FabSwingers.com forum: Thoughts on thinking

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

So I've been thinking about thinking a fair amount recently... I'm a bit of an overthinker and indecisive until I'm absolutely certain.

What about you? Do you find it easy to reach a decision? Do you overthink it when you have or just go with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do way too much of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been thinking , just thought I'd let you know

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I try not to think about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to run with gut instinct then overthink afterwards.

I continue to overthink, and overthink some more, just for good measure

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I over think things all the time, I envy those who can just make a quick decision and stick with it, while I'm getting caught up in minute unimportant details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I've been thinking about thinking a fair amount recently... I'm a bit of an overthinker and indecisive until I'm absolutely certain.

What about you? Do you find it easy to reach a decision? Do you overthink it when you have or just go with it? "
guys generally don't think to much bull at a gate syndrome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always tend to do something then think

"hmm, didn't think that one through"

Its worked out ok so far though

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I've been thinking , just thought I'd let you know

Thanks for thinking and sharing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was just thinking about you thinking about thinking and I had a thought.

What if you’re actually thinking that I thought that you over think things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trust my instincts as my brain is a deceitful little cunt

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I tend to run with gut instinct then overthink afterwards.

I continue to overthink, and overthink some more, just for good measure

How often is your gut instinct wrong? If I'm pushed to make a decision I'll go with gut instinct but that overthinking cycle is a drag.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I over think things all the time, I envy those who can just make a quick decision and stick with it, while I'm getting caught up in minute unimportant details. "

Same. The trivial ends up becoming of the upmost importance and you can't share it because it might be a bit absurd... but it's there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make quick decisions most of the time as they are based on intuitive data and my feelings rather than rational thought. If it needs a well analysed selection from many options then inevitably it takes me longer. There are very few decisions I make that way these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massive over thinker here. I hate making decisions and avoid it wherever possible.

Drives my family and friends crazy.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I was just thinking about you thinking about thinking and I had a thought.

What if you’re actually thinking that I thought that you over think things?"

I think you often think I overthink things that I think about when I'm thinking about things.

*You're right to think I think that way.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I overthink and overthink and stress myself and procrastinate. It’s a small wonder that I get anything done. This is when it’s for myself. For a friend who is similar to me, I am sensible and offer rational advice and offer points to enable decisions to be made. He’s the same though so he helps me whilst stressing and overthinking about some small issue like what to have for his tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to run with gut instinct then overthink afterwards.

I continue to overthink, and overthink some more, just for good measure

How often is your gut instinct wrong? If I'm pushed to make a decision I'll go with gut instinct but that overthinking cycle is a drag."

I honestly don't know. Sometimes it takes a while for it to be proven right, but far as I'm aware it's not been mega wrong yet. Maybe not spot on the nose, but not far off.

Oh, apart from my ex, proper suckered in by that arsehole.

Overthinking is awful. Questioning yourself, others, everything. I know I do a lot of it but for I'm trying desperately to do less.

Thing is sometimes when we do think a lot we uncover stuff we needed to learn about ourselves. I find that normally after a spate of overthinking I'll do something distracting and whoosh, the moment I'm not thinking anymore there's the answer. It can be like the overthinking has opened my brain up, distraction has stopped me actually thinking but the brain is still unlocked and out pops the answer.

Not always mind you, but it's happened a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im impulsive then overthink like mad later

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I like to think a lot, upon many diverse things but am not towards an 'over-thinker', as I may have been when younger. As we're blessed with complex brain systems/minds, it seems such a waste to not use them, whilst we're able to. I prefer to think rationally, as well as take my emotional gut reactions into account - but unlike many, I aim to take considered decisions, rather than just more gut reaction reflex decisions. Though absolute 'yes' or 'no' decisions will typically prevail until, and if, I ever reach a different conclusion. For example, someone on here who is absolutely not attractive to me, is unlikely to become more attractive, unless it's because I've got to know them better and find their personality and physical self more attractive: it doesn't generally happen though.

I often like to leave complex consideration to my subconscious mind, rather than using a lot of my conscious resources, as I find that very different perspectives are crafted that way. Leave complex stuff, that potentially could take over your mind for quite some time, to bed down - whilst going away and getting on with some good fun. It's typically better for me this way.

Being carefree is quite an art.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

I find thinking is just fine. It’s when you voice your thinking, that’s when I get in trouble!

Mrs x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I go with my gut for the most but there are times when I do become loaded within a very short time frame. Where 5 or 10 things will all need my concentration.. I can't figure out why it happens but they never happen in 1's or 2's.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I make quick decisions most of the time as they are based on intuitive data and my feelings rather than rational thought. If it needs a well analysed selection from many options then inevitably it takes me longer. There are very few decisions I make that way these days."

Intuitive data being? Asking for clarification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really think much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really think much"

Your forum posts encapsulate that very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really think much

Your forum posts encapsulate that very well "

I know right !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really think much

Your forum posts encapsulate that very well

I know right !

#monologue

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Massive over thinker here. I hate making decisions and avoid it wherever possible.

Drives my family and friends crazy. "

Have you found ways to prewarn them? Coping mechanisms? If I go out to eat I'll look at the menu beforehand so we're not sat for a hour as I decide.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I overthink my overthinking about my overthinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think these forums are funny.. There are some right characters about and you all make it what it is..keep thinking.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I try not to tax myself with thinking too much. Or if I do it's generally work or game related.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I overthink and overthink and stress myself and procrastinate. It’s a small wonder that I get anything done. This is when it’s for myself. For a friend who is similar to me, I am sensible and offer rational advice and offer points to enable decisions to be made. He’s the same though so he helps me whilst stressing and overthinking about some small issue like what to have for his tea

It's always easier to tell other people what to do than follow that advice yourself.

I can rationalise and be scarily practical and not emotionally swayed but ach. Myself? Nightmare sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Massive over thinker here. I hate making decisions and avoid it wherever possible.

Drives my family and friends crazy.

Have you found ways to prewarn them? Coping mechanisms? If I go out to eat I'll look at the menu beforehand so we're not sat for a hour as I decide.

I do this too with menus, so does my bestie.

No, but they know. They expect it, and for the most part they’re pretty patient.

Coping mechanism? Bury my head in the sand if possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I overthink a lot, everything has to be planned and planned. I don’t always trust my gut instinct after the ex proved that to be so wrong. X

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I'm the ultimate overthinker. I'm also somebody who also, while I accept a decision has been made, will continue to overthink it even afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the issue. In a professional environment I'm faster thinking and decisive.

In my personal life I over think most things usually resulting in no decision but my stubborn side says fuck it just go for it and I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tend to overthink and worry about trivial things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At work I don't overthink as I'm confident in my own abilities.

On here I completely overthink everything. I can't read the signs and overanalyse everything, often leading to me screwing up and blowing good friendships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooo eeee AAA! AAA! AAA! A Walla Walla bang bang! ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think I've ever overthought or stressed about anything! Just decide and do! I'm an incorrigible deep thinker though ...

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I like to think a lot, upon many diverse things but am not towards an 'over-thinker', as I may have been when younger. As we're blessed with complex brain systems/minds, it seems such a waste to not use them, whilst we're able to. I prefer to think rationally, as well as take my emotional gut reactions into account - but unlike many, I aim to take considered decisions, rather than just more gut reaction reflex decisions.

Being carefree is quite an art."

I really do enjoy your posts.

I'm much like you, I try to tie in emotional and rational response in order to reach a logical decision and one I don't overthink but alas, it's like something that needs to be physically switched off. The art of being carefree is one I shall endeavour to learn.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I find thinking is just fine. It’s when you voice your thinking, that’s when I get in trouble!

Mrs x"

Sometimes. Sometimes people can be really understanding. My dear friend laughs and eye rolls at me because he knows it's a stream of consciousness and not the final thought per se.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I like thinking about thinking. But when it comes to making decisions I don’t find I over think that much. I tend to think about it and if I’m in two minds I mentally toss a coin. And if I’m pleased I go with option A and if I’m a bit disappointed I go with option B.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I've been thinking about thinking a fair amount recently... I'm a bit of an overthinker and indecisive until I'm absolutely certain.

What about you? Do you find it easy to reach a decision? Do you overthink it when you have or just go with it? "

Going with one’s instincts can help..But I guess that doesn’t involve much thought.. I’d rather be decisive which may or may involve a lot of thought Thinking is a good thought process

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I don't really think much

Your forum posts encapsulate that very well

I know right !

#monologue "

Brought a tear to my eye. Beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I over think most things, learning not to as much and just going with the flow.

Over thought a comment from a friend from work yesterday but realised i was and stopped. Even mentioned it today and said that it was me over thinking, she agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I let Google do my thinking for me

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm all thinked out

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I think these forums are funny.. There are some right characters about and you all make it what it is..keep thinking. "

I'm a character. Thanks.

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By *rReyMan
over a year ago

Fleet

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By *rReyMan
over a year ago

Fleet

I do lots of thinking when I'm at work. But generally I'm impulsive. I find it a release after having to do a lot of considering and debating at work.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It depends on the issue. In a professional environment I'm faster thinking and decisive.

In my personal life I over think most things usually resulting in no decision but my stubborn side says fuck it just go for it and I do. "

In the professional environment I think I'm pretty bloody quick at deciding. Almost ruthlessly so. But that's one facet of me. I might start employing your fuck it view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intuitive data being? Asking for clarification."

So instead of looking at details and concrete evidence, I get an intuitive sense of things based on patterns and hunches. I then trust that

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"At work I don't overthink as I'm confident in my own abilities.

On here I completely overthink everything. I can't read the signs and overanalyse everything, often leading to me screwing up and blowing good friendships.

That's genuinely crap. It's something I've worried about before - not on here as such.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"I like thinking about thinking. But when it comes to making decisions I don’t find I over think that much. I tend to think about it and if I’m in two minds I mentally toss a coin. And if I’m pleased I go with option A and if I’m a bit disappointed I go with option B. "

I am a sometimes a terrible procrastinator though.

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

I over think mostly, unless I am in a "ah fuck it" mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a sometimes a terrible procrastinator though. "

I procrastinate a lot too but that’s about doing stuff and not about decisions. I can make the decision quickly but not act on it for ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I over think most things but I’m better at thinking for others than I am myself

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Don't think I've ever overthought or stressed about anything! Just decide and do! I'm an incorrigible deep thinker though ... "

An incorrigible deep thinker? Teach me your ways O Wise One.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think these forums are funny.. There are some right characters about and you all make it what it is..keep thinking.

I'm a character. Thanks.

either you've got long hair or your head is placed on a vase, which is it I can't think

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

I am a sometimes a terrible procrastinator though. "

I find the pressure of deadlines help curb my overthinking and procrastination. I set myself personal deadlines to reach goals and that's part of why I function successfully I think. Mentally tossing a coin is a good idea! I'll try that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to have a very simple mind and not think much... I just usually think of the simplest and easiest answer/approach to go with and just hope for the best ... Happy go lucky most the time..

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I overthink everything

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By *rReyMan
over a year ago

Fleet

"I over think most things but I’m better at thinking for others than I am myself

I do think, what if...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I've been thinking about thinking a fair amount recently... I'm a bit of an overthinker and indecisive until I'm absolutely certain.

What about you? Do you find it easy to reach a decision? Do you overthink it when you have or just go with it? "

I used to overthink, and used to screw myself up about everything until about 18 months ago,

I realised I wasn’t happy and i was doing far too many hours and things had to change

Now I embrace life, enjoy time off and if i even start to overthink i write what’s bugging me down as come back to it when i have a solution

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I over think most things, learning not to as much and just going with the flow.

Over thought a comment from a friend from work yesterday but realised i was and stopped. Even mentioned it today and said that it was me over thinking, she agreed. "

Having that ability to realise you are is a strength. I can almost catch myself doing so at times. Hopefully you carry on going with the flow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s a genuine skill for some to recognise when others do it and stop yourself from doing it.

I just gave up on that over thinking, it was too tiring

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I let Google do my thinking for me

Not the wisest of moves.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I tend to have a very simple mind and not think much... I just usually think of the simplest and easiest answer/approach to go with and just hope for the best ... Happy go lucky most the time..

Ah Occam's Razor-ing it. That's a very good idea actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t over think things ,can be decisive but depending on the subject can procrastinate a bit too lol

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"So I've been thinking about thinking a fair amount recently... I'm a bit of an overthinker and indecisive until I'm absolutely certain.

What about you? Do you find it easy to reach a decision? Do you overthink it when you have or just go with it? "

I’ve been told by many of those closest to me that I overthink things big style!

This can have unfortunate consequences! Instead of leaving things be and letting things happen naturally i ‘have to know now’ and can be like a dog with a bone - sometimes with the result of pushing people I like away because I come across as too intense!

I’m not - I just need to know exactly where I stand with people - which can be an issue - particularly on a site like this!

I really, really wish I could have more of a ‘que sera sera’ attitude to life!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"So I've been thinking about thinking a fair amount recently... I'm a bit of an overthinker and indecisive until I'm absolutely certain.

What about you? Do you find it easy to reach a decision? Do you overthink it when you have or just go with it? "

I'm an overthinker.

I can't help it, my ADHD brain processes everything, then every available option, possible outcome.

I could spend hours, days even stressing about decisions I have to make

My solution...

I toss a coin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking is not the problem it's the thought process and influences that cause the issue.

If you over think but only from a single angle then you will never move forward. It's important to take a 360 view otherwise you're definitely wasting your time.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Cogito, ergo sum

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I definitely overthink things, I do my own head in with it, when it gets too much I sleep. And usually wake up going with my gut.

I think we need to think though, don't you think?

Jo.Xx

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I used to overthink, and used to screw myself up about everything until about 18 months ago,

I realised I wasn’t happy and i was doing far too many hours and things had to change

Now I embrace life, enjoy time off and if i even start to overthink i write what’s bugging me down as come back to it when i have a solution "

Writing them down is another great idea. It takes a lot to realise things have to change, even more to act on it. Embracing life and less overthinking is definitely a way forward.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Cogito, ergo sum "

Bloody descartes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I simply get other people to think for me therefore give myself more time to daydream.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Instead of leaving things be and letting things happen naturally i ‘have to know now’ and can be like a dog with a bone - sometimes with the result of pushing people I like away because I come across as too intense!

I’m not - I just need to know exactly where I stand with people - which can be an issue - particularly on a site like this!

I really, really wish I could have more of a ‘que sera sera’ attitude to life!

I'm much the same at times, I have to will myself to not be so. I like neon signposted clarity but then not everyone operates the same way and that's ok. It's crappy. Hopefully you'll develop if not a "sera" attitude, a few traits.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I am an over thinker unfortunately. I can go round and round trying to interpret things that are said and done or what I have said and done. I play out whole scenarios of ‘what ifs’ , it can keep me awake, it can stop me doing things and it is massively draining. A pointless activity!

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with others things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am an over thinker unfortunately. I can go round and round trying to interpret things that are said and done or what I have said and done. I play out whole scenarios of ‘what ifs’ , it can keep me awake, it can stop me doing things and it is massively draining. A pointless activity!

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with putting other things in my vagina. "

Good for you babs.

What kind of other things?

Have you ever used a rolling pin?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with putting other things in my vagina.

Good for you babs.

What kind of other things?

Have you ever used a rolling pin?"

Well there was that big thing and then that other even bigger thing and yes, I totally have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with putting other things in my vagina.

Good for you babs.

What kind of other things?

Have you ever used a rolling pin?

Well there was that big thing and then that other even bigger thing and yes, I totally have

I’m thinking you’re a very kinky lady.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with putting other things in my vagina.

Good for you babs.

What kind of other things?

Have you ever used a rolling pin?

Well there was that big thing and then that other even bigger thing and yes, I totally have

Can we just confirm that you will not be baking any flat pastry based treats for the MLS? Unless you have two different rolling pins?

And will you be bringing your brolley?

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Can we just confirm that you will not be baking any flat pastry based treats for the MLS? Unless you have two different rolling pins?

And will you be bringing your brolley?

I'm sure Babs will add a delicious taste to the flat based treats.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with putting other things in my vagina.

Good for you babs.

What kind of other things?

Have you ever used a rolling pin?

Well there was that big thing and then that other even bigger thing and yes, I totally have

Can we just confirm that you will not be baking any flat pastry based treats for the MLS? Unless you have two different rolling pins?

And will you be bringing your brolley?

I don’t bake so why do I even have a rolling pin?

I don’t go far without my brolly with it’s beautifully crafted handle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with putting other things in my vagina.

Good for you babs.

What kind of other things?

Have you ever used a rolling pin?

Well there was that big thing and then that other even bigger thing and yes, I totally have

Can we just confirm that you will not be baking any flat pastry based treats for the MLS? Unless you have two different rolling pins?

And will you be bringing your brolley?

Hey sj, don’t say that.

I’m looking forward to the delights of babs vagina scented savoury treats.

She’s promised me a bacon & cheese turnover with a hint of quim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't overthink anything. I'm far too lazy for that. I don't agonise over things or drag them out. Life's too short and my brain isn't clever enough.

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over a year ago

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with others things. "
Great idea I do the same and find you distract me

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with putting other things in my vagina.

Good for you babs.

What kind of other things?

Have you ever used a rolling pin?

Well there was that big thing and then that other even bigger thing and yes, I totally have

Can we just confirm that you will not be baking any flat pastry based treats for the MLS? Unless you have two different rolling pins?

And will you be bringing your brolley?

Hey sj, don’t say that.

I’m looking forward to the delights of babs vagina scented savoury treats.

She’s promised me a bacon & cheese turnover with a hint of quim.

I’ll get her to sit on a pasty on her drive over - that should sort you out

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with putting other things in my vagina.

Good for you babs.

What kind of other things?

Have you ever used a rolling pin?

Well there was that big thing and then that other even bigger thing and yes, I totally have

Can we just confirm that you will not be baking any flat pastry based treats for the MLS? Unless you have two different rolling pins?

And will you be bringing your brolley?

Hey sj, don’t say that.

I’m looking forward to the delights of babs vagina scented savoury treats.

She’s promised me a bacon & cheese turnover with a hint of quim.

I’ll get her to sit on a pasty on her drive over - that should sort you out

Or I could sit on Sam and feed him the pasty

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with others things. Great idea I do the same and find you distract me

Sorry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I constantly over think and over analyse every decision, scenario and consequence. That said, I read some research that says going with your gut is actually more likely to be the right than if you overthink it and change your mind which is really interesting and I am now trying to trust my first instincts more.

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over a year ago

this is why I just push things completely out of my mind at times and distract myself with others things. Great idea I do the same and find you distract me

Sorry?

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It's ok I have it under control now

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By *armar61Man
over a year ago

redditch

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By *armar61Man
over a year ago

redditch

I over think the simple things and think ive thought to much

The things i thought i ought to think get left behind as such

So when i think ive over thought and try to think real slow

I analyse but cant disguise its all i think i know...

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over a year ago

I overthink EVERYTHING! I always have, I can't help it. I work myself up into a right state sometimes and just worry myself stupid.

I'm actively trying to do this less

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm pretty good at being decisive and not overthinking, Excessive contemplation / thinking makes one hesitate and that can be detrimental, though i'm sure everyone has engaged in this on occasion, myself included.

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over a year ago

"I overthink EVERYTHING! I always have, I can't help it. I work myself up into a right state sometimes and just worry myself stupid.

I'm actively trying to do this less

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It's ok most women do it and men are used to it

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over a year ago

I decide quickly then panic its the wrong choice, re think, make another decision, go with it, realise that's not quite right either, make another and repeat until my brain explodes and I am incapable of ever making another decision until I have put my head in a box for a day or two.

I currently have committed to about 10 things of which I only have time for about 3. I now how to think which to drop and which to keep. And realise a day later I dropped all the wrong ones, is it too late to change my mind...... aaaargh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking is good, keeping that grey mush alive. Overthinking is bad, makes you bite your nails so stop it.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Thinking is good, keeping that grey mush alive. Overthinking is bad, makes you bite your nails so stop it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I look good in this darling, yes of course you do what about this red one it goes great with my shoes, yes that looks lovely to, the green one then I can wear different shoes and we'll both be wearing green ok fine by me and she comes out wearing the first outfit 45 minutes later cmon she says we're going to be late!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

Nah, I don't think so. I think the ability to reach a decision quickly and not overanalyse words is probably more desirable of the two. Maybe people feel comfortable describing one part of them they are prone to. It doesn't mean they are overthinkers as such. Just err towards doing so.

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over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend "

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have.

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over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have. "

you mean that people (from Mold) mold themselves into what they think you want ?

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have. "

Or the relative anonymity and openness of the fora affords people the chance to openly discuss their negative traits more freely? I don't think people try and claim to be something they are not in order to be more attractive.

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over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have.

you mean that people (from Mold) mold themselves into what they think you want ? "

I wouldn't dream of suggesting such a thing...f&b said it first guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think about cock all the time

I think everyone does

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I completely overthink things all the time, and am constantly sweating the small stuff. It’s fine when it’s just my own internal monologue, but not so good when those thoughts come out as words and confuse or annoy people.

Worse still when I try to explain to someone what I actually meant, but only make things worse.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have.

you mean that people (from Mold) mold themselves into what they think you want ?

I wouldn't dream of suggesting such a thing...f&b said it first guys

I can’t speak for anyone else but I read it as a question about over thinking and I answered honestly. I’m not suddenly going to stop being an over thinker because it’s not accepted by forum users. As for making a person more attractive, no it doesn’t do that. Well no more than any other weird traits you see on here.

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

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Hmmm... I’ll have a think about this

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over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have.

you mean that people (from Mold) mold themselves into what they think you want ?

I wouldn't dream of suggesting such a thing...f&b said it first guys

But you aren't for Mold babs?

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over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have.

you mean that people (from Mold) mold themselves into what they think you want ?

I wouldn't dream of suggesting such a thing...f&b said it first guys

But you aren't for Mold babs? "

I’m anti mold.

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over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have.

you mean that people (from Mold) mold themselves into what they think you want ?

I wouldn't dream of suggesting such a thing...f&b said it first guys

But you aren't for Mold babs?

I’m anti mold. "
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Tbf it is a bit like Rhyl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I consider my options

Once my mind is made up though, I am very black & white

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over a year ago

"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have.

you mean that people (from Mold) mold themselves into what they think you want ?

I wouldn't dream of suggesting such a thing...f&b said it first guys

I read it as a question about thinking. With a bias (because of op wording) towards overthinking. I just find it interesting that there are certain (negative) traits that people are keen to share eg being overly self critical, overthinking etc. But others that people are less keen to admit to such as jealousy etc. Just find it interesting.

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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I read it as a question about thinking. With a bias (because of op wording) towards overthinking. I just find it interesting that there are certain (negative) traits that people are keen to share eg being overly self critical, overthinking etc. But others that people are less keen to admit to such as jealousy etc. Just find it interesting."

I think it's because when jealousy is mentioned in threads you get the declarations of "swinging is no place for jealousy", "real swingers don't get jealous". I can recall several threads of that ilk, where I've joined in and said yes I can get jealous with my partner but it's more about how it's handled etc.

I only started the thread because recently I have been overthinking so it was on my mind. The next time I do have a jealous bout, I will start a thread about it.

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"Is it desirable to be an overthinker? Seems to be a helluva lot on the forum. I feel like the freaky one

They just pretend

I'm just wondering if it's considered an attractive quality as there are so many. A bit like being self doubting and clumsy. They also seem popular traits to have.

you mean that people (from Mold) mold themselves into what they think you want ?

I wouldn't dream of suggesting such a thing...f&b said it first guys

I’m pretty happy talking about my negative traits. I even list quite a few of them on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overthinking... No good can come of it

My thoughts

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

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I think it's interesting that 'thinking' has been linked heavily to 'decision making'. Sometimes I 'think' just for the hell of it. About all sorts and often without reaching a conclusion. A lot of the time my thinking is 'decision' based. And that can be a fast cognitive/conditioned process or a more analytical approach depending on the context and the importance to myself and others of the outcomes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think less....... Do more, that's the secret

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