FabSwingers.com forum: Standards

By *ensualtouch15 OP Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

And leagues

How do they differ I'm confused

On one thread I'm informed leagues do not exist , no one is better or worse and everyone will be desired deeply and above anyone else ,by at least one in the world

However on another thread im informed, leagues do exist as standards , and that some people are of a higher standard and others lower and low enough that a quality standard is not met

Confused ??

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Standards are yours, about other people. You only want to meet people who are x and better. Personal preference.

Leagues are other's perception of you. So "no one looks at you in the street, _naswingdress, so you're not that great and shouldn't be fussy!" They're bullshit because people aren't attracted to one another in clear predictable ways.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

The way I see it, it's all about attraction. You either are or aren't attracted to someone. No such thing as leagues x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leagues do exist, message all the women on page one of hot pics and see how many replies you get, then message the local women in your area and see how many replies you get.

Just to clarify I have never done this, just want to see what happens!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never asked a friends sister out years ago because I thought I was out of her league, she's now married. She asked me some time ago why I never asked her out and when I told her she laughed at me. She told me something I've never forgotten, no one is any better than anyone else just some people are better suited than others but ultimately, if you don't ask or take chances you'll never know and will live with the regret. It's a lesson we all know already but I really regretted not asking her out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leagues do exist, message all the women on page one of hot pics and see how many replies you get, then message the local women in your area and see how many replies you get.

Just to clarify I have never done this, just want to see what happens! "

Surely that's more about numbers than leagues?

He messages 20 hot pics women and is one of thousands who have mailed then messages 300 locals who have maybe 30 messages that day.

It's not really a good indication,the locals may also be hotter than the hot pics girls.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I have had a few messages from guys saying that I am way out of their league.....

On the other hand, I have had messages from guys who I look at and think..."they are way out of my league".

Let's face it, out in the 'real' world I don't get a second glance.

I guess it's fabs that makes the rules.

I think it's down to each person and their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both bullshit. Be who you are and do what you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both bullshit. Be who you are and do what you do. "

What does that even mean with regards to leagues ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The common trend is women say there are no leagues, but men know fully well there are.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare "

Yeah, sorry about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare

Yeah, sorry about that

I'd do you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both bullshit. Be who you are and do what you do.

What does that even mean with regards to leagues ? "

People saying I’m out of your league or saying it to other people and not messaging them because of it. No such thing as leagues. Who’s to say the most beautiful woman is only attracted to good looking men? If you like someone go for it. Leagues shouldn’t be a thing and are therefore bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there is such things as leagues. As a guy I find attractive someone else won't. Standards yes, there are qualities we look for and any guys we meet must have them. This is not necessarily about how they look or whether I find them attractive, this would be things like we don't meet smokers or people who are married. I wont change my mind on those things, you could have the best looking guy on here and we will say no if he is a smoker or lives on the other side of the country to us as he doest not meet our preferences.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Both bullshit. Be who you are and do what you do.

What does that even mean with regards to leagues ?

Way more eloquently put than I could x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

The way I have always viewed potential meets is “would he be happy to be seen in public with me” if I don’t think he would then I wouldn’t meet them, it’s not a league but it probably is a type of standard

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare

Yeah, sorry about that

I'd do you

Ta very much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare

Yeah, sorry about that

I'd do you

Ta very much

Free of charge x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The way I have always viewed potential meets is “would he be happy to be seen in public with me” if I don’t think he would then I wouldn’t meet them, it’s not a league but it probably is a type of standard

How would you know that though? He wouldn’t meet you otherwise would he? You couldn’t possibly know if he would or not surely x

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I won’t meet people I’m not attracted to. So in that respect I won’t lower my standards.

I don’t know about leagues if two people fancy each other then that’s all that matters.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I won’t meet people I’m not attracted to. So in that respect I won’t lower my standards.

I don’t know about leagues if two people fancy each other then that’s all that matters. "

Don't you subscribe to a rather amusing view on leagues of attractiveness Vine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won’t meet people I’m not attracted to. So in that respect I won’t lower my standards.

I don’t know about leagues if two people fancy each other then that’s all that matters. "

Exactly. With regards to standards, we all have them but is there a need to shout about them? I know who I’d meet and who I wouldn’t and the reasons why. I wouldn’t say I’m not meeting because you don’t meet my standards for blah blah reason. I think some people make things complicated for themselves on here to be honest.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare

Yeah, sorry about that

I'd do you

Ta very much

Free of charge x"

Great, I was worried I’d need 5p for a bag for life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare

Yeah, sorry about that

I'd do you

Ta very much

Free of charge x

Great, I was worried I’d need 5p for a bag for life

You'll get pregnant for free love x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

How would you know that though? He wouldn’t meet you otherwise would he? You couldn’t possibly know if he would or not surely x"

I suppose it cuts both ways, would I be seen with him in public

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare

Yeah, sorry about that

I'd do you

Ta very much

Free of charge x

Great, I was worried I’d need 5p for a bag for life

You'll get pregnant for free love x "

I had better have a word with my ovaries and get them eggs a popping out again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would you know that though? He wouldn’t meet you otherwise would he? You couldn’t possibly know if he would or not surely x

I suppose it cuts both ways, would I be seen with him in public

That’s how you should be thinking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare

Yeah, sorry about that

I'd do you

Ta very much

Free of charge x

Great, I was worried I’d need 5p for a bag for life

You'll get pregnant for free love x

I had better have a word with my ovaries and get them eggs a popping out again

Let me whisper to your ear :row row row your boat...'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The common trend is women say there are no leagues, but men know fully well there are. "

oh ffs women do know

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"I don't have any. I'd fuck anyone with three holes that can take a shaft with pubic hair.

Except you #youknowwhoyouare

Yeah, sorry about that

I'd do you

Ta very much

Free of charge x

Great, I was worried I’d need 5p for a bag for life

You'll get pregnant for free love x

I had better have a word with my ovaries and get them eggs a popping out again

Let me whisper to your ear :row row row your boat...'"

..... gently up my stream

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It is a very conflicting concept.

Leagues, how I view it are a "measure" on how it would appear to those looking from the outside.

We all have done it, seen a couple and wondered why he/she is with him/her.

Standards are different yet play in to the same concept. You like what you like BUT fact is for the most part it comes down to how good looking somebody is, which in most cases is quite universal but not fully.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’d honestly f... anything that moves!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

NOT!!!!!!

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Wheres this thread? Id like to participate.....

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By *ensualtouch15 OP Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Wheres this thread? Id like to participate....."

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are leagues. Some people will never be desired. Some people will be desired by many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are leagues. Some people will never be desired. Some people will be desired by many."

yea champions league or sunday pub league

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I like being out of certain people’s league.....

I have lowered my standards a couple of times, in the sense not my type and actually end up regretting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are leagues. Some people will never be desired. Some people will be desired by many."

This. It’s such bullshit to say there isn’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are leagues. Some people will never be desired. Some people will be desired by many.

This. It’s such bullshit to say there isn’t. "

what league are you in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are leagues. Some people will never be desired. Some people will be desired by many.

This. It’s such bullshit to say there isn’t.

what league are you in?"

Vauxhall conference

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Walsall

I've been following the comments on here. Some men think they'll get lucky sending dick pics and lewd messages to every woman, regardless of what she puts on her profile or how she presents herself. So guys, try to pitch yourselves at the level you yourself operate on - whatever that might be. There are always women operating at your, er, standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A house is only worth as much as someone is prepared to pay for it.

A footballer is only worth as much as the club is willing to pay out.

The whole league thing, if you buy into it, is self perpetuating.

The 'beautiful people' who seem to exist on a higher plane than the rest of us may be aloof, unobtainable and capable of dictating their own terms. They still have to wipe their arse after taking a shit.

I sometimes get completely self critical and believe I am punching well above my weight, but as a wise friend said recently, when I acknowledge my own worth, I have so much to offer.

I'm not the fittest, vwe or stunningly handsome. I bring something else to the fab experience. Those who have met me, and they are stunners, like me for who I am. Once you free yourself from the shackles of expectation and the prison of perception, you are free to try your luck with anyone. You may be pleasantly surprised.

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By *ensualtouch15 OP Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"I've been following the comments on here. Some men think they'll get lucky sending dick pics and lewd messages to every woman, regardless of what she puts on her profile or how she presents herself. So guys, try to pitch yourselves at the level you yourself operate on - whatever that might be. There are always women operating at your, er, standards"

Some ladies love dick pics

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Walsall

My point exactly. Send your dick pics to women who do.

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

Of course there are leagues - especially on here.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"A house is only worth as much as someone is prepared to pay for it.

A footballer is only worth as much as the club is willing to pay out.

The whole league thing, if you buy into it, is self perpetuating.

I sometimes get completely self critical and believe I am punching well above my weight, but as a wise friend said recently, when I acknowledge my own worth, I have so much to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never asked a friends sister out years ago because I thought I was out of her league, she's now married. She asked me some time ago why I never asked her out and when I told her she laughed at me. She told me something I've never forgotten, no one is any better than anyone else just some people are better suited than others but ultimately, if you don't ask or take chances you'll never know and will live with the regret. It's a lesson we all know already but I really regretted not asking her out lol

This

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I know exactly what I’m looking for and I stick to it, occasionally something different catches my eye and I will never discount it. Everyone’s perception of ‘standards’ are different, dependent upon their own individual view.

I usually recognise ‘punching above my weight’ thus far I have not encountered that here on fab.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Of course there are leagues - especially on here. "

That’s your perception ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course there are leagues - especially on here.

That’s your perception ..."

You seem to be part of the in scene here and I wonder if you realise how difficult it can be for newbies. Of course there are leagues on Fab. Especially amongst forumites.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Of course there are leagues - especially on here.

That’s your perception ...

You seem to be part of the in scene here and I wonder if you realise how difficult it can be for newbies. Of course there are leagues on Fab. Especially amongst forumites."

Groups maybe but I won't call it leagues?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Of course there are leagues - especially on here.

That’s your perception ...

You seem to be part of the in scene here and I wonder if you realise how difficult it can be for newbies. Of course there are leagues on Fab. Especially amongst forumites."

Of course I realise how difficult it can be for newbies, depending on their ability to interact. Some drop straight in as if they’ve been here forever and others may not be so assured of themselves to jump straight in. If they make themselves known as newbies they usually receive a warm welcome.

I don’t see leagues here, I see people with different kinds of views seeking different experiences but at the end of the day we are all here for pretty much the same thing.

As for forumites - some may have met at socials or through dates therefore interaction is more personal because there is a personal connection. You will probably experience the same once you’ve attended MLS

Does that clarify?

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Of course there are leagues - especially on here. "

Where??

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Of course there are leagues - especially on here.

That’s your perception ...

You seem to be part of the in scene here and I wonder if you realise how difficult it can be for newbies. Of course there are leagues on Fab. Especially amongst forumites.

Groups maybe but I won't call it leagues?"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The leagues are just the same as in any community. Those who have been here longest and know the ropes are league one. Newbies are at the bottom and have to work their way up. All good as long as they are allowed to do so. In my opinion, they have a good chance on Fab with some of the ‘oldies’.

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

No leagues or standards with me. It's attraction end of

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"The leagues are just the same as in any community. Those who have been here longest and know the ropes are league one. Newbies are at the bottom and have to work their way up. All good as long as they are allowed to do so. In my opinion, they have a good chance on Fab with some of the ‘oldies’.

I still don’t agree on the league bit but yes the ‘oldies’ will happily show them the ropes

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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Of course there are leagues - especially on here.

Where?? "

Everywhere - on the forum, there’s the popular folk; the less popular and those who are largely ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I will keep my standards up.i wouldn't go with most of the scrubbers on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And leagues

How do they differ I'm confused

On one thread I'm informed leagues do not exist , no one is better or worse and everyone will be desired deeply and above anyone else ,by at least one in the world

However on another thread im informed, leagues do exist as standards , and that some people are of a higher standard and others lower and low enough that a quality standard is not met

Confused ??"
their are no leagues theirs just them and us and if I tell you my theory on it and you start to have success over me how Is that fair?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep I will keep my standards up.i wouldn't go with most of the scrubbers on here

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me neither I do all my washing in someone else's machine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep I will keep my standards up.i wouldn't go with most of the scrubbers on here

me neither I do all my washing in someone else's machine

Did you do it with daz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep I will keep my standards up.i wouldn't go with most of the scrubbers on here

me neither I do all my washing in someone else's machine

Did you do it with daz "
omo

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