FabSwingers.com forum: Over thinking ...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I admit it. Guilty as charged

Maybe fellow forumites would share situations this has happened to them.

When your adamant something is the way it is when really it's not or vice versa ...

Just make me feel I am not the only one pleaseee

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Think it’s just you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah me. Overthink everything. Don’t believe anything. It’s a curse I tell ya!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I never ever overthink anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think it’s just you

Thanks I will now surrender to the law and asked to be handed my sentence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll get back to you?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Yes.

Sometimes my overthinking leads to oversharing which can be a bit overwhelming for others

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah me. Overthink everything. Don’t believe anything. It’s a curse I tell ya!"

I think we going down for a while. The judge don't look so friendly

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Think it’s just you

Thanks I will now surrender to the law and asked to be handed my sentence

In Leeds it’s still probably the stocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah me. Overthink everything. Don’t believe anything. It’s a curse I tell ya!

I think we going down for a while. The judge don't look so friendly

No friendly judges around these parts!

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"Yes.

Sometimes my overthinking leads to oversharing which can be a bit overwhelming for others

You’re not alone in doing this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

Sometimes my overthinking leads to oversharing which can be a bit overwhelming for others

You’re not alone in doing this x"

and then you regret it. Been there. More careful now.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Yeah me. Overthink everything. Don’t believe anything. It’s a curse I tell ya!"

It's not a curse it's the truth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think it’s just you

Thanks I will now surrender to the law and asked to be handed my sentence

In Leeds it’s still probably the stocks."

You mean I have to buy shares?

Bloody bankers can never leave you alone, even when your going down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes.

Sometimes my overthinking leads to oversharing which can be a bit overwhelming for others

You’re not alone in doing this x"

Yes, this too ...

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Yes.

Sometimes my overthinking leads to oversharing which can be a bit overwhelming for others

You’re not alone in doing this x

and then you regret it. Been there. More careful now. "

But it does help to make a real connection. It’s just a bit shit when it doesn’t work out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah me. Overthink everything. Don’t believe anything. It’s a curse I tell ya!

It's not a curse it's the truth. "

True. Rather be like that to be honest. It’s not done me any harm being so wary and having a bullshit radar as high as a kite!

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I'm an overthinker too.

Not doing too bad with it alatly but there are days when I can overthink quite alot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can someone give an example when this has happened ? ..

As I explain my defence to the judge, I wish she would nt make me wait so long with her reply

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

"Can someone give an example when this has happened ? ..

As I explain my defence to the judge, I wish she would nt make me wait so long with her reply

One example....

See someone I'm interested in on here

Read the profile a few times

Start to write a message out

Delete the message

Go back to have another read of their profile

Write another message out

Delete message again.....

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Usually you are right though when you overthink, it's coz you notice things and then work out many scenarios in your head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone give an example when this has happened ? ..

As I explain my defence to the judge, I wish she would nt make me wait so long with her reply

Maybe shes just not that into you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently .... yes

I do tend to overthink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last 3 weeks no. Just going for it. zero fucks for regrets

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can someone give an example when this has happened ? ..

As I explain my defence to the judge, I wish she would nt make me wait so long with her reply

Maybe shes just not that into you"

Not many are. That's life in general

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Who pays for this Judges time, she takes ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to overthink too much

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can someone give an example when this has happened ? ..

As I explain my defence to the judge, I wish she would nt make me wait so long with her reply

One example....

See someone I'm interested in on here

Read the profile a few times

Start to write a message out

Delete the message

Go back to have another read of their profile

Write another message out

Delete message again....."

And the next time you check the time it's the morning and your still sooo tired

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

World’s worst overthinking and my number one enemy. Self loathing is a bitch. I’m working on it though. Big hugs to anyone who’s similar xx

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I like thinking about things. But if it starts to lead to feelings of insecurity or inadequacy then I’m pretty good at nipping those thoughts in the bud and moving on. Those type of thoughts are corrosive and don’t do any good whatsoever.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I am the other way these days. I used to make myself seriously ill with overthinking until one day and i dont know what happened but i decided to work on it and now ive gone the opposite way in fact i try and do as little deep thinking as possible. It has also made me far more laid back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to know your secret Diamondsmile x

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By *easidegirlWoman
over a year ago

south shore

I struggle to trust anything anyone says..I'm always looking for the ulterior motive, the hidden lie, the agenda..lost a few friendships accusing them of something I'm convinced is true..such as cheating, lying, using me..its all in my head.

Overthinking for me has a cross over with anxiety. Its exhausting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guilty as charged, it’s not doing me any favours at the moment so I’m trying hard to stop x

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

Thoughts on single parents??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thoughts on single parents??

*Troublemaker alert*

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

"Thoughts on single parents??

*Troublemaker alert*

I feel attacked already!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thoughts on single parents??

*Troublemaker alert*

I feel attacked already!!

Count yourself lucky I am not part of a gang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your not the only one I think we all do it to some degree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Back to over thinking. Thank you for the replies...

It happens in certain situations especially when I have been letdown or a plan doesn't work out as it should have ... When I was younger it was with school exams..

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

I'll have to think about that but i suspect I'm guilty too

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd never get anything done if I over thought things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'll have to think about that but i suspect I'm guilty too"

I reckon most of us do it at some point. Some more than others but just don't like to admit it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll have to think about that but i suspect I'm guilty too

I reckon most of us do it at some point. Some more than others but just don't like to admit it

Yep, more I read things into something someone has said..wishful thinking crossed with over thinking..a bad combination at times!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ahhh ... Wishful thinking that's another thought.

That would be one the thought processes that keeps single guys on the site or we would have left a long time ago haha

(In my case I have left twice before)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The “what if” question or thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I do. Let me think about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone give an example when this has happened ? ..

As I explain my defence to the judge, I wish she would nt make me wait so long with her reply

One example....

See someone I'm interested in on here

Read the profile a few times

Start to write a message out

Delete the message

Go back to have another read of their profile

Write another message out

Delete message again.....

And the next time you check the time it's the morning and your still sooo tired

And then after finally sending it you keep checking if it's been read. Then you start thinking about what you wrote. Then you start thinking about that they are thinking as they read it...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can someone give an example when this has happened ? ..

As I explain my defence to the judge, I wish she would nt make me wait so long with her reply

One example....

See someone I'm interested in on here

Read the profile a few times

Start to write a message out

Delete the message

Go back to have another read of their profile

Write another message out

Delete message again.....

And the next time you check the time it's the morning and your still sooo tired

And then after finally sending it you keep checking if it's been read. Then you start thinking about what you wrote. Then you start thinking about that they are thinking as they read it... "

Admin should add this to the terms and conditions

. Be prepared to wait and wait and waitttttttt.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have put a post on another thread that I am overthinking that fellow members are not overthinking what I am overthinking ....

Damn this overthinking, it won't let go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After seeing a few threads this morning it seems many people on here do this and maybe it does get in the way of life at times or having a good time.

I have worked it out and I have one main reason for my overthinking which I would choose to share with someone I started a private chat with and not on a public forum.

I feel normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be bad for it but it stresses me out too much so now i just see things as they are and feel much better for it

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