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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

What makes a good friend?

For me a good friend is someone who is there for you through thick and thin, and isn't afraid to tell you (prerabley kindly!) if you're being a kn@b...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They keep your important secrets but take the piss out of the embarrassing ones you'd have liked to keep.

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By *edmark07Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Someone who is in your side even when your wrong and they know it

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"They keep your important secrets but take the piss out of the embarrassing ones you'd have liked to keep. "

Haha yes they know where all the bodies are buried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are there for you when things go wrong. They also tell you what an arse you are, when you can't see the wood for the trees.

N x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

A true friend is someone that is not only there during the sunny days, even though they hate the rain, they will take your hand and walk with you through the hurricane until the sun is shining again

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I am currently friendless. No lie.

I have family (that's different)

I have acquaintances - not really close at all.

But actual friends, not anymore. They straight up ditched, left me, and moved on. I'm not quite sure why, I doubt I will ever find out why.

So I don't think I really know what a friend is, or at least should be anymore other than the standard stereotypes and phrases given.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"A true friend is someone that is not only there during the sunny days, even though they hate the rain, they will take your hand and walk with you through the hurricane until the sun is shining again

That's beautiful..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They always leave in the end.

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I am currently friendless. No lie.

I have family (that's different)

I have acquaintances - not really close at all.

But actual friends, not anymore. They straight up ditched, left me, and moved on. I'm not quite sure why, I doubt I will ever find out why.

So I don't think I really know what a friend is, or at least should be anymore other than the standard stereotypes and phrases given. "

Being a friend works both ways.

What would the friends who've ditched you (your words)say about thee?

Friendship is about give and take. I've been there for my friends over the years and they've been there for me.

Moreso than my family at times, to be honest.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I am currently friendless. No lie.

I have family (that's different)

I have acquaintances - not really close at all.

But actual friends, not anymore. They straight up ditched, left me, and moved on. I'm not quite sure why, I doubt I will ever find out why.

So I don't think I really know what a friend is, or at least should be anymore other than the standard stereotypes and phrases given.

Being a friend works both ways.

What would the friends who've ditched you (your words)say about thee?

Friendship is about give and take. I've been there for my friends over the years and they've been there for me.

Moreso than my family at times, to be honest.

Now see this has kind of been the source of my "cynical" attitude of people of late.

I thought I knew who I was and the type of friend I am. That then gets put in to question when you are unable to explain why I ended up in such a situation.

I can't even think of a case or example when one of them pointed out I was not a good friend. They just vanished.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes a good friend?

For me a good friend is someone who is there for you through thick and thin, and isn't afraid to tell you (prerabley kindly!) if you're being a kn@b...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The friend charter of 1932 will set you on the path

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"The friend charter of 1932 will set you on the path"

I think you'll find it was amended in 1956...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The friend charter of 1932 will set you on the path

I think you'll find it was amended in 1956...

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not seen that version the 32 one is awesome page 2 is best tho

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"A true friend is someone that is not only there during the sunny days, even though they hate the rain, they will take your hand and walk with you through the hurricane until the sun is shining again

This ^^^^^^

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

For me a real friend will let me see their dick pics,

Other than that, I real friend is somebody who is genuinely interested in you and considerate to you, rather than someone who is friendly but with their own agenda, which is ok, it’s just that they’re your mates and not your true friends.

I have hundreds of mates, very very few friends.

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I like to think I'm a good friend and have always tried to be there for people for the good and the bad...even if just a quick txt to say "are you ok? Here if you need me" Sadly though I've discovered it isn't reciprocated.. I think all through the last few years (the hard bits) I've just had one friend who has been there with me through the good times and bad.. That and my mum... No one else ever rung or text me to say "are you ok?" I won't lie, it has hurt deeply but I've accepted it.

I think it is true when they say you can count your true friends on one hand. The others are just aquintances.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"A true friend is someone that is not only there during the sunny days, even though they hate the rain, they will take your hand and walk with you through the hurricane until the sun is shining again

Wow!! Thread closed - eloquent, beautiful and spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone you put your faith and trust in because they have done the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What makes a good friend?

For me a good friend is someone who is there for you through thick and thin, and isn't afraid to tell you (prerabley kindly!) if you're being a kn@b...

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for me a friend in need is a bloody nuisance

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

A true friend is someone I can trust implicitly with anything and I would hope they see the same in me

I’m definitely a ‘ radiator’ when it comes to friends. Drains.... no thanks

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I am currently friendless. No lie.

I have family (that's different)

I have acquaintances - not really close at all.

But actual friends, not anymore. They straight up ditched, left me, and moved on. I'm not quite sure why, I doubt I will ever find out why.

So I don't think I really know what a friend is, or at least should be anymore other than the standard stereotypes and phrases given.

Being a friend works both ways.

What would the friends who've ditched you (your words)say about thee?

Friendship is about give and take. I've been there for my friends over the years and they've been there for me.

Moreso than my family at times, to be honest.

Now see this has kind of been the source of my "cynical" attitude of people of late.

I thought I knew who I was and the type of friend I am. That then gets put in to question when you are unable to explain why I ended up in such a situation.

I can't even think of a case or example when one of them pointed out I was not a good friend. They just vanished. "

Don’t you often find when you go through a difficult time in your life and become detached from friends because you can’t cope with them that’s often when they vanish, because they don’t understand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am currently friendless. No lie.

I have family (that's different)

I have acquaintances - not really close at all.

But actual friends, not anymore. They straight up ditched, left me, and moved on. I'm not quite sure why, I doubt I will ever find out why.

So I don't think I really know what a friend is, or at least should be anymore other than the standard stereotypes and phrases given.

Being a friend works both ways.

What would the friends who've ditched you (your words)say about thee?

Friendship is about give and take. I've been there for my friends over the years and they've been there for me.

Moreso than my family at times, to be honest.

Now see this has kind of been the source of my "cynical" attitude of people of late.

I thought I knew who I was and the type of friend I am. That then gets put in to question when you are unable to explain why I ended up in such a situation.

I can't even think of a case or example when one of them pointed out I was not a good friend. They just vanished.

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"A true friend is someone I can trust implicitly with anything and I would hope they see the same in me

I’m definitely a ‘ radiator’ when it comes to friends. Drains.... no thanks

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A good friend will give you an alibi. Your best friend will help you bury the body

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Someone who you can either speak to a lot or not often and you know they will always be there for you. They will listen and tell you if you are being a tit, or if you look like one x

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over a year ago

"A true friend is someone I can trust implicitly with anything and I would hope they see the same in me

I’m definitely a ‘ radiator’ when it comes to friends. Drains.... no thanks

A true friend is someone who is there for you thick and thin no matter what and you’re a true friend if you’ll do the very same for them I’ve never had a true friend other than my partner of course

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

A good friend is there for you through thick and thin. Someone who knows virtually everything about you and doesn't judge. They give advise when needed but don't get stroppy if you don't take it and are still there to help pick up the pieces if things go tits up. I have a best friend and we have been there for each other through thick and thin for over 25 years. She's the one real proper friend I have who I know I can ring her at anytime and she would drop everything to be there for me no matter the day or time. And I would do the same for her. Friends like that are rare and I'm really glad our friendship has stood the test of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone to walk beside you through good times and bad. Another who you know that you can share joy pleasure and good times with.

And when you stumble they will never let you fall, nor you them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Apart from Mr N I have one proper friend. The others are acquaintances.

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I realise I'm lucky in that I have 8 good friends who have been there so many times for me over the years, and me for them.

Two are from my schooldays, the rest I've made over the coming years.

I knew there was something awry in my last (real world) relationship when I counted up my friends and he wasn't in there.

A real friend should be treasured

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am currently friendless. No lie.

I have family (that's different)

I have acquaintances - not really close at all.

But actual friends, not anymore. They straight up ditched, left me, and moved on. I'm not quite sure why, I doubt I will ever find out why.

So I don't think I really know what a friend is, or at least should be anymore other than the standard stereotypes and phrases given.

Being a friend works both ways.

What would the friends who've ditched you (your words)say about thee?

Friendship is about give and take. I've been there for my friends over the years and they've been there for me.

Moreso than my family at times, to be honest.

Now see this has kind of been the source of my "cynical" attitude of people of late.

I thought I knew who I was and the type of friend I am. That then gets put in to question when you are unable to explain why I ended up in such a situation.

I can't even think of a case or example when one of them pointed out I was not a good friend. They just vanished.

Yeah that is spot on. Happened to me. That’s when you find out who the true friends are x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A true friend is someone who helps you be a better you.

They tell you when you are wrong, but support you to put it right (and stand up for you if someone is out of line),

They tell you when you are doing great and look fab.

They help you find the right way through so you can stand on your own two feet rather than do it for you so never learn and always dependant.

They catch you when you fall and carry you until you are strong.

They laugh and rejoice with you and cry and mourn with you.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I am currently friendless. No lie.

I have family (that's different)

I have acquaintances - not really close at all.

But actual friends, not anymore. They straight up ditched, left me, and moved on. I'm not quite sure why, I doubt I will ever find out why.

So I don't think I really know what a friend is, or at least should be anymore other than the standard stereotypes and phrases given.

Being a friend works both ways.

What would the friends who've ditched you (your words)say about thee?

Friendship is about give and take. I've been there for my friends over the years and they've been there for me.

Moreso than my family at times, to be honest.

Now see this has kind of been the source of my "cynical" attitude of people of late.

I thought I knew who I was and the type of friend I am. That then gets put in to question when you are unable to explain why I ended up in such a situation.

I can't even think of a case or example when one of them pointed out I was not a good friend. They just vanished.

The negatives more so came about because they drifted from me. Again I honestly can't think of any instant where I did something wrong that would cause such a thing to happen. Even with hindsight. I'm far from a perfect person and not immune to being annoying at times but to be abandoned in such a way by most who I have known for years.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"A true friend is someone that is not only there during the sunny days, even though they hate the rain, they will take your hand and walk with you through the hurricane until the sun is shining again

This ^^^^^^

Unfortunately 99.9% of them will only be there as the rainbow appears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They keep your important secrets but take the piss out of the embarrassing ones you'd have liked to keep.

Haha yes they know where all the bodies are buried

But they know which ones need to be left buried and which ones can be exhumed and re-examined with the light of deeper understanding. They also recognise what wasn’t a body but just a scary clown hiding in the toy cupboard.

Good friends are certainly not the same as mates for me. In fact their challenges can be uncomfortable at times to hear. However they are done with love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They keep your important secrets but take the piss out of the embarrassing ones you'd have liked to keep. "

This and when your being a knob they tell you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that we may not speak for weeks and can pick up the phone at any time to each other and pick uo exactly where we left off. An understanding that life might force us apart but after all is said and done he'll always be there when I need him #bromance

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over a year ago

"I am currently friendless. No lie.

I have family (that's different)

I have acquaintances - not really close at all.

But actual friends, not anymore. They straight up ditched, left me, and moved on. I'm not quite sure why, I doubt I will ever find out why.

So I don't think I really know what a friend is, or at least should be anymore other than the standard stereotypes and phrases given.

Being a friend works both ways.

What would the friends who've ditched you (your words)say about thee?

Friendship is about give and take. I've been there for my friends over the years and they've been there for me.

Moreso than my family at times, to be honest.

Now see this has kind of been the source of my "cynical" attitude of people of late.

I thought I knew who I was and the type of friend I am. That then gets put in to question when you are unable to explain why I ended up in such a situation.

I can't even think of a case or example when one of them pointed out I was not a good friend. They just vanished.

Was it a mutual drifting? Sometimes people drift and neither really knows who drifted first. Maybe be the one to reach out and try to be friends again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They ll catch me when I fall, back me when cornered, hammer truth and honour into me when I lose them, they ll make me laugh, smile, cry, they ll stand to my front when im facing a storm and will stand by my side on this, lifes road.. A friend, true friend, I shall do all the above for and more

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Was it a mutual drifting? Sometimes people drift and neither really knows who drifted first. Maybe be the one to reach out and try to be friends again?"

Nope. I had tried to make plans and got nothing back. Met with maybes which eventually lead to no responses. I gave up in the end which was hard. It made me attach myself to a single friend that was there for me, which was not the best idea in hindsight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience and an unbelievable amount of support

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