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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why can't we all just be more honest and have more trust in one another?

It's a bit of a rarity these days for me to trust women.

I struggle with women anyways but trusting and having them not being honest makes things even more difficult for me and I'm finding that the more it happens Im just losing all ambition or the get go ...

This has come from finding out someone i cared for,loved and was 100% completely honest with,has just lied through their teeth and fabricated a lie basically to make me think she moved away for a new job and that we only had a little time together left, it was all lies she never even left she just ignored and blocked me out of her life without giving a reason or explaining why ...... She could of been honest and told me the truth and it wouldn't be messing me up like it is now.

I could never think of doing that to anyone it's just heartless.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Perhaps she was trying to not hurt your feelings

Maybe the job fell through

Perhaps contact her, find out and get some closure?

Try not to be too hard on yourself

Jo x

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

"Believe nothing what you hear and only half of what you see" - Poe

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I agree with you, OP. It is heartless. In my younger days I had women blank me or fob me off. I think they do it because it's easier not to hurt somebody with the truth. In reality I think it's only easier for them. It's quite cowardly really.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Unfortunately many people lie, they are fickle, they find it easier to just ignore the "problem" than be honest and confront it.

While I've not had a lie told to me on such a grand scale, it's no secret that I have had people just walk out on me. People who know very well that I'm a person who values honesty and can accept things. They still found it easier to just ignore the problem and walk away.

I'm now quite guarded about trusting people when they say they are honest, loyal etc.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Grow a pair...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

That is pretty awful OP, what a coward!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Believe nothing what you hear and only half of what you see" - Poe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eveyones level of honesty is different, sadly

The truth hurts less than the lie

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Sorry to read that,that's pretty awful.The truth would have hurt for a while,but this will have done more damage.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Now it has happened you could make sure it doesn’t affect you mentally as much as it seems to have done. You won’t forget it but you can learn from it. There could be reasons for her behaviour that you’re not aware of so as much as it is difficult - move on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people can't take the truth

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Maybe she thought you couldn't handle the truth. She didn't want to hurt you or cause any drama.

It's not nice to feel that kind of hurt and betrayal and I hope you find a way past it for your own sake. Not everyone is like that don't give up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will be a million reasons why people lie, human nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately many people lie, they are fickle, they find it easier to just ignore the "problem" than be honest and confront it.

While I've not had a lie told to me on such a grand scale, it's no secret that I have had people just walk out on me. People who know very well that I'm a person who values honesty and can accept things. They still found it easier to just ignore the problem and walk away.

I'm now quite guarded about trusting people when they say they are honest, loyal etc. "

So when I saw the wedding ring on his finger, he never told me he was married, that was when I lost my trust on him!

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By *HX6969Man
over a year ago

St Albans


"Grow a pair..."

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Most people can't take the truth"

Sorry but that is a terrible excuse.

Usually once a lie is found out it is double the impact. In this case not only the end of something but the fact that he was lied to.

Just be honest from the start.

Very few lies are done to protect the recipient, most are done to make it better/easier for the liar.

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By *hongguyMan
over a year ago

heckmondwike

think yourself lucky some other poor bastard is going to end up with the bitch take it as a warning stay single and enjoy your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why can't we all just be more honest and have more trust in one another?

It's a bit of a rarity these days for me to trust women.

I struggle with women anyways but trusting and having them not being honest makes things even more difficult for me and I'm finding that the more it happens Im just losing all ambition or the get go ...

This has come from finding out someone i cared for,loved and was 100% completely honest with,has just lied through their teeth and fabricated a lie basically to make me think she moved away for a new job and that we only had a little time together left, it was all lies she never even left she just ignored and blocked me out of her life without giving a reason or explaining why ...... She could of been honest and told me the truth and it wouldn't be messing me up like it is now.

I could never think of doing that to anyone it's just heartless. "

I dunno mate.

By the same token, why do people just keep making stuff up?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Why can't we all just be more honest and have more trust in one another?

It's a bit of a rarity these days for me to trust women.

I struggle with women anyways but trusting and having them not being honest makes things even more difficult for me and I'm finding that the more it happens Im just losing all ambition or the get go ...

This has come from finding out someone i cared for,loved and was 100% completely honest with,has just lied through their teeth and fabricated a lie basically to make me think she moved away for a new job and that we only had a little time together left, it was all lies she never even left she just ignored and blocked me out of her life without giving a reason or explaining why ...... She could of been honest and told me the truth and it wouldn't be messing me up like it is now.

I could never think of doing that to anyone it's just heartless. "

Sorry to hear that. I'm know it hurts when you find out you've been lied to.

The pain will ease tho. Just takes time.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Did you tell her that you'd been on fab for 6 months trying to get meets to fuck other women?

Mr2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a horrible thing to do! Cowardly, well at least the true colours have been shown. Better now than later

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Why can't we all just be more honest and have more trust in one another?

It's a bit of a rarity these days for me to trust women.

I struggle with women anyways but trusting and having them not being honest makes things even more difficult for me and I'm finding that the more it happens Im just losing all ambition or the get go ...

This has come from finding out someone i cared for,loved and was 100% completely honest with,has just lied through their teeth and fabricated a lie basically to make me think she moved away for a new job and that we only had a little time together left, it was all lies she never even left she just ignored and blocked me out of her life without giving a reason or explaining why ...... She could of been honest and told me the truth and it wouldn't be messing me up like it is now.

I could never think of doing that to anyone it's just heartless. "

Is it just this one woman who's making it difficult for you to trust all women?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you tell her that you'd been on fab for 6 months trying to get meets to fuck other women?

Mr2 "
we stopped seeing eachother just over a year ago.

She blocked and removed me from things like Facebook and that.

Got talking to a friend of hers to find out how she was doing in Manchester with her job and if she was settling in..... she sees her regularly and Apparently she didn't move at all she still lives in Newcastle and she just changed to a different in the centre.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Take the hint.. time to move on.. forgive and forget...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why can't we all just be more honest and have more trust in one another?

It's a bit of a rarity these days for me to trust women.

I struggle with women anyways but trusting and having them not being honest makes things even more difficult for me and I'm finding that the more it happens Im just losing all ambition or the get go ...

This has come from finding out someone i cared for,loved and was 100% completely honest with,has just lied through their teeth and fabricated a lie basically to make me think she moved away for a new job and that we only had a little time together left, it was all lies she never even left she just ignored and blocked me out of her life without giving a reason or explaining why ...... She could of been honest and told me the truth and it wouldn't be messing me up like it is now.

I could never think of doing that to anyone it's just heartless.

Is it just this one woman who's making it difficult for you to trust all women?"
multiple women have done a similar thing,all the women I've known have never had the honesty to tell me what's wrong .... How am I meant to fix the problem if I don't know what it is? It constantly grinds me down not knowing how to improve and I'm always changing trying different things and I just get to the point where I'm thinking why bother? It's just going to end the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people can't take the truth

Sorry but that is a terrible excuse.

Usually once a lie is found out it is double the impact. In this case not only the end of something but the fact that he was lied to.

Just be honest from the start.

Very few lies are done to protect the recipient, most are done to make it better/easier for the liar. "

I never said it was an excuse... But it is true

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

We are people and we have imperfections.

I have been stung many times, a part of me that believed in trust and honesty has shriveled up and died.

I no longer expect the same trust and honesty from people.

I will remain honest and trustworthy myself. I guess my expectations have changed.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"We are people and we have imperfections.

I have been stung many times, a part of me that believed in trust and honesty has shriveled up and died.

I no longer expect the same trust and honesty from people.

I will remain honest and trustworthy myself. I guess my expectations have changed."

Absolutely this. Expect the worse then you will not be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can't trust yourself, how can you trust others?" - Luther Van Dross

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Earn trust and take some risks but importantly learn as you gain experience, taking the decisions that are right for you. Consider also how we each may influence others to be more or less honest with us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people can't take the truth

Sorry but that is a terrible excuse.

Usually once a lie is found out it is double the impact. In this case not only the end of something but the fact that he was lied to.

Just be honest from the start.

Very few lies are done to protect the recipient, most are done to make it better/easier for the liar. "

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By *c-ukMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

Sorry to hear that OP!! the biggest mistake you made is caring in the first place..

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By *awty_twosomeCouple
over a year ago

Kent


"Did you tell her that you'd been on fab for 6 months trying to get meets to fuck other women?

Mr2 "

Exactly this!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Most people can't take the truth

Sorry but that is a terrible excuse.

Usually once a lie is found out it is double the impact. In this case not only the end of something but the fact that he was lied to.

Just be honest from the start.

Very few lies are done to protect the recipient, most are done to make it better/easier for the liar. "

Exactly so, they are a cop out and a cowards choice.

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