FabSwingers.com forum: Do you love your mother more than your father because she carried and gave birth to you?

By *bwplaydate OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and travel/hotel

Just curious to see what people think and heir experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because she brought me up as my dad grafted she always has my back

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

No. Mine is a harridan who made my fathers, brothers and my life miserable. Cant stand her.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Very much so, but not for those reasons.

My dad is an alcoholic gambling addicted lazy waste of space (and that's putting it mild)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope. shes Mrs Bucket and a cold hearted block of ice, i never met my father until I was 16

I love my step father ... the most amazing and annoying man I've ever known

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because she left me when I was a year old and moved to another country

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bingley

Dont know my father and havnt spoke to my mother in years ... so no ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, her final act was telling me that she never loved me - not the kind of parenting I would ever wish to adopt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum passed away 5 yrs ago and i miss her and think about her every day.. my dad is alive and well and thats all I can say about him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't remember her doing that.

I love them both equally and for different reasons.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nope. I love my parents equally and I'm very lucky at my age in that they're both still alive? However I like my dad more than I like my mum.

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

My dad passed away last week m I loved him to bits n I do my mum too I’ve never felt so lost than I have since he died

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

No, because she left me, the minute she gave birth and I have no idea who donated the sperm.

I love the parents who raised me, equally for very different reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, love them both equally although have to admit i'm a bit of a daddy's girl

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No, that doesn't factor into the quality and strength of the relationship - though a woman who carries her unborn baby and gives birth will probably have a different relationship that in turn can influence how her child relates to her.

They've been different relationships for me it's a near perfect relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I suspect no one remembers being in the womb, relationships with parents are built over entire lives, not pre birth.

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

As you can see above, everyones relationship with the woman that gave birth to them is different, some will love their mother all their life, their best friend, their confidant.. others feel and see their relationship with the woman that gave them life very differently..

a man can be a father and not a daddy! A step father can be a dad to another mans child.. relationships are built as you grow, learn and develop.. how you communicate with your parents and they you.

Each is as individual as a fingerprint and as fragile as glass.

And love comes in many forms and many levels..

That’s a tough one to answer and definitely and excellent thought provoking post. Well done OP X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loved them both equally, and miss them both terribly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be here without them both. RIP mum and dad. Thank you.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it’s due to the unconditional love which, we’re unlikely to have with anyone else.

There are some truly sad life events being posted on here. Life can be truly cruel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally.

I lost my mum in April and I wish every day that she was back with us.

My dad. Wasn’t a father. Left when I was young and made no effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, my mother left me before I was even born

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dad shot on when I was a nipper, mum raised me. There's no other woman in the world that will ever mean more to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I have no feelings for either of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lots both my parents but my mums death hit me more but think that's because we were much cloaer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope unfortunately they wernt particularly loveable lol

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Nah, I detest them both with the same amount of hate.....

Oh I'm a care system kid before I get jumped on....

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

No I love them equally. They both have their good and bad points and both are partially responsible for me being the sad little weirdo I am.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

nope

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Lost my Mum this year. She wasn’t a great Mum at all but I look back now with nothing but love and no bad feeling.

My parents split when I was very young. When I can to the UK to live with him he was very aloof but the years have mellowed him.

Make the most of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Dad didn't want me and told my mum to get rid of me. She refused and said she would bring me up alone. In the end he said he had to do the "right thing" and he married her. He had two kids already and his first wife had died. My mum struggled with 3 kids and no love from dad. Mum then went on to have had my sister, who was a "mistake" also. My whole childhood consisted of arguments, shouting, screaming, being scared and mentally abused. Dad died 22 yrs ago. I love my mum very much, she had a bloody tough life. I wish my Dad had left my mum alone, things would have been better for us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My dad passed away last week m I loved him to bits n I do my mum too I’ve never felt so lost than I have since he died

It's hard sending a little virtual hug x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Gosh there's some sad stories here,I love both my parents equally my dad frustrates me the least though.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. My mother doesn't love me and I've given up hoping that she will.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I love my mum just as much as my dad. I was lucky, she was a tough londoner who taught me how to be strong in a tough world. I miss her very much, but my dad is the bees knees and without a doubt the best man I know xx

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Not at all. I love my parents. But I have a strong dislike for my mum. I avoid spending any time alone in her company, as we bring out the worse in each other.

My Dad on the other hand, we are very close. I think because he isn't my biological dad (I never met him), he kind of chose to stick around when I was at my worse, my Mum did stick around, but blames me every day. It doesn't help that she is an alcoholic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’ve had a very difficult relationship with both my parents. Lost my dad over 2 years ago and haven’t cried at all. It’s hard when your parents make you feel as though whatever you do it’s not good enough x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"No, I’ve had a very difficult relationship with both my parents. Lost my dad over 2 years ago and haven’t cried at all. It’s hard when your parents make you feel as though whatever you do it’s not good enough x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. It's special being able to create a life and grow a little bambino but it definitely doesn't entitle someone to my love. I've had a very difficult relationship with my mum but couldn't say a bad word about my dad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I feel a deeper connection to my mum? Yeah I guess I do maybe party because you feel you need to protect your mum more than your dad.

My dad grafted every day to keep a roof over our head so I respect him immensely

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"As I suspect no one remembers being in the womb, relationships with parents are built over entire lives, not pre birth."

Exactly this. Also my dad carried me in different ways. He was talking to me about the day I was born the other day and referred to it as feeling he had witnessed a miracle.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Mum past away 3 years ago and I miss her every day.

My dad's a cantankerous old sod doesn't stop me loving him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dad is a much better person and if I'm honest my life is easier without mum in it. Still miss her though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dad for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my parents equally for very different reasons.

My mum is there for me emotionally, whenever I need a shoulder to cry on or need any advice.

My dad takes care of everything practical, he will always be the first person I call in a crisis.

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