FabSwingers.com forum: 1st message pressure

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's no denying it. All of us guys have felt the pressure when sending that 1st message. What do you say? How can you stand out from the masses? How do you not come across like a horny wanker?

Ladies, what has been the worst opening message you had? Equally, which has been the best?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start off with "didn't wanna fuck you anyway" it'll throw them off guard and you'll be interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what pressure let them message and chase u its much easier

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I send the first message. Quite often actually. And normally it'll be some quip about their forum post or a slightly sarcastic remark about it. And then I worry that they won't get it.

The worst one would be the ? in the subject header followed by "meat now?". Succinct I'll give him that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The worst messages would get me banned from the forum, they're that bad.

The best have all been unique. Personal, using my profile text, and giving me just a hint (nothing graphic) of what we might have in common or what I might get out of this. Nice but not deferential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The worst messages would get me banned from the forum, they're that bad.

The best have all been unique. Personal, using my profile text, and giving me just a hint (nothing graphic) of what we might have in common or what I might get out of this. Nice but not deferential. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, first message is seriously stressful I find.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I send the first message. Quite often actually. And normally it'll be some quip about their forum post or a slightly sarcastic remark about it. And then I worry that they won't get it.

The worst one would be the ? in the subject header followed by "meat now?". Succinct I'll give him that."

Do guys actually use that header? Lol! That's bold.

Still awaiting my sarcastic message tho

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I wouldn't call it pressure as such, just find it cold and clinical and a little awkward sending unsolicited messages to random people whose profile I've liked - which is why I haven't sent that kind of message in probably two and a half years.

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By *sgigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

"I send the first message. Quite often actually. And normally it'll be some quip about their forum post or a slightly sarcastic remark about it. And then I worry that they won't get it.

The worst one would be the ? in the subject header followed by "meat now?". Succinct I'll give him that."

I always wonder how often those sort of messages have the desired outcome

Our worst is a guy that makes a new account every month or so & sends "she like big thick young cock", same message, no punctuation, no capitals, every time.

A good message for us addresses both of us, has some evidence of having read our profile, and a bit of humour will always go down very well. It's not rocket science

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must lead an incredibly uneventful fab life because no worst or best message comes to mind!

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By *hesterXXXMan
over a year ago

in your dreams

Just make it light hearted. If it doesn't get a response it's not the end of the world. Plenty more fish etching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a message today that blew my mind.It was full of passion and well thought out.it nearly made me cry as it was so from the heart.

It said

Ouyyy slag fancy a f*ck now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message 1st, simples

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a message today that blew my mind.It was full of passion and well thought out.it nearly made me cry as it was so from the heart.

It said

Ouyyy slag fancy a f*ck now x "

Hahaha what a wordsmith! Must be a descendant of William Shakespeare

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I had a message today that blew my mind.It was full of passion and well thought out.it nearly made me cry as it was so from the heart.

It said

Ouyyy slag fancy a f*ck now x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to actually take the time to read the whole profile and not look at any photos before I message and try my best to make it noticeable that I have done so. Best opener was sent to me asking if I was related to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel the pressure. The likelihood is that I'm not going to get a reply due to the sheer amount of msgs that women receive and mine will get overlooked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message today that blew my mind.It was full of passion and well thought out.it nearly made me cry as it was so from the heart.

It said

Ouyyy slag fancy a f*ck now x "

Wow, how do you cut and paste?

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By *nsertwittynamehere555Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I’m not going to tell you my secret to the first message, you’re the competition after all ??

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"There's no denying it. All of us guys have felt the pressure when sending that 1st message. What do you say? How can you stand out from the masses? How do you not come across like a horny wanker?

Ladies, what has been the worst opening message you had? Equally, which has been the best?"

I respond to funny,daft or off the wall messages.

If the poster isn't taking themselves too seriously then even better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's no denying it. All of us guys have felt the pressure when sending that 1st message. What do you say? How can you stand out from the masses? How do you not come across like a horny wanker?

Ladies, what has been the worst opening message you had? Equally, which has been the best?

I respond to funny,daft or off the wall messages.

If the poster isn't taking themselves too seriously then even better

So a sense of humour is a plus?

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By *sgigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

"There's no denying it. All of us guys have felt the pressure when sending that 1st message. What do you say? How can you stand out from the masses? How do you not come across like a horny wanker?

Ladies, what has been the worst opening message you had? Equally, which has been the best?

I respond to funny,daft or off the wall messages.

If the poster isn't taking themselves too seriously then even better

So a sense of humour is a plus?"

Always. Humour will get a reply from us every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's no denying it. All of us guys have felt the pressure when sending that 1st message. What do you say? How can you stand out from the masses? How do you not come across like a horny wanker?

Ladies, what has been the worst opening message you had? Equally, which has been the best?

I respond to funny,daft or off the wall messages.

If the poster isn't taking themselves too seriously then even better

So a sense of humour is a plus?

Always. Humour will get a reply from us every time."

Sometime it goes to wrong way I experienced "block" but felt quite good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

humour works really well

an example of a first message received ... I'm gonna stretch your pussy and pound it until you cry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"humour works really well

an example of a first message received ... I'm gonna stretch your pussy and pound it until you cry"

What if I just fab all your pictures then cry. Which I've already done btw

no tears tho lol

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By *sgigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

"humour works really well

an example of a first message received ... I'm gonna stretch your pussy and pound it until you cry"

I bet you jumped at the chance to meet that eloquent charmer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"humour works really well

an example of a first message received ... I'm gonna stretch your pussy and pound it until you cry"

Do be fair, today I saw a female post on local updates that she wants someone to pound her hole while her bfs at work, so although it in no way excuses it, I'm not surprised that women get these sorts of messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My cat's died...can i play with your pussy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My cat's died...can i play with your pussy?"

Good one! I might nick it

Although I recently heard this: don't judge me by the colour of my skin. Judge me by what is in my heart.

Only have to edit the last few words to fit with any site lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"humour works really well

an example of a first message received ... I'm gonna stretch your pussy and pound it until you cry

yes some women may post that kind of update which is fair enough

however if she haven't is really the best first message to send?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"humour works really well

an example of a first message received ... I'm gonna stretch your pussy and pound it until you cry

I bet you jumped at the chance to meet that eloquent charmer...

Haha fair enough that was a bit brutal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"humour works really well

an example of a first message received ... I'm gonna stretch your pussy and pound it until you cry

yes some women may post that kind of update which is fair enough

however if she haven't is really the best first message to send?"

Oh, I agree with you, but many men think with an organ other than their brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

absolutely and then they wonder why no one will meet them ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After lots of deleted and unread messages. I just send a blanket message.

Polite and respectful

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Respectful, don’t necessarily jump into talking about sex or how big your dick is. Make it personal, look at the profile, not just photos. I like unique messages, chatty ones where someone seems to really want to know me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Respectful, don’t necessarily jump into talking about sex or how big your dick is. Make it personal, look at the profile, not just photos. I like unique messages, chatty ones where someone seems to really want to know me."

Hey, MissClare, I would love to explore your dark side while I plot a map, in biro, of Britain on your torso.

Will that do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be something about the name Claire..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes yes and yes!!

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Hey, MissClare, I would love to explore your dark side while I plot a map, in biro, of Britain on your torso.

Will that do? "

That’ll do it pretty much! Hope you enjoyed my profile!

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Must be something about the name Claire..lol

Excellent name choice don’t you think? All the best folk are called Clare/Claire!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be something about the name Claire..lol

Excellent name choice don’t you think? All the best folk are called Clare/Claire!"

And all the really naughty ones

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Must be something about the name Claire..lol

Excellent name choice don’t you think? All the best folk are called Clare/Claire!

And all the really naughty ones

High five to that sister!

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