FabSwingers.com forum: How many chances is too many?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have had a female agree to meet me numerous times now and agrees to meet after work. I message her to get where to meet and then she goes silent. Then the next day she says she wants to meet again and then the same thing.

How many chances is too many chances?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One chance.

Move on, op.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"I have had a female agree to meet me numerous times now and agrees to meet after work. I message her to get where to meet and then she goes silent. Then the next day she says she wants to meet again and then the same thing.

How many chances is too many chances?"

Two.

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

I concur OP

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'd give 2 chances.

Sometimes shit happens, if I felt the first reason for not meeting was genuine, then yes a 2nd chance

But never a third!

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

I’d go with 2 - something may have come up, phone died etc.... but on the 2nd occasion that would be a block from me.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

One. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One chance.

Move on, op. "

It's hard to do..but one chance..maybe 2 if the reason is good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to all.

I can see shes been online. I also have her on whatsapp and see shes on there and not picking up messages. But shes complaining about men on here

She has 1 final chance I think. Problem is I know she will verify me and others wont meet none verified too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One. End up desperate and thats not a good look

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By *bwplaydateMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and travel/hotel

How many chances is too many chances?"

It's really a man - block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two if first reason genuine. Your not guaranteed a Veri even then. Her loss stick with it I'm sure someone will give u a chance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One chance.

Move on, op.

Well not one she didn't make him go + didn't turn up, thats one chance. BUT not to keep doing what she's doing.

1. Are you sure she's even real + not a fake profile? Send me a message if you would like me to look + give my opinion

2. How many times has "she" done this?"

Yes she is real. I know other real women friends who know she is real.

2 times now

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Thanks to all.

I can see shes been online. I also have her on whatsapp and see shes on there and not picking up messages. But shes complaining about men on here

She has 1 final chance I think. Problem is I know she will verify me and others wont meet none verified too"

She's cancelled on you numerous times - your words on the OP.

But you're positive she'll give you a veri

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Two if first reason genuine. Your not guaranteed a Veri even then. Her loss stick with it I'm sure someone will give u a chance "

Thanks Steph. I appreciate that and youre right about the veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure she's even real + not a fake profile? Send me a message if you would like me to look + give my opinion

How many times has "she" done this?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks to all.

I can see shes been online. I also have her on whatsapp and see shes on there and not picking up messages. But shes complaining about men on here

She has 1 final chance I think. Problem is I know she will verify me and others wont meet none verified too

She's cancelled on you numerous times - your words on the OP.

But you're positive she'll give you a veri

She seems to have given and recieved loads herself. Maybe I should be more fussy. She does seem to have a lot of veris. Tho getting women who want to meet is hard to do. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to give three chances

But now unless it’s a valid reason it’s only one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chances

Turn up or don't

As soon as the waivering starts, I'm out

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

One chance. If you've gone to where you're supposed to meet & she hasn't turned up that's it, she will keep doing it. If you have to give another chance then you make her come to you

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

One,two at the very most.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Two strikes and you're out

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By *awty_twosomeCouple
over a year ago

Kent

One..... far two many dreamers and time-wasters on here now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be dubious about her veris by the sound of it, it looks suspiciously like she is giving and receiving veris without actually meeting or even speaking to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As many chances as you feel comfortable with.

On the other side, in terms of my mental health I have had to cancel plans. Those that don't support this aren't worth the effort

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Numerous? Seems like she,s had enough chances OP....move on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't give her another chance.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Only you can know OP as you're the one in conversation - has she given reasons for why she's not been able to meet on the days you planned? If so do they appear genuine?

When you say "Then the next day she says she wants to meet again" is it her saying that unprompted, or are you the one doing the suggesting? If the latter, perhaps she's just keeping you at arms length and hoping you'll get the message rather than being upfront.

Ultimately though, the decision is yours whether to continue trying to meet her, and potentially being let down, or to let it drop.

Put any notion of meeting to get a veri aside too - surely the reason to meet is because you like the person not just to get a tick in a box?

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"One. End up desperate and thats not a good look"

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I'd give 2 chances.

Sometimes shit happens, if I felt the first reason for not meeting was genuine, then yes a 2nd chance

But never a third! "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the silence. No chances. I have a friend on here who I've been terrible for cancelling on but he's been really patient with me. But it was genuine reasons and I was having a hard time. His patience has actually led to a better friendship. So the reasons you list then absolutely no chances if its something else then its a situation by situation decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a meet vanish today, same couple, second time it's happened, I get that life gets in the way and I'm really sanguine about it, what annoys me though is the general lack of communication that is has actually cancelled, the just organise then stop opening their mail.

Two chances is my new rule.

I'm free tonight.... Anyone....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

One let down or ghosting is enough for me personally OP. They don't get a second chance. My regular friends it's a bit different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks to all.

I can see shes been online. I also have her on whatsapp and see shes on there and not picking up messages. But shes complaining about men on here

She has 1 final chance I think. Problem is I know she will verify me and others wont meet none verified too

She's cancelled on you numerous times - your words on the OP.

But you're positive she'll give you a veri

She seems to have given and recieved loads herself. Maybe I should be more fussy. She does seem to have a lot of veris. Tho getting women who want to meet is hard to do. Lol"

Women will find it easy to blag veris from guys, on the promise of a meet. Beware.

I think you should move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many chances is too many chances?

Two."

Two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many chances is too many chances?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No more shes a fake likely a he or just a bottler either was its a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many chances is too many chances?"
lol its a guy

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Cancellation then if they cancel again, no more.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Only you can know OP as you're the one in conversation - has she given reasons for why she's not been able to meet on the days you planned? If so do they appear genuine?

Ultimately though, the decision is yours whether to continue trying to meet her, and potentially being let down, or to let it drop.

Put any notion of meeting to get a veri aside too - surely the reason to meet is because you like the person not just to get a tick in a box?"

This absolutely! Couldn’t have put it better myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many chances is too many chances?"

Are you sure its a woman?

Personally speaking I would block and move on but i guess it depends on how optimistic you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah just give up!

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

"I've had a meet vanish today, same couple, second time it's happened, I get that life gets in the way and I'm really sanguine about it, what annoys me though is the general lack of communication that is has actually cancelled, the just organise then stop opening their mail.

Two chances is my new rule.

I'm free tonight.... Anyone....

Totally agree when u can see that they've read it then to make matters worse lie n say the next day they've only just noticed it. That to me is yr not just a timewaster but yr also lying to me now. I call people out on that n tell 'em that I noticed they'd read it. Normally ends contact but sorry, yeah life gets in way and things happen, but don't ignore me n treat me like a cunt. If yr online and have time to read the message, then u def have a minute to respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a strong believer of persistence I would give her at least 76. If she still makes excuses move on.

Her reasons could be legitimate and she’s just plain unlucky. However once she meets you and you give her the pounding of her life that she obviously deserves she’ll be annoyed why she hadn’t met you sooner.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Had a couple wink at me twice, I sent a thanks message the first time and invited to chat, no answer. Last week another wink from the same couple, same message, in both cases read and ignored. Now blocked.

So I’ll always give someone a second chance but won’t hesitate in blocking so not to waste any further time

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By *utchersDogMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Fool me once, shame on you.

Fool me twice, shame on me..

One chance. Unless I've met them previously.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

When I was meeting my rule of thumb was two strikes and you are out, yes things happen but you cannot let anyone mess you around that much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life has a habit of happening so I would give two chances. I had to cancel a meet at the eleventh hour due to work, but boy did I make it up to him when we did eventually get together...

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By *verage JosephMan
over a year ago

Grays & London

One chance, unless they can convince me it was a real emergency!

I’ve never stood anyone up, so I expect the same back!

Life does get in the way sometimes, but all I ask is don’t waste my time, be honest!

I’m happy to chat and laugh on here, but don’t tell me you want to meet if you really don’t!

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