FabSwingers.com forum: do you need to connect to a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is after writing my replies on two posts... Now mostly I don't socialize with meets... It's hi, sometimes I know there names, mostly not..

I ask my master for any rules.. then start... To be honest most of my meets I wouldn't remember many details other than if they were good or came a lot.

Now don't get me wrong for a meet I will have touch me... Or maybe even kiss.. I'd have to fancy them.. But for a quick fuck..someone I don't dislike the look of is enough...

So do you need to do the social chats etc.. or do you love the thrill of the stranger fuck...

Cali

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Afraid we are the opposite Cali, we need to connect socially first. But thats the beauty of swinging, we are all different and have our own desires to satisfy.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

i always meet socially first - mainly for safety reasons, i've met guys with fake pics and very bad attitudes so i like to know who i'll be naked in a locked room with...

but though i don't have to like them i do have to lust after them. admittedly i generally find that a social connection helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it depends really to be honest

i think because unlike you im not really after half hour quickies i prefer to get on with who i meet as im going to be spending some time with them and i couldnt spend a evening/night with someone i had no connection with or didnt really like

However if im at a club then i dont feel its as important as soon as ive had sex with them im off i dont hang about and chat after

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Finding the right balance of a connection without becoming overly familiar. Ideally a night consisting of a few drinks, plenty of flirting and then off to somewhere more comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess its the fact I'd hate to spend hours with a guy.. and admit for that there would have to be something.

I always do a quick call before getting them over but its more to tell them how it will be..

I meet some guys a few times but only talk when we want them over for a quicky meet.

When I had a regular it was different...

I dont think its wrong or right either way as long as everyone knows the score... I find the men I meet are happy with the no nonsense meets.. and never had one refuse to come back.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't actually 'like' the person, I don't get wet.

If their conversation is dull or boastful, same again.

If they are fun, interesting and we 'get' each others humour then it's a 'GO'

I've arranged meets before based purely on drool worthyness, but found there was just nothing else about them and wished I hadn't bothered.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The connection I need is a nice hard cock, to know my master is watching and enjoying seeing me play... And knowing I will get covered in cum.

To be honest apart from hi, and shall we start.. that's about it for pre play chat..

During I may tell them how good they taste or ask do they think I'll look good covered in their cum.. but that's about it.

It's so horny and sexy and I get turned on by the act.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to at least like the person in some ways before I can have sex with him!

And it is not just look and physical attributes alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's no connection there's no play for me. I couldn't imagine having sex with someone I didn't "click" with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think its wrong or right either way as long as everyone knows the score... I find the men I meet are happy with the no nonsense meets.. and never had one refuse to come back.

Cali "

to be fair most men on here arnt looking for anything in particular, thats not to say they will shag anyone before all the guys jump on me lol what i mean is most are happy to do regular meets, one off meets, all nighters, quick meets, so if they meet you and you ask them to come back chances are they will say yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be an attraction, and it's usually physical.

Very occaisionally I'll be attracted by the way the lady communicates, so I guess there is an intellectual involvement too.

I'm quite shallow at times, but do admit to thinking with my cock at other times.

If we've gone a long time between meets I tend to get quite "picky" and may be I'm too selective

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

depends what mood i am in,the only time have to connect though is with women, then mental outweighs physical.

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By *ellhatterMan
over a year ago

slough

one often knows -- stating the obvious here lol -- after the 1st meet; if absolutely no connection then prob. no 2nd meet -- even if one of the parties would still wish to.

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By *heiraWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Finding the right balance of a connection without becoming overly familiar. Ideally a night consisting of a few drinks, plenty of flirting and then off to somewhere more comfortable."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its different for couples I feel. When we meet a couple they have to share a similar outlook on life, similar humour, social upbringing etc, we have to share some common ground. When that happens then play is just an extension to that. If you've had fun chatting and had a giggle, then I tend to think everything is fine in the bedroom.

I don't particularly have to meet someone who is drop dead gorgeous, would fit my bill if I was looking for romance as I'm not looking for that.

Some people post rather naively about how they can't possibly just fuck anyone without having a connection. Well neither do the majority of people, but some people don't have to have a long list of criteria met or choose men they would like to have long term relationship with, in order to play.

I meet the majority of people in clubs so long. Social sessions are really the norm in that environment. I like that

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think I am strange for a bloke in where I do have to at least talk and have some kind of connection with then rather than just going in for it i suppose.... may be the reason why i am not much of a fan of the greedy girl nights........ hmmmm i feel another question coming...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*long social sessions are not usually the norm, it was meant to read

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive tried both ways and concluded that I do need the 'connection' for me to really enjoy it, so thats mainly the reason why I dont play at clubs, even though I go to clubs quite regularly.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"one often knows -- stating the obvious here lol -- after the 1st meet; if absolutely no connection then prob. no 2nd meet -- even if one of the parties would still wish to. "

a club meet or when i'm really horny and its taking over my life will be based soely on the physical. but there are some who i've had a great meet on those terms who i'd be unlikely to meet again because for a second meet there will be less urgency so i'll need the connection to help things along...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usualy get an idea about them by looking at their pics and profile and saying hi on the phone, then they come to my house and we go straight upstairs. I dont like wasting time by sitting around talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the nature of the meet... if I am in a club and the lust takes over then not really, but then you could consider that there is a connection in the form of chemistry, for me to get that far...

If its at home or at theirs, I meet socially first with no expectations and no promises before I make a decision.

So I suppose, I always meet them in the flesh first... but this is a lesson I learned the hard way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody wants different things from a meet so for some connection isn't required ie for fuck and run or dogging meets. Others if its a couple on couple meet then a connection is necessary to make a relaxed meet.

Us well we do like the socialising as well as sensual play so if there is no connection then its not going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Involving others in our sex life is an extension of our sex life so we'd have to fancy them (not just not dislike the look of as there are plenty of people who are not unattractive but they're not our type either).

To have sex with people we barely know or consider ok-looking enough Siren might just as well park her ass down a dark alley, bend over some bins and let them fuck her. No thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To have sex with people we barely know or consider ok-looking enough Siren might just as well park her ass down a dark alley, bend over some bins and let them fuck her. No thanks."

see that is something we have kinda done and loved it.. I am guessing it depends what you are after.. for us its basically sex no foreplay, no touching, no intimacy etc.. ( most of the time) its to be fair more for us about getting the cum at the end of it than how we get it..

So to be fair as long as I dont find them horrid then we will meet.. cock photo is important.. but I guess for some that is not on.. they see it as looking for cock not a person.. guess its kinda true.

but it works for us and works for our meets.. and surely as long as everyone gets what they want.. then thats all that matters..

Cali

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Definetly have to have a connection otherwise i wouldnt be inviting them over.

In a club its different just need to like the look of them but then i will only be shagging them and thats all, in a club im pretty vanilla, just kind of basic sex and oral. I couldnt give anything more to someone i dont have a connection with or know better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definetly have to have a connection otherwise i wouldnt be inviting them over.

See that is what I do.. just not at clubs( as has to be on cam ) so do that at home.. its always only basic sex and oral...

cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To have sex with people we barely know or consider ok-looking enough Siren might just as well park her ass down a dark alley, bend over some bins and let them fuck her. No thanks.

but it works for us and works for our meets.. and surely as long as everyone gets what they want.. then thats all that matters..

Cali"

You've mentioned your love of cum a few times and your profile says you fancy eating a 'creampie' from another woman, but it also states you MOSTLY play safe. It doesn't sound like it from the contradictions on your profile and your posts on here, and as you don't mind a complete stranger fucking you with no intimacy at all it really makes me wonder just what sort of risks you're taking with your own sexual health, and that of others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just wondering how many times you play safe with siren??... As for me to lick a creampie from another woman.. thats what she is doing.. having bare sex with her "own" partner.. If i had been asking for a creampie to be licked from myself then a little more risky..

I take as many risks as I feel are okay. get myself checked regular.. and just becuase for me it isnt about sharing intimate moments with others.. its about the purely sexual aspect.. it does not make what I am looking for any more or less safe than anyone elses play.

Its just how we like to play. I was looking to see how many others liked to play similar to me.. adn the pattern seems to be that how I play is similar to how people play at clubs...

so lots of people.

I just dont choose to share intimate times with others.. just raw sex.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

oh and you will also note that I also state that I actually prefer oral only meets with others....

and yes I do MOSTLY play safe.. as with regular partners we will go without we like that when we play together..

its about differences.. I didnt make it personal so why do some feel the need to.. I love cum, its pretty much why I play..

As Master loves to see me with a good facial

multiple prefered..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like to feel a connection some spark some banter and someone who can make me smile as that's a really good start for me

one to one meets i think the above matters

as for chams if i like the look at someone i just go for it terriable i know but im a sucker for a good smile a nice ass and a suckable cock or biteable breasts mmmmmm

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By *YLINDERCouple
over a year ago

CARDIFF

"Afraid we are the opposite Cali, we need to connect socially first. But thats the beauty of swinging, we are all diff

erent and have our own desires to satisfy."

us too tried the stranger bit ..not for us like to like who i have sex with and enjoy chatting with them ..maybe even a repeat performance if possible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For me to have a longer meet.. or include anything intimate then I have to like them..

but i am my Masters first and foremost and as its all done on cam, perhaps its a little different for us.. as it is not just about myself and the person there... The guys we meet are made quite clear on what is and isnt on offer..

and although we meet with little previous chit chat.. we have some meets that we have been meeting over the last two years..

I tend to do the opposite I think from most on here.. as at clubs I tend to socialise and not really play unless we meet someone that really we want to.. ( only if we are together as a couple) most club visits I just have a laugh with mates..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people do play like you do Cali.

When we first started swinging we always swore that we didn't want to be the typew of swingers that met the same couple time and time again, having meals out with them, going on holiday. That isn't us.

I like the clubs where you can meet someone, chat and laugh for a while, play together, say goodbye and that's it, move on and do something else.

I like variety and I'm a fan of sexy scenarios and new experiences. I have been in group sex situations where I've had a guy lick me. I haven't stopped him and asked for a chat first to see if there's a connection. The stimulus in that situation is the surroundings, the scenario, therefore I don't need a connection.

If we meet a couple for a drink first then yes, we like to know we get on and have a giggle and fun beforehand and I know it will go great in the bedroom.

For me its just about the moment, the experience, we all find our own way.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

It all depends - we have been in situations where there was a bit of a connection (otherwise would not played) but not met again - other times there is more in the connection and we become friends. In the latter case sex eventually becomes less important because we have a lot of other stuff in common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So do you need to do the social chats etc.. or do you love the thrill of the stranger fuck...

Cali "

..the quick 'hello, how do you do', and precious little else? Yep i can do that..i'm a guy after all!

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

Has to be a connection....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

We have to get on with the person before we will meet, even if it is just for the chat inbetween the play. Thats not to say we have to know the ins and outs of their personal life or that it needs to be chats on MSN for months on end......if we don't get a good connection on the first chat, we say no thanks....so we have normally made our mind up by the first/ second chat of wether we will meet or not.

We do play differently to you as we like to have a meet that lasts for hours....but if we played like you, then I think we would still have to make sure we had a chat before a meet.

If we used clubs, then I don't think I would care, if I fancied someone and they fancied me, then hopefully no talking would be needed

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