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By *Vine OP   Man
over a year ago

The right place

Inspired by the overthinking thread...

Do you find yourself obsessing about what other people might think? Does it stop you doing things or saying things? Or seeing certain people?

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By *Vine OP   Man
over a year ago

The right place

Good question OP!

No, I don’t very often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Inspired by the overthinking thread...

Do you find yourself obsessing about what other people might think? Does it stop you doing things or saying things? Or seeing certain people? "

Luckily never same as I never think about what they are doing!

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Nah, to long in the tooth for caring what people on tinternet think....

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I used to. A lot. Not as much now as I used to. In real life I do more than I do on here x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Good question OP!

No, I don’t very often. "

I like how you answer yourself so quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, not usually.

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

When I was younger sometimes but nowadays no. Life is too short xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are 5 people in the world i truly care what they think of me rest meh not really people come and go if they dont like my mad moments tough shit il piss in there shoes before they go

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By *Vine OP   Man
over a year ago

The right place


"Good question OP!

No, I don’t very often.

I like how you answer yourself so quickly."

I wasn’t over thinking!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Inspired by the overthinking thread...

Do you find yourself obsessing about what other people might think? Does it stop you doing things or saying things? Or seeing certain people? "
Nope not bothered you see I have manners and treat everyone with respect x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to. But I do not give a shit anymore, especially if they are offended by my way of driving my fiat 500.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Yes but not in a way that I need them to like me. More so a case of confirmation that I truely am, and coming across the type of person I think I am.

If somebody likes me or doesn't like me that is on them and I don't care. However I like to know I am seen by others how I see myself.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If you mean on here, no not really. In general, yes I suppose I do, I'd rather be liked than not.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I used to. But I do not give a shit anymore, especially if they are offended by my way of driving my fiat 500.

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Seen you down vale road.....road hog...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not on here - no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes too much and I wish i didn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are 5 people in the world i truly care what they think of me rest meh not really people come and go if they dont like my mad moments tough shit il piss in there shoes before they go"

Il add im not a social person in real life i prefer talking to myself i think im awesome so all good

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By *rReyMan
over a year ago

Fleet


"Inspired by the overthinking thread...

Do you find yourself obsessing about what other people might think? Does it stop you doing things or saying things? Or seeing certain people? "

I stop caring what people think about me as a person when I was at school. But it doesn't mean I don't mind what I say, there's no need to mindlessly offend people, we are all different and kindness should be a basic default. After that we are entitled to different opinions, how we express them is key. I prefer to discuss differences of opinion as an adult through open discussion and respect for the others right to an opposing or different view. But I will draw the respect line at anything the is morally wrong.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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To some degree, yes. I don't obsess or overthink others thoughts, actions and how they perceive me. Well I do overthink it but that's rarely.

Has it stopped me from meeting someone? Not so far. It might in the future.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Oh as far as saying things go - yes, it does. I like to think I have basic manners and I don't want to needlessly offend someone because my need to spout crap is more important than their feelings.

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

In some situations, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to. But I do not give a shit anymore, especially if they are offended by my way of driving my fiat 500.

Seen you down vale road.....road hog..."

.only when I drive through Rhyl love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very good friend of mine suffers from crippling anxiety because she is so obsessed with what others think and has a seriously damaging heightened sense of self. It’s completely alien to me because I am under no illusions whatsoever that I am of any concern or interest to other people. So no, I don’t really care because I don’t think anyone excluding my immediate family and some of my friends are invested enough in me to judge me.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Yeah all the time.

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By *Vine OP   Man
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t really dwell on what other people might think. But if someone challenges me on something I’ve said or done I will reflect to see if they have a point (unless they are a nutter). Sometimes it’s good to have friends that pick me up on certain things.

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By *Vine OP   Man
over a year ago

The right place


"A very good friend of mine suffers from crippling anxiety because she is so obsessed with what others think and has a seriously damaging heightened sense of self. It’s completely alien to me because I am under no illusions whatsoever that I am of any concern or interest to other people. So no, I don’t really care because I don’t think anyone excluding my immediate family and some of my friends are invested enough in me to judge me."

I know a couple of people that have really bad social anxiety. It’s such a pity as it really is debilitating in certain circumstances.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I met quite a lot of new people yesterday and I was polite and friendly to them all, I didn't say what I was really thinking about what some of them said and I laughed at jokes that weren't funny. So on that level I care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id like to know what you think op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Inspired by the overthinking thread...

Do you find yourself obsessing about what other people might think? Does it stop you doing things or saying things? Or seeing certain people? "

No - I know I'm marmite and I'm not always diplomatic or subtle in what I say.

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By *Vine OP   Man
over a year ago

The right place


"Id like to know what you think op?"

About what? I think I’ve responded on this topic above.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It depends - mostly I take an "I am me, take me or leave me" attitude to life and don't really care if people want to think badly of me - I *know* I have decent values, and am a considerate and respectful person, and if others form a different opinion of me then it's their prerogative but I'm not going to change who I am because of it.

Occasionally a situation will arise where I care more about how I'm perceived and can go into over think mode when it happens but I usually get past it and remain unchanged.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Would never wish to intentionally offend anybody but don't really care what they think of me.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I used to but not anymore xx

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Never I really don't care what people think of me

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas


"A very good friend of mine suffers from crippling anxiety because she is so obsessed with what others think and has a seriously damaging heightened sense of self. It’s completely alien to me because I am under no illusions whatsoever that I am of any concern or interest to other people. So no, I don’t really care because I don’t think anyone excluding my immediate family and some of my friends are invested enough in me to judge me.

I know a couple of people that have really bad social anxiety. It’s such a pity as it really is debilitating in certain circumstances. "

I have it, and it manifests in different ways and situations.

Not always with what others think, or direct interactions with people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I care, but not to the point of obsessing over it. It depends on who it is too, the more I care about the person the more I'll care about what they think of me.

I'd probably question myself if most people I met didn't like me, there would have to be a reason why. There's some people out there who won't like you no matter what, they are easy to spot and I genuinely couldn't care less what those people think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ,I,m well past the point of bothering what other people think about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do, more than I should. It does stop me saying things and meeting people as I don’t want to be thought of too forward or pushy. Plus rejection in person isn’t good for my soul. I try not to be insulting, though I was a while ago and am waiting to apologise in person as it wasn’t like me.

I do try hard not to let things get to me but my confidence goes up and down and the down times are when I’m most vulnerable to comments that are hurtful in my perception x

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Inspired by the overthinking thread...

Do you find yourself obsessing about what other people might think? Does it stop you doing things or saying things? Or seeing certain people? "

Only if I really care what those people think and they haven’t made it abundantly clear!

I’m a very simple soul!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

i care about what friends and family think but noone else

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Years ago I would have said yes but my mindset has totally changed this last 18 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here, most of what I type is pure stream of consciousness stuff. I don’t concern myself with what others think unless I get feedback that makes me rethink stuff. I’ve had feedback that has altered things that I post. It was for the better. If I disagreed and didn’t think it was for the better I’d carry on regardless.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Inspired by the overthinking thread...

Do you find yourself obsessing about what other people might think? Does it stop you doing things or saying things? Or seeing certain people? "

Yes

Sometimes it does but mainly because I simply don’t see the point sometimes in saying things. If I feel strongly then I will say so.

Yes it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just type what I'm thinking at the time.

I can only apologise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless I’m close to that person and I value their opinion then no not at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the real world, I do. Massively. The OH couldn't care less.

On Fab? No. Simples

xx N

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Inspired by the overthinking thread...

Do you find yourself obsessing about what other people might think? Does it stop you doing things or saying things? Or seeing certain people? "

Nope. I don’t know what they think so it doesn’t matter.

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By *2and3quartersWoman
over a year ago

Bumbletown


"Inspired by the overthinking thread...

Do you find yourself obsessing about what other people might think? Does it stop you doing things or saying things? Or seeing certain people? "

Rarely these days. It's none of my business what other people think of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting to see so many saying they dont care what others think of them....

Yet spending time on fab looking for others who think enough of them to want to meet for, well anything from NSA to a full blown relationship.....

Sometimes fab reminds me of Alice in Wonderland.....

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

down the rabbit hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to think like a dog, if you can’t fight it, fuck it or eat it piss on it and walk away

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Interesting to see so many saying they dont care what others think of them....

Yet spending time on fab looking for others who think enough of them to want to meet for, well anything from NSA to a full blown relationship.....

Sometimes fab reminds me of Alice in Wonderland....."
but you still can’t know what they’re thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting to see so many saying they dont care what others think of them....

Yet spending time on fab looking for others who think enough of them to want to meet for, well anything from NSA to a full blown relationship.....

Sometimes fab reminds me of Alice in Wonderland....."

If they're wanting NSA I find that usually means they just want a wet hole/ hard cock. The human attached is irrelevant.

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

either on fabs or real life i really dont care what people think of me.if yhey like me then cool.if they dont no skin of my nose as im highly unlikely to speak to them

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Nope, I did when I was younger but not now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What other people think about me is none of my business

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