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It’s OK to Not Be OK - ask for help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As many of you know I don’t like to post sad news. I try to spread a little positivity to the world.

However this two days ago I was saddened to not only find out someone I went school with, I worked with and shared a drink was struggling to the point that he felt he could not longer cope.

I was also saddened that I hadn’t heard about it, that I wasn’t aware and that I missed to opportunity to pay my last respects.

This wasn’t though anyone’s fault. But adult life does have a way of us loosing touch and not keeping in contact with people, often the people who need it.

I hope your soul finds peace my friend and I will keep you in my thought and prayer. Without knowing you were always about for some of my happiest early adult memories.

By more than this. Please, please everyone, if you’re in a position where you need help, speak to someone, ask for help, make meaningful connections.

I will always be here for anyone who needs someone to listen too or a shoulder to cry on. I won’t hold all the answers. But I will help, genuinely help to the best of my ability.

And I ask one favour of everyone who sees this please react on it, share it, offer your self to help others...

And say “alright?!” to that smiling happy chappy you know, because those who need help the most are often the ones who hide it the best.

#itsoktonotbeok #askforhelp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sorry to hear of your friend

Unfortunately a lot of people cannot make any meaningful connections with anyone even when they try to reach out they can’t find anyone

Myself included

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more. I've been there and it's horrible.

There has been a taboo about (men especially) discussing how they feel and admitting when they are struggling to cope.

I'll admit that I'm feeling a bit crap today; life is a struggle, I'm tired and I've put back lots of the weight I lost.

Pagan has reminded me that it's not weak to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's OK, not to be OK!

More people need to talk about their feelings without feeling they are burdening others.

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over a year ago

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always seems to be the last person you expect too.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sometimes it's the hardest thing to ask for help. You can feel lonely even when surrounded by people. I love the fact that these forums can offer up support from strangers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs OP. And for anyone else who needs one.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Always willing to listen to anyone if they need to talk.

Just talking to someone can help calm t your mind and thoughts.

Don't be scared to ask...let someone know your struggling.

You'd be surprised about how many people will listen and if they can they will help too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has been quite a few of these types of threads throughout the forums life and every single one of them is worthy of its place here. We have lost too many people to mental illness but finally the barriers are starting to be broken down. But lets not be complacent, there is much more work to do, keep pushing this subject because you may well be saving someones life. My thoughts are with you OP as i had a similar experience a few years ago with a childhood friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As many of you know I don’t like to post sad news. I try to spread a little positivity to the world.

However this two days ago I was saddened to not only find out someone I went school with, I worked with and shared a drink was struggling to the point that he felt he could not longer cope.

I was also saddened that I hadn’t heard about it, that I wasn’t aware and that I missed to opportunity to pay my last respects.

This wasn’t though anyone’s fault. But adult life does have a way of us loosing touch and not keeping in contact with people, often the people who need it.

I hope your soul finds peace my friend and I will keep you in my thought and prayer. Without knowing you were always about for some of my happiest early adult memories.

By more than this. Please, please everyone, if you’re in a position where you need help, speak to someone, ask for help, make meaningful connections.

I will always be here for anyone who needs someone to listen too or a shoulder to cry on. I won’t hold all the answers. But I will help, genuinely help to the best of my ability.

And I ask one favour of everyone who sees this please react on it, share it, offer your self to help others...

And say “alright?!” to that smiling happy chappy you know, because those who need help the most are often the ones who hide it the best.

#itsoktonotbeok #askforhelp"

I am deeply sorry that you lost your friend, in losing friends and love ones I think we lose a little part of ourselves with it.

Talking about problems with others is the absolute best thing a person can do to work towards moving forward and getting through whatever struggle life brings. A problem shared is a problem halved as the saying goes. Generally people sweat the small stuff too, so you might find what you see as a big problem has a simple solution that you neaded pointed out to you just. Or for someone to tell you it isn't all that bad.

Your offer to listen and offer support OP is a wonderful thing and I would also put myself forward in this capacity. I know I can come across as a messer but I genuinely care, am a good listener and am non judgmental.

Sometimes all people need is to voice their problems but find it difficult to talk to their family and friends for fear of losing them or of them changing their opinion of the person. We all need help at times and it's great that there are people out there such as yourself to offer unbiased opinions and support OP

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

A good therapist or assessor will work a suicide prevention plan with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post is very relevent as ive been on the edge of suicide on more than one occasion, gladly i had people around me to stop me from doing it. They got me to talk and got me proffessional help. Now 12 months on im a good place mentally just got a promotion at work and im doing a online course in mental health awareness. Without the help of my friends and family making me talk i know i wouldnt be here today.IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU WEAK HAVING DEPRESSION IT IS AN ILLNESS. So everyone talk.

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