FabSwingers.com forum: You're boring

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Someone has been messaging me for weeks (different site) and it's the same boring messages everyday... I'm far too polite (and chilled out and cool) to say anything, can you advise me on how I should deal with this?? Please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop replying."

After you end it first.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

Just be honest .... lovely chatting to you but I don’t see this going any further ...

Don’t just disappear though ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sure some people think this of me

Stop replying - yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the same OP, I get drawn into a conversation with people I have no interest in as just being polite and just can’t see a way out without being rude or hurting their feelings.

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Where's wally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, I feel guilty about just not replying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Where's wally

STOP MESSAGING ME!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be honest .... lovely chatting to you but I don’t see this going any further ...

Don’t just disappear though .."

I agree.

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Where's wally

STOP MESSAGING ME!!!!!!!"

I see you

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Few boring people know they're boring. If the majority of your socials don't lead to any physical interaction or messages just fizzle out without leading anywhere it's odds on you're a boring bugger.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Where's wally

STOP MESSAGING ME!!!!!!!

I see you

I can use this as a book avatar lol

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Where's wally

STOP MESSAGING ME!!!!!!!

I see you

I can use this as a book avatar lol"

Can believe no one said it earlier lol

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I politely let them down, manners cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Few boring people know they're boring. If the majority of your socials don't lead to any physical interaction or messages just fizzle out without leading anywhere it's odds on you're a boring bugger."

I'm a boring bugger I think. But people bore me too so it evens out.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Just tell them to fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Where's wally

STOP MESSAGING ME!!!!!!!

I see you

I can use this as a book avatar lol

Can believe no one said it earlier lol

Someone did but I didn't make the connection

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Are they matching your bori..ahem...chilled conversational style?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send her the same boring message right back

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Where's wally

STOP MESSAGING ME!!!!!!!

I see you

I can use this as a book avatar lol

Can believe no one said it earlier lol

Just change your name to wally now

Someone did but I didn't make the connection "

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Just tell them to fuck off."

Or maybe they're just responding to your boring messages to be fair. I find the more effort someone puts in to their messages to me the more effort I put in back to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are they matching your bori..ahem...chilled conversational style?

I swear to god if you weren't so lovely and I wasn't so god damn chilled I'd block you right now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just tell them to fuck off.

Or maybe they're just responding to your boring messages to be fair. I find the more effort someone puts in to their messages to me the more effort I put in back to them."

I never instigate and I'm not boring

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just tell them to fuck off.

Or maybe they're just responding to your boring messages to be fair. I find the more effort someone puts in to their messages to me the more effort I put in back to them.

I never instigate and I'm not boring "

Oh I see... that could be true I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m the same OP, I get drawn into a conversation with people I have no interest in as just being polite and just can’t see a way out without being rude or hurting their feelings. "

Thanks for humouring me all this time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, I feel guilty about just not replying"

Aren't you a big considerate softie?

When you say same messages, is it,

Good morning / night

How are you today?

What you up to?

That kind of thing? If there is attraction there on your part, why not try and spice up the conversation yourself?

Or if attraction is not there, then it is one of those times where you have to be cruel to be kind, and just reply saying you don't feel there is a spark, but thanks for the chat.

Niki x

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Are they matching your bori..ahem...chilled conversational style?

I swear to god if you weren't so lovely and I wasn't so god damn chilled I'd block you right now"

Phew! Hurrah for your chilledness. Don’t block me, I’m lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A swift throat chop

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"A swift throat chop

On himself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where's wally

Oh hahaha

Did make me laugh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A swift throat chop

On himself?"

Obvs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok, I feel guilty about just not replying

Aren't you a big considerate softie?

When you say same messages, is it,

Good morning / night

How are you today?

What you up to?

That kind of thing? If there is attraction there on your part, why not try and spice up the conversation yourself?

Or if attraction is not there, then it is one of those times where you have to be cruel to be kind, and just reply saying you don't feel there is a spark, but thanks for the chat.

Niki x"

It's exactly like you say and with no attraction, thanks for the advice

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Ask them to meet, thats probably what they are waiting for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Where's wally

Oh hahaha

Did make me laugh x

Wally has RED and white stripes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A swift throat chop

On himself?

Obvs

Mean

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Send one last really entertaining message and if you still don't get much back then end it,after all they may be thinking the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A swift throat chop

On himself?

Obvs

Mean

Jokes mate

Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"A swift throat chop

On himself?

Obvs

Mean

Jokes mate

Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!"

End what I don't think it's that bad?!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A swift throat chop

On himself?

Obvs

Mean

Jokes mate

Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!

End what I don't think it's that bad?!

I don't mean slot the poor lady

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A swift throat chop

On himself?

Obvs

Mean

Jokes mate

Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!

End what I don't think it's that bad?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just message and reduce each answer you give numerically by one letter until you simply reply with one letter. They’ll find you boring and stop, as you psychologically coach them that the conversation is winding down. It’s also stimulating for you to have to answer ensuring you’re lowering by just one letter each time. "

Brilliant! I'm doing this

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Where's wally

Oh hahaha

Did make me laugh x

Was abit quick for me lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Her : Hi howz u ?

You: I'm great thanks. My fiancee is here today. We just got engaged. I'm really glad you messaged as she has said I cannot message other women.

Lovely talking to you all this time.

Bye Bye..... Bye..... no you first.. Bye .... bye bye xx bye xx bye....

phew.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone has been messaging me for weeks (different site) and it's the same boring messages everyday... I'm far too polite (and chilled out and cool) to say anything, can you advise me on how I should deal with this?? Please?"

Your no polite OP your complaining about it on Fab, tut tut

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Brilliant! I'm doing this"

You can practice on me if you want. (27)

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"A swift throat chop

On himself?

Obvs

Mean

Jokes mate

Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!

End what I don't think it's that bad?!

I don't mean slot the poor lady

I thought you were referring to the op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A swift throat chop

On himself?

Obvs

Mean

Jokes mate

Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!

End what I don't think it's that bad?!

I don't mean slot the poor lady

I thought you were referring to the op

Negative dear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Brilliant! I'm doing this

You can practice on me if you want. (27)"

Estella, am I counting commas &??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Your no polite OP your complaining about it on Fab, tut tut

Put some trousers on an help

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Brilliant! I'm doing this

You can practice on me if you want. (27)

Estella, am I counting commas &??"

No, you’re only counting letters. (26)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the other site similar to fab or completely different? If it is a boring site, tell them to come on fab and I'm sure messages won't be boring anymore

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"A swift throat chop

On himself?

Obvs

Mean

Jokes mate

Iron fist. End it, lifes too short!

End what I don't think it's that bad?!

I don't mean slot the poor lady

I thought you were referring to the op

Negative dear

Dear?! I'm not 'that' old cheeky bugger.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Brilliant! I'm doing this

You can practice on me if you want. (27)

Estella, am I counting commas &??

No, you’re only counting letters. (26)"

I'm counting letters, hungover x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell them "look you're a nice person and all that but we've been talking for a while and things aren't getting anywhere, we're messaging eachother the same stuff over and over again to the point im not as excited anymore, what do you think? Should we move on and try someone else or should we try something different, see if we can relight the excitement?" ...

That's something I'd say ... never works like but hey!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is the other site similar to fab or completely different? If it is a boring site, tell them to come on fab and I'm sure messages won't be boring anymore

It's a site called fabswongers i accidentally went to via a typo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop replying."

This

Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.

Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Sounds like you need to draw it to a close OP.

But before you do ask a few outrageous questions and see if that sparks some life into the conversation. You’ve nothing to lose!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

[Removed by poster at 27/07/19 13:57:49]

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop replying.

This

Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.

Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!"

Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled)

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Brilliant! I'm doing this

You can practice on me if you want. (27)

Estella, am I counting commas &??

No, you’re only counting letters. (26)

I'm counting letters, hungover x"

You’re doing well then, Retweet. (25)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where's wally

Oh hahaha

Did make me laugh x

Wally has RED and white stripes"

Yes, so you're clearly a mime...

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"[Number count forgotten by poster at 27/07/19 13:57:49]"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Where's wally

Oh hahaha

Did make me laugh x

Wally has RED and white stripes

Yes, so you're clearly a mime... "

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes boring can be a two way street. If you are not responding in a certain way, it can get agonising on both sides. If the conversation is not clicking, best let her down politely, than draw it out with a long yawn.

Holly

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"Sometimes boring can be a two way street. If you are not responding in a certain way, it can get agonising on both sides. If the conversation is not clicking, best let her down politely, than draw it out with a long yawn.

Holly"

How does one draw a yawn? This will have me thinking for a while.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Brilliant! I'm doing this

You can practice on me if you want. (27)

Estella, am I counting commas &??

No, you’re only counting letters. (26)

I'm counting letters, hungover x

You’re doing well then, Retweet. (25)"

We miss you when you leave fab (24)

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Brilliant! I'm doing this

You can practice on me if you want. (27)

Estella, am I counting commas &??

No, you’re only counting letters. (26)

I'm counting letters, hungover x"

I'm hungove

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop replying.

This

Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.

Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!

Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled)"

Are you really cool and chilled? You sound unsure.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Brilliant! I'm doing this

You can practice on me if you want. (27)

Estella, am I counting commas &??

No, you’re only counting letters. (26)

I'm counting letters, hungover x

You’re doing well then, Retweet. (25)

We miss you when you leave fab (24)"

That is very kind of you to say. (24)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop replying.

This

Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.

Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!

Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled)

Are you really cool and chilled? You sound unsure."

Please don't question me again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop replying.

This

Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.

Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!

Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled)

Are you really cool and chilled? You sound unsure.

Please don't question me again "

Bitc*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Brilliant! I'm doing this

You can practice on me if you want. (27)

Estella, am I counting commas &??

No, you’re only counting letters. (26)

I'm counting letters, hungover x

You’re doing well then, Retweet. (25)

We miss you when you leave fab (24)

That is very kind of you to say. (24) "

Estella beer reminds me of u (23)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's estrella I messed up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stop replying.

This

Just say you’re not feeling it anymore. Take care. Job done.

Do not reply if they answer. You’ll be going around in circles!

Yeah, I know this deep down, but I'm too empathetic (and cool and chilled)

Are you really cool and chilled? You sound unsure.

Please don't question me again

Bitc*"

??? I'm not a fan of acronyms

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's estrella I messed up "

Death to you then!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!"

I welcome death (13)

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)"

Welcome, Death. (12)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)"

With a coffee (11)

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)"

Milk and one (10)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)

Milk and one (10)"

Froth it up? (9)

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)

Milk and one (10)

Froth it up? (9)"

Cock stir! (8)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)

Milk and one (10)

Froth it up? (9)

Cock stir! (8)"

How rude! (7)

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)

Milk and one (10)

Froth it up? (9)

Cock stir! (8)

How rude! (7)"

Tis, yes. (6)

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)

Milk and one (10)

Froth it up? (9)

Cock stir! (8)

How rude! (7)

Tis, yes. (6)"

Bored? (5)

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)

Milk and one (10)

Froth it up? (9)

Cock stir! (8)

How rude! (7)

Tis, yes. (6)

Bored? (5)"

Haha! (4)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)

Milk and one (10)

Froth it up? (9)

Cock stir! (8)

How rude! (7)

Tis, yes. (6)

Bored? (5)

Haha! (4)"

Yes? (3)

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)

Milk and one (10)

Froth it up? (9)

Cock stir! (8)

How rude! (7)

Tis, yes. (6)

Bored? (5)

Haha! (4)

Yes? (3) "

No (2)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm starting to think she isn't the issue....

Holly

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm starting to think she isn't the issue....

Holly"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's estrella I messed up

Death to you then!!!

I welcome death (13)

Welcome, Death. (12)

With a coffee (11)

Milk and one (10)

Froth it up? (9)

Cock stir! (8)

How rude! (7)

Tis, yes. (6)

Bored? (5)

Haha! (4)

Yes? (3)

No (2)"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think she isn't the issue....

Holly"

Do you think it's technology?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think she isn't the issue....

Holly

Do you think it's technology? "

Zzzzzzz.... sorry, what was that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think she isn't the issue....

Holly

Do you think it's technology?

Zzzzzzz.... sorry, what was that? "

Ah sleep apnea, no need to apologise, I have experience with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think she isn't the issue....

Holly

Do you think it's technology?

Zzzzzzz.... sorry, what was that?

Ah sleep apnea, no need to apologise, I have experience with this "

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