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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ladies

I'm no good at this fab shit, I go from brushing men off too early to being far too keen which then makes me look desperado.

I can't seem to get it right and end up looking like a dickhead

Please be nice I'm on the verge of going unlos and just being an unhappy, repressed old mare.

Any advice will be gratefully received

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You better not leave

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You better not leave "

Are you a lady and do you have advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You better not leave

Are you a lady and do you have advice? "

Oh, well, maybe relax a little and chat a bit before going further with things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You better not leave

Are you a lady and do you have advice? "

Did you just assume his gender?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You better not leave

Are you a lady and do you have advice?

Did you just assume his gender?"

Nope just said he ain't no lady.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a difficult balance, genuinely. It takes practice and a bit of self discipline I think.

How you make it work will be up to you.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It is hard to find that happy medium. Clichè, but it just takes time x

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

This is boring advice but just be yourself when messaging, that'll attract the ones you're compatible with anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im no good at it either. I gave up to be honest then someone came along. Maybe don’t look so hard and just chat on the forums etc. x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"This is boring advice but just be yourself when messaging, that'll attract the ones you're compatible with anyway. "

I agree.

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By *cousesubsallyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there

Just be light hearted with it - whether getting to know someone or just having a laugh etc, the mutual attraction will shine through with the right one(s)

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Im no good at it either. I gave up to be honest then someone came along. Maybe don’t look so hard and just chat on the forums etc. x"

Good advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Practice makes perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fucked if I know!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all

It all makes sense. X

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Are there specific aspects of fab use that are worse? Picking wrong people? Getting involved? Security? Etc

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Ladies

I'm no good at this fab shit, I go from brushing men off too early to being far too keen which then makes me look desperado.

I can't seem to get it right and end up looking like a dickhead

Please be nice I'm on the verge of going unlos and just being an unhappy, repressed old mare.

Any advice will be gratefully received "

I should have paid far better attention to your post? Sorry

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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My advice would be don’t try too hard, relax, be yourself and if you’re compatible it will progress. Don’t put yourself under any pressure. I hope you stay OP and find a way to enjoy it even if it doesn’t lead to anything in particular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to go just slow it down stop overthinking bake your thoughts basic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some good advice in posts above, OP. Take a breather from Fab if you need to, and take things at your own pace, one that suits you. If some men think you take too long to arrange a meet- sod them, just be yourself and don't let people push you into doing things you don't want. On the other hand, if you do feel like you want a release, some fun as soon as, it's fine, too. Women are allowed to have sexual needs, too, and it doesn't make us desperate .

Enjoy and try not to overthink it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

My speed is generally slow, so it's probably tough to appear too keen. I also leave most of the initiation and follow up to them.

Are you certain that these guys are perceiving you this way? Some men go hot and cold, whatever you do.

If you're finding you brush some off too quickly, make a point of suspending your actions for a while, unless there are sensible reasons for blocking, such as safety. You could possibly meet a couple of them for a follow on coffee one afternoon, to make a fuller evaluation.

Aim to make rational decisions, instead of just emotional ones in isolation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is some very good advice and I know you are all right. Thank you

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