FabSwingers.com forum: Do you ever wonder

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you're doing fab wrong?

I often forget to flirt, I get so into just letting conversation flow, so far today I've chatted about induction hobs and goats.

Do you think about your chats and try to steer them a bit? Are you quite forward and to the point or is flirting not your forte?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Was that the same conversation?

Or 2 separate ones??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was that the same conversation?

Or 2 separate ones??"

2 separate ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My flirting technique has been below par so far hahaha

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Some of my chats are flirtatious and some are just bizarre, depends on my mood and who I am talking to.

Gas hob over induction any day, prefer the immediacy of the heat control!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I just let the chat flow naturally and if it turns flirty so be it, if not it’s general chat. Both work for me

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I'm definitely off the boil....if I was ever on it!

Pressed block many times today

Jo x

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

As it is.. I (monkey) have been told I'm a natural flirt ... I don't even realise I'm doing it

But I guess it depends what you joined and want to use fab for in the first place ... it doesn't have to be about flirtation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm tripe at flirting.

Think it's coz I can't tell if people are talking to me because they want to talk to me, or talking because they may want to bang me.

In not wanting to give anyone the impression that I do want to bang them when I don't, almost all of my chat is steered into "normal" convo out of habit now, even if I may want to bang someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I flirt outrageously while discussing even mundane things with some. With others it’s more like chatting with a mate...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're doing fab wrong?

I often forget to flirt, I get so into just letting conversation flow, so far today I've chatted about induction hobs and goats.

Do you think about your chats and try to steer them a bit? Are you quite forward and to the point or is flirting not your forte?

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I chat about anything and everything but I am by nature a serial flirt

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By *edmark07Man
over a year ago

liverpool

"I just let the chat flow naturally and if it turns flirty so be it, if not it’s general chat. Both work for me

This. Its just nice to go with the flow of the convo. Some are flirty, some are filthy, some just arnt.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I dont really know how to flirt either so I just tend to ask lots of questions. I get that it can be quite annoying but it's often because I feel like I'm the one carrying the conversation. When I start to get short responses then I know its time to give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont care i do it my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm doing it perfectly

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I definitely do it wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If having sex with other people is what fab is about, I'm definately doing it wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t do it like it’s supposed to be done. What’s wrong though I dunno. It’s a laugh. That’s about it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't think I've ever deliberately set out to flirt, I'm just not wired that way - my conversations on here just tend to be "normal" ones that if they flow naturally into more flirty chat it's a natural thing and not "by design".

Even with people I've met and spent naked time with the conversation isn't always flirty, it just flows that way on occasion.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Flirting isn't my forte. Well, I don't think so. I'm quite good at giving nerd chills though.

I often wonder what other people talk about in their chats... do they discuss sex out right? Do they send each other food pics? I don't know. I talk about any and everything because I enjoy talking to the right people, if there's a spark conversation flows and you don't think too much about it.

Last night my "fab' chats involved media bias and conspiracy theorists, Tekken, tartiflette, garden parties and Bach. I'm probably doing fab wrong.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My socials are usually geeking and somehow they figure out if we like each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flirting isn't my forte. Well, I don't think so. I'm quite good at giving nerd chills though.

Last night my "fab' chats involved media bias and conspiracy theorists, Tekken, tartiflette, garden parties and Bach. I'm probably doing fab wrong. "
lol theirs no right way or wrong way, leave the flirting to the guys they seem to like you

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"If you're doing fab wrong?

I often forget to flirt, I get so into just letting conversation flow, so far today I've chatted about induction hobs and goats.

Do you think about your chats and try to steer them a bit? Are you quite forward and to the point or is flirting not your forte?

I seem to get it very wrong.

Flirt when I should talk about the Environment Agency’s latest attempts to clean up the River Dove in Derbyshire and talk about the rights and wrongs of the worldwide live animal trade when I should be asking about how pleasurable it would feel to have my throbbing hardness inside them.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"If you're doing fab wrong?

I often forget to flirt, I get so into just letting conversation flow, so far today I've chatted about induction hobs and goats.

Do you think about your chats and try to steer them a bit? Are you quite forward and to the point or is flirting not your forte?

I’m good at flirting if I want things to progress, but can be very random at times so I’d of hoped the induction hob and goats chat was at least a forthcoming recipe...

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

I can't do flirting cos i don't know what it is. What is flirting exactly?

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"I can't do flirting cos i don't know what it is. What is flirting exactly?

First rule of flirt club is ..........

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

"I can't do flirting cos i don't know what it is. What is flirting exactly?

First rule of flirt club is .........."

Arrange a meet & then don't turn up??? (starts laughing manically)

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"I can't do flirting cos i don't know what it is. What is flirting exactly?

First rule of flirt club is .........."

Smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to flirt as I'm not looking to arrange meets and don't want more messages in my inbox giving me a hard time for it

it backfires because I come across quite serious/dull on here

in person I'm anything but

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm crap at flirting on here and when I'm out. Probably why I've been single for so long. Flutters eyelashes in hope.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't wonder if I'm doing it wrong, im a rubbish flirt and I talk about all sorts of nonsense, but it seems to be working for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps we feel obliged to open some rapport and be open to good stimulating conversation it normally seeps into sexual undertones eventually as we are all here for one thing Enlightenment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't wonder if I'm doing it wrong, im a rubbish flirt and I talk about all sorts of nonsense, but it seems to be working for me

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you flirt fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just talk random stuff and let the conversation flow naturally. I’ve lost my flirty mojo at the moment x

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

"I'm crap at flirting on here and when I'm out. Probably why I've been single for so long. Flutters eyelashes in hope.

Don't you flutter those eyelashes at me. I've been let down before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably doing it very wrong!

I've not had a chat with another forum user (other than Dotty) for a very long time, I've kind of forgotten what fab is actually for!

I generally just post my ramblings on the forums...

Tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're doing fab wrong?

I often forget to flirt, I get so into just letting conversation flow, so far today I've chatted about induction hobs and goats.

Do you think about your chats and try to steer them a bit? Are you quite forward and to the point or is flirting not your forte?

No. I probably don't come across right half of the time and get prejudged early.

I don't worry because it's a numbers game for every man.

There is a fine line between being pushy or not flirting enough. There is a gapeing hole of emotional need in every woman that even the best of us can't fill.

You just move on to the next girl.

Your probably doing everything right but your not the person they are into.

It's hard to say exactly what the right thing to say to a woman is because there is no definate answer.

One of my friends can say "can I rub lotion in your tits" as an icebreaker (and hes the most sucessfull womanizer in the history of cave men)

It really doesn't matter what you say but someone like me or most men can't just say "can I rub lotion on your tits" to random women and get laid from it.

You really just be yourself I guess and hope to get lucky after talking to or messaging 100.

My friend the womanizer gets rejected but he spends a whole night getting rejected and forgets about it within seconds.

Everything he says to women is shit they normally complain about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh good heavens my chats are as meandering as my wanders , I talk about every topic under the sun , I flirt a little but just love to gave a spiffing natter

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"Oh good heavens my chats are as meandering as my wanders , I talk about every topic under the sun , I flirt a little but just love to gave a spiffing natter

You’re gorgeous xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely doing fab wrong and cant help but come across like a bunny boiler stalker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fail miserably on both flirting and chatting.

Waiting for detention to polish up on my skills

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

My flirting is the worst just doesn't happen I'm useless at it

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I talk shit all the time so there’s no difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I talk shit all the time so there’s no difference "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easy to flirt with couples, especially when Abby joins in.

For some reason when it comes to flirting on here with other females it just doesn’t happen.

It all starts off well but then soon turns to more mundane girls talk. We end up chatting like the best of friends but have totally forgotten the reason we are on here!

Miss V

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mirror people's messages.

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By *inn_the_humanMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Wait, you mean talking about induction hobs and goats isn't good flirting? I'm in bother then

Seriously, I can't think I'm any good at it all, but obviously it's pretty hard to rate your own skills. Better just to have conversations you enjoy, and if it leads to something then so be it. If not, you've at least had a fun chat!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Yes, I’ve thought about this quite a bit recently and wonder why my chats usually end with a ‘block’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty sure I've been doing fab wrong since I arrived here...

I'm not even sure what doing it right is, or even if there's a right way to do it....

Wanders back to the man cave musing quietly....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh good heavens my chats are as meandering as my wanders , I talk about every topic under the sun , I flirt a little but just love to gave a spiffing natter

You’re gorgeous xxx

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and so are you

x x x

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Apparently so! If you're after more of a connection then general/random stuff like goat chat is probably a good thing to embrace - you'll get a better idea of their personality.

However, sometimes it is hard to gauge tone, plus there's no telling what will turn someone off or lead to misunderstandings/blocks. Not everyone is going to get on, even if you give each other funny crotch feelings. There will be other factors but it's no less confusing when you're left guessing.

Surely as long as you're chatting, you're doing it right. Just like in person, all it takes is one of you to make the leap to flirting.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't think I'm any good at flirting. I just let the conversation flow and see where it goes really. So I'm definitely not doing it right I'd say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the response from the other person, I love an outrageous flirt but I also have some very wide ranging and bizarre conversations.... And some are like pulling teeth, more than one has died on its ass because of lack of natural conversational ability!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno. I can flirt. It’s easy to overdo that or be too direct. Other times I shoot the breeze on whatever topic seems foremost for the two of us. I have quite a few personal conversations of varying levels of depth and plenty that fizzle fast.

Seeing whether I’m getting better at doing this will be a matter of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're doing fab wrong?

I often forget to flirt, I get so into just letting conversation flow, so far today I've chatted about induction hobs and goats.

Do you think about your chats and try to steer them a bit? Are you quite forward and to the point or is flirting not your forte?

Yep

I tend not to send the first message, because I feel like they aren't interesting enough to catch attention. When I do, I am courteous, polite and pay attention to their profiles. I add a photo of my face if I remember/they have asked for one on their profile. I use codewords in the message header if they are asked for.

When I do get a reply, or someone sends me a message first, the length of conversation doesn't last long. I'm very polite, and don't broach anything to do with sex, but conversations generally are culled off within the first five replies.

I guess I'm just a bit boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't flirt with anyone off here, just rejoined to reconnect with old friends, who have been on the scene for years. Only in UK for 12 weeks. Last time I was on was three years ago. Site means nothing more than that.

But the forum chat is pretty cool though.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

I've never been known to flirt...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one chats to me on here really so if that warrants doing it wrong then I must be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're doing fab wrong?

I often forget to flirt, I get so into just letting conversation flow, so far today I've chatted about induction hobs and goats.

Do you think about your chats and try to steer them a bit? Are you quite forward and to the point or is flirting not your forte?

I'm just an outrageous teasing flirt, plus I have an induction hob that's to die for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think building reppor with someone is important. As it leads to other things. Pity communication is lacking these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Online I’m pretty boring, can’t get any personality over in print, in real life I’m bubbly and energetic and hopefully not boring, so I’m rubbish at fab, and I wonder why I’m not doing very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder ALL the time.

But I'm just being me and he's just being himself.

x N

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Nah I just do my own thing. Steer clear of the "this is how we do it, you shouldn't do that, post that, send that" brigade. Most of them aren't meeting or have hidden their profile...

In this life you are either the goldfish looking out or the face peering in.

Just keep swimming...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve done it so well it’s unbelievable lol

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I chat about all sorts, most of it not very sexy at all

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London

"If you're doing fab wrong?

I often forget to flirt, I get so into just letting conversation flow, so far today I've chatted about induction hobs and goats.

Do you think about your chats and try to steer them a bit? Are you quite forward and to the point or is flirting not your forte?

I consider my messages friendly, open and to the point with tendancies to flirt. Replies and conversations still difficult. Might use hobs and goats in the subject line on everything from now on and talk about them just to build that rapport.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flirting isn't my forte. Well, I don't think so. I'm quite good at giving nerd chills though.

Last night my "fab' chats involved media bias and conspiracy theorists, Tekken, tartiflette, garden parties and Bach. I'm probably doing fab wrong. "

I think all that sounds cool. You're doing it right for you.

If they don't like it then you're not compatible.

Better to be yourself and someone like you for you, than behave how you think they want and they like the person that isn't you at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not good at all with flirting, those that try soon get bored and trail off... Im better with everyday chit chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a wrong way to fab? Oh yeah. This is the forum. Of course there is.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"Is there a wrong way to fab? Oh yeah. This is the forum. Of course there is. "

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I do fab my own way, whether it’s right or wrong I don’t know or care really

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I’m sure I do it wrong for many.

It doesn’t keep me awake at night.

V x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My way works for me so far. I have flirty chats and random chats x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally forget to flirt.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I think all goats should have induction hobs

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