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By *ymBuff2019 OP   Man
over a year ago

colchester

Iv had a lot of contact on here from guys wanting me to play with their wives. I like the idea I really do but how often is it that I speak to the guy... does the wife get a say? Does the guy choose and she go along with it? I guess I’m just Naive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my husband even thought about messaging someone on behalf of me I’d be raging. My husband doesn’t choose. Why on earth would he?! I pick men. Not him.

I never understood relationships where someone picks someone for their partner. Yes, my husband knows what type of man I like. But my god, I’ll pick him. Just seems controlling imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say approach with caution. Have had a few of these offers and chat progresses to the bloke wanting pics for himself. Not saying all couples do this before people start on me but there are baddies out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could ask to speak to her on the phone, cam or something, to check it is a couple first. Then agree to a social meet and see how relaxed she feels, see if he does all the talking etc or seems pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my husband even thought about messaging someone on behalf of me I’d be raging. My husband doesn’t choose. Why on earth would he?! I pick men. Not him.

I never understood relationships where someone picks someone for their partner. Yes, my husband knows what type of man I like. But my god, I’ll pick him. Just seems controlling imo"

And in my experience, it’s mostly just men on a couples account wanting contact with another man. Come fuck my totally real wife....but show me photos and videos of yourself first so I know you’re right for her...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Get her input, from her, preferably over video chat or in person (somewhere neutral like a pub or cafe). If they dodge the idea or you have any misgivings, best avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If my husband even thought about messaging someone on behalf of me I’d be raging. My husband doesn’t choose. Why on earth would he?! I pick men. Not him.

I never understood relationships where someone picks someone for their partner. Yes, my husband knows what type of man I like. But my god, I’ll pick him. Just seems controlling imo

And in my experience, it’s mostly just men on a couples account wanting contact with another man. Come fuck my totally real wife....but show me photos and videos of yourself first so I know you’re right for her..."

And rightly so. He is very choosy on who shags his wife

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

I pick who I want to fuck not my husband. Likewise he picks who he wants to fuck, not me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Iv had a lot of contact on here from guys wanting me to play with their wives. I like the idea I really do but how often is it that I speak to the guy... does the wife get a say? Does the guy choose and she go along with it? I guess I’m just Naive? "

It depends on their dynamic. Some couples like this set up but they are few and far between. My advice would be to never get involved with a couple if the wife is unavailable to talk, the husband wants to meet you before he'll let you meet his wife, the husband wants you to seduce his wife without her knowing, the wife has had too much to drink. If everytime you ask to speak to the wife she's in the shower, gone shopping or at her mums also avoid.

For most (not all) swinging couples they're in it together and that will be obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet as a couple I mostly manage the account but who and when we meet is always down to my wife if I ever just randomly bought a guy home she would go crazy kick him out and give me a good ear bashing.

Always good idea to have social or very least chat on the phone or cam link

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By *ymBuff2019 OP   Man
over a year ago

colchester


"If my husband even thought about messaging someone on behalf of me I’d be raging. My husband doesn’t choose. Why on earth would he?! I pick men. Not him.

I never understood relationships where someone picks someone for their partner. Yes, my husband knows what type of man I like. But my god, I’ll pick him. Just seems controlling imo

And in my experience, it’s mostly just men on a couples account wanting contact with another man. Come fuck my totally real wife....but show me photos and videos of yourself first so I know you’re right for her..."

This is what I worry about

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes, to be clearer about what I said, if you're not 100% sure that the wife exists and is into it herself, avoid the situation.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If my husband even thought about messaging someone on behalf of me I’d be raging. My husband doesn’t choose. Why on earth would he?! I pick men. Not him.

I never understood relationships where someone picks someone for their partner. Yes, my husband knows what type of man I like. But my god, I’ll pick him. Just seems controlling imo

And in my experience, it’s mostly just men on a couples account wanting contact with another man. Come fuck my totally real wife....but show me photos and videos of yourself first so I know you’re right for her...

This is what I worry about "

Then don't send photos or videos of yourself. Do what you want to do whatever anybody else tells you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How are you supposed to fuck the wife if she is unavailable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at profiles together, discuss if they are what we are looking for.

Ultimately, Vamp has the ‘final say’.

Occasionally, I may spot something in the profile she has not, and then we re look.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How are you supposed to fuck the wife if she is unavailable? "

Oh she'll be there on the day, promise! Or, oh, she's out, let's just wank...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How are you supposed to fuck the wife if she is unavailable?

Oh she'll be there on the day, promise! Or, oh, she's out, let's just wank... "

Or, as we had on one occasion, the wife storming out of the door, as we arrived. The guy said “I ‘forgot’ to mention you were coming over. Fancy a threesome instead?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both decide on people and speak. if one of us is not too sure we move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had quite a few of these over the years. All of them were suspect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hope the wife gets a say! But maybe her husband having that control is something she likes? I would have to speak to her anyway to make sure she's happy with the arrangement

I wouldn't like my partner picking and me having no say in the matter. I'm very fussy and know what I like better than anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just won't talk to men. If we are interested in a couple I will talk to the woman. After all we are all here mainly for the woman.

Saz

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By *irenGuy70Man
over a year ago

Cirencester

I avoid these types, as I do for those men that get in contact that want you to chat up their unaware wife in a pub. It just smacks of the lady getting no say, so I don't want to be part of that.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"If my husband even thought about messaging someone on behalf of me I’d be raging. My husband doesn’t choose. Why on earth would he?! I pick men. Not him.

I never understood relationships where someone picks someone for their partner. Yes, my husband knows what type of man I like. But my god, I’ll pick him. Just seems controlling imo"

Wee temptress (Good lady wife) would have my balls for earrings if I did that lol she has a mind of her own and is more than capable of choosing for herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv had a lot of contact on here from guys wanting me to play with their wives. I like the idea I really do but how often is it that I speak to the guy... does the wife get a say? Does the guy choose and she go along with it? I guess I’m just Naive? "

They're probably just fed up with never getting a say in what's on the tv and they want their wife out of the way for a night.

Was there an increase during the cricket world cup?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few myself, but nothing came of them ,think it was either a single male, or just the male wanting kik fun photos vids etc.

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Definitely a trap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv had a lot of contact on here from guys wanting me to play with their wives. I like the idea I really do but how often is it that I speak to the guy... does the wife get a say? Does the guy choose and she go along with it? I guess I’m just Naive? "

My wife is totally aware of my FS profile and is very happy for me to find guys for her, she just doesn't want to be on here herself.

She's also trusts my judgement in who I choose.

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