FabSwingers.com forum: social or no social

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What you guys think of having a social before play or just jump straight in. Seems to us couples that want to play on first meet generally ain't couples discuss

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Everyone works differently, and that in itself doesn't make them fake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never had a social, always just jumped into it. But I think whenever I decided to meet again, I’d ensure a social was taken place beforehand.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm personally always social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social for me first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer a social first but I can't say I wouldn't jump into bed right away either if the right lady was waiting

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

Que cera.. Everything is as it is. No point over thinking. Just roll with it, and block as required for those that mess about

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I quite enjoy socials with a potential for more. That's how I oft meet. I think people meeting and straight in to fucking happens and it doesn't make them "fake", just not compatible with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social with potential for more if we hit it off.

I don't always divulge the fact that I'd maybe be willing for more as some see it like a challenge.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't really do socials either, I'm not against them but there are other ways to get to know someone before you meet.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I prefer a social with potential for more if we hit it off.

I don't always divulge the fact that I'd maybe be willing for more as some see it like a challenge. "

Yes they do.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We have a social to make sure we all get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social fisting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social first, but if we are comfortable with progressing then it happens naturally

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Social fisting "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not about fake or not fake for us its about expectations and longevity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to get to know her first...

You can find out everything you need to know about a girl on a crazy golf social.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Definitely social......most my Veri,s are........my foo foo is a bit picky lately...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't done socials before. Usually you generally know whether you click before you meet (unless you do last minute meets). We like to just chill, drink, have a laugh and see where it goes, so no pressure! If they want to go straight to fucking, we are also down for that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer social first

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

For me I like a social element to any meet, especially first meets, rather than getting straight down to it (although that has been known with people I've met more than once) - I like the build up and sense of anticipation it provides.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Social first for me, wouldn't rule out play on the first meet though, just depends on the connection when your there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely social......most my Veri,s are........my foo foo is a bit picky lately...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first, definitely.

I'd never rule out ripping his keks off after a couple of coffees, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social fisting "
Oooooo er fisting not sure I'd like that

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By *rReyMan
over a year ago

Fleet

I prefer a social, never plan or expect beyond that. Just because you chat and get on doesn't mean it will be right when you meet. I have gone for the straight in approach, and it just wasn't right...for me and probably not them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think socials with a potential for more are great if both parties already feel that more is highly likely. However if that isn’t the case then just a social would be my preference, as that way you simply meet as friends.

In the dim and distant past my early meets were simply sex meets, even if there was a bit of socialising before jumping to it. However if I was doing the latter now then we would likely have a very strong online attraction to each other that has built over a period of time. In the end it would probably still effectively be a social with potential.

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Social, then arrange a meet, or if the night flows we fuck on the first date lol

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Usually always a social first but there have been some that I've just jumped straight into. It depends on how I get on with someone in person & if I want to play with them

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Social cock-sucking counts right?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Never had a social , always the option to play if we got on .

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Social cock-sucking counts right?

That would be Mr

We generally do a social first (unless it's group fun) but some have led straight to play if it's felt right.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social first to make sure we click but each to their own x

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By *eys00Man
over a year ago

have boots will travel

If I feel we have been getting on well enough then no problem. It's easier to get a read on some people over the phone and text than others. Whatever the other party is more comfortable with really!

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Definitely social......most my Veri,s are........my foo foo is a bit picky lately...

Ha"

Apart from this one.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a bit of both if it's a social at there's or mine you know that it might turn into more

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We will always have a social first before any sexual activity happens. We like to see if we all have a connection and that attraction to each other.

Mr2

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

Social first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems that men don't need a social and women and couples like to play by the numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had socials with people before any thing else happened, other times no social has been required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social fisting "

Now that is how you kill 2 birds with one stone. I tip my cap to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first nothing more sexy than wanting to rip someone’s clothes off in public but you can’t do you undress them with your eyes

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West

Mix depending on how the guy is via messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social first. Need to connect with someone I am going to have sex with

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Always a social first, no exceptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather not bother.. to me a first meet should be social.. in my home, or yours.. with the view to have a bit of fun.

I spend time communicating and getting the feel of someone before I've any desire to meet them. Makes for a great filter. If you ask the right questions and are a little Fab-wise.. you can usually figure out whether you'll click in person.

It's always on the provisio that we can both back out, say "I'm not feeling it" And leave.. Without any hard feelings. I don't want to make anyone feel like they have to "Walk the walk" or "Take one for the team".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I do love a social!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather not bother.. to me a first meet should be social.. in my home, or yours.. with the view to have a bit of fun.

I completely disagree, you can get a vibe for someone, conversations flow,both enjoy the same things, like their photos, but when you meet, it just isn't there, that spark, that 'yeah, I wanna fuck you'

But that's just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I like to have a social. Things can be quite different when you meet face to face so I think it’s worth taking the time to have a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to have a social. Things can be quite different when you meet face to face so I think it’s worth taking the time to have a social first then I'll ask them.to fuck my anus behind asda"

You started well !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social fisting "

That escalated quickly

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I'd rather not bother.. to me a first meet should be social.. in my home, or yours.. with the view to have a bit of fun.

I agree with this, I rarely met anyone for a social, always met for sex really, the times things haven’t worked out I can count on on one hand and even then there was no argument if neither of us were feeling the right vibe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather not bother.. to me a first meet should be social.. in my home, or yours.. with the view to have a bit of fun.

But that's just my opinion. "

I treat the time before we have sex.. the flirting, the chatting.. awkward silences.. as that time to decide if the vibe isn't just digital.

So it always has potential to just be a social. In very good company that's sometimes better. I'm quite happy to social first, just prefer it my way

Like my profile says towards the end.. play this game with your own rule set and go your own way. One two Fabs, but many different ways to use them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not about fake or not fake for us its about expectations and longevity "

What do you mean longevity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not about fake or not fake for us its about expectations and longevity

What do you mean longevity?"

People who live longer than 32 years old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ok with both

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Always a social

No attraction it goes no further.

That's it

Works both ways

Jo x

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Always a social first xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my pomp it mattered not it generally ended in some sexy time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social is a must for me x

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Always a social first, however we did swiftly move onto sexual play straight after the social with all our play meets so far.

If it feels right we roll with it.

Luckily it felt fantastic.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have a social first before we decide to play usually in the same meet tho

Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We want to meet social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never play on a first meet. Social only

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Social first. Firstly I don't think you fully know if you fancy someone until you meet them. Also as a woman it just makes me feel a bit safer meeting in a public place first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social(s) first always...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love socials!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I don’t have time to meet twice. It’s either one or the other

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