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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well its been over a week since ive had surgery and been home. In that time ive seen my parents and sibling once for 20 minutes. Ive seen no one else, spoke to anyone or had any interaction with a human being. This has made me realise how alone i am and out of contact with people.

Does anyone else suffer from this plight?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yes at time's. You can always talk rubbish on here at those time's if stuck indoors,it passes some time.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

What surgery have you had?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Sometimes the opposite.

Cannot get rid of friends, colleagues, family.

Last year, Bubbles had surgery, felt rough.

Could we stop folks visiting? More chance of Finding Lord Lucan.

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

I'd say soak it in, learn to love solitude. Not so easy when it's not out of choice - are you feeling lonely or just alone? Do you have everything you need post-surgery?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im sort of used to the solitude, but its at times when its forced upon you that it makes you realise how alone a person can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you’re recovering from the surgery, I know you shouldn’t have to ask but have you told people you would like visitors? Xx

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Im sort of used to the solitude, but its at times when its forced upon you that it makes you realise how alone a person can be.

"

I hope you are healing well. Who have you called to invite over for a cuppa?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hope you’re recovering from the surgery, I know you shouldn’t have to ask but have you told people you would like visitors? Xx"

Sadly i have no one to ask other than my folks and sibling who both working. I have no friends, its a weird situation.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Been alone for four days by choice. Me gusta.

However after something like surgery I get where you are coming from so perhaps reach out to them. Tell them you are feeling a bit lonely and can they come see you? They probably think you need some peace

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By *ream3.14159Man
over a year ago

Here & there

I'm antisocial, your plight is my blessing

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Ok I'm being ignored ta very much . I'll leave ya to your thoughts I was only trying to be friendly

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Hope you’re recovering from the surgery, I know you shouldn’t have to ask but have you told people you would like visitors? Xx

Sadly i have no one to ask other than my folks and sibling who both working. I have no friends, its a weird situation."

Use it as a bit of a wake up call - you need to get out and about and socialise more, or make contact with old friends again- they are often the best.

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"Im sort of used to the solitude, but its at times when its forced upon you that it makes you realise how alone a person can be.

"

I get you. But that's something worth embracing, learning how to deal with it. Don't let it defeat you. Catch up on some reading. See how far back in the forum you can get.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hope you’re recovering from the surgery, I know you shouldn’t have to ask but have you told people you would like visitors? Xx

Sadly i have no one to ask other than my folks and sibling who both working. I have no friends, its a weird situation.

Use it as a bit of a wake up call - you need to get out and about and socialise more, or make contact with old friends again- they are often the best."

Sadly ive been this way since 2014, i had a near fatal accident and was lucky to survive. My friends at the time never visited, phoned or even text to see how i was. As soon as i was well i cut them out of my life after giving so much of myself to them with support etc i didn't even get 5 minutes after the accident.

I do socialise and try but making friends seems beyond me at this time in my life and i cant understand why.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Yes at time's. You can always talk rubbish on here at those time's if stuck indoors,it passes some time."
yes I agree xxxx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Well its been over a week since ive had surgery and been home. In that time ive seen my parents and sibling once for 20 minutes. Ive seen no one else, spoke to anyone or had any interaction with a human being. This has made me realise how alone i am and out of contact with people.

Does anyone else suffer from this plight?"

Hugs Get well soon join a club or social when your feeling better xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Born alone die alone.

I hate being lonely

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Born alone die alone.

I hate being lonely "
You lonely?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Hope you’re recovering from the surgery, I know you shouldn’t have to ask but have you told people you would like visitors? Xx

Sadly i have no one to ask other than my folks and sibling who both working. I have no friends, its a weird situation.

Use it as a bit of a wake up call - you need to get out and about and socialise more, or make contact with old friends again- they are often the best.

Sadly ive been this way since 2014, i had a near fatal accident and was lucky to survive. My friends at the time never visited, phoned or even text to see how i was. As soon as i was well i cut them out of my life after giving so much of myself to them with support etc i didn't even get 5 minutes after the accident.

I do socialise and try but making friends seems beyond me at this time in my life and i cant understand why."

Under different circumstances, but Im in a very similar position.

I have family around me which is great, but you need more than just family interaction too.

Having no friends that you can go to is tough, it really is. It is also much much harder than people think to just make new friends, or at least friends on a close connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Born alone die alone.

I hate being lonely You lonely?"

Depends how you define lonely.. people around me.. yes, people I can depend on.. no

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Born alone die alone.

I hate being lonely You lonely?

Depends how you define lonely.. people around me.. yes, people I can depend on.. no

"

Awww hugs for you and a kiss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Born alone die alone.

I hate being lonely You lonely?

Depends how you define lonely.. people around me.. yes, people I can depend on.. no

Awww hugs for you and a kiss x"
thanks hun

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Alot of lonely people out there x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Not a good place to be in OP and can totally relate. Neither my family or friends live near by or for that fact within an hour of me. As a single mum I’ve had to learn to “love” the quiet evenings and weekends and the alone feeling

Give your family a text, ask them to pop round for a chat, they might think you just want quiet recovery time.

Wish you well and a speedy recovery

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes, but i love it.

I find people draining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im sort of used to the solitude, but its at times when its forced upon you that it makes you realise how alone a person can be.

"

Hmm. Being alone is healthy as if you can’t stand your own company, how will others put up with you? However, being lonely is a completely other matter and not to be taken lightly. Take this time to decide which it is OP and when you’re better, if you have decided you’re lonely, it’s time to do things the old fashioned way and go out and make a new friend or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realise how lucky I am, I never feel alone as I have a loving family and friends

Not saying that I don’t like my alone time but not always easy when you are a single Dad

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I've got a lot of friends from all over but I can safely bet that if I had surgery or was crippled up for some reason I wouldn't see any of them until I was better. The week my dad died I got hundreds of well meaning messages and comments on facebook but three years down the line none of them have asked me if I'm coping ok with it since that first week. It's just the way it goes I guess.

Hope you feel better soon anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you able to get out of the house even just to a cafe for a coffee?

sometimes just being amongst others makes a difference

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Some people crave human interaction some don't....I think if it's making you feel low Op it's time to take action, people won't know how you feel until you tell them.....I'm sure you're family would appreciate how you feel....try talking to them maybe? See what comes from that....more visits, trips out.....

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH


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are you able to get out of the house even just to a cafe for a coffee?

sometimes just being amongst others makes a difference

"

Sometimes it helps but it is possible to feel all alone in a crowded place. I'm often that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly how are you feeling after your surgery ..that can seriously mess with how you feel ?

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"Hope you’re recovering from the surgery, I know you shouldn’t have to ask but have you told people you would like visitors? Xx

Sadly i have no one to ask other than my folks and sibling who both working. I have no friends, its a weird situation.

Use it as a bit of a wake up call - you need to get out and about and socialise more, or make contact with old friends again- they are often the best.

Sadly ive been this way since 2014, i had a near fatal accident and was lucky to survive. My friends at the time never visited, phoned or even text to see how i was. As soon as i was well i cut them out of my life after giving so much of myself to them with support etc i didn't even get 5 minutes after the accident.

I do socialise and try but making friends seems beyond me at this time in my life and i cant understand why.

Under different circumstances, but Im in a very similar position.

I have family around me which is great, but you need more than just family interaction too.

Having no friends that you can go to is tough, it really is. It is also much much harder than people think to just make new friends, or at least friends on a close connection."

Very good point, especially when you're in a low place. And easy to feel like a burden. It is possible though, a matter of making a change. Like others have said, waiting for other people to reach out won't help as they might think you would prefer being left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's down to you to reach out to others having said that I know how you feel

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