FabSwingers.com forum: Does it affect you?

By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Other people's actions and attitudes towards yourself, do you find it difficult not to look inward, and feel down and low about yourself.

Or do you just not care at all and go about your day and life regardless of what went down and was said.

This applies to strangers, acquaintances, friends, and family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not really, ketamine does though

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"No not really, ketamine does though "

Idiot magnet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No not really, ketamine does though

Idiot magnet

Who? Me? Naaahhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv a tendancy to make myself feel bad from time to time what others think i do not care as i said on a similar thread for every 1 that dont like me theres 10 willing to walk on coals to cheer me up

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By *aughtyforcouplesMan
over a year ago

exeter

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By *aughtyforcouplesMan
over a year ago

exeter

learned to switch of to it a long time ago, other peoples actions don't affect me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I care too much most of the time.

I do realise not everyone will like me, I don't like everyone I meet.

I know that a lot of that is also to do with assumptions people have made about your behaviour or intentions and that's the part that affects me because I can't change it.

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

What they think does not bother me at least in I need their approval etc stranger's I could not care less about. Barely care anymore what acquaintances think.

Friends and family though are a whole other ball game.

However, for example I've had a few "friends" reject me so far over this past year and I'm honestly been having trouble stopping my mind from going to the "what's wrong with me then" place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, unfortunately I do a lot of the time. I try not too but sometimes if I’m feeling low an off the cuff remark can take me to a place I fought to get away from.

Sometimes I can shake it off but it can sting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't care what anybody thinks about me. It's not going to change my life so why be bothered by it.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

"What they think does not bother me at least in I need their approval etc stranger's I could not care less about. Barely care anymore what acquaintances think.

Friends and family though are a whole other ball game.

However, for example I've had a few "friends" reject me so far over this past year and I'm honestly been having trouble stopping my mind from going to the "what's wrong with me then" place. "

Yeah its really hard not to think that way and internalize it if you are at the centre of rejections over and over...but you know what, the people who've let you down or rejected you have done you a massive favour...you dont need to put up with their shit any more, so cut them off and get on witb finding others who deserve your time and energy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Other people's actions and attitudes towards yourself, do you find it difficult not to look inward, and feel down and low about yourself.

Or do you just not care at all and go about your day and life regardless of what went down and was said.

This applies to strangers, acquaintances, friends, and family. "

Not really.. unless lots of people are all saying the same thing. or someone I rely on to tell me how they feel. Then I may look inwards to see if they have a point.

Or my parents, sister or children say something.

Otherwise.. I don't give much of a fuck what anyone else thinks. I'm hurting nobody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What they think does not bother me at least in I need their approval etc stranger's I could not care less about. Barely care anymore what acquaintances think.

Friends and family though are a whole other ball game.

However, for example I've had a few "friends" reject me so far over this past year and I'm honestly been having trouble stopping my mind from going to the "what's wrong with me then" place. "

We can never see the prism through which others see us, so trying to second guess "what's wrong with me" based on others responses is an exercise in futility, and a place where we will never find answers that make any sense to us.

All we can be is who we are, and if others find value in that we are truly blessed. If they dont we have lost nothing.

Yet at times we will always come across another that uses words to push our buttons and make us doubt our own value. In my case it was.... well it doesnt matter who it was...

But they're description of me as "a nothing" was lacerating and deliberate. And yes it made me doubt my own worth, but then it was meant to.

We would be less than human if nothing ever touched us, good or bad. Yet we cannot change how others see us. That's for them. Nor should we believe what others may say about us, good or bad, they dont know us the way we know ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that mind, don't matter and the people that matter, don't mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I care about the person then yes I care what they think

As for fellow workers they can suck my anus

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

If people don't like me then I truly feel sorry for them because I'm amazing.

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