FabSwingers.com forum: Clueless guy

By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

In need of some clarification for messages I'm getting from somebody. Not on here I might add!

We chat very briefly every day but the convo stops on her end each time, she also initiates the chat.

The conversation basically consists of "hi how are you. How was your day" a bit of back and forth etc and then nothing til the next day.

So question is, is she interested? I don't mind either way but if it's not likely I don't want to be wasting my efforts.

Interesting to see if opinions are different, by how much, and the views from the gender divide!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like PPI

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't seem overly interested

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Maybe try shake up the conversation? Sounds a bit stale.

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"Doesn't seem overly interested "

That's what I'm thinking but why bother starting up the convo on her end.

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"Maybe try shake up the conversation? Sounds a bit stale. "

Oh I have tried and it does pick up, but then just ends (I understand life away from fine obviously) and restarts the next day from the start.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have conversations like these. I wouldn't do it if I weren't interested or at least like the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't seem overly interested

That's what I'm thinking but why bother starting up the convo on her end.

Maybe she loses interest as the conversation goes on...?? I mean that in the politest way possible

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"Doesn't seem overly interested

That's what I'm thinking but why bother starting up the convo on her end.

Maybe she loses interest as the conversation goes on...?? I mean that in the politest way possible "

Haha again, another thought I have had. I don't see how.. I'm lots of fun! Not sure what you are implying (rolf)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough I have something very similar a while ago. She approached me on a night out and gave me her number. Then for about 2 weeks we had a similar type conversation as to what you described. After a bit I got fed up and just stopped replying.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

They sound quite dull in all honesty. You could try and add an interesting topic into the back and forth to try and liven things up? Sometimes it's hard to get going.

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"I have conversations like these. I wouldn't do it if I weren't interested or at least like the person."

That's where the confusions comes from. Surely if she was not interested she wouldn't bother at all yet... A lack of effort is obvious

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I can’t believe I’m going to say this but Lord of Orgasms has a good rule of thumb. If you haven’t found a sense of rapport within five or so messages then you’re probably flogging a dead horse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was trying not to come on too strong ...waaaaahhhh lol

Ps...I'm interested

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If she initiates it then she must be interested, no? Maybe your replies aren't doing it for her?

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By *musedforlifeMan
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I can’t believe I’m going to say this but Lord of Orgasms has a good rule of thumb. If you haven’t found a sense of rapport within five or so messages then you’re probably flogging a dead horse. "

Or something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's probably keeping you on the hook till she runs out of "better" options...

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Some people find it easier to communicate in person then by text/phone as its easier to read the other persons reactions to what you're talking about,

Ask her does she want to meet up for a coffee or something

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"I was trying not to come on too strong ...waaaaahhhh lol

Ps...I'm interested

Not you! Haha

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"She's probably keeping you on the hook till she runs out of "better" options... "

That would not surprise me. I've been there before many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on her connection to you too. just a mate, flirtation in a bar? etc

I text my mates that way but if I was interested in pursuing something more I'd be thinking up ways to continue the conversation

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"depends on her connection to you too. just a mate, flirtation in a bar? etc

I text my mates that way but if I was interested in pursuing something more I'd be thinking up ways to continue the conversation "

Just a random swap of numbers.

Yeah it doesn't help that I'm a chatty (yet introverted) person. If I see a text etc I reply, and often in great detail and enthusiasm haha

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