FabSwingers.com forum: Has another’s pain ever given you joy? Be totally honest.

By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Only the people I don't like...that a long list.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Very briefly, but then I start to feel sorry for them and offer to help them. I don't hold on to negative emotions for very long x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say joy, but I will say I've taken comfort from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

What kind of pain? Mental anguish no never. But ive been know to step on a guys feet with stilletto.on when i was younger and thought it was fine to "cop a feel"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex-husband went for 'the snip' after he and his new partner had a baby together.

It went wrong and he suffered very painfully. I enjoyed every moment of it

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over a year ago

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

No I wouldn’t wish pain on anyone, even those from my past.

Need to let it go or else it eats you up

Karma is best served naturally but I definitely don’t take pleasure from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, and every father has felt the joy when the mother of their child has gone through the pain of childbirth, surely?

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Only once that comes to mind ....an absolute arsehole driver ...driving like a maniac behind me ...then undertook me at high speed hit standing water and wiped out right in front of me taking out 2 lampposts and destroying his flash car ...No one was hurt Thank God but his car was totalled

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No. Sersiously. To gain a good feeling from another being hurt is pretty psycopathic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Sersiously. To gain a good feeling from another being hurt is pretty psycopathic. "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"No I wouldn’t wish pain on anyone, even those from my past.

Need to let it go or else it eats you up

Karma is best served naturally but I definitely don’t take pleasure from it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Sersiously. To gain a good feeling from another being hurt is pretty psycopathic. "
you haven't met my ex husband

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life's too short to be holding grudges. Maybe in my younger years but not in adulthood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

It's a weak way to think but it crosses my mind.

Thoughts like "if I was a medevil king what would I do to that horrible person"

It's a weak mentality but I recognise I get those thoughts.

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

Schadenfreude...pleasure derived from another's misfortune

We all do it.

We all watched you been framed and laughed, all seen those idiots on Facebook who get hurt either accidentally or on purpose

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

I'd not say pleasure or joy, but there is some satisfaction in seeing somebody getting their karma reward for their shitty actions.

Example; Some nob around this way terrorising people through verbal abuse and intimidation, among other things.

The prick was being reckless on his scrambler bike when he crashed causing great injury to himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only physically in a sexual sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I've never disliked anyone enough to take pleasure in their pain. I tend to be a little sensitive, so feel pity, even for those i may not be keen on.

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Schadenfreude...pleasure derived from another's misfortune

We all do it.

We all watched you been framed and laughed, all seen those idiots on Facebook who get hurt either accidentally or on purpose"

I cant even watch those programmes, I definitely don't laugh at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Sersiously. To gain a good feeling from another being hurt is pretty psycopathic. "

My ex abused me for years. I came close to death a few times. I openly admit I took comfort from hearing he had got gobby with the wrong group of people and had taken a kicking, his son had disowned him for being such a bully and generally nasty human and hearing that he was miserable as sin. I felt a sense of hope that things do get returned to you, and that just maybe I had some good shit heading my way. I don't think that makes me psychopathic, more a case of trying to make sense of the world when things can seem dire.

Now I feel nothing towards him, however I can get frustrated that his actions did more damage to me than I ever realised.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I recognise schadenfreude in my own feelings.

They are ,however, reserved for simple things like burglars being caught, careless dog owners standing in their own pet's shit, or bad landlords losing a license etc....

poetic justice......

I haven't ever relished someone I know and even dislike being physically or mentally hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes celtic beating "them" gives me huge pleasure

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"No. Sersiously. To gain a good feeling from another being hurt is pretty psycopathic.

Now I feel nothing towards him, however I can get frustrated that his actions did more damage to me than I ever realised.

I'd feel the same more than likely. Thanks for opening up the discussion cos generally when someone first asks a Q - I put my immediate feelings. I think i'd wonder about how he felt and if it would change his behaviour. I'd even think - about time you got it back and im not sorry but I don't think I'd feel good about it. You yourself said 'took comfort' which is not the same as being joyful really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Schadenfreude...pleasure derived from another's misfortune

We all do it.

We all watched you been framed and laughed, all seen those idiots on Facebook who get hurt either accidentally or on purpose"

Like the one where the fat Australian kid powerbombs his bully?

I kinda like watching underdogs stand up for themselves and win.

I like the ones where arse holes attack/intimidate people in the street then meet a humiliating painfull fate.

(Even though I am insecure about people feeling that way about me)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Sersiously. To gain a good feeling from another being hurt is pretty psycopathic.

Now I feel nothing towards him, however I can get frustrated that his actions did more damage to me than I ever realised.

Nah, I wasn't joyful, it didn't make me smile or anything like that, more a sense of inner peace to a certain degree, however I can't deny I was glad/relieved in a way to hear about it as it definitely helped with closure even though I'm still uncovering damage here and there I had no idea was there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I recognise schadenfreude in my own feelings.

They are ,however, reserved for simple things like burglars being caught, careless dog owners standing in their own pet's shit, or bad landlords losing a license etc....

poetic justice......

I haven't ever relished someone I know and even dislike being physically or mentally hurt. "

I don't feel that way about burglars.

When my things were taken and my life was destroyed and I knew who did it..

I think I can feel a slight sence of "empathy" for other people going through that situation.

I wouldn't want a simmilar person going into a random house while someone's kid is sleeping etc...

I think it's "home invasion"

....I think the law in UK should be more American.

Severe punishment and the right to shoot to kill any burglars

I feel it's basic right of a free man/woman to defend himself and loved ones from terror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It dependands. I wouldn't take joy in anyone being seriously injured, ill or in financial difficulty. I do have to admit taking joy in seeing negative people with destructive narcissism being caught out in lies publicly, or having their card marked /calmly taken down a peg. The satisfaction is rightly short lived, but the potential longer-term positive is that having their mask publicly removed often makes them less distructive and manipulative for a while afterwards...not because they have remorse, but because they fear being permanently exposed as being false.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It dependands. I wouldn't take joy in anyone being seriously injured, ill or in financial difficulty. I do have to admit taking joy in seeing negative people with destructive narcissism being caught out in lies publicly, or having their card marked /calmly taken down a peg. The satisfaction is rightly short lived, but the potential longer-term positive is that having their mask publicly removed often makes them less distructive and manipulative for a while afterwards...not because they have remorse, but because they fear being permanently exposed as being false."

A boss ? A lover ? A colleague ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I recognise schadenfreude in my own feelings.

They are ,however, reserved for simple things like burglars being caught, careless dog owners standing in their own pet's shit, or bad landlords losing a license etc....

poetic justice......

I haven't ever relished someone I know and even dislike being physically or mentally hurt.

I don't feel that way about burglars.

When my things were taken and my life was destroyed and I knew who did it..

I think I can feel a slight sence of "empathy" for other people going through that situation.

I wouldn't want a simmilar person going into a random house while someone's kid is sleeping etc...

I think it's "home invasion"

....I think the law in UK should be more American.

Severe punishment and the right to shoot to kill any burglars

I feel it's basic right of a free man/woman to defend himself and loved ones from terror."

Rather contradictory to say you empathise with those who need to take your belongings yet you want us to have the right to shoot them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, a boy bullying my daughter, school did nothing. I wanted to beat the shit out if him but obviously couldn't.

Eventually he picked on the wrong kid, broken nose and jaw, deserved it the little shit, I took much pleasure in that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't recall feeling particularly sorry for Ian Brady but I wasn't joyful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes people who wrong me deserve the wrath of hades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Not for a long time now, since ive matured a little.

Now I go to strange lengths to avoid causing any pain and hate to see anyone else suffering. As anyone who spends time private messaging me will usually find out and can attest to. Oddly enough, even if they've brought it on themselves I still feel sad for them, it's a whole different kind of low if you feel genuinely remorseful for your own actions, deliberate ar otherwise.

You can be honest and forthright without hurting peoples feelings or being rude, offensive and insulting. Just have to think about what you say, before saying it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sense of grim satisfaction maybe, but never joy or pleasure. I don't understand how I could take pleasure in someone's misfortune without also feeling crap about myself.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"No I wouldn’t wish pain on anyone, even those from my past.

Need to let it go or else it eats you up

Karma is best served naturally but I definitely don’t take pleasure from it "

When I was younger, yes. Now I'm similar to GK; I dislike others being upset or in pain, regardless of previous actions generally. I'd never go so far as to say I take pleasure from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never though might laugh immediately before running to your rescue if you slip over in front of me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes people who wrong me deserve the wrath of hades"

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"My ex-husband went for 'the snip' after he and his new partner had a baby together.

It went wrong and he suffered very painfully. I enjoyed every moment of it "

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I was discussing an offer with a couple selling their house, they told me what they were looking for so I put in an offer through solicitor then they told everyone what my offer was so people put in higher offers but I refused to increase mine so didn’t get the house.

I didn’t wish them harm but I hoped their boiler in their new house broke and it would cost them the extra cash they got by telling everyone my offer

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Why would anyone post this?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I was discussing an offer with a couple selling their house, they told me what they were looking for so I put in an offer through solicitor then they told everyone what my offer was so people put in higher offers but I refused to increase mine so didn’t get the house.

I didn’t wish them harm but I hoped their boiler in their new house broke and it would cost them the extra cash they got by telling everyone my offer

I thought no one could gazump you in Scotland....

I hope the NEW boiler in their NEW house breaks down too ......

I won't feel joy about it tho ....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Why would anyone post this?

Why would they not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Even people I don't like I would hate for them to suffer.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Why would anyone post this?

Why would they not ?"

Don’t see how anyone would want to gloat at another’s misfortune even if they don’t like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feeling joy at someone else’s pain or suffering is actually a very negative thing, and the only person it hurts is the person feeling it.

That’s really bad for you. Emotions like this need to be let go....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but iv often fantisised about someone who has really hurt me to have something bad happen to them, but in reality I actually wouldn't want them to seriously suffer. Maybe stub a toe or something though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I recognise schadenfreude in my own feelings.

They are ,however, reserved for simple things like burglars being caught, careless dog owners standing in their own pet's shit, or bad landlords losing a license etc....

poetic justice......

I haven't ever relished someone I know and even dislike being physically or mentally hurt.

I don't feel that way about burglars.

When my things were taken and my life was destroyed and I knew who did it..

I think I can feel a slight sence of "empathy" for other people going through that situation.

I wouldn't want a simmilar person going into a random house while someone's kid is sleeping etc...

I think it's "home invasion"

....I think the law in UK should be more American.

Severe punishment and the right to shoot to kill any burglars

I feel it's basic right of a free man/woman to defend himself and loved ones from terror.

Rather contradictory to say you empathise with those who need to take your belongings yet you want us to have the right to shoot them. "

That's not what I said.

I said the opposite.

The victims almost make me feel "empathy" and I support the victims.

I don't feel alot of empathy.

I feel zero empathy for burglars.

I am very moral person.

I don't feel alot of empathy.

I feel bits of empathy for people who were victims of evil people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Watching the Aussies suffer at the hands of England, in the cricket....and more recently, rugby....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not, even if it's a person I don't particularly like I wouldn't take any joy in someones pain. Unless the stunned their toe that allowed

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I recognise schadenfreude in my own feelings.

They are ,however, reserved for simple things like burglars being caught, careless dog owners standing in their own pet's shit, or bad landlords losing a license etc....

poetic justice......

I haven't ever relished someone I know and even dislike being physically or mentally hurt.

I don't feel that way about burglars.

When my things were taken and my life was destroyed and I knew who did it..

I think I can feel a slight sence of "empathy" for other people going through that situation.

I wouldn't want a simmilar person going into a random house while someone's kid is sleeping etc...

I think it's "home invasion"

....I think the law in UK should be more American.

Severe punishment and the right to shoot to kill any burglars

I feel it's basic right of a free man/woman to defend himself and loved ones from terror.

Rather contradictory to say you empathise with those who need to take your belongings yet you want us to have the right to shoot them.

That's not what I said.

I said the opposite.

The victims almost make me feel "empathy" and I support the victims.

I don't feel alot of empathy.

I feel zero empathy for burglars.

I am very moral person.

I don't feel alot of empathy.

I feel bits of empathy for people who were victims of evil people."

Gotcha.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Schadenfreude...pleasure derived from another's misfortune

We all do it.

We all watched you been framed and laughed, all seen those idiots on Facebook who get hurt either accidentally or on purpose"

we're all psychopaths. Jeremy Beadle was the worst, shame on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, a boy bullying my daughter, school did nothing. I wanted to beat the shit out if him but obviously couldn't.

Eventually he picked on the wrong kid, broken nose and jaw, deserved it the little shit, I took much pleasure in that."

To those saying they dont understand how anyone could, I'll expand on the above.

He bullied her for nearly 18 months before eventually being excluded. This along with my daughter's autism and other issues led to her making several attempts to take her own life, eventually being sectioned for 6 months. 6 years later she has still not recovered and can't lead a normal life.

I will continue to take pleasure in any pain that cunt suffers for the rest of his life.

Last I heard 6 months ago he was dealing drugs, got stabbed several times in a deal gone wrong, that bought me much joy, he deserves it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vengeance is beautiful when done right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never experienced schadenfreude

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Joy, no. I've had a little laugh to myself when things go wrong for people I dislike though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A boss ? A lover ? A colleague ?"

I didn't really have any one person in mind. Thankfully these kinds of people are in the minority. One woman comes to mind now. She told spread unfounded lies about her brother-in-laws family, while simultaneously pretending to be their friend. She tried to manipulate the wrong woman to spread these rumours, and that lady told one of the family in question, who in turn calmly confronted her at a gathering I was at. She was caught bang to rights as the hairdresser she told was their also. The narc fained illness for a while after that and eventually gained sympathy and forgiveness from her sister and brother. Unfortunately I've heard recently that the narc has returned to manipulation that couple, her sister and b-in,law.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

No.

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