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By *edmark07 OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Is gallantry dead and buried.

Ladies do you like or hate a guy holding a door or taking your hand to steady you on steps

Gents do you act this way or steer clear through fear of seeming old fashioned or through apathy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My balance isn't that bad that I'm unable to negotiate a set of stairs

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By *edmark07 OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool


"My balance isn't that bad that I'm unable to negotiate a set of stairs "

But would you appreciate the gesture or not ?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I'm female and I hold doors open for people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is gallantry dead and buried.

Ladies do you like or hate a guy holding a door or taking your hand to steady you on steps

Gents do you act this way or steer clear through fear of seeming old fashioned or through apathy ?"
No I'm a gent doesn't matter if it's a woman even I do the gentlemanly thing

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I hold doors open for everybody, regardless of age, gender, colour or anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My balance isn't that bad that I'm unable to negotiate a set of stairs

But would you appreciate the gesture or not ?"

If he wasn't already holding my hand, I'd find it a bit old fashioned

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If someone male or female wants to hold a door open or whatever for me then I appreciate it.

Their sex doesn't come in to it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I hold doors open, help others in need etc but not because of someone's gender or age or any other criteria, and I certainly don't think of it as a gallant act - more a decent and considerate one regardless of the gender of the person I am doing it for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hold doors open, help others in need etc but not because of someone's gender or age or any other criteria, and I certainly don't think of it as a gallant act - more a decent and considerate one regardless of the gender of the person I am doing it for."

Yes. It’s called good manners and I do it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I needed a hand and someone offered help, sure. But offering me help purely because I’m a woman, and I don’t need it? Nah.

Just now my balance is awful so C gives me a hand, I struggle to get out the car (we have a really low down, small car) so he will come round and help me out. No need to do those things if I’m able to do them for myself.

And I’d do the same to other people - being male or female doesn’t come into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hold doors open, help others in need etc but not because of someone's gender or age or any other criteria, and I certainly don't think of it as a gallant act - more a decent and considerate one regardless of the gender of the person I am doing it for.

Yes. It’s called good manners and I do it too."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

When I was about 20 a guy got up to help me off the train . A good looking young guy held my basket for me in the supermarket queue the other day which I appreciated. Nobody has steadied me on steps yet but I'm getting on a bit it's bound to happen soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too good manners cost nothing x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I like it to a point,I used to go out with someone that was pretty old fashioned in that respect but that's how he'd been brought up he said. I can open my own car door though or walk on the outside side of the pavement etc that was a bit much for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a gentleman

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham/Telford

You don't have to be a lady for me to hold a door for you. I'll hold a door for whoever is either coming in the door I'm about to walk through, or behind me....

Manners are everything whether you're man, woman or child

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I like it based on need not gender. And I really hate it when they're trying to look impressive to an attractive woman (whether that's me or not). I generally accept with good grace or decline quietly and politely.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s basic manners for me to hold a door open or assist someone irrespective of who they are

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I'm disabled and always grateful when someone offers me help.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Can we swap the word "gallantry^ for maybe "politeness"?

That said, it costs nothing to be polite and helpful.

Then again, in this world of political correctness and sometimes extreme feminism you might just find someone taking great offence at a door being opened for them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to wind up and pretend the door wont open forcing them to a different door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't give (insert swear word)about being old fashioned gallentry and shivery isn't dead as in concerned ..

It's all about respect for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it in small doses. I know it's not what I'm meant to say but there are some gender roles I do enjoy, I like feeling feminine and protected, I don't need it but with the right guy at the right time it gives me butterflies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents brought me up to always be polite. Always offer to help, always hold doors open, always say please and thank you, be respectful and perhaps most importantly, don’t fart in elevators.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hold doors open for people all the time.

I do like a proper gentleman though! My OH is very much the gent...most of the time

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I would appreciate anyone walking ahead of me holding the door, and if the door is heavy and I am with a physically stronger person (most men are), also opening it for me. This is basic manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can we swap the word "gallantry^ for maybe "politeness"?

That said, it costs nothing to be polite and helpful.

Then again, in this world of political correctness and sometimes extreme feminism you might just find someone taking great offence at a door being opened for them!

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I think that's fairly unlikely with reasonable people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's interesting that most posters have honed in on the holding the door open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be as gallant as possible when with a lady, whatever that entails. If I didn't act gentlemanly then could I really call myself a gentleman?

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By *edmark07 OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool


"I would appreciate anyone walking ahead of me holding the door, and if the door is heavy and I am with a physically stronger person (most men are), also opening it for me. This is basic manners. "

That's is the difference. I'd hope we all hold a door open for the person behind, that's good manners. but a gentleman would walk ahead and open it for his partner, I'd say that is gallant

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