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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Read this all the time. That women do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public.

I not getting attention in public. I'm my own person doing my own thing. Free from creepy comments about my underwear while I'm in Boots, clothes while I'm in Sainsbury's, shoes in M&S.

I'm my own person and I fly under the radar. It's fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I'm sure you'd turn heads maybe you're just not noticing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t believe this is true. It’s the introvert in you that doesn’t look around at the peeps that are ogling you...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t believe this is true. It’s the introvert in you that doesn’t look around at the peeps that are ogling you...?"

Said better than I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who knows I never notice

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've met most of my play partners in person to be honest. Mostly through the kink scene. I think some people on here are just nasty to say things like that. If they're sleeping with people they wouldn't look twice at in public then that says more about them than the rest of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I totally understand this, haven't been "checked out" in years. I don't care either, like you it doesn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!)

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!) "

Hahahaha I get ya, mines 25 and when they look I feel like saying "yehhhh love, I made that there"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure all on here still get "checked out"

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

The vast attention I attract in my 'real life existence' is often quite stifling...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The vast attention I attract in my 'real life existence' is often quite stifling..."

Do the parents think you’re Sinatra and the kids Rotten?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get looked at a lot in the swimming pool, I must stop singing out loud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get more attention when I'm out in public than I do on here. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I totally understand this, haven't been "checked out" in years. I don't care either, like you it doesn't bother me. "

I check people out discreetly. Most people do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I totally understand this, haven't been "checked out" in years. I don't care either, like you it doesn't bother me. "

Behave I'll bet you've been "checked out " today x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!)

Hahahaha I get ya, mines 25 and when they look I feel like saying "yehhhh love, I made that there" "

Yes ladies, your daughters get it from your genes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows I never notice "

With a face like that millions

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The people that say things like that usually turn out to be the butt hurt entitled ones who can't get meets and are looking for something to blame other than themselves for their lack of "success"...

...as the old saying goes he/she who laughs last laughs longest

I'm perfectly happy going about my life unnoticed to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate being "checked out" as it's called. Doesn't happen often but when it does I don't know what to do with myself... I blush way too easily, or I start twerking depending on alcohol consumption levels

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I generally don't get a second glance in the street. Unless I want glanced at, then I'll dress appropriately to make that happen

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!)

Hahahaha I get ya, mines 25 and when they look I feel like saying "yehhhh love, I made that there"

Yes ladies, your daughters get it from your genes! "

Very true, and the corn on her toe from her dad....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!) "
i know that feeling...eldest girl is 24

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get hit on quite a bit, usually by d*unk women. I'm not sure what that says about my face, beer goggles needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!)

Hahahaha I get ya, mines 25 and when they look I feel like saying "yehhhh love, I made that there" "

I get this a lot too with mine who’s 18. They’ll look at her, then me, then her, then me. Wonder what they’re thinking?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!)

Hahahaha I get ya, mines 25 and when they look I feel like saying "yehhhh love, I made that there"

Yes ladies, your daughters get it from your genes!

Very true, and the corn on her toe from her dad.... "

Haha!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get looked at in the real world. Never get chatted up on a night out and actually do not get inundated with messages on here either.

I'm ok with it too

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

When I'm outside I'm generally oblivious to everything going on around me anyway so, it's prob ably true in my case. I wouldn't look

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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My boobs get hit on quite a lot in public. Or my voice does. The rest of me is tertiary or of little importance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now I'm sure you'd turn heads maybe you're just not noticing "

I agree I think this OP would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!)

Hahahaha I get ya, mines 25 and when they look I feel like saying "yehhhh love, I made that there"

Yes ladies, your daughters get it from your genes!

Very true, and the corn on her toe from her dad.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I totally understand this, haven't been "checked out" in years. I don't care either, like you it doesn't bother me.

Behave I'll bet you've been "checked out " today x"

Only by the OH as I haven't left the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!)

Hahahaha I get ya, mines 25 and when they look I feel like saying "yehhhh love, I made that there"

I get this a lot too with mine who’s 18. They’ll look at her, then me, then her, then me. Wonder what they’re thinking?"

What beautiful sisters!! That’s what I always think they’re thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boobs get hit on quite a lot in public. Or my voice does. The rest of me is tertiary or of little importance. "

Meli. Guys. Boobs. Nothing else exists, ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I totally understand this, haven't been "checked out" in years. I don't care either, like you it doesn't bother me.

Behave I'll bet you've been "checked out " today x

Only by the OH as I haven't left the house. "

Then I was still factually correct

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

If you ever want to know if you are ogled .. take a wingman with you down the highstreet with the purpose of watching the glances from men or ladies ..you might be pleasantly surprised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boobs get hit on quite a lot in public. Or my voice does. The rest of me is tertiary or of little importance.

Meli. Guys. Boobs. Nothing else exists, ever. "

Give me a pretty smile over boobs anyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boobs get hit on quite a lot in public. Or my voice does. The rest of me is tertiary or of little importance.

Meli. Guys. Boobs. Nothing else exists, ever.

Give me a pretty smile over boobs anyday "
I'll give you one.

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea


"Read this all the time. That women do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public.

I not getting attention in public. I'm my own person doing my own thing. Free from creepy comments about my underwear while I'm in Boots, clothes while I'm in Sainsbury's, shoes in M&S.

I'm the same....i don't pay attention to what others are doing around me...i hate walking into a place and all eyes are on me....i hate being centre of attention...i blend in with the back ground and that's the way I like it.....

I'm my own person and I fly under the radar. It's fantastic. "

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I can’t believe this is true. It’s the introvert in you that doesn’t look around at the peeps that are ogling you...?"

Maybe. I more worry about them getting up in my face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boobs get hit on quite a lot in public. Or my voice does. The rest of me is tertiary or of little importance.

Meli. Guys. Boobs. Nothing else exists, ever.

Give me a pretty smile over boobs anyday I'll give you one. "

Please do

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's sort of more, when I'm buying eggs or (TMI) from the pharmacy, I'm very glad that I'm girl next door in appearance. You know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's sort of more, when I'm buying eggs or (TMI) from the pharmacy, I'm very glad that I'm girl next door in appearance. You know? "

The girl next door eh

Someone lives next door to Andrea Corr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boobs get hit on quite a lot in public. Or my voice does. The rest of me is tertiary or of little importance.

Meli. Guys. Boobs. Nothing else exists, ever.

Give me a pretty smile over boobs anyday I'll give you one.

Please do"
have done

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"My boobs get hit on quite a lot in public. Or my voice does. The rest of me is tertiary or of little importance.

Meli. Guys. Boobs. Nothing else exists, ever. "

So so true. Sometimes I get a proper thrill from having bordering on inappropriate cleavage out and seeing the back and forth eye darts. Simple creatures.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Anyways, apologies OP. I don't really ever feel like I'm that invisible in public (not in a I'm so hot way but I have big hair and other things) but sometimes it would be nice. I generally don't find men that predatory, they tend to do it in a not-subtle-but-trying-to-be way.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

The silent phwoars are the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The clock struck midnight on my 40th birthday and I suddenly became invisible

In the outside world - very few people can see me or hear me - which is baffling as I'm quite big and loud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thetes looking and theres letching. Some go OTT at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t remember the last time I got hit on. I don’t think I’d know if it was happening or not x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thetes looking and theres letching. Some go OTT at times. "
*theres

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I can’t remember the last time I got hit on. I don’t think I’d know if it was happening or not x "

I think I got hit on today and only realised ten minutes later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The clock struck midnight on my 40th birthday and I suddenly became invisible

In the outside world - very few people can see me or hear me - which is baffling as I'm quite big and loud.

"

I'll bet you a kit Kat you're not invisible certainly not with a face as pretty as you have

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I can’t remember the last time I got hit on. I don’t think I’d know if it was happening or not x

I think I got hit on today and only realised ten minutes later "

But that was a nice friendly conversation.

Most of the gross people in my life get in my face and tell me to smile or stop me from doing what I need to do because apparently I need their opinion/ insight on my face. Yes, thank you Mr Stranger, I hadn't noticed my eye colour before. I've only had it 33 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The clock struck midnight on my 40th birthday and I suddenly became invisible

In the outside world - very few people can see me or hear me - which is baffling as I'm quite big and loud.

I'll bet you a kit Kat you're not invisible certainly not with a face as pretty as you have "

Would you like a Kitkat chunky?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Fab is full of male sour grapes. I can understand why, it's like some women don't know they're here to fulfil our desires for free and be grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!) "

Well I don't believe that for a minute. You're a very attractive lady..

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Fab is full of male sour grapes. I can understand why, it's like some women don't know they're here to fulfil our desires for free and be grateful."

God, we're so dumb! We need big strong men to set us straight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The clock struck midnight on my 40th birthday and I suddenly became invisible

In the outside world - very few people can see me or hear me - which is baffling as I'm quite big and loud.

I'll bet you a kit Kat you're not invisible certainly not with a face as pretty as you have "
He really does love a pretty smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah. They're all looking at me. That's why they aren't looking elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah. They're all looking at me. That's why they aren't looking elsewhere "
stop pinching blind mens shades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My boobs get hit on quite a lot in public. Or my voice does. The rest of me is tertiary or of little importance. "

Behave!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I get second glances... But not because I've my tits out or I'm flashing my suspenders... So not Fab-related lol. But it's reasurring at times to know that people can find you attractive away from Fab too, as the 'meat market' mentality here can sometimes make you wonder....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!)

Well I don't believe that for a minute. You're a very attractive lady.."

Aw thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get looks of disbelief, followed closely by looks of relief when they realise I haven't escaped from the local zoo

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've always had attention...when I was younger I could make men fall off ladders, walk into doors, that kind of thing.

I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but who is?

Works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since letting my hair go grey I'm totally invisible and I love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always had attention...when I was younger I could make men fall off ladders, walk into doors, that kind of thing.

I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but who is?

Works for me "

You knocked the ladders and closed the doors in their faces, didn't you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wear really tight clothes so everyone looks at me

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

It is nice when that second glance happens though. I found my latest victim on the train home from Manchester

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I've always had attention...when I was younger I could make men fall off ladders, walk into doors, that kind of thing.

I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but who is?

Works for me

You knocked the ladders and closed the doors in their faces, didn't you "

Yes, with my tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wear really tight clothes so everyone looks at me "

Checking out your sugar lumps?

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I don't, and I've checked them out not checking me out, so I know I'm definitely not checked out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always had attention...when I was younger I could make men fall off ladders, walk into doors, that kind of thing.

I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but who is?

Works for me

You knocked the ladders and closed the doors in their faces, didn't you

Yes, with my tits "

I'm up my ladder now. Js

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I don't, and I've checked them out not checking me out, so I know I'm definitely not checked out."

Behave! Even id check you out....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you had a sign above your head saying 'Swinger' you'd probably get the same amount of attention as on here

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I don't, and I've checked them out not checking me out, so I know I'm definitely not checked out.

Behave! Even id check you out.... "

I don't wear the corsets in public...maybe I should try it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same but I think it's a lot to do with confidence, I tend to have my head down and try to hide a bit, I don't generally want noticed.

On a night out when I'm at my best and a bit tipsy I get noticed. I tend to not be so shy then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you had a sign above your head saying 'Swinger' you'd probably get the same amount of attention as on here"

Please explain...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if people knew that you had a liberal outlook on sex they would give you more attention....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if people knew that you had a liberal outlook on sex they would give you more attention...."

You think? Ready to be stoned OP?

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So if people knew that you had a liberal outlook on sex they would give you more attention....

You think? Ready to be stoned OP?"

I suspect I'd get a lot more creepy guys in some parts of town, and a lot of religious people with Views in others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep a lot more attention from men who are hoping that you're going to direct your horniness at them.

Think attention for reasons other than your physical appearance are probably more worthwhile anyway.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Since letting my hair go grey I'm totally invisible and I love it. "

I seem to be the opposite! The grey seems to attract more attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin. "

can you imagine if a man said this in the forum about women.

Yet a woman can say it and it doesn't seem to matter.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin.

can you imagine if a man said this in the forum about women.

Yet a woman can say it and it doesn't seem to matter. "

Sometimes a man does say something similar and gets flamed. There are mass double standards on fab

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By *V-AliceTV/TS
over a year ago

Ayr

I'm thankful of it. Blending in means less hassle. Most people see what they expect to; especially at a distance.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Read this all the time. That women do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public.

I not getting attention in public. I'm my own person doing my own thing. Free from creepy comments about my underwear while I'm in Boots, clothes while I'm in Sainsbury's, shoes in M&S.

I'm my own person and I fly under the radar. It's fantastic. "

So why comment

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

As a "man" I don't get a second look, walk down the street with long legs, stockings and heels and I certainly get noticed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta love the contrarian

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think most women get second looks.

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

I certainly would take a second look Swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read this all the time. That women do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public.

I not getting attention in public. I'm my own person doing my own thing. Free from creepy comments about my underwear while I'm in Boots, clothes while I'm in Sainsbury's, shoes in M&S.

I'm my own person and I fly under the radar. It's fantastic.

So why comment "
I did wonder this.

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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

I never used to get attention.. guess I had low self esteem and confidence.

Then I lost 7 stone over a couple of years. I get a lot more attention. That boosted my confidence... I realise I should have been confident in myself before...

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Perhaps us men are getting more subtle?

Or maybe we are all gentlemen, but as for me, 2nd and 3rd looks would definitely be given for all the ladies saying they never get any.

But then again I am a perv

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Read this all the time. That women do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public.

I not getting attention in public. I'm my own person doing my own thing. Free from creepy comments about my underwear while I'm in Boots, clothes while I'm in Sainsbury's, shoes in M&S.

I'm my own person and I fly under the radar. It's fantastic. "

Only spiteful men who don't get any interest from the opposite sex say that I find or just horrible men in general.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Read this all the time. That women do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public.

I not getting attention in public. I'm my own person doing my own thing. Free from creepy comments about my underwear while I'm in Boots, clothes while I'm in Sainsbury's, shoes in M&S.

I'm my own person and I fly under the radar. It's fantastic.

Only spiteful men who don't get any interest from the opposite sex say that I find or just horrible men in general. "

Oh I know. But my point is, it's a crap insult.

Woe, woe, I get to get on with my life without being pestered. Such a travesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t remember the last time I got hit on. I don’t think I’d know if it was happening or not x

I think I got hit on today and only realised ten minutes later "

Lol, but was he nice? X

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I can’t remember the last time I got hit on. I don’t think I’d know if it was happening or not x

I think I got hit on today and only realised ten minutes later

Lol, but was he nice? X "

She was lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got told I was fuckable but undateable lol

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I'm thankful of it. Blending in means less hassle. Most people see what they expect to; especially at a distance."

I certainly don't miss the attention I had from strangers when I was young. I was shy and lacked self esteem so it was a nightmare to walk past any group of men in the street, or indeed to walk down a road and put up with guys yelling out from cars. I prefer the anonymity that has come with age, but what I don't like, in fact it pisses me off mightily is when I am actively ignored at work because the girl standing next to me is young and pretty..even though I'm the one serving the rude arsehole!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t tend to get hit on or notice anyone checking me out, but tbh I’m usually with my slim and gorgeous sister, and she attracts the attention. I really am made to feel like the proverbial ugly sister.

Women check me out at festivals though, lol, but my sister doesn’t know I’m bi (family aren’t very tolerant) so can’t act on it

Viv xx

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Don’t tend to get hit on or notice anyone checking me out, but tbh I’m usually with my slim and gorgeous sister, and she attracts the attention. I really am made to feel like the proverbial ugly sister.

Women check me out at festivals though, lol, but my sister doesn’t know I’m bi (family aren’t very tolerant) so can’t act on it

Viv xx"

If your sister is more attractive than you she must be a stunner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wear really tight clothes so everyone looks at me

Checking out your sugar lumps? "

Oh I missed that and now they've left... yes looking at the lumps in my trunks

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"Read this all the time. That women do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public.

I not getting attention in public. I'm my own person doing my own thing. Free from creepy comments about my underwear while I'm in Boots, clothes while I'm in Sainsbury's, shoes in M&S.

I'm my own person and I fly under the radar. It's fantastic. "

I see the comments and smile. The vast majority of people who make them are butthurt for getting rejected.

Attraction is subjective and there are a variety of things that capture my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont even get a first glance in the street

Still it stops all the autograph hunters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often notice people staring at me, but it's prolly coz I have a grade 0 buzz cut.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Insecure and those with certain issues, will attempt to feed their ego. Leave them to their own thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a look of second looks / smiles when im out and about. Not saying that in a big headed manner just my daily observations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin.

can you imagine if a man said this in the forum about women.

Yet a woman can say it and it doesn't seem to matter.

Sometimes a man does say something similar and gets flamed. There are mass double standards on fab"

Fucking right! and still nobody else pulls her up about it.

I've been shot down, blocked and called names for jokingly saying things in these forums, that are not half as bad.

I've even tried to give someone advice in private chat, only to end up getting slated in the forum and pm.

But a woman can say things like..

"need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin. "

And its fine, because it's a female.

This site makes me fucking sick sometimes.

SMH

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin.

can you imagine if a man said this in the forum about women.

Yet a woman can say it and it doesn't seem to matter.

Sometimes a man does say something similar and gets flamed. There are mass double standards on fab

Fucking right! and still nobody else pulls her up about it.

I've been shot down, blocked and called names for jokingly saying things in these forums, that are not half as bad.

I've even tried to give someone advice in private chat, only to end up getting slated in the forum and pm.

But a woman can say things like..

"need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin. "

And its fine, because it's a female.

This site makes me fucking sick sometimes.

SMH

"

My advice to all men on here is to either get themselves a female friend who will show them her messages or get yourselves a female profile..you will get a view of the site that will make you appreciate the women who don't just cut and run!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey great answer

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r


"Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin.

can you imagine if a man said this in the forum about women.

Yet a woman can say it and it doesn't seem to matter.

Sometimes a man does say something similar and gets flamed. There are mass double standards on fab

Fucking right! and still nobody else pulls her up about it.

I've been shot down, blocked and called names for jokingly saying things in these forums, that are not half as bad.

I've even tried to give someone advice in private chat, only to end up getting slated in the forum and pm.

But a woman can say things like..

"need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin. "

And its fine, because it's a female.

This site makes me fucking sick sometimes.

SMH

My advice to all men on here is to either get themselves a female friend who will show them her messages or get yourselves a female profile..you will get a view of the site that will make you appreciate the women who don't just cut and run!"

Best answer ever....I had a couple profile and that was bad enough !!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin.

can you imagine if a man said this in the forum about women.

Yet a woman can say it and it doesn't seem to matter.

Sometimes a man does say something similar and gets flamed. There are mass double standards on fab

Fucking right! and still nobody else pulls her up about it.

I've been shot down, blocked and called names for jokingly saying things in these forums, that are not half as bad.

I've even tried to give someone advice in private chat, only to end up getting slated in the forum and pm.

But a woman can say things like..

"need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin. "

And its fine, because it's a female.

This site makes me fucking sick sometimes.

SMH

"

With the greatest of respect if this site makes you "fucking sick" why stay?

I'm not going to get into the "treatment" you've received as that would be bordering on a personal attack and I don't want a ban but let's just leave it that there are two perspectives to that one.

As for the statement made about men you are referring to - from what I have seen I'd say it's pretty accurate - a lot of men do have the wrong idea of the site, and wrong expectations and attitude towards it - you only have to look for the daily threads posted by some women about how they have been treated for evidence of that.

The poster didn't say all men were like that either, just most men, and if that's her experience and also that of others then surely she's entitled to say so?

Now for balance, there are people of all genders and categories who probably fit that bill also, but given the vast majority of users are men, the bad apples amongst them are the ones who stand out more.

If as a man on this site you are decent, respectful, considerate, honest etc then obviously you don't fall into the camp the previous poster highlighted and have nothing to worry about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Second looks. Nope I don’t even get the first look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey great answer "

This

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin.

can you imagine if a man said this in the forum about women.

Yet a woman can say it and it doesn't seem to matter.

Sometimes a man does say something similar and gets flamed. There are mass double standards on fab

Fucking right! and still nobody else pulls her up about it.

I've been shot down, blocked and called names for jokingly saying things in these forums, that are not half as bad.

I've even tried to give someone advice in private chat, only to end up getting slated in the forum and pm.

But a woman can say things like..

"need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin. "

And its fine, because it's a female.

This site makes me fucking sick sometimes.

SMH

My advice to all men on here is to either get themselves a female friend who will show them her messages or get yourselves a female profile..you will get a view of the site that will make you appreciate the women who don't just cut and run!"

So much.

The messages I get... Lord I despair of humanity. And I don't mean the unattractive, lazy, or stupid. I mean the terrifying and criminal.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I get second glances, but it’s because of my height.

I had a particularly uncomfortable experience in Dublin a few years back where i walked into a bar with friends (they’d gone in ahead of me) and when i walked in the folk there did that thing you see in Westerns...they all stopped and turned and stared at me...felt like ages but was only probably mere seconds..

My friends were like “WTF just happened?!”, and i wanted to curl up and die. Horrible experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dress Amish chic, covered head to toe usually so nothing to ogle here. I quite like it that way too, not one to show boobs or legs off in public unless I’m at the pool or beach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dress Amish chic, covered head to toe usually so nothing to ogle here. I quite like it that way too, not one to show boobs or legs off in public unless I’m at the pool or beach. "

Your style, hair and facial attractiveness would definitely get more than one admiring glance from both of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dress Amish chic, covered head to toe usually so nothing to ogle here. I quite like it that way too, not one to show boobs or legs off in public unless I’m at the pool or beach.

Your style, hair and facial attractiveness would definitely get more than one admiring glance from both of us."

That’s the best compliment ever and will put a spring in my step today. Especially coming from you two hotties.

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By *erryxxxWoman
over a year ago

manchester

I like being invisible, attention makes me uncomfortable.

And it gives me a healthy cynicism about all the rubbish people send on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like being invisible, attention makes me uncomfortable.

And it gives me a healthy cynicism about all the rubbish people send on here "
Hi Gerry it's Gerry I've never sent rubbish but I was in the bin bag pic challenge

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

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By *erryxxxWoman
over a year ago

manchester


"I like being invisible, attention makes me uncomfortable.

And it gives me a healthy cynicism about all the rubbish people send on here Hi Gerry it's Gerry I've never sent rubbish but I was in the bin bag pic challenge "

Hi there Gerry.

It’s not the weather to go wiggling about in bin bags today is it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that "

We only want to get noticed by people we want it from. Same as in the real world I guess.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that "

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

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By *naswingdress OP   Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't see how this is hard.

When I'm volunteering in my community, any attention I get I want to be around that: kind, attentive, community minded, friendly.

When I'm buying coffee, I want politeness and the right coffee.

When I'm sick, I want medical attention.

The fact that in some circumstances I want kinky sexual attention does not mean I want it in all.

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here."

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too?

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

We only want to get noticed by people we want it from. Same as in the real world I guess. "

It’s not a tap though and people will always find others attractive and not have it reciprocated

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too? "

My post was clearly referring to "*some* men" not women - and whilst personally I don't think I've seen a woman make that kind of comment, I would think if they did it may be for other reasons, as women on here don't tend to have the same entitled attitude that *some* men have.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too? "

Jealous maybe?

Women are often worse to each other than anyone else. Especially when it comes to sex. I think sometimes they internalise a lot of the negative views society has about women enjoying sex and having a lot of it and that results in nastiness towards other women who have a more liberal attitude to sex in order for them to distinguish themselves as "other and different" to them in their minds. I.e. "I love sex but I'm not like those sluts over there!". Sometimes deep down they wish they could shed some of their hang ups and shame around sex too and that even further fuels their dislike of other women who appear to have less inhibitions.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"

Women are often worse to each other than anyone else. Especially when it comes to sex. I think sometimes they internalise a lot of the negative views society has about women enjoying sex and having a lot of it and that results in nastiness towards other women who have a more liberal attitude to sex in order for them to distinguish themselves as "other and different" to them in their minds. I.e. "I love sex but I'm not like those sluts over there!". Sometimes deep down they wish they could shed some of their hang ups and shame around sex too and that even further fuels their dislike of other women who appear to have less inhibitions."

If there are any women out there like that I am happy to assist with removing some of those inhibitions, for science and the great good obviously

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"

Women are often worse to each other than anyone else. Especially when it comes to sex. I think sometimes they internalise a lot of the negative views society has about women enjoying sex and having a lot of it and that results in nastiness towards other women who have a more liberal attitude to sex in order for them to distinguish themselves as "other and different" to them in their minds. I.e. "I love sex but I'm not like those sluts over there!". Sometimes deep down they wish they could shed some of their hang ups and shame around sex too and that even further fuels their dislike of other women who appear to have less inhibitions.

If there are any women out there like that I am happy to assist with removing some of those inhibitions, for science and the great good obviously "

Oh how selfless of you

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"

Women are often worse to each other than anyone else. Especially when it comes to sex. I think sometimes they internalise a lot of the negative views society has about women enjoying sex and having a lot of it and that results in nastiness towards other women who have a more liberal attitude to sex in order for them to distinguish themselves as "other and different" to them in their minds. I.e. "I love sex but I'm not like those sluts over there!". Sometimes deep down they wish they could shed some of their hang ups and shame around sex too and that even further fuels their dislike of other women who appear to have less inhibitions.

If there are any women out there like that I am happy to assist with removing some of those inhibitions, for science and the great good obviously

Oh how selfless of you "

I can help anyone find their inner slut, it’s the least I can do

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too?

My post was clearly referring to "*some* men" not women - and whilst personally I don't think I've seen a woman make that kind of comment, I would think if they did it may be for other reasons, as women on here don't tend to have the same entitled attitude that *some* men have."

Nice that you’re deciding why women would say such things.

Your last comment beggars belief

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too?

Jealous maybe?

Women are often worse to each other than anyone else. Especially when it comes to sex. I think sometimes they internalise a lot of the negative views society has about women enjoying sex and having a lot of it and that results in nastiness towards other women who have a more liberal attitude to sex in order for them to distinguish themselves as "other and different" to them in their minds. I.e. "I love sex but I'm not like those sluts over there!". Sometimes deep down they wish they could shed some of their hang ups and shame around sex too and that even further fuels their dislike of other women who appear to have less inhibitions."

Or maybe - just maybe - they believe in what they say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its normal for both men an woman to hit the wall. I'm just invisible these days.

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"Its normal for both men an woman to hit the wall. I'm just invisible these days. "

Amen

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too?

Jealous maybe?

Women are often worse to each other than anyone else. Especially when it comes to sex. I think sometimes they internalise a lot of the negative views society has about women enjoying sex and having a lot of it and that results in nastiness towards other women who have a more liberal attitude to sex in order for them to distinguish themselves as "other and different" to them in their minds. I.e. "I love sex but I'm not like those sluts over there!". Sometimes deep down they wish they could shed some of their hang ups and shame around sex too and that even further fuels their dislike of other women who appear to have less inhibitions.

Or maybe - just maybe - they believe in what they say? "

Unless they're talking about just themselves they have literally no idea how much attention other women get in real life and why do they even care enough to comment on it anyway?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too?

My post was clearly referring to "*some* men" not women - and whilst personally I don't think I've seen a woman make that kind of comment, I would think if they did it may be for other reasons, as women on here don't tend to have the same entitled attitude that *some* men have.

Nice that you’re deciding why women would say such things.

Your last comment beggars belief "

I'm not deciding a thing for anyone - I talk to enough people and read enough forum posts to have formed a fair and reasoned opinion.

As for my last comment, not sure how it beggars belief? Again if you talk to people and read the forums enough you'll know it's accurate and informed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get more attention when I'm out in public than I do on here. X"

That is hard to understand but as you have blocks in your profile singles like me can't comment on your beautiful breasts

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too?

Jealous maybe?

Women are often worse to each other than anyone else. Especially when it comes to sex. I think sometimes they internalise a lot of the negative views society has about women enjoying sex and having a lot of it and that results in nastiness towards other women who have a more liberal attitude to sex in order for them to distinguish themselves as "other and different" to them in their minds. I.e. "I love sex but I'm not like those sluts over there!". Sometimes deep down they wish they could shed some of their hang ups and shame around sex too and that even further fuels their dislike of other women who appear to have less inhibitions.

Or maybe - just maybe - they believe in what they say?

Unless they're talking about just themselves they have literally no idea how much attention other women get in real life and why do they even care enough to comment on it anyway?"

Sorry, but the basis of this thread seems to be predicated on making assumptions based on things individuals say. You commenting on their comments is slightly ironic don’t you think?

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too?

My post was clearly referring to "*some* men" not women - and whilst personally I don't think I've seen a woman make that kind of comment, I would think if they did it may be for other reasons, as women on here don't tend to have the same entitled attitude that *some* men have.

Nice that you’re deciding why women would say such things.

Your last comment beggars belief

I'm not deciding a thing for anyone - I talk to enough people and read enough forum posts to have formed a fair and reasoned opinion.

As for my last comment, not sure how it beggars belief? Again if you talk to people and read the forums enough you'll know it's accurate and informed."

You said you think that they said it “for other reasons”. How do you know that.

Basing your world view on this or any other online forum is no guarantee of either accuracy or being informed.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too?

My post was clearly referring to "*some* men" not women - and whilst personally I don't think I've seen a woman make that kind of comment, I would think if they did it may be for other reasons, as women on here don't tend to have the same entitled attitude that *some* men have.

Nice that you’re deciding why women would say such things.

Your last comment beggars belief

I'm not deciding a thing for anyone - I talk to enough people and read enough forum posts to have formed a fair and reasoned opinion.

As for my last comment, not sure how it beggars belief? Again if you talk to people and read the forums enough you'll know it's accurate and informed.

You said you think that they said it “for other reasons”. How do you know that.

Basing your world view on this or any other online forum is no guarantee of either accuracy or being informed. "

By using that thing in my head called a brain, by observing and listening and drawing my own conclusions and opinions based on that information, the same way anyone forms them

And you're the one making the assumptions here - did I say that my "world view" was based purely on this or any other forum? However if I were doing so, surely given that the OP was pertinent to this site, surely the knowledge gleaned here would be more than relevant.

I'll be honest and say I'm not entirely sure what point you're trying to make/prove here but getting back to the OP and your opening response to it, which was very much wide of the mark and missed the point completely.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Yes, people come onto this site to not get noticed and hate it when they do. I buy that

I don't think that's what anyone has said at all - the OP was about the ridiculous sentiment that appears to be shared by *some* men (usually butt hurt entitled ones) on here who seem to think *some* women "do better than they should here because they wouldn't attract attention in public" and the offshoot of that being that for some, attracting attention in public is not something they are comfortable with.

Nothing at all to do with not wanting to be noticed on here.

I’ve heard women say that women on here get more attention than they would in “real life”. Are they entitled too?

Jealous maybe?

Women are often worse to each other than anyone else. Especially when it comes to sex. I think sometimes they internalise a lot of the negative views society has about women enjoying sex and having a lot of it and that results in nastiness towards other women who have a more liberal attitude to sex in order for them to distinguish themselves as "other and different" to them in their minds. I.e. "I love sex but I'm not like those sluts over there!". Sometimes deep down they wish they could shed some of their hang ups and shame around sex too and that even further fuels their dislike of other women who appear to have less inhibitions.

Or maybe - just maybe - they believe in what they say?

Unless they're talking about just themselves they have literally no idea how much attention other women get in real life and why do they even care enough to comment on it anyway?

Sorry, but the basis of this thread seems to be predicated on making assumptions based on things individuals say. You commenting on their comments is slightly ironic don’t you think? "

Erm, isn't this post about _naswingdress's feelings about comments made in reference to her as a woman? Hers actually being that she prefers less attention in public.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"Worse when you realise it’s your daughter they’re all looking at now and not you lol.

(She’s 23 btw!) "

Exactly, my daughter is 23 also, I wouldn't mind a look or a whistle every now and then even from the builders x storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t tend to get hit on or notice anyone checking me out, but tbh I’m usually with my slim and gorgeous sister, and she attracts the attention. I really am made to feel like the proverbial ugly sister.

Women check me out at festivals though, lol, but my sister doesn’t know I’m bi (family aren’t very tolerant) so can’t act on it

Viv xx

If your sister is more attractive than you she must be a stunner! "

She is!! Haha, I’m so glad she’s not on here or I’d have everyone asking me about her on here as well, haha xx

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

All women will do better on here than in public, simply due to the ratio of men to women on here, its never this ratio in a club etc, and the men on here can be a bit desperate.

Some women will do drastically better, some a lot better, and some only a little better, but all will do better.

I think even the most stunning woman you ever seen would do better on here than in a pub, as in a pub probably not many will approach and if she posts a photo on here then hundreds will approach.

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs


"All women will do better on here than in public, simply due to the ratio of men to women on here, its never this ratio in a club etc, and the men on here can be a bit desperate.

Some women will do drastically better, some a lot better, and some only a little better, but all will do better.

I think even the most stunning woman you ever seen would do better on here than in a pub, as in a pub probably not many will approach and if she posts a photo on here then hundreds will approach."

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we class ourselves on our profile as a normal everyday couple. In the real world outside of swinging and the clubs that's just what we are, and we get very little looks out in the pubs etc, but swinging we seem to get way more attention, strange one really x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All women will do better on here than in public, simply due to the ratio of men to women on here, its never this ratio in a club etc, and the men on here can be a bit desperate.

Some women will do drastically better, some a lot better, and some only a little better, but all will do better.

I think even the most stunning woman you ever seen would do better on here than in a pub, as in a pub probably not many will approach and if she posts a photo on here then hundreds will approach.

Spot on "

I never approach anybody on here, but I have no problem approaching a women in a pub, shop, cafe, or anywhere as long as you do it with respect, and dont appear to be a creep. It's easy to spot those that want to be left alone, just by eye contact and body language. I have always found most but not all, are happy to chat and make new acquaintance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin.

can you imagine if a man said this in the forum about women.

Yet a woman can say it and it doesn't seem to matter.

Sometimes a man does say something similar and gets flamed. There are mass double standards on fab

Fucking right! and still nobody else pulls her up about it.

I've been shot down, blocked and called names for jokingly saying things in these forums, that are not half as bad.

I've even tried to give someone advice in private chat, only to end up getting slated in the forum and pm.

But a woman can say things like..

"need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin. "

And its fine, because it's a female.

This site makes me fucking sick sometimes.

SMH

My advice to all men on here is to either get themselves a female friend who will show them her messages or get yourselves a female profile..you will get a view of the site that will make you appreciate the women who don't just cut and run!"

I know what you mean there.. But that doesn't make it alright to say things like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All women will do better on here than in public, simply due to the ratio of men to women on here, its never this ratio in a club etc, and the men on here can be a bit desperate.

Some women will do drastically better, some a lot better, and some only a little better, but all will do better.

I think even the most stunning woman you ever seen would do better on here than in a pub, as in a pub probably not many will approach and if she posts a photo on here then hundreds will approach.

Spot on "

But some men act desperate on here, I bet they wouldn’t out in a pub. ‘Do better’ is a funny thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All women will do better on here than in public, simply due to the ratio of men to women on here, its never this ratio in a club etc, and the men on here can be a bit desperate.

Some women will do drastically better, some a lot better, and some only a little better, but all will do better.

I think even the most stunning woman you ever seen would do better on here than in a pub, as in a pub probably not many will approach and if she posts a photo on here then hundreds will approach.

Spot on

I never approach anybody on here, but I have no problem approaching a women in a pub, shop, cafe, or anywhere as long as you do it with respect, and dont appear to be a creep. It's easy to spot those that want to be left alone, just by eye contact and body language. I have always found most but not all, are happy to chat and make new acquaintance."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even at my age I do still get attention when in public and I do not dress provocatively to attract it. Sometimes it's a nice feeling to be noticed.

The people who write mean things on Fab about "us women" not standing a chance at being looked at off this site are probably not "Getting Any" themselves and need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin.

can you imagine if a man said this in the forum about women.

Yet a woman can say it and it doesn't seem to matter.

Sometimes a man does say something similar and gets flamed. There are mass double standards on fab

Fucking right! and still nobody else pulls her up about it.

I've been shot down, blocked and called names for jokingly saying things in these forums, that are not half as bad.

I've even tried to give someone advice in private chat, only to end up getting slated in the forum and pm.

But a woman can say things like..

"need to realise that an awful lot of the men on Fab are absolute rotters,totally undesirable and quite frankly only fit for the bin. "

And its fine, because it's a female.

This site makes me fucking sick sometimes.

SMH

With the greatest of respect if this site makes you "fucking sick" why stay?

I'm not going to get into the "treatment" you've received as that would be bordering on a personal attack and I don't want a ban but let's just leave it that there are two perspectives to that one.

As for the statement made about men you are referring to - from what I have seen I'd say it's pretty accurate - a lot of men do have the wrong idea of the site, and wrong expectations and attitude towards it - you only have to look for the daily threads posted by some women about how they have been treated for evidence of that.

The poster didn't say all men were like that either, just most men, and if that's her experience and also that of others then surely she's entitled to say so?

Now for balance, there are people of all genders and categories who probably fit that bill also, but given the vast majority of users are men, the bad apples amongst them are the ones who stand out more.

If as a man on this site you are decent, respectful, considerate, honest etc then obviously you don't fall into the camp the previous poster highlighted and have nothing to worry about."

Obviously because I'm giving it a chance. Would it be okay for me to say that? Hell no.

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