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"Do loads of veri put you off meeting someone? " Nope | |||
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"not the amount I don't like the content of some ... too graphic for me " To use it is if they sound congruent. Lots are social. Some are not. | |||
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"No, though someone wouldn’t meet us because we had too many x " And verifications? | |||
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"No, though someone wouldn’t meet us because we had too many x " Same. I've been told I have too many veris. Doesn't put me off though x | |||
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"Yep " Not social ones I might add. But otherwise yes it does | |||
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"Do loads of veri put you off meeting someone? " Do they put you off? | |||
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"No, though someone wouldn’t meet us because we had too many x And verifications?" Ha ha, most of them are socials x | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. " I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does " Me and you both.... Still at least it sorts out the "to-do" list | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does " Why should people be open minded? | |||
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"Question is it ok to contact a verifier with regards to what they say or view points on the subject they verify ???" No. That's why mine are hidden! | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does " How’s it judging? People are looking for different things. People can do what they like if it doesn’t affect me. I don’t see where judging comes into it. If it affects me then yeah I’ll judge, doesn’t everyone? | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does Why should people be open minded?" | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does Why should people be open minded?" Because of the nature of the site. How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me. Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does Why should people be open minded? Because of the nature of the site. How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me. Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place " No that’ll be me who’s in the wrong place, but I’m cool with it. | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does Why should people be open minded? Because of the nature of the site. How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me. Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place " I am finding the forums to be extremely judgemental of late, you try and ignore it but it just insidious. Live and Let Live. You do You and such thoughts are rapidly diminishing | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does How’s it judging? People are looking for different things. People can do what they like if it doesn’t affect me. I don’t see where judging comes into it. If it affects me then yeah I’ll judge, doesn’t everyone?" I personally feel it’s very judgemental. From experiences on here. And I totally agree with what you say but not everyone is like that. | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does Why should people be open minded? Because of the nature of the site. How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me. Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place No that’ll be me who’s in the wrong place, but I’m cool with it. " Nothing to do with the site, people don't change their mind set as soon as they sign up to fab.......and why should they.... | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does Why should people be open minded? Because of the nature of the site. How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me. Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place No that’ll be me who’s in the wrong place, but I’m cool with it. " I wouldn’t say you was. To me you use this place for what you want and I’ve never felt you judge anyone else’s actions. | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does Why should people be open minded? Because of the nature of the site. How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me. Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place " I'm not saying you got it wrong, sorry. Just wondering. It's a site where people look for fucks but they can have whatever rules they want about who they fuck. | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does Why should people be open minded? Because of the nature of the site. How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me. Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place I am finding the forums to be extremely judgemental of late, you try and ignore it but it just insidious. Live and Let Live. You do You and such thoughts are rapidly diminishing " I couldn’t agree with you more | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does How’s it judging? People are looking for different things. People can do what they like if it doesn’t affect me. I don’t see where judging comes into it. If it affects me then yeah I’ll judge, doesn’t everyone? I personally feel it’s very judgemental. From experiences on here. And I totally agree with what you say but not everyone is like that. " And that’s fine for those people. How is it judgemental? I’m here to have just one FWB I’m not here to meet lots of people. So why would I want someone who does? And how am I judging those people? I just don’t contact them or politely decline. I don’t say ewww no im not meeting you you’ve met 3 people this week! | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does Why should people be open minded? Because of the nature of the site. How people use fab is up to them but it’s not a vanilla site and personally judging people for having sex with others is a little odd to me. Maybe I’ve got it all wrong and I’m in the wrong place I'm not saying you got it wrong, sorry. Just wondering. It's a site where people look for fucks but they can have whatever rules they want about who they fuck. " Yeah exactly. I’ve just had my eyes opened lately that’s all. | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. " Each to their own ... wouldn’t you say They’re entitled to their choice .. | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. " But your summary is still on show, so people will still know how many you've met. | |||
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"Do loads of veri put you off meeting someone? " Not in the slightest. It's one of the tests, if not the penultimate, surely. | |||
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"Depends... If they're lots of play veris from individual meets spread over a few months or a year... Then yes. Not because of any judgement on how they choose to meet, but because I know we would be incompatible. I prefer regular meets and lots of communication, and if someone is prolific they won't be able to give me the time and attention I would be looking for " | |||
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"I find regular repeat verifications from the same person a bit strange. " Why? | |||
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"I’ve had people say they got put off because I had too many veris. So I’ve hidden them all recently. I don’t understand how people can have too many veris on a swinging site....... This is spose to be the most open minded place and people still judge. Baffles me it really does How’s it judging? People are looking for different things. People can do what they like if it doesn’t affect me. I don’t see where judging comes into it. If it affects me then yeah I’ll judge, doesn’t everyone?" | |||
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me. Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business." Yeah I totally get that. I guess I'm looking in to things a little too much. | |||
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me. Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business." | |||
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"The reason I ask is I was arranging to meet someone next week and in the last week they have 6 new veris and they're all sex... I feel like that's put me off now. " So you are put off by the fact that a swinger enjoys sex ? I've had sex with six people in one night ! But as they didn't verify me you wouldn't know, would you ? | |||
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me. Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business." Bingo | |||
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me. Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business. Yeah I totally get that. I guess I'm looking in to things a little too much. " No, you're not. If you feel uncomfortable meeting someone who has met six others in the past week, you do. Don't meet them. It shows you're not compatible. | |||
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"The reason I ask is I was arranging to meet someone next week and in the last week they have 6 new veris and they're all sex... I feel like that's put me off now. " Do what you want to do my lovely. I wouldn’t meet them but like I said it depends what you’re looking for on here. Plenty of people on here don’t even meet. There are no rules as such | |||
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"Do loads of veri put you off meeting someone? " 50 in a week all fun yes lol she'd need a rest | |||
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me. Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business." | |||
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me. Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business. Yeah I totally get that. I guess I'm looking in to things a little too much. " Do verifications mean alot to you? | |||
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"I joined fab looking for casual encounters, not commitment. I make no pretence about it. If someone is put off by that they are probably not for me. Also who I meet is between me and them, nobody else’s business. Yeah I totally get that. I guess I'm looking in to things a little too much. No, you're not. If you feel uncomfortable meeting someone who has met six others in the past week, you do. Don't meet them. It shows you're not compatible. " | |||
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"Do loads of veri put you off meeting someone? 50 in a week all fun yes lol she'd need a rest " Titter | |||
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"How do you judge what is too many? Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks." 5 is too many for me. Any time frame, 10 days or 10 years. | |||
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"How do you judge what is too many? Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks. 5 is too many for me. Any time frame, 10 days or 10 years." Says the person with 20,485! | |||
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"How do you judge what is too many? Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks. 5 is too many for me. Any time frame, 10 days or 10 years. Says the person with 20,485! " 20,483 were socials. | |||
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"Do loads of veri put you off meeting someone? " nope | |||
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"How do you judge what is too many? Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks." It boils down to what you’re comfortable with that’s all and we’re all different I suppose. Just because I’m on a sex site I don’t have to be constantly lining someone up. I rarely meet and that suits me because I take my time and do things in my own way. I wouldn’t want to be the next person on someone’s tick list and before they’ve even removed their penis they’re already planning their next meet. The fab carousel is not my thing and I know I am not compatible with that person or their approach. I don’t care if others do it, it’s their choice and it’s none of my business. I just don’t want to be part of it and that way we’re all happy | |||
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"How do you judge what is too many? Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks. It boils down to what you’re comfortable with that’s all and we’re all different I suppose. Just because I’m on a sex site I don’t have to be constantly lining someone up. I rarely meet and that suits me because I take my time and do things in my own way. I wouldn’t want to be the next person on someone’s tick list and before they’ve even removed their penis they’re already planning their next meet. The fab carousel is not my thing and I know I am not compatible with that person or their approach. I don’t care if others do it, it’s their choice and it’s none of my business. I just don’t want to be part of it and that way we’re all happy " Absolutely this x | |||
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"How do you judge what is too many? Someone could have 100 but have been here 10 years. Someone else 15 but in three weeks. It boils down to what you’re comfortable with that’s all and we’re all different I suppose. Just because I’m on a sex site I don’t have to be constantly lining someone up. I rarely meet and that suits me because I take my time and do things in my own way. I wouldn’t want to be the next person on someone’s tick list and before they’ve even removed their penis they’re already planning their next meet. The fab carousel is not my thing and I know I am not compatible with that person or their approach. I don’t care if others do it, it’s their choice and it’s none of my business. I just don’t want to be part of it and that way we’re all happy " Spot on there Babs | |||
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me" They block you for having 5 verifications in a year ? | |||
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me They block you for having 5 verifications in a year ?" Yes it's been a little sparse this year. Last year was much better | |||
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me" How do you know why that’s the reason ? | |||
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me How do you know why that’s the reason ?" Because they messaged me then blocked me. How else? | |||
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me How do you know why that’s the reason ? Because they messaged me then blocked me. How else?" Maybe they didnt like something on your profile, like the BDSM test results for example ? | |||
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"Some people have used the amount of my verifications as a reason to block me How do you know why that’s the reason ? Because they messaged me then blocked me. How else? Maybe they didnt like something on your profile, like the BDSM test results for example ?" They specifically said it was the number of veris. | |||
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"The reason I ask is I was arranging to meet someone next week and in the last week they have 6 new veris and they're all sex... I feel like that's put me off now. So you are put off by the fact that a swinger enjoys sex ? I've had sex with six people in one night ! But as they didn't verify me you wouldn't know, would you ?" | |||
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"No, but I think I’m in the minority and my views have changed. The content and style have always been more important for me than the numbers. I would favour people with a lot of the right kind of play veris. If 200 other women have thoroughly enjoyed the company of a man I’m thinking he’s probably pretty good at what he does!" I'll sit with you. | |||
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"Lots of verifications shows that they do meet and are very likely to be who they say they are. This is a positive not a negative. " Absolutely | |||
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"Do loads of veri put you off meeting someone? " Yes | |||
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"No. More likely to be put off by someone hiding their summary, can’t explain it, but it’s true " This | |||
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"Do loads of veri put you off meeting someone? " Not necessarily lots of veri, but when you put the veri content together with multiple photos of different people and unprotected sex. Then yes, instant put off. | |||
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