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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How you handle pressures in life.

Do you give yourself enough me time and look after yourself or wait till its too late?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined fab

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Cant change yesterday, make the most of today, look forward to tomorrow.

If I've got my health then I've already had a great day no matter whatever life throws at me...

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

And that is why I wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In February my mum passed away and a 2 week's later I went back to work. I burnt myself out and became unwell physically. I had to have time of work, I had to attend hospital and I had quite a big health scare. I was exhausted. During that time I realised I hadn't really any self care strategy. Yet the weight of the world was on my shoulders.

Now I'm very aware of my little cup of resilience. I won't let myself get lost again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined Fab to have a little release, though I am incredibly bad at keeping up with selfcare. When I am very low I struggle to identify I am low, which results in an exhausting burn out.

When I am okay I know selfcare is an on going thing, and Fab feeds into it. Here is a place where I can express part of my life in the way that helps me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is not about fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How you handle pressures in life.

Do you give yourself enough me time and look after yourself or wait till its too late?

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I can't be pressured so don't have any to handle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In February my mum passed away and a 2 week's later I went back to work. I burnt myself out and became unwell physically. I had to have time of work, I had to attend hospital and I had quite a big health scare. I was exhausted. During that time I realised I hadn't really any self care strategy. Yet the weight of the world was on my shoulders.

Now I'm very aware of my little cup of resilience. I won't let myself get lost again. "

Sorry to hear this.

I am making more time for me

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Very aware.

Make time for me and have totally shifted my mindset in last few years.

Mindfulness has really helped, as did getting a dog and regular exercise. Also try to stay around positive people, otherwise you get dragged down

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is not about fab"

You must be new here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well then you should have stated that shouldn't you instead of having a go at this guys answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very aware.

Make time for me and have totally shifted my mindset in last few years.

Mindfulness has really helped, as did getting a dog and regular exercise. Also try to stay around positive people, otherwise you get dragged down

Jo x "
yes positive people make a difference, so many people love to talk about illness and medication I kinda switch off when they do this on a regular basis or change subject, I'm good at changing the subject

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Without going into too much detail in the past few years I've lost 4 very close family members and had several major surgeries.

After 1 certain person passing I am not afraid to say I fell apart, quite literally lost myself. It took a good year to come back from it all but I have always been strong and now I'm so much stronger than ever before.

Be kind to yourself, we all have stress to deal with so also be kind to others. You NEVER know what a person is going through xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get stressed and anxious a lot. I go to Burnham on Sea to chill down by playing on the 2p push machines to unwind. I find the motion of a moving vehicle helpful for the stress. I also recently got some lavender oil to use for anxiety.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Whether you believe in God or not the serenity prayer helps.

Give me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.

Meditation/prayer/mindfulness have been scientifically proven to have positive mental health benefits as has exercise and spending time with friends (non toxic ones anyway).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got off the treadmill of life that is management and opted for something a little gentler

I am much better equipped now to deal with important life matters

A career isn't everything and neither is having money to burn

I am comfortable and happy now and my physical and mental health have both benefited

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is not about fab

You must be new here"

Im not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is not about fab"
It's about pressures in your personal life, money, loved ones, bills, work, friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I proper burned myself out. My immune system crapped out, and i ended up with a bug i just couldnt shift.

My bosses actually dragged me to one side and informed me that i was to take two weeks off and get myself straightened out.

I needed it, i really did.

Spent the week in bed, and once the cabin fever set in i bought some bricks and a welder, and built an aluminium furnace.

A project like that did me the world of good. I just didnt realize just how fucked i was until i stopped to smell the roses so to speak.

I still push myself harder than most, but now i realise that i need to take more care, and that i need time to heal.

It came as a shock to realise i am not indestructable, but as the old saying goes:

If you cant find time to be well, then you will certainly find time to be ill.

Look after yourselves people. And if the other half tells you to stop, dont argue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After major upheaval in my life 11 years ago and being diagnosed with malignant hypertension. I stopped smoking and re-evaluated my life balance. Currently it is nicely balanced and I’m in a much better state physically and mentally than I was in the previous 20 years. I’m very content and still get paid to do work I truly love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ability to relax and have some ‘me time’ sadly doesn’t exist anymore for the majority of us thanks to this technology which is just as much a curse as it is a pleasure.

The new buzzword of the moment ‘mindfulness’ has been around in Asian cultures for centuries and requires practice to really reap benefit from it. 10-30 mins a day- what many apps prescribe- will bring short term benefits only but honestly? Pressure is part of today’s life. I deal with it by having sex. So fab is necessary as I’m single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ability to relax and have some ‘me time’ sadly doesn’t exist anymore for the majority of us thanks to this technology which is just as much a curse as it is a pleasure.

The new buzzword of the moment ‘mindfulness’ has been around in Asian cultures for centuries and requires practice to really reap benefit from it. 10-30 mins a day- what many apps prescribe- will bring short term benefits only but honestly? Pressure is part of today’s life. I deal with it by having sex. So fab is necessary as I’m single. "
awwwww have sex with me then it's good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ability to relax and have some ‘me time’ sadly doesn’t exist anymore for the majority of us thanks to this technology which is just as much a curse as it is a pleasure.

The new buzzword of the moment ‘mindfulness’ has been around in Asian cultures for centuries and requires practice to really reap benefit from it. 10-30 mins a day- what many apps prescribe- will bring short term benefits only but honestly? Pressure is part of today’s life. I deal with it by having sex. So fab is necessary as I’m single. awwwww have sex with me then it's good for you "

Come on then. De-stress me

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

I tend to throw myself into work, either doing extra hours in my regular job or taking on big diy projects.

Either way I work hard and use it as a distraction from what's happening around me.

Not a good way of dealing with what's happening and I do eventually end up burning out and then needing time to recover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ability to relax and have some ‘me time’ sadly doesn’t exist anymore for the majority of us thanks to this technology which is just as much a curse as it is a pleasure.

The new buzzword of the moment ‘mindfulness’ has been around in Asian cultures for centuries and requires practice to really reap benefit from it. 10-30 mins a day- what many apps prescribe- will bring short term benefits only but honestly? Pressure is part of today’s life. I deal with it by having sex. So fab is necessary as I’m single. awwwww have sex with me then it's good for you

Come on then. De-stress me "
I'll un-dress you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am currently fighting with depression and anxiety issues brought about by a boss that does not understand. definitely one of the "pull yourself together its easy" brigade. It may be that by the end of this month i will not have a job, which both scares and fills me with relief at the same time.

I now realise i have been attempting to please others rather than myself, which is going to change.

Yes, money will be tight, but then i am not exactly rolling in cash now so not much change there.

Yes, people will judge, but at the end of the day i have to do what my mind and body need, not what society dictates you do.

Interesting piece on the BBC about people that become modern hermits, an idea that sort of gels will me in some ways. Getting away from everything for a year or two would be lovely, anyone with a private island i can use for a while?

But mindfulness, looking after yourself and not trying to do everything demanded by current society has started to help me.

Oh and the kindness of strangers can still surprise you, even these days.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Resilience is a bit of a weird one. We’re all different so deal with situations differently and that does obviously depend on what the issues are for you. Actually LOO saying being here is an outlet for him is not a bad thing. It can just be that mental break from the norm in your life that’s needed. Some people need physical exertion and run or go the gym and push theirselves to their limits.

I think the more difficult elements are those things such as learning and practicing self compassion and always finding the silver lining

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