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am i the only guy that does this?...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been on Fabs for a while off and on. I find a mutual friend and quit Fabs, then when that comes to a natural end I find myself back here messaging lots of women that pique my interest, taking the time to formulate a specific and hopefully interesting message that isnt C&P or too generic.......and then check sent messages to see if any got read or maybe even replied .....BUT any i see read and deleted, i then open their profile and block them, for no other reason than to stop them appearing in my searches and therefore stopping me from messaging again. Now, IF a message is read but not deleted my brain goes through a process of "what if"....

What if....she read it but didnt have time to reply....

What if....She might be interested but is going to wit and see if im persistent.....

What if....my message was "ok" but not quite good enough, i should try harder....

What if....my message was lost amongst the hundreds in her inbox and i am actually what she is looking for but my message got "bulk read all" read?

What if, what if, what if......

So please ladies, if your not interested, just tap the delete button

And guys...please, get the hint, deleted mail is unwanted male (you see what i did there) haha.

Happy fabbing fabbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never understand why people get so hung up on this. Surely the only thing that matters is if she replies?

Why not just delete your sent messages and then if you do get a reply it's a nice surprise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love these sort of public information threads OP.

You feel free to do it your way, and let others just get on with doing it in the way they wish....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obsession is dangerous OP. I’d concentrate on messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno i got bored 3 lines in

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By *inn_the_humanMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Nice and simple. Message the people that interest you.

If they don't message back, no harm done. If you feel the need to block to ensure that you don't accidentally message them again or so they don't clutter your updates, fair enough.

If they read or don't read, delete or don't delete doesn't really make any difference.

Worrying about the reasons won't be productive in any way shape or form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need any tips on opening lines I've got a corker and would be happy to share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you need any tips on opening lines I've got a corker and would be happy to share"

You pissed again?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I sometimes read a message with every intention of replying but then get distracted...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've gotta kiss a million frogs to find a princess. Women get hundreds of messages while we get none etc etc. You've found friends before, just be patient. Gets hard writing the messages so many times doesn't it?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Here's what I suggest you do OP:

(1) Send message

(2) Copy/paste sent message into the Private Notes facility on the users profile along with a note of the date you sent the message

(3) Delete sent message

(4) If they reply - happy days proceed according to the nature of the reply

(5) Check each profile you are about to send a message to to see if you previously added a Private Note

(6) If you did previously send one don't send new message unless the last one was at least 2-3 months ago

Doing (3) really will remove any worrying over what ifs and buts

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Obsession is dangerous OP. I’d concentrate on messages."

Obsession - Sugababes

www.youtube.com/watch?v=pUyFnGeir6c

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I see a message is read, it gets deleted, response or no response

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

I don't read half of em....hi how are you? Oh piss off....

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

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"I don't read half of em....hi how are you? Oh piss off.... "

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

I delete any email I send form my sent folder. If I get a reply then great. If I don't get a reply then oh well.

Keeping on looking at your sent email to see what happened to an email must be very frustrating.

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