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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? " Nope Nope Nothing | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? " Yes No Anxiety | |||
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"In general as opposed to on here? No not really, I think I'm generally liked by most people who know me but I wouldn't say I was especially popular, I'm not that outgoing social butterfly type that people tend to be drawn to. " I was thinking specifically in regards to fab and the forums | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? " Yes Yes Yes! | |||
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"In life or on fab? I don't think I'm unpopular but I could see how I could be annoying to some. I don't strive to be anything other than myself although being disliked by the majority probably wouldn't do much for my ego and I would question why it is. " I was thinking in terms of fab and the forums specifically. I probably should've made that clearer in my OP... | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? Nope Nope Nothing With engaging answers like that, I'm struggling to see why... " Bit harsh... was tongue in cheek... | |||
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"In life or on fab? I don't think I'm unpopular but I could see how I could be annoying to some. I don't strive to be anything other than myself although being disliked by the majority probably wouldn't do much for my ego and I would question why it is. " I would possibly say that being disliked isn't the other side of popularity as notoriety brings its own attention, the opposite of popularity is probably anonymity. | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? Nope Nope Nothing With engaging answers like that, I'm struggling to see why... Bit harsh... was tongue in cheek..." OP is popular, it's ok for him to be harsh without repercussions | |||
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"In general as opposed to on here? No not really, I think I'm generally liked by most people who know me but I wouldn't say I was especially popular, I'm not that outgoing social butterfly type that people tend to be drawn to. I was thinking specifically in regards to fab and the forums" Oh then I'll go with the nope nope nothing answer as well I'm not sure how one would judge popularity on here. Most people probably don't have a strong opinion on me one way or another so I'll say not popular but not widely disliked either and I'm happy with that state of affairs | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? Nope Nope Nothing With engaging answers like that, I'm struggling to see why... Bit harsh... was tongue in cheek..." So was mine! | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? " Not especially, no. There’s been times I have been and times I most certainly haven’t. Guess it’s all context and crowd, and interactions therein. There’s been times I’ve craved positive regard, yes. But I’ve learned to look out for myself as whatever you do, will never be good enough for those that dictate it. I’m now focused on reciprocity. Friends. A sense of worth. Not necessarily from popularity per se but from gaining positive connections. But there are those that will pooh pooh anyone that enjoys the forum for those reasons, ach balls to them. | |||
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"oh just on fab. I would say im average on the forums but the people i chat to in pm will see me in a different light" I think you’re | |||
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"In life or on fab? I don't think I'm unpopular but I could see how I could be annoying to some. I don't strive to be anything other than myself although being disliked by the majority probably wouldn't do much for my ego and I would question why it is. I was thinking in terms of fab and the forums specifically. I probably should've made that clearer in my OP... " I think in terms of fab there's forever changing waves of who is popular, who has irked someone, who made a comment that was misconstrued. It depends too who is around at the time, sometimes you post loads and no one really interacts with you then other times you're all over the place chatting and getting involved. I think looking at yourself in that way is hard here, you can't tell how anyone else's experience has been to compare it to yours plus people make so many assumptions about you and your character it's impossible to know how you're coming across. For example I get accused of attention seeking because I post a fair bit and start threads but to me I start inclusive threads and try to encourage people to get involved. In mind I'm just hanging out chatting and I hope that I come across well but to others I'm trying to hog the li_elight. You can't win. | |||
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"oh just on fab. I would say im average on the forums but the people i chat to in pm will see me in a different light I think you’re " thankyo _stella | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? " I know I'm not I'm too private a person . I stopped striving for popularity in about 1972 . I guess popular people get quite a lot from it, loads of friends etc | |||
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"I have people that like me. But I wouldn’t say I’m popular and wouldn’t wish to be. I think quite a few people respect me too. I don’t get any shit on here so I’m not disliked particularly either. I’m probably irrelevant to quite a lot." Are you talking about me? this sums me up as well I think. | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? " I’m an acquired taste but yes Nope Some really nice chats | |||
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"Is this for research purposes OP? Your threads always seem to follow a similar theme of how people perceive themselves and others in the forums. Likewise, you often comment in your replies that posters have misunderstood your intention and the answer/comment given wasn’t what you expected. I’m just wondering if you are researching for a degree/masters etc?" I find people interesting in their complexity and often I find that there's a 'disconnect' between how we see ourselves and how others see us, the internet simply enhances this as I've found people 'can' display a caricature of themselves online, be it good or bad. I find how we perceive ourselves and others to be of infinite interest and I often find myself wondering about intent and motive regarding people's interactions and the 'dance' played out in subtlety daily. I'm finding these things of interest to me at the moment, not that many answers are forthcoming but I like to think that a spark of introspection or self awareness is a wonderful thing. I've also asked 'important' questions and down right daft ones along the way, I also do a nice line in threads that bring people together too... Thanks for noticing though! | |||
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"I'm not popular I don't want to be popular I'm much happier being the person in the corner no one notices " That's because you're tiny! | |||
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"Ha! No! Especially not now I've hidden any naked pictures. " Do you think that makes a difference? | |||
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"Forums I get more personal messages than responses in the forum so I guess no or people are ashamed to be associated with me I mainly post to make myself giggle Nothing for I am not Practical side of the site No not popular at all Oh yes Erm.... sex? " I think you're awesome | |||
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"In life or on fab? I don't think I'm unpopular but I could see how I could be annoying to some. I don't strive to be anything other than myself although being disliked by the majority probably wouldn't do much for my ego and I would question why it is. I was thinking in terms of fab and the forums specifically. I probably should've made that clearer in my OP... I think in terms of fab there's forever changing waves of who is popular, who has irked someone, who made a comment that was misconstrued. It depends too who is around at the time, sometimes you post loads and no one really interacts with you then other times you're all over the place chatting and getting involved. I think looking at yourself in that way is hard here, you can't tell how anyone else's experience has been to compare it to yours plus people make so many assumptions about you and your character it's impossible to know how you're coming across. For example I get accused of attention seeking because I post a fair bit and start threads but to me I start inclusive threads and try to encourage people to get involved. In mind I'm just hanging out chatting and I hope that I come across well but to others I'm trying to hog the li_elight. You can't win. " That's very true in terms of others judgement there is no winning, it's a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. I do agree though that even the most popular forum poster feels ignored and overlooked at times and we always evaluate our own experience in relation others through the rose tinted glasses of perception. Things are rarely as we see and perspective is a funny thing. | |||
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"Ha! No! Especially not now I've hidden any naked pictures. Do you think that makes a difference? " The people I'm already friends with don't care if I have my boobs on show or not, but the superficial interactions drop right off if no nakedness is apparent. I've always been the type to have very few, but very close, good friends so it's not something that upsets me. I prefer to slink around on the peripheries. | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Probably only with females that are into me which is lovey. Do you strive for it? No, I didn’t join Fab to post on the forums to be seen as popular amongst the relatively small proportion of Fabsters on the site. What do you get out of it? Out of Fab? Interesting conversations and a giggle with Females that I’m interested in and on occasion into their knickers " | |||
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"In general as opposed to on here? No not really, I think I'm generally liked by most people who know me but I wouldn't say I was especially popular, I'm not that outgoing social butterfly type that people tend to be drawn to. I was thinking specifically in regards to fab and the forums" If popularity is measured by how many people I enjoy speaking to and interact with, then perhaps. Though ultimately, it's up to people to make that judgment, not me. I just enjoy being sociable, flirting and having a laugh in general | |||
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"I'm not popular I don't want to be popular I'm much happier being the person in the corner no one notices " With such pictures, it’s unlikely to go unnoticed! | |||
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"Forums I get more personal messages than responses in the forum so I guess no or people are ashamed to be associated with me I mainly post to make myself giggle Nothing for I am not Practical side of the site No not popular at all Oh yes Erm.... sex? I think you're awesome " I literally cannot fab anymore of your photos | |||
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"Forums I get more personal messages than responses in the forum so I guess no or people are ashamed to be associated with me I mainly post to make myself giggle Nothing for I am not Practical side of the site No not popular at all Oh yes Erm.... sex? I think you're awesome I literally cannot fab anymore of your photos " I've got friends ones | |||
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"I’m just me, people will either like me or not. It’s not something I worry about, especially on here " | |||
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"Yes. My milkshake brings literally everyone to the yard." I’m lactose intolerant | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? " No No No | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? " No No Negativity.In my experience,the bigger your circle,the more drama there is. | |||
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"I have people that like me. But I wouldn’t say I’m popular and wouldn’t wish to be. I think quite a few people respect me too. I don’t get any shit on here so I’m not disliked particularly either. I’m probably irrelevant to quite a lot. Are you talking about me? this sums me up as well I think. " So alike | |||
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"Yes. Always be since school. Not really it just happens. I have too much charisma. Women letting me fuck their holes for free. " "I have too much charisma" You charismatic old buggerer | |||
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"I’m popular with the people who matter the most to me " this | |||
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"I’m just me, people will either like me or not. It’s not something I worry about, especially on here " I think your swell x | |||
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"Yes. Always be since school. Not really it just happens. I have too much charisma. Women letting me fuck their holes for free. "I have too much charisma" You charismatic old buggerer " I am not that old tbh | |||
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"I'm just a happy chap who makes himself chuckle " You make others chuckle too | |||
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"I’m just me, people will either like me or not. It’s not something I worry about, especially on here I think your swell x " Well I think your jolly spiffing old chap xx | |||
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"Do you think that you are? Do you strive for it? What do you get out of it? " Nah, I’m marmite | |||
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"I reckon there's a few that think I'd be ace to hang out with (or of) And a few who think I'd be ace to hang out with providing I was jumping from a plane with a faulty parachute. I think I'm more popular than some but less popular than others, swings n roundabouts ain't it, and sometimes very similar to the school playground in more ways than one. Am I fussed? Depends on the why. Is it because someone has been spreading shit about me that's bollocks then yeah, I think I'd be peeved. Is it because those people genuinely don't like me or what I'm about? Nah, we don't all like everyone and that's ok. Thing is, there are a multitude of reasons someone can be popular and the reason makes a difference to me. Am I popular because people enjoy what I have to say or because of the who I am? I'll take it. Am I popular because I'm an easy fuck and have a reputation for opening my legs purely to gain popularity? You can keep that shit ta muchly. It's all subjective and sometimes we can be "popular" for what we consider the wrong reasons to us. Fuck knows if any of that makes sense P" It does..I hear you | |||
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"I'm a lone wolf on here. I was going to start a gang but admin/mods kept the deleting the applicants' CVs out of my inbox." You would probably have been the first of the gang with a gun in is hand. The first to do time, the first of the gang to die...oh my. | |||
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