fuck it and realised I have a lot to offer and I'm sexy in my own way. I remember one man from the fora who I was convinced would never say yes and would tell myself well he's met absolute stunners, you have no chance. But we've met. We continue to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

Always. Clearly plenty of us have self confidence issues

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So do the people who avoid messaging certain profiles only contact people they think aren't very attractive? I've quickly checked, nobody has messaged us but if they had I'd be feeling a bit second best right about now.

No I don’t message people I feel are unattractive at all, I sometimes message if I just can’t resist, but I don’t initiate messages very much. -Mrs

The general gist seems to me to be that a lot of people feel they aren't good enough for those they feel are very attractive. I find this quite insulting towards the people they feel they are good enough for. It's the same with this bloody leagues and punching above your weight everyone seems so concerned with."

I don't know if it's insulting? One, confidence is mostly about you, so it's not a reflection on anyone else. Two, I can think highly of the local restaurant while knowing it's not Michelin star quality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"
Absolutely, my age is totally against me now!

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I find myself often writing a message out to someone who I like the look of and has a good write up on their profile and then not bothering to send the message.

There's a veriety of thoughts as to why I don't send it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do the people who avoid messaging certain profiles only contact people they think aren't very attractive? I've quickly checked, nobody has messaged us but if they had I'd be feeling a bit second best right about now.

No I don’t message people I feel are unattractive at all, I sometimes message if I just can’t resist, but I don’t initiate messages very much. -Mrs

The general gist seems to me to be that a lot of people feel they aren't good enough for those they feel are very attractive. I find this quite insulting towards the people they feel they are good enough for. It's the same with this bloody leagues and punching above your weight everyone seems so concerned with.

I don't know if it's insulting? One, confidence is mostly about you, so it's not a reflection on anyone else. Two, I can think highly of the local restaurant while knowing it's not Michelin star quality. "

It only reflects on you if you let it. The thinking goes something like. Crikey if they think they’re out of their league and they rejected me, what league am I in?’

I just message people I like. If it’s not reciprocated ‘nothing ventured, nothing gained’.

I do puzzle over how I screw up promising starts though.

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Attractive people are just people. Attraction is nebulous, it's not only based on one thing, whether that's physical, personality, a way with words. It will be no consolation to someone that you find them 'too attractive', especially if you've been chatting & they find you attractive.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

If we find someone attractive and we are looking for for the same things we will always drop them a message. If the attraction isn't a mutual one then that's absolutely fair enough, unfortunately we can't be everyones cup of tea but we don't tend to dwell on it and beat ourselves up about it as it is what is

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


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It only reflects on you if you let it. The thinking goes something like. Crikey if they think they’re out of their league and they rejected me, what league am I in?’

I just message people I like. If it’s not reciprocated ‘nothing ventured, nothing gained’.

I do puzzle over how I screw up promising starts though."

Fair. I don't go telling anyone what league I think they're in, and attraction is individual. (and I mostly reject before I think about attraction to be fair!)

I suppose I see it as "no/ not now" (but that's about me and it isn't a reflection on you), yes, and "oh god I'd love to but I don't measure up". My scale is private, partly to save hurt feelings (or argument, lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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It only reflects on you if you let it. The thinking goes something like. Crikey if they think they’re out of their league and they rejected me, what league am I in?’

I just message people I like. If it’s not reciprocated ‘nothing ventured, nothing gained’.

I do puzzle over how I screw up promising starts though.

Fair. I don't go telling anyone what league I think they're in, and attraction is individual. (and I mostly reject before I think about attraction to be fair!)

I suppose I see it as "no/ not now" (but that's about me and it isn't a reflection on you), yes, and "oh god I'd love to but I don't measure up". My scale is private, partly to save hurt feelings (or argument, lol) "

I don’t think I have a scale except how much I like someone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So do the people who avoid messaging certain profiles only contact people they think aren't very attractive? I've quickly checked, nobody has messaged us but if they had I'd be feeling a bit second best right about now.

No I don’t message people I feel are unattractive at all, I sometimes message if I just can’t resist, but I don’t initiate messages very much. -Mrs

The general gist seems to me to be that a lot of people feel they aren't good enough for those they feel are very attractive. I find this quite insulting towards the people they feel they are good enough for. It's the same with this bloody leagues and punching above your weight everyone seems so concerned with.

I don't know if it's insulting? One, confidence is mostly about you, so it's not a reflection on anyone else. Two, I can think highly of the local restaurant while knowing it's not Michelin star quality. "

It becomes about someone else if you try to include them in your low opinion of yourself. I will message you because I can see that you are equally as unattractive as I believe myself to be is not complimentary. Of course its possible to appreciate all levels of restaurant and eat at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So do the people who avoid messaging certain profiles only contact people they think aren't very attractive? I've quickly checked, nobody has messaged us but if they had I'd be feeling a bit second best right about now.

No I don’t message people I feel are unattractive at all, I sometimes message if I just can’t resist, but I don’t initiate messages very much. -Mrs

The general gist seems to me to be that a lot of people feel they aren't good enough for those they feel are very attractive. I find this quite insulting towards the people they feel they are good enough for. It's the same with this bloody leagues and punching above your weight everyone seems so concerned with.

I don't know if it's insulting? One, confidence is mostly about you, so it's not a reflection on anyone else. Two, I can think highly of the local restaurant while knowing it's not Michelin star quality.

It becomes about someone else if you try to include them in your low opinion of yourself. I will message you because I can see that you are equally as unattractive as I believe myself to be is not complimentary. Of course its possible to appreciate all levels of restaurant and eat at them. "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


" It becomes about someone else if you try to include them in your low opinion of yourself. I will message you because I can see that you are equally as unattractive as I believe myself to be is not complimentary. Of course its possible to appreciate all levels of restaurant and eat at them. "

Maybe. But I can think I'm an 8/10 and be more wary about 9s and 10s (on my own private scale which I don't share)... 6-8 is still good/great, just not exceptional. I don't think, say "I think you're hot, you excite me, and I want to share pleasure with you (even if you're not quite Brad Pitt)" is insulting, you know? (I'd never say it like that, and other celebrities are available)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think ranking is tricky and best not spoken about, but I think we all do it subconsciously. I try to mitigate my foibles by owning them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Refrain from messaging a profile when you match perfectly but are too worried that you wont be attractive enough or there type. Or just me? Lol (expects lots of just you)"

Have my own insecurities,so only message if get some interest first,so generally don’t send any messages

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


" It becomes about someone else if you try to include them in your low opinion of yourself. I will message you because I can see that you are equally as unattractive as I believe myself to be is not complimentary. Of course its possible to appreciate all levels of restaurant and eat at them.

Maybe. But I can think I'm an 8/10 and be more wary about 9s and 10s (on my own private scale which I don't share)... 6-8 is still good/great, just not exceptional. I don't think, say "I think you're hot, you excite me, and I want to share pleasure with you (even if you're not quite Brad Pitt)" is insulting, you know? (I'd never say it like that, and other celebrities are available) "

I think there's a difference between being realistic about who you're likely to be compatible with and believing yourself not to be good enough for someone because of how you perceive them.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Yes, all the time

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


" It becomes about someone else if you try to include them in your low opinion of yourself. I will message you because I can see that you are equally as unattractive as I believe myself to be is not complimentary. Of course its possible to appreciate all levels of restaurant and eat at them.

Maybe. But I can think I'm an 8/10 and be more wary about 9s and 10s (on my own private scale which I don't share)... 6-8 is still good/great, just not exceptional. I don't think, say "I think you're hot, you excite me, and I want to share pleasure with you (even if you're not quite Brad Pitt)" is insulting, you know? (I'd never say it like that, and other celebrities are available)

I think there's a difference between being realistic about who you're likely to be compatible with and believing yourself not to be good enough for someone because of how you perceive them.

"

Perhaps. I think the lines are blurred, at least in my head.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


" It becomes about someone else if you try to include them in your low opinion of yourself. I will message you because I can see that you are equally as unattractive as I believe myself to be is not complimentary. Of course its possible to appreciate all levels of restaurant and eat at them.

Maybe. But I can think I'm an 8/10 and be more wary about 9s and 10s (on my own private scale which I don't share)... 6-8 is still good/great, just not exceptional. I don't think, say "I think you're hot, you excite me, and I want to share pleasure with you (even if you're not quite Brad Pitt)" is insulting, you know? (I'd never say it like that, and other celebrities are available)

I think there's a difference between being realistic about who you're likely to be compatible with and believing yourself not to be good enough for someone because of how you perceive them.

Perhaps. I think the lines are blurred, at least in my head. "

I think the lines probably are blurred. Anyway I'm off to message an achingly good looking 35 year old guy who only wants 25 year old, gym fit women

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If they contact me I presume they must fancy me..

If I fancy them then I've no qualms contacting them either

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


" It becomes about someone else if you try to include them in your low opinion of yourself. I will message you because I can see that you are equally as unattractive as I believe myself to be is not complimentary. Of course its possible to appreciate all levels of restaurant and eat at them.

Maybe. But I can think I'm an 8/10 and be more wary about 9s and 10s (on my own private scale which I don't share)... 6-8 is still good/great, just not exceptional. I don't think, say "I think you're hot, you excite me, and I want to share pleasure with you (even if you're not quite Brad Pitt)" is insulting, you know? (I'd never say it like that, and other celebrities are available)

I think there's a difference between being realistic about who you're likely to be compatible with and believing yourself not to be good enough for someone because of how you perceive them.

Perhaps. I think the lines are blurred, at least in my head.

I think the lines probably are blurred. Anyway I'm off to message an achingly good looking 35 year old guy who only wants 25 year old, gym fit women "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I message them, mostly get told to fuck off due to my spud face

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By *weet Treat 69Couple
over a year ago

North Wales area

There's a couple on here that check out our profile about 4-5 times a day, they have winked us we we've winked bk sent message then they deleted our message confusing or what

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There's a couple on here that check out our profile about 4-5 times a day, they have winked us we we've winked bk sent message then they deleted our message confusing or what "

Block 'em confusion finished.

It's probably one looking and the other vetoing a meet.

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