FabSwingers.com forum: Is sex over rated?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think a connection with a person is far more important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a connection too but I still wouldn’t say sex is overrated..

I do like a physical connection too

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends. I don't feel it's possible to develop a meaningful connection while engaging in casual sex. It's pretty shallow but as long as you understand that and are respectful of your partners I can't see a problem

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Only have sex with those I connect with so don't know what it's like without a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only fuck people I have a connection with

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Sex with me is, yes

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By *he OriginalsCouple
over a year ago

peterborough

If you are in a loving relationship and there is amazing sex, fulfilment, desire and trust then you are able to do this

Why do I swing if my relationship is so amazing

Because we love the excitement and thrill and we have no doubt in our minds that having sex in the same room with another couple will be nothing else other than sexual pleasure

No one will ever make me feel like my partner!!!

Oh and it took four years for us to want this and accept it as nothing else but fun

If your asking this question then there is doubt

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I wonder if it's because I'm part of a relationship in which we have a very deep connection formed over nearly 40 years that I don't think it's possible to form a connection in a short period of time?

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

It certainly can be. Plenty of times I would rather have had a cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t enjoy sex properly unless there is a connection. I’d rather fuck my dildo.

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over a year ago

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I like to think so.. but I wonder if that's because I have had a lifetime of not getting any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any"

I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great.

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By *wentMan
over a year ago

blackpool

"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any

I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great. "

Depends what you want in all

Aspects, anyone can usually get sex if they want it enough but to have a connection is something different and makes it special and more enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s over rated but I guess it depends on how you feel about it. If you haven’t got a high sex drive, then it probably isn’t important to you. My drive is quite high. If I could have sex every day, I would. We do it because we enjoy it. How can something that is so good be over rated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think it’s over rated but I guess it depends on how you feel about it. If you haven’t got a high sex drive, then it probably isn’t important to you. My drive is quite high. If I could have sex every day, I would. We do it because we enjoy it. How can something that is so good be over rated?"

Mine is not high at all but more adventurous when I am in the mood.

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any

I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great. "

Isn’t that one of the fundamental differences between men and women though? I’m not disagreeing with you point, in fact I’d rather have a good wank than a shit shag

So I guess the answer is yes, no, maybe, milk 2 sugars

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It depends on the person, how we each gain from and experience sex and connection - as well as our goals. I love fine dining and enjoy baked beans from time to time too.

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By *wentMan
over a year ago

blackpool

It can be a personality thing as well, some boys could basically fuck anything at points and girls can be the same.

I like to be someone who makes me feel special in the time I spend with them. It’s not always the sex it can be the lead up to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any

I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great.

Isn’t that one of the fundamental differences between men and women though? I’m not disagreeing with you point, in fact I’d rather have a good wank than a shit shag

So I guess the answer is yes, no, maybe, milk 2 sugars

I agree with your first point. It’s more of a NEED for men generally. Mine is more of a WANT.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't felt that connection with someone, what you all talk about.. So for me, I guess it is over rated.

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"It’s usually under/overrated when you aren’t getting any

I don’t agree. I’ve had a bit of action this year but nothing really stands out as it was just sex. I need feelings involved for it to be great.

Isn’t that one of the fundamental differences between men and women though? I’m not disagreeing with you point, in fact I’d rather have a good wank than a shit shag

So I guess the answer is yes, no, maybe, milk 2 sugars

I agree with your first point. It’s more of a NEED for men generally. Mine is more of a WANT. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a connection with a person is far more important

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Connecting with what though Op

Your mind your soul and your body sounds like marriage.

Same wavelength so when you meet its not a cold Fuck n go type maybe.

I used to go to clubs and meet guys and snog n have sex without a connection.

We all want sex so just go get it. Have fun.

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By *wentMan
over a year ago

blackpool

"I think a connection with a person is far more important

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Connecting with what though Op

Your mind your soul and your body sounds like marriage.

Same wavelength so when you meet its not a cold Fuck n go type maybe.

I used to go to clubs and meet guys and snog n have sex without a connection.

We all want sex so just go get it. Have fun. "

Same wavelength is a must, if you want it get it. But it’s much better if you have connection. I wouldn’t just have sex for the sake of it.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I think a connection with a person is far more important

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I think sex is a key ingredient in a total package. No so good on its own but neither is a good relationship without it. Sex to me a huge part of building and maintaining a great connection with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a connection with a person is far more important

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100%, id sooner have amazing mind blowing sex with someone i have a amazing conection with once every few months, rather than daily with different people i have no connection with.

For me casual multiple partner sex is totally unforfilling & empty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as my spermatozoids connect with the wall of her vagina it is all that matters to me. #Bareback

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Good sex isn’t overrated, it’s absolutely fantastic.

Mediocre sex is alright but when you connect with someone it means you both want it to be good because you pay attention to what each other wants.

That’s the bit that makes it zingy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All night long sex is the best. Unfortunately not many fabbers are able to do that

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Sex is a biological imperative that most of us ha e a drive to fulfil. It's not really about it being over rated, just something that we all must do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t enjoy sex properly unless there is a connection. I’d rather fuck my dildo. "

Is that what you call Gary ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think the two are unrelated. Sex with connection is the ultimate goal surely? I'm not sure I'd want either on their own.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"All night long sex is the best. Unfortunately not many fabbers are able to do that

Your inbox should be overflowing by 8:30am or this place isn’t what it used to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"Sex is a biological imperative that most of us ha e a drive to fulfil. It's not really about it being over rated, just something that we all must do."

That might have been true thousands of years ago, but we have evolved to have sex purely for pleasure, I think dolphins and some apes do as well. If we all have a biological need, why are there people who choose celibacy or at the other end, self-imposed chastity (which is also sexually pleasurable to the chastised) conscious thought, imagination and self awareness in humans has taught/enabled (most)us to over-ride our more primal base instincts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a mood thing you're either in it or not, drinking too much ruins it body can't do what mind wants it to, women's monthly cycles affect it to, then theirs the insatiables just can't get enough, hooked on endorphins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on my mood

I prefer sex with a connection but sometimes I want a purely physical fuck.

Being single makes the former difficult - especially on sites like this.

That's probably why I'm practically a nun these days

Put the kettle on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think sex is overrated you're obviously not having the best sex...

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

No good sex is never a bad thing carnt get enough but it's not allways about sex if you get on with the the sex is allways better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A connection is essential for me. And no it’s definitely not overrated.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

If I didn’t feel like sex was going to be worth it each and every time then I wouldn’t bother.

I’m never going to fuck just for the sake of fucking. I can fuck myself in that case

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having sex with someone is a connection though isnt it really. If Im having sex with you Im connected or we wouldn't be there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having sex with someone is a connection though isnt it really. If Im having sex with you Im connected or we wouldn't be there.

Isn’t sex without a connection with someone else wanking?

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

What is this sex you speak of. It sounds scary

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

So overrated I hardly bother with it any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having sex with someone is a connection though isnt it really. If Im having sex with you Im connected or we wouldn't be there.

Isn’t sex without a connection with someone else wanking?"

Id say even the most unfulfilling of sex will have had the very briefest of connections, she will have still taken him inside her and he will have cum from the effects of her body on his, they will have had hands on each other at some point, There's going to be a second or two of connection at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are in a loving relationship and there is amazing sex, fulfilment, desire and trust then you are able to do this

Why do I swing if my relationship is so amazing

Because we love the excitement and thrill and we have no doubt in our minds that having sex in the same room with another couple will be nothing else other than sexual pleasure

No one will ever make me feel like my partner!!!

Oh and it took four years for us to want this and accept it as nothing else but fun

If your asking this question then there is doubt

This exactly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder if it's because I'm part of a relationship in which we have a very deep connection formed over nearly 40 years that I don't think it's possible to form a connection in a short period of time?"

I suspect you also don't want to or need to as your partner gives you all the connection you need in life. And I think what you allude to is true ... a quickly formed connection feels somewhat contrived when you have the real thing already.

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Sex when you have a sense of connection is never overrated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t enjoy sex properly unless there is a connection. I’d rather fuck my dildo.

Is that what you call Gary ? "

Gary, Keith and Trevor. The perfect trio! Ha

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I've had some amazing sex over the years, still doesn't top the buzz of skydiving though

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