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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I keep getting messages fro. Guys in their 30s saying they want to meet me as they 'love mature women'. I can understand teenagers or 20 somethings thinking I'm mature lol but mid to late 30's??? Does anyone else get offended by this given that women and couples in their 50's and 60's tend to describe themselves as mature or am I just being hyper sensitive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,d say 50+ is mature but it depends if the person is referring to being mature age wise or mature in attitude. X

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Everyone will have their own ideas on mature. Personally think it's a load of bollocks and just another pigeon hole that you get shoved into.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I,d say 50+ is mature but it depends if the person is referring to being mature age wise or mature in attitude. X"

As an opening message it definately pertains to age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with you on this.

I had a guy a few days ago telling me he liked mature women. and wanted step parent role play

he was my age.....blocked

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By *andy 1Couple
over a year ago

northeast

me and the wife r 66 well mature but we don't feel it when we first met at 16 I would of said 50 was mature but now may be 60 ish

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I guess to an 18 year old, 30 would be mystical and mature, know the ropes and would be able to let him enjoy himself all over her and teach him a 'few tricks' that she's been whoring around for donkey's years.

It doesn't dawn on younger men that that 30 year old has probably had 2 long term relationships married one of them, didn't lose her virginity till she was 22 had kids one year after getting married , hasn't had regular sex since the kids were born and worries more about how many tin of beans to open than whether he needs sex lessons.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

What used to make me chortle was being in my fifties and getting messages from blokes in their mid forties telling me they liked older women ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess that makes us ancient and antique.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm with you on this.

I had a guy a few days ago telling me he liked mature women. and wanted step parent role play

he was my age.....blocked"

It is so insulting... my block button gets hit straight away too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"me and the wife r 66 well mature but we don't feel it when we first met at 16 I would of said 50 was mature but now may be 60 ish "

I think you ate right, they say 50 is the new 40 I suspect it has to be now that the retirement age has increased x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess to an 18 year old, 30 would be mystical and mature, know the ropes and would be able to let him enjoy himself all over her and teach him a 'few tricks' that she's been whoring around for donkey's years.

It doesn't dawn on younger men that that 30 year old has probably had 2 long term relationships married one of them, didn't lose her virginity till she was 22 had kids one year after getting married , hasn't had regular sex since the kids were born and worries more about how many tin of beans to open than whether he needs sex lessons. "

Lol so true x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What used to make me chortle was being in my fifties and getting messages from blokes in their mid forties telling me they liked older women ...... "

Yes lol i get rhat too and it makes me laugh. Like i might be 2 or 3 years older rhan them but they class me as an 'older woman ( which I am but not if you know what i mean?)

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don’t think that label is accurate for me. Mature is for cheese and wine.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'm not a piece of cheddar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep getting messages fro. Guys in their 30s saying they want to meet me as they 'love mature women'. I can understand teenagers or 20 somethings thinking I'm mature lol but mid to late 30's??? Does anyone else get offended by this given that women and couples in their 50's and 60's tend to describe themselves as mature or am I just being hyper sensitive? "

That hilarious, they obviously still see themselves as teenagers and haven't gotten over fancieing their mothers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I keep getting messages fro. Guys in their 30s saying they want to meet me as they 'love mature women'. I can understand teenagers or 20 somethings thinking I'm mature lol but mid to late 30's??? Does anyone else get offended by this given that women and couples in their 50's and 60's tend to describe themselves as mature or am I just being hyper sensitive?

That hilarious, they obviously still see themselves as teenagers and haven't gotten over fancieing their mothers "

Oh lord i nearly c h o k ed on my coffee reading your reply it made me laugh thank you for brightening up this rather grey day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who doesnt laugh if i pull a mooney out of a bus window

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not a piece of cheddar "

I like cheddar

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I'm not a piece of cheddar

I like cheddar"

I do too, but I can think of other things I'd rather be compared to lol.

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By *V-AliceTV/TS
over a year ago

Ayr

Anyone who can function for more than 10 minutes without reaching for their mobile phone is mature.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Anyone who can function for more than 10 minutes without reaching for their mobile phone is mature. "

That's me out then

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I sometimes get flat out called old by guys in their late 20s

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's not insulting to be called mature. A lot of men use it to refer to an older, emotionally and sexually experienced woman. By older they often mean over 35.

There are a lot of things you could be called that are way more insulting than that

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's just another line some will use on here in the (usually mistaken) belief it will get them somewhere and I'm not surprised that it comes across as insulting in a first message as it can only refer to age - now appreciate that some guys may have a *thing* for older women, just as some women will like younger men, some prefer their own age etc etc but surely it doesn't have to be mentioned in an opening message if at all.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's not insulting to be called mature. A lot of men use it to refer to an older, emotionally and sexually experienced woman. By older they often mean over 35.

There are a lot of things you could be called that are way more insulting than that "

I'm only insulted in context

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I sometimes get flat out called old by guys in their late 20s "

I'm often called old or older. It's true though I am older than the majority of fab users. I'm also a darn site more mature than a lot of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me . I’m immature

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's not insulting to be called mature. A lot of men use it to refer to an older, emotionally and sexually experienced woman. By older they often mean over 35.

There are a lot of things you could be called that are way more insulting than that

I'm only insulted in context "

I'm very rarely insulted. If someone says something to me that's true I think 'fair enough' if it's not true I just laugh.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't dwell, but it's like, I have siblings your age, yes obviously I'm old get off my lawn etc.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Only time I hear the word mature is preceeded by the word pre..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only time I hear the word mature is preceeded by the word pre.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think mature is relative to the person calking someone mature, I remember when I was a young horny teenager thinking that a 'mature' lady could be in their 30's, now I'm in my 30's I would think that a 30 something is relatively young. But saying that, an 80 year old is definitely mature

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I’ve just had a 19 year old tell me I look good for my age!!! Wtf!!!!

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I was called a MILF by some young whipper snapper on here, using that phrase probably puts me in the mature bracket

But surely I’d be a TILF

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By * little bit naughtyCouple
over a year ago

Bedford


"I think mature is relative to the person calking someone mature, I remember when I was a young horny teenager thinking that a 'mature' lady could be in their 30's, now I'm in my 30's I would think that a 30 something is relatively young. But saying that, an 80 year old is definitely mature "

When I was twenty, women twice my age were really hot! Now that I’m fifty, twice my age isn’t!

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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary

Personally I’d say nature is a lady in her fourties who oozes sex appeal and has that confidence in what she wants sexually. Purely my own definition but it’s one of those phrases that’s quite a personal one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think mature is relative to the person calking someone mature, I remember when I was a young horny teenager thinking that a 'mature' lady could be in their 30's, now I'm in my 30's I would think that a 30 something is relatively young. But saying that, an 80 year old is definitely mature

When I was twenty, women twice my age were really hot! Now that I’m fifty, twice my age isn’t! "

I think I'm still young enough to have sex with someone twice my age..maybe I need to hurry up and tick that off the list before it's too late!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Personally I’d say nature is a lady in her fourties who oozes sex appeal and has that confidence in what she wants sexually. Purely my own definition but it’s one of those phrases that’s quite a personal one."

To be mature she needs to pick her victims well.

Erm, did I say victims??

I meant fb's

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think I've always been mature for my age. But that's not on me to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow 40s mature , it’s all subjective I,m 52 middle aged not mature yet .id say 60s from my perspective

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By *wingfellowMan
over a year ago

my own little sanctuary


"Personally I’d say nature is a lady in her fourties who oozes sex appeal and has that confidence in what she wants sexually. Purely my own definition but it’s one of those phrases that’s quite a personal one.

To be mature she needs to pick her victims well.

Erm, did I say victims??

I meant fb's "

PMSL using that term ‘victim’ VERY loosely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that late 30s isn't mature,late 50s like me is,it doesn't offend me,it probably would if I was your age though op

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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35+

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"35+ "

I'm nearly mature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"35+ "
but im almost 40 and i act 13

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"35+ but im almost 40 and i act 13"

Lol when I was at uni I was classed as a mature student at 24 ! Fed up of being labelled like a block of cheese ha ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would say that late 30s isn't mature,late 50s like me is,it doesn't offend me,it probably would if I was your age though op"

Thank you for your comment. What is really irritating 8s guys who label me as a mature BBW. No offence intended toward our lovely fuller figured ladies but I do not think a size 12 qualifies as being big and beautiful. I guess there are a lot if folk who need a trip to Specsavers lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was called a MILF by some young whipper snapper on here, using that phrase probably puts me in the mature bracket

But surely I’d be a TILF "

Lol I am actually a GILF... (facepalm)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve just had a 19 year old tell me I look good for my age!!! Wtf!!!!"

Another thing I hate. Why can't guys just say 'you look good and leave it there? The 'for your age suffix kinda negates the 'compliment x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's just another line some will use on here in the (usually mistaken) belief it will get them somewhere and I'm not surprised that it comes across as insulting in a first message as it can only refer to age - now appreciate that some guys may have a *thing* for older women, just as some women will like younger men, some prefer their own age etc etc but surely it doesn't have to be mentioned in an opening message if at all."

Agreed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmm. I get referred to as mature which in most cases can be read in a complimentary way I think. So I thought I’d look up share what the Urban Dictionary defines ‘Mature’ as:-

1) Old and/or boring.

2) A word boring, uptight people use to describe themselves.

No age definition was given but the top definition was – ‘what 97% of the people on Urban Dictionary aren’t’ …. Guess I’m in the other 3%

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By *liver KloosoffMan
over a year ago

I dont live in a town

I dislike the word mature, to me age is just a number! I would say that if your using the word mature to describe a woman would make you a bit immature! It’s all about being on the same wavelength!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It pisses me right off when guys call me mature because I'm 5-10 years older than them....if they take anything from my profile it should be the fact that I will NEVER be mature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as someone who is in their 20s, I’ve always placed mature as like 55+ but I don’t think I’d actually call a woman mature in a way that’s meant to be sexy unless they liked it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"as someone who is in their 20s, I’ve always placed mature as like 55+ but I don’t think I’d actually call a woman mature in a way that’s meant to be sexy unless they liked it "

Lol it definately isnt sexy or likely to score any guy a goal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends entirely on the context it's used in? The physical relating to sex can be taken to mean sultry, having a vast knowledge in comparison, experienced, knowing what one wants and damn seductive when the mood takes one... Or it could merely mean advanced in years, which is where the mixed feelings and sometimes head-scratching can come from?

When I think about the sexual pursuits myself and P get up to and some of the things we giggle at for example I think "Are we hell mature!"

But then I see a lot of my workmates in their 20s make almost a grand for a week's work, have a weekend off, then be having to borrow cash from their colleagues just to eat and think "If not doing THAT qualifies me as mature, then Fuck me, I must be...."

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep getting messages fro. Guys in their 30s saying they want to meet me as they 'love mature women'. I can understand teenagers or 20 somethings thinking I'm mature lol but mid to late 30's??? Does anyone else get offended by this given that women and couples in their 50's and 60's tend to describe themselves as mature or am I just being hyper sensitive? "

In my eyes, it’s someone older than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A woman who is aged and has pink pussy lips. A bit like you op

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm quite immature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything is relative. At 46 I consider my self a woman of a certain age. I guess it all depends on the person that’s asking

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"I,d say 50+ is mature but it depends if the person is referring to being mature age wise or mature in attitude. X"

I’m 58 in a couple of weeks and I don’t want to be mature....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think mature is relative to the person calking someone mature, I remember when I was a young horny teenager thinking that a 'mature' lady could be in their 30's, now I'm in my 30's I would think that a 30 something is relatively young. But saying that, an 80 year old is definitely mature "

I wld call 70 to 100 old and wise not mature

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Depends how immature you are I guess!!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've had one of them messages and I'm 27 and he was older than me. I think some people forget to change their copy and paste message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pungent aroma of a really aged cheddar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had one of them messages and I'm 27 and he was older than me. I think some people forget to change their copy and paste message!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's relative to the person. When I was 18 I looked at 30 year old women and thought how mature they were. But now I'm 40, they seem like children to me and I don't fancy them. I now see 50 and 60 year olds as mature. But when I'm 70, I suppose I'll see 50 and 60 year olds as teenagers ha ha.

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