FabSwingers.com forum: Perception vs reality

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The last one filled up and as it seemed to be a positive experience for many, I thought I'd give this another go!

Often how we see ourselves is very different from how others do; whether it be a very negative view of ourselves or in some cases a case of over inflated ego.

So in terms of redressing that balance I thought it might be good to see how others see us.

The way this works; post how you see yourself, honestly and then others can reply to you on the thread constructively.

No bitching or nastiness please, but also no saccharine compliments and currying favour, this only works if everyone is respectful and honest.

Please remember that this is a two way process as well, so give others feedback as you would expect it in return.

Please also remember folks that it's personal opinions only, this is intended as a subjective exercise.

Over to you folks...

Tea

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I see myself as friendly, flirty and quiet till you get to know me. I have a very sarcastic side to me and I'm fiercely loyal to those close to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grey haired

Stoney faced

Tall

Slim

Gangly

Introvert

Mischievous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as an average, middle aged woman who has been blessed with good genes.. obviously I'm over average in the height department..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see myself as friendly, flirty and quiet till you get to know me. I have a very sarcastic side to me and I'm fiercely loyal to those close to me x"

I can't speak for your final point but the rest, for what Ive seen of you seems pretty close to the mark. Flirty and quiet would probably be my impression of you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Grey haired

Stoney faced

Tall

Slim

Gangly

Introvert

Mischievous

I can speak for your physical characteristics and I've not seen you on the forums tbh!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see myself as an average, middle aged woman who has been blessed with good genes.. obviously I'm over average in the height department..

I can't really speak for your physical characteristics but your postings have always been direct and honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a little bit of a daisy hence not sure I can handle it, but I’ll give that a go anyway.

I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially.

I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies.

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By *heekybarstewardMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I'm a little shy to start but once someone gets to know me I'm cheeky ,flirty all with a twinkle in my eye ....what others think of me I've absolutely no idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a little bit of a daisy hence not sure I can handle it, but I’ll give that a go anyway.

I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially.

I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies.

You’re charming, articulate and handsome

Yes you flirt , but without expectation or arrogance

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm friendly kind and tactile. I'm also in a lot of pain daily so sometimes I am short tempered.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

D."

I don't think you are in the shadow of your wife - you just don't post as often. I think you're very friendly and funny and yes flirty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

D."

I see you as a lucky man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friendly, reserved in public , perceived as snobby ( due to my dislike for slang )

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m a little bit of a daisy hence not sure I can handle it, but I’ll give that a go anyway.

I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially.

I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies.

I would certainly agree with you about the flirty and butterfly aspect of what you wrote

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Respectable, Thoughtful, Quiet until spoken too and doesn't like being around loud and rude people, I don't look my age and often let other people assume that they are older to see how it plays out, I'm also willing to let others take the lead until I have to step up,

99% of the people on the forums/fab won't be able to say if this is true as I've never met them and chatting on here doesn't always show you're true personality

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

D."

Just as friendly, flirty and positive in real life too x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Friendly, reserved in public , perceived as snobby ( due to my dislike for slang ) "

You're dry witted, flirty and not snobby in the slightest - you're just spectacularly blunt and honest about what does and doesn't work for you. It's a good trait to have. You are quite private but also a softie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

D."

I can see why you would say about being in the shadow of Jo, when she receives so much attention. What I've seen of you posting, you're flirty and intelligent in your own right, I feel you're a touch reserved though.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

I don't think you are in the shadow of your wife - you just don't post as often. I think you're very friendly and funny and yes flirty. "

Thank you Meli! You just put a smile on my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friendly, reserved in public , perceived as snobby ( due to my dislike for slang )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm friendly kind and tactile. I'm also in a lot of pain daily so sometimes I am short tempered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you to everyone that commented on my post in the last thread, I was at work last night so didn't get the chance to respond.

I shall give you my perceptions on your own thoughts today tho, when I get back from the shop

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

I see you as a lucky man!"

I know you do

for all the things I have I am lucky, but I have and always will work hard to get and keep the things that mean the most to me

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

Just as friendly, flirty and positive in real life too x"

Thank you Miss Choosey (sorry not used to the new name yet

) you know how I feel about you

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

Just as friendly, flirty and positive in real life too x

Thank you Miss Choosey (sorry not used to the new name yet

) you know how I feel about you

D."

Mwaaah. Feels weird hearing that name now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm skinny with a bloated belly, quirky, harmless, invisible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

D."

I don't see you in the shadow either, not at all. It really is as simple as Jo posts more often and I'm equally as interested in what you have to say as what she does.

I think you come across maybe not as confident as her in the photo and flirting department but certainly you have your own voice, and it's a secure, caring, loving one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm skinny with a bloated belly, quirky, harmless, invisible."

You're not invisible. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

resting bitch face

always available to help others

refuses help from others

loud in my crowd

shy in your crowd

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I'm skinny with a bloated belly, quirky, harmless, invisible."

Sssh Fever. You come across aa having self doubts but being genuinely caring and friendly. To the people who matter you are not ibvisible. You're definitely quirky but all the best people are. Fuck normality. x

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

Thank you Tea

I think I am a bit reserved on here, I think all the fake couples accounts put me off posting in the beginning, as more people have now met us I feel like I can now be more involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm skinny with a bloated belly, quirky, harmless, invisible."

Fo shizzle?

You are random and funny with a sometimes serious side that makes me old lug holes listen. You have a lot of valuable stuff in that head of yours and I for one am thankful

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I like to think I'm friendly and outgoing, everyone comments on how my eyes sparkle.

I think I'm just plain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the one hand I'm not particularly confident yet I have a big ego. I think I'm hilarious but riddled with self doubt.

All traits that made me a decent stand up comedian but a lousy human sometimes.

I never should have laid down on this couch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the one hand I'm not particularly confident yet I have a big ego. I think I'm hilarious but riddled with self doubt.

All traits that made me a decent stand up comedian but a lousy human sometimes.

I never should have laid down on this couch. "

I’ll look out for your posts

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I see myself as thoughtful and caring. I'm a loyal friend and keeper of secrets. I think people will see me as more reserved and quiet on here then I may well be and only those close to me get to see my silly side. I'm not as confident as some may think and I massively overthink things and worry unnecessarily!

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I always find this kind of thing quite challenging, but also interesting!

On fab I think I come across as flirty, open and direct but also thoughtful.

In my daily life I am less direct and flirty, and more nurturing and calm.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to think I'm friendly and outgoing, everyone comments on how my eyes sparkle.

I think I'm just plain."
you come across as a nice person, I don't think I've seen your eyes so can't comment and your pics don't portray you as plain at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the one hand I'm not particularly confident yet I have a big ego. I think I'm hilarious but riddled with self doubt.

All traits that made me a decent stand up comedian but a lousy human sometimes.

I never should have laid down on this couch.

I’ll look out for your posts "

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I see myself as thoughtful and caring. I'm a loyal friend and keeper of secrets. I think people will see me as more reserved and quiet on here then I may well be and only those close to me get to see my silly side. I'm not as confident as some may think and I massively overthink things and worry unnecessarily!"

I'd agree with all that although I did think you must have a silly side because you're seeing Moriarty.

You seem like one of those genuinely nice people; it's a banal word nice but not intended that way.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'm a bit of a free spirit, mainly just flitting about doing my own thing. Always friendly unless given a reason not to be. Very dry witted. I smile and laugh a lot, but probably come across as very reserved on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d settle in the comfort of knowing that my fellow forumites think my posts are witty and harmless banter and nothing more.

In reality I’d say some just don’t get my humour and would rather avoid discussion.

Of my friends on here I hope they see a thoughtful, friendly and glass always half full type of person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always find this kind of thing quite challenging, but also interesting!

On fab I think I come across as flirty, open and direct but also thoughtful.

In my daily life I am less direct and flirty, and more nurturing and calm.

Mrs TMN x "

To be honest, I can see both sides coming through in your posts.

There seems to be a certain degree of self assurance coming through in your posts.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I still see myself as short, fat and ugly.

I've a kind heart and will help others.

I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I'd agree with you on a fair chunk of that, I think that you are quite quiet and I get the feeling that you observe and keep yourself to yourself for the most part but you are astute and careful about who you trust. There is a playful side there too though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly.

I've a kind heart and will help others.

I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be. "

I can't speak for you physically. I will say that it's the second time that you've called yourself fat though so I might consider that's something you're not necessarily happy about?

Your posts can be direct but that's not a bad thing

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Is this a thread where you'll have to say nice things about me Tea?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

I don't see you in the shadow either, not at all. It really is as simple as Jo posts more often and I'm equally as interested in what you have to say as what she does.

I think you come across maybe not as confident as her in the photo and flirting department but certainly you have your own voice, and it's a secure, caring, loving one

Thank you P! That really means a lot to me

It honestly does

Jo has taken a lot of strength from you (which I am truly grateful for

)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as the aloof slacker who saunters around under the radar going with the flow. I’m flirty and like to tease in private and try my best not to be a twunt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Speaking for myself...

I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW.

I think that I'm also articulate and witty with a dry sense of humour that doesn't always come across on screen. I consider myself intelligent and bit of an idealist, something of an 'acquired taste'.

Tea

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm thoughtful, dedicated, can be very opinionated, free spirited, emotional, direct, quirky, affectionate, passionate, incisive, determined and what I show less of in here - stupidly funny, measured but with some impulsivity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is this a thread where you'll have to say nice things about me Tea?

Give it a whirl...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a little bit of a daisy hence not sure I can handle it, but I’ll give that a go anyway.

I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially.

I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies.

How do I see you? Seductive, the romantic lover of everything feminine. Always something to say to forum writers to lift their spirits (especially if they’re female). You’re also incredibly sensitive and love to be adored.

Let’s also mention that you’re also rather arrogant and proud of who and what you are. Long live you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see myself as a friendly, positive and maybe a bit flirty

on here I’m obviously in the shadow of my beautiful wife

but I do try to pop my head out once in a while

I don't see you in the shadow either, not at all. It really is as simple as Jo posts more often and I'm equally as interested in what you have to say as what she does.

I think you come across maybe not as confident as her in the photo and flirting department but certainly you have your own voice, and it's a secure, caring, loving one

Thank you P! That really means a lot to me

It honestly does

Jo has taken a lot of strength from you (which I am truly grateful for

)

D."

Awww shucks

Give it a couple of years and I'll have a bullseye on my forehead coz she says cunt way too much and has you wearing bin liners and masks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bit of a free spirit, mainly just flitting about doing my own thing. Always friendly unless given a reason not to be. Very dry witted. I smile and laugh a lot, but probably come across as very reserved on here. "

Free spirit and reserved, yes. I’d also say confident and true to yourself. You’re happy being yourself and not looking for validation or re-assurance.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm skinny with a bloated belly, quirky, harmless, invisible."

You certainly aren't invisible with those pics x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Speaking for myself...

I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW.

Tea"

I'd agree with that. I think you're also thoughtful and loving but a bit of a misanthropist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flippant twat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Speaking for myself...

I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW.

Tea

I'd agree with that. I think you're also thoughtful and loving but a bit of a misanthropist.

Oh definitely, I was thinking in terms of how I'm seen on fab. You know me far too well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flippant twat"

Would you care to extend on that just a tad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friendly, reserved in public , perceived as snobby ( due to my dislike for slang ) "

Reserved but not self-effacing. More confident but modest. I used to see you as distant but was proven wrong and it was a good surprise. You’re definitely friendly and caring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friendly, polite, cheeky, don't take things very seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking for myself...

I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW.

Tea"

I see someone who's had a few "lightbulb" moments in their life that opens up thinking pathways. Someone who's aware the world isn't an ideal place but tries to point others onto those thinking pathways in order to give them the tools that may make things easier (or harder in the present asthere's things they may not want to address, but long term benefit)

A challenger, a learner, a teacher. Someone who's got patience but will facepalm and then hit the "enough's enough" switch and then use blunt force trauma of words to spell things out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see myself as the aloof slacker who saunters around under the radar going with the flow. I’m flirty and like to tease in private and try my best not to be a twunt. "

A teasy flirty music man

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially.

I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies.

This is based purely on forum observations. Ish.

I think that you're sensitive and sometimes thoughtful, your posts on here would suggest you're flirty and with no real substance but that's because the forum is escapism for you. You enjoy the attention a lot from a lot of women and clearly it makes you happy. I think you get meh if the attention isn't there. As far as the typically grumpy Frenchman goes? Fuck knows you are. It's your USP on here. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flippant twat

Would you care to extend on that just a tad?"

Oh okay...

I see myself as an unserious person who has seen too much to take life seriously. Used to be very unconfident, now I'm mildly confident, think I'm pretty boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Direct as a bull in a china shop

Randomly funny friendly look good as im becoming a better cameraman lol been too honest in the past

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Free spirit and reserved, yes. I’d also say confident and true to yourself. You’re happy being yourself and not looking for validation or re-assurance."

So you was actually paying attention and not just looking at my tits

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I'd agree with all that although I did think you must have a silly side because you're seeing Moriarty.

You seem like one of those genuinely nice people; it's a banal word nice but not intended that way."

I will take nice all day long. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly.

I've a kind heart and will help others.

I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be. "

Huge heart and open book. Someone who many people would consider very lucky to have in their corner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Speaking for myself...

I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW.

Tea

A challenger, a learner, a teacher. Someone who's got patience but will facepalm and then hit the "enough's enough" switch and then use blunt force trauma of words to spell things out.

I agree with that and I think part of that is why I rub some the wrong way, especially those that just see it as 'just a bit of fun'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free spirit and reserved, yes. I’d also say confident and true to yourself. You’re happy being yourself and not looking for validation or re-assurance.

So you was actually paying attention and not just looking at my tits

Nah! I just copied someone else’s notes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking for myself...

I think that I'm complex, I think that I can be grumpy and forthright, direct to the point of being blunt. I think that I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and often seen as a SJW.

Tea

A challenger, a learner, a teacher. Someone who's got patience but will facepalm and then hit the "enough's enough" switch and then use blunt force trauma of words to spell things out.

I agree with that and I think part of that is why I rub some the wrong way, especially those that just see it as 'just a bit of fun'

Yes, but only because you're trying to get them to understand that just because something may mean nothing to them, it could mean the world to someone else. I never see it coming from a bad place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez...gonna go with

Understanding

Humble

Quite & shy

Respectful

....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a little bit of a daisy hence not sure I can handle it, but I’ll give that a go anyway.

I see myself as flirty, jokey and seductive: a butterfly flying about inconsequentially.

I’m also a short arsed, so typically French man with all the Gallic grumpiness that it implies.

Inclusive and flirtatious, definitely a social butterfly

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

What I think of me; hmmm I doubt I am posting that, which probably has the effect of others thinking similar things- not positive, but true and I have no idea how to change my perception of me !

Answers on a postcard please addressed to the glass 3/4 empty club founder !

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm intelligent, occasionally hot-headed and passionate. I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - not in a spiteful way but I enjoy the thrill of a good debate and quick thought exchange. I can be incredibly stubborn and oft think I'm right when I can rarely be wrong. I forgive easily. I'm more sensitive and self doubting than my assured posting style would convey. I can't flirt but enjoy my dire attempts. I'm one of life's talkers, a tad self centred and needy but overall not that bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm intelligent, occasionally hot-headed and passionate. I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - not in a spiteful way but I enjoy the thrill of a good debate and quick thought exchange. I can be incredibly stubborn and oft think I'm right when I can rarely be wrong. I forgive easily. I'm more sensitive and self doubting than my assured posting style would convey. I can't flirt but enjoy my dire attempts. I'm one of life's talkers, a tad self centred and needy but overall not that bad."

Sensitive and self-doubting, yes. Yet affirmed and confident in many ways.

A bit posh too. A smart mind perched on superb pair of boobs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're also way more aware than you seem to realise and can pick up on the emotion behind the words, the between the lines stuff.

You don't hurt people purposely, so if you do it comes from a good place, a reality check kinda thing. You don't suffer fools and have a soft side that I'm seeing much more of late. A side that's utterly beautiful, sentimental and makes me absolutely melt with happiness for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does my profile see negative?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - ."

I could imagine that you occasionally jump in feet first and then have to backtrack.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I can be incredibly argumentative and blunt - .

I could imagine that you occasionally jump in feet first and then have to backtrack."

Yes I do, very astute Torch. Can I blame the Italian heritage? No, being serious, there's almost a torrent of words that come spilling out at times. And sometimes I regret them. It's why I try and take time before I respond to certain things. Or feel I have to clarify what I meant in case of misunderstanding. Work in progress.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't think you show all of that on the forums. You're not far wrong in your assessment but I think you bite your lip and hold your tongue often, in order to keep the peace.

You're incredibly astute, intelligent and understand people probably as well as I do. Fiercely loyal and wear your heart on your sleeve in a very vulnerable but disarming way. I think you expect a lot from people, which isn't a bad thing and forgive their failings but you take those personally which I hate seeing.

Probably too liberal with the cock pass but the quim wants what the quim wants!

One of my favourite people and a genuine treasure. I'm proud to call you my friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where to start with you? Sassy, headstrong, opinionated and sometimes incredibly argumentative in your own understated way.

A few insecurities you still need to win over to make your star really shine...

Never belittle yourself, even when you don’t really mean it, as many on here will believe what you are saying. Surround yourself with strong women as they will nourish you and give you what you need.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

As a married and cheating bloke on here I know that I’m unlikely to be highly thought of. However I try to be honest on here and it’s that ability to be honest that I really enjoy, as I can’t be honest at home.

That seems to go against the grain of popular opinion here where if I’m not honest with my partner, I’ll never be honest about anything else. That’s an opinion that I see here often and it hurts.

I’m far from attractive physically so I’m limited to the kind of photos I can show.

I try to laugh at stuff, often my forum comments are made to get people smiling so I probably come across as flippant or a bit of a twat.

I’ve occasionally been completely open about my mental health and reason for being unfaithful and it’s brought some support in private messages and some have said it’s good to be open as they’re having similar issues but were afraid to say. Hopefully that’s a good thing that I’ve brought.

I’m not cool or popular so most people don’t know who I am. I’m mostly ok with that. I expect most people who see my post on here to think “who?”

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I simply just wallow in misery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a married and cheating bloke on here I know that I’m unlikely to be highly thought of. However I try to be honest on here and it’s that ability to be honest that I really enjoy, as I can’t be honest at home.

I’m far from attractive physically so I’m limited to the kind of photos I can show.

I try to laugh at stuff, often my forum comments are made to get people smiling so I probably come across as flippant or a bit of a twat.

I’m not cool or popular so most people don’t know who I am. I’m mostly ok with that. I expect most people who see my post on here to think “who?”"

Mad have chatted and I have never thought of you like this

. I’m sorry you feel so badly about yourself.

I have always enjoyed your thread comments, never argumentative and always trying to lighten the atmosphere. Your reasons for being on Fab are your own, you have been honest and open and many will appreciate you for this. Please pm me if you want to discuss further but thank you for being you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as avarage looking

I'm to young for some on here

I'm too small for some on here

Non of that matters though as we all like different looks and body types

I make up for things with my fun loving nature and I'm always laughing

So I don't care how people see me as I'm happy with just being me

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!!

I'm going to find it and talk nonsence on there as usual

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!!

I think you're sharp, funny but keep yourself to yourself of late, which is a shame as I always enjoyed your posts.

Fun and flirty is how I would probably have typified your posts in general. Discerning and know your own mind.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!!

Oh no! Sorry Lady Lick.

I think you're not Mrs Average at all. You're beautiful. It always surprises me that you're not 5ft10 or something.

As far as being aloof, no, not in the slightest. You're quite reserved on the forum but always friendly and cheerful when you contribute.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see myself as avarage looking

I'm to young for some on here

I'm too small for some on here

Non of that matters though as we all like different looks and body types

I make up for things with my fun loving nature and I'm always laughing

So I don't care how people see me as I'm happy with just being me

I don't think that age or size is the same barrier to women as it is to men. I can't speak as to my impressions of you as a poster as I've only just seen you though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see myself as avarage looking

I'm to young for some on here

I'm too small for some on here

Non of that matters though as we all like different looks and body types

I make up for things with my fun loving nature and I'm always laughing

So I don't care how people see me as I'm happy with just being me

I don't think that age or size is the same barrier to women as it is to men. I can't speak as to my impressions of you as a poster as I've only just seen you though. "

See....I'm too small for people to notice

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I wasn't fishing but I do appreciate those views because I've been known to worry what people think of me in the past, in rl to. I'm not so bothered anymore.

I wish I was 5'10, it's amazing what difference another 4.5'' can do for a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish I was 5'10, it's amazing what difference another 4.5'' can do for a woman

It doesn't matter because your personality is 6'6!

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I wasn't fishing but I do appreciate those views because I've been known to worry what people think of me in the past, in rl to. I'm not so bothered anymore.

I wish I was 5'10, it's amazing what difference another 4.5'' can do for a woman

That would make mine 5.5 inches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh back again

Taff , a splendidly happy ,positive chap who is straight out of an Enid Blyton novel . Oh I enjoy waffling on and wandering the hills of North Wales.

Jolly friendly , not super sexy but classically daft

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!!

I didn’t read your earlier post but I’ll tell you what I think without looking because I’m dead brave

You’re funny on here, sometimes you get frustrated but you’re far from the only one. Your photos are excellent and the status updates that go with them show how you have confidence and can enjoy your sexuality.

That’s an incredibly attractive trait.

All that plus the fact I work about 2 miles from you means that you’re on my hotlist, I wish I was on your sexual conquests list

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"I wasn't fishing but I do appreciate those views because I've been known to worry what people think of me in the past, in rl to. I'm not so bothered anymore.

I wish I was 5'10, it's amazing what difference another 4.5'' can do for a woman

Don’t be a wally. You were the perfect height.............

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly "
I don't get that from you at all, I get chic, sophisticated, mature,sexy, aloof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly "

I think that's pretty spot on, plus humourous

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts:

How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated. Stubborn as a mule at times too.

Over to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts:

Over to you

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forum pappa bear

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

This is what I put on yesterdays thread, which had 2 replies of which I appreciate, I would also be interested in others opinion of me.

I like to be nice, other people find this annoying but I genuinely think the world would be a better place if others were too, I'm passionate, loyal and I try to always see the positive in things however this trait has led to me being nieve at times. I lack confidence and ability to rock the skin I'm in.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts:

Over to you

Opinionated, verbose and eloquent. So serious and mature about things. Like a pit bull when you believe in something as you won’t let go. I often pity the poster who decides to battle it out with you but enjoy the read with my gin or popcorn to hand. So politically correct and confident- sometimes. A bit like the OP

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts:

Over to you

I'd agree with what you typed.

You are very opinionated. I think sometimes you're perhaps not as willing to listen to others as you wish to be; not as willing to consider the alternative view. It makes for an amusing read.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I didn't see Incandescent's before I started typing.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!!

With apologies for pasting your post from the last across

"I see myself as Mrs Average who is a great friend but quite shy in social settings. I know some people find me aloof which I find a bit upsetting because I'm really not!"

I don't see you as Mrs Average at all - you strike me as classy, creative, fun and with more than just a bit of a naughty twinkle. You give good advice when called to, and have an empathetic side which stands out. You know what you're looking for from the site and won't compromise to get it, which may explain why some think you're aloof but that's wide of the mark if they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m pasting mine from the last thread too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts:

Over to you

A welcomer, an includer. A helper - especially if someone makes the effort to help themself you'll back them all the way. Kind hearted and sticks by your guns when you're right. The kind of soul people go to for advice as you know that it will be honest even if it isn't what you may want to hear

A real gem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m pasting mine from the last thread too

With the wisdom and compassion to be someone others are lucky to call a friend. An open book who owns his shit, will raise his hands when believing he's wrong. A good heart with a no nonsense side, unless the side is being a prat and having a giggle. Wonderful human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wondering how I got here? Wondering even more why I stay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what I put on yesterdays thread, which had 2 replies of which I appreciate, I would also be interested in others opinion of me.

Jo.Xx"

I don't see the lacking in confidence I must admit. A flirty ball of fun who doesn't want to stand out TOO much and is happy to find her own place rather than try to force something or someone she may not be. Caring and considerate. A good egg

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly I don't get that from you at all, I get chic, sophisticated, mature,sexy, aloof

Perhaps I ought to have checked with you first, that’s probably more accurate

and thank you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts:

Over to you

Not going to disagree with either you or Meli completely like I said I'm a stubborn old mule at times but usually on the subject of values I hold dear and feel both knowledgeable and able to discuss, and yep I do like to have the last word - it's a lifelong trait

I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking.

And why use 10 words when 100 can be used

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly

I think that's pretty spot on, plus humourous

Ha ha you know me too well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my profile I come across as a demanding little bitch. In reality I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly I don't get that from you at all, I get chic, sophisticated, mature,sexy, aloof

Perhaps I ought to have checked with you first, that’s probably more accurate

and thank you"
please do I am your humble servant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m pasting mine from the last thread too

P"
Tear in my eye

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I'd disagree that I'm opinionated as such, I'll listen to others and take on board what they say, but if I disagree with their opinion I'll defend mine to the hilt, but I also hold my hands up and admit I was wrong in the face of a reasoned opinion that sways my thinking.

And why use 10 words when 100 can be used

Oh GM. This has made me smile a lot. Not in a mean way. It's just a very *you* response.

But yes, if you thought you were opinionated you would have put that in how you see yourself. Perception is subjective isn't it? We add our experiences, our own views on to others posts they might not see themselves.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I'd agree with all that although I did think you must have a silly side because you're seeing Moriarty.

You seem like one of those genuinely nice people; it's a banal word nice but not intended that way."

I agree with Meli Miss Red, you’re an absolutely lovely lady

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"This is what I put on yesterdays thread, which had 2 replies of which I appreciate, I would also be interested in others opinion of me.

Jo.Xx"

You are both two very lovely people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And why use 10 words when 100 can be used

Oh GM. This has made me smile a lot. Not in a mean way. It's just a very *you* response.

This time you beat me to it Meli. I 100% wanted to say the same...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On my profile I come across as a demanding little bitch. In reality I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet. "

Someone who is not apologetic for liking what they like and being who they are, as it is your right to do and be those things and you have every right to be happy. Generally a happy person who can get pissed off when people behave like idiots and you will tell them in no uncertain terms. Someone who's relationship clearly means more to them than anything in the world and has a world full of love surrounding them.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly "

I thought at first you didn't particularly care for many on here. Since seeing more of your posts I've realised you're incredibly inclusive, intelligent, fun, (a bit snobby about some things!) and yes, very loyal. I like having my opinions changed about forumites - my perception of you has definitely changed for the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh back again

Taff , a splendidly happy ,positive chap who is straight out of an Enid Blyton novel . Oh I enjoy waffling on and wandering the hills of North Wales.

Jolly friendly , not super sexy but classically daft

A lover of life and the wonder nature can bring. Oozes positivity even in the face of adversity and joy spreader. Something incredibly calming about your aura. Wants people to be their best selves.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

And why use 10 words when 100 can be used

Oh GM. This has made me smile a lot. Not in a mean way. It's just a very *you* response.

I know it was and wrote it that way for a reason

And of course perception is subjective both self and of others - like I said not disagreeing with you as such, or defending myself - if I was shallow enough to believe otherwise on any of those counts I wouldn't have posted in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On my profile I come across as a demanding little bitch. In reality I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet. "

No you don’t! You stand up for what you believe in and aren’t afraid to say so even if it goes against the majority belief

. Keep doing so, you’re like a breathe of fresh air

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly

like having my opinions changed about forumites - my perception of you has definitely changed for the better."

thank you Meli! Yes I can be a bit of a snob at times I’m aware of that, it’s not intentional I just appreciate the finer things in life. It’s not that I don’t particularly care for some here, I tend to gravitate towards those that stand out as my kind of personalities and will therefore interact accordingly. I don’t do acerbic people in my life..... therefore lurk on occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On my profile I come across as a demanding little bitch. In reality I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet.

No you don’t! You stand up for what you believe in and aren’t afraid to say so even if it goes against the majority belief

. Keep doing so, you’re like a breathe of fresh air

Thank you sweetie xoxo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly

I think that's pretty spot on, plus humourous

Ha ha you know me too well

I only replied so I can come and nick your posh caviar and champers on the sly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And why use 10 words when 100 can be used

Oh GM. This has made me smile a lot. Not in a mean way. It's just a very *you* response.

I know it was and wrote it that way for a reason

This is kind of the beauty of this thread.

It's not intended as an echo chamber or to tell each other how wonderful or lovely we all are. It's to get a snapshot of how others see us and how that differs from how we see ourselves.

The purpose is to shift the perspective and see outside ourselves...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts:

Over to you

A real gem.

A friend for life. Passionate, compassionate, silly, thoughtful, considerate, understanding, ready to fight the fight when you need to, vulnerable but learning. Fiercely loyal, offer reasoned and balanced advice often surprisingly not what was expected but always bang on the mark. Not frightened to give a kick in the nuts when it's called for but also capable of holding close and providing comfort.

That's the one, the only, they broke the mould Princess Peach in a nutshell.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly

I think that's pretty spot on, plus humourous

Ha ha you know me too well

I only replied so I can come and nick your posh caviar and champers on the sly.

Caviar

champers you are welcome to share

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

And why use 10 words when 100 can be used

Oh GM. This has made me smile a lot. Not in a mean way. It's just a very *you* response.

I know it was and wrote it that way for a reason

This is kind of the beauty of this thread.

It's not intended as an echo chamber or to tell each other how wonderful or lovely we all are. It's to get a snapshot of how others see us and how that differs from how we see ourselves.

The purpose is to shift the perspective and see outside ourselves...

Nail on the head as ever TM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure if this is opening a can of worms

I believe I’m pretty affable with my fellow forumites (the majority anyway) although yes I may appear a tad stern at times. I am a loyal and trusting person however, I don’t suffer fools gladly

I think that's pretty spot on, plus humourous

Ha ha you know me too well

I only replied so I can come and nick your posh caviar and champers on the sly.

Caviar

champers you are welcome to share

I ain't eating the caviar.... I'm selling it on Ebay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts:

Over to you

A real gem.

That's the one, the only, they broke the mould Princess Peach in a nutshell."

I nearly blushed but fuck it.... I'm taking a motherfucking bow for that

Thank you Archimedes

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Meli & Miss.Red are lovely people

I see myself as an optimist, confident and know what I want. I’m not really interested in gossip, very loyal to my friends, will stick up for people if someone else is giving them a bad time for no reason.

I love intelligent humour, men that look like Musketeers and organising parties

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Meli & Miss.Red are lovely people

I love intelligent humour, men that look like Musketeers and organising parties

Oh and with a crap figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of a piss taker. Sometimes impatient and sometimes critical... though more critical of myself. Fiercely loyal to those I've developed a care for. I can be pretty straight, but try to sprinkle some sugar on my harshness, because i don't like to hurt people's feelings. Only those closest to me get to see how dark and dry my humour can get

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And why use 10 words when 100 can be used

Oh GM. This has made me smile a lot. Not in a mean way. It's just a very *you* response.

I know it was and wrote it that way for a reason

This is kind of the beauty of this thread.

It's not intended as an echo chamber or to tell each other how wonderful or lovely we all are. It's to get a snapshot of how others see us and how that differs from how we see ourselves.

The purpose is to shift the perspective and see outside ourselves...

I’m not sure how much of my ‘blind self’ would be really be revealed on a thread like this. However I think those who have quite a negative self-perception and are critical of themselves. are likely to receive positive affirmation of their qualities that can help challenge that self-critical view. As a result that may shift one’s perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh back again

Taff , a splendidly happy ,positive chap who is straight out of an Enid Blyton novel . Oh I enjoy waffling on and wandering the hills of North Wales.

Jolly friendly , not super sexy but classically daft

A lover of life and the wonder nature can bring. Oozes positivity even in the face of adversity and joy spreader. Something incredibly calming about your aura. Wants people to be their best selves.

P"
Thank you that was so kind x

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

Loyal, funny, honest, reasonable attractive, protective of my friends and those I care for, well presented and approachable guy...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Taff I think you are a very genuine and caring person. But that you may be hiding some sorrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Taff I think you are a very genuine and caring person. But that you may be hiding some sorrow."
thank you , its always good to take the things that may hurt you and help shape your future , take positives from negatives and move forward x

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"This is what I put on yesterdays thread, which had 2 replies of which I appreciate, I would also be interested in others opinion of me.

Jo.Xx

Thanks P, I think that's fair, I'm still learning about my sexual desires and how to deal with certain emotions that come with them too. I am a big overthinker and that's what knocks my confidence. I'm pleased my caring and considerate side shows though.

Thank you for being so supportive.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit of a piss taker. Sometimes impatient and sometimes critical... though more critical of myself. Fiercely loyal to those I've developed a care for. I can be pretty straight, but try to sprinkle some sugar on my harshness, because i don't like to hurt people's feelings. Only those closest to me get to see how dark and dry my humour can get

Holly"

You come across as much softer than that to me Holly. I don’t perceive that harder edge in the same way as you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well my post on the other thread was overlooked so now my self esteem is in tatters, I now know how I'm perceived on here!!

"
so was mine. Shouldnt worry about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And why use 10 words when 100 can be used

Oh GM. This has made me smile a lot. Not in a mean way. It's just a very *you* response.

I know it was and wrote it that way for a reason

This is kind of the beauty of this thread.

It's not intended as an echo chamber or to tell each other how wonderful or lovely we all are. It's to get a snapshot of how others see us and how that differs from how we see ourselves.

The purpose is to shift the perspective and see outside ourselves...

I think that people reveal more of themselves than they ever realise on here and certainly over time, words and intents can build up a picture that a person may not know or recognise about themselves.

We all have mental pictures of ourselves that we believe, whether it be negative or positive, getting outside views can help us to see a broader view that we may have been ignorant or blind to.

That was the intent of the thread. Its nice to hear nice things about ourselves too but not my original intent.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"This is what I put on yesterdays thread, which had 2 replies of which I appreciate, I would also be interested in others opinion of me.

Jo.Xx

You are both two very lovely people

Thank you DC, you were one of the first to welcome us to fab with such a warm friendly welcome, then we met you at the MLS, you confirmed our thoughts that you are a genuinely a lovely person who is funny sexy and always friendly, thank you for your friendship and positive comments on us both.

Jo.Xx

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

I'll try again with a couple of amendments.

I see my social self as a well meaning, basically decent but socially awkward buffoon whose attempts at humour often come across as flippancy. A worrier, constantly second guessing how my words/actions will be percieved. Self deprecating which doesn't always do me any favours. My social persona is far removed from my professional one.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I will have another go. Honest. Straighr talking opinionate. Pretty self aware and inciteful. Underneath the exterior. Warm. Kind generous. Quite retisant and only my true friends see the real me. In also soft as shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And why use 10 words when 100 can be used

Oh GM. This has made me smile a lot. Not in a mean way. It's just a very *you* response.

I know it was and wrote it that way for a reason

This is kind of the beauty of this thread.

It's not intended as an echo chamber or to tell each other how wonderful or lovely we all are. It's to get a snapshot of how others see us and how that differs from how we see ourselves.

The purpose is to shift the perspective and see outside ourselves...

We all have mental pictures of ourselves that we believe, whether it be negative or positive, getting outside views can help us to see a broader view that we may have been ignorant or blind to.

That was the intent of the thread. Its nice to hear nice things about ourselves too but not my original intent. "

I understand the intent Tea. I’m still not sure how many of our blind spots would be revealed on this thread. I agree that we do reveal a lot about ourselves on this site. However I don’t think we are really likely to shine a light on an individual’s dark side on this thread. That doesn’t devalue the thread’s worth though as I see it as positive. And I’ve enjoyed participating in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see myself as an average, middle aged woman who has been blessed with good genes.. obviously I'm over average in the height department..

Someone who's been through her fair share of shit, but can embrace the happiness and good stuff when it comes along. Sarcastic but not in a mean way.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I don't expect much from this exercise 'cos I've only seen three people on here that I've actually met. So, I'm, an older 'silver fox' type, (so my daughter's friends' say), kind, friendly, helpful, respectful, Peter Pan like and won't grow up easily. fiercely loyal, honest and ridiculously horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will have another go. Honest. Straighr talking opinionate. Pretty self aware and inciteful. Underneath the exterior. Warm. Kind generous. Quite retisant and only my true friends see the real me. In also soft as shit"

I think you come across as forthright with a vulnerable side. Will pull people up on stuff if you think they're wrong

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

how I see myself, fat, head strong, strong willed, demanding, independent and not so organised with a element of dreamer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly.

I've a kind heart and will help others.

I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be. "

I think you're short sexy and hot. And really nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are friendly and easy going, both shy in new surroundings with new people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes your straight talking makes me go

but I like it because you're honest and don't mean anything nasty by it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I’m pasting mine from the last thread too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m far from attractive physically so I’m limited to the kind of photos I can show.

I try to laugh at stuff, often my forum comments are made to get people smiling so I probably come across as flippant or a bit of a twat.

I’m not cool or popular so most people don’t know who I am. I’m mostly ok with that. I expect most people who see my post on here to think “who?”"

I like your posts, you usually say something really cool and/ or insightful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make no excuses for pasting my self-perception from the last thread here - joined that one late so am open to more thoughts:

Over to you

forum pappa bear

Perfect, yes this.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sometimes your straight talking makes me go

but I like it because you're honest and don't mean anything nasty by it."
Thats true i dont mean anything nasty. I see words not people and respond to the words doesnt mean i dont like the person

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly.

I've a kind heart and will help others.

I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be.

Huge heart and open book. Someone who many people would consider very lucky to have in their corner.

Bless you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m pasting mine from the last thread too

Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice. congratulations your seeing yourself as others see you. The reforming self depreciater is working"
Thanks DS. I put my comment on yours on the first thread. I have always valued your warmth, openness, humour and willingness to talk openly about your challenges. Your support for others is admirable. I have also personally appreciated your forthright feedback even when it was difficult to hear, because I learned from it. I’m finally shaking off my self-deprecating ways however there are some things about myself I will probably continue to take the piss out of until they change, because it amuses me to do so and keeps me grounded

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I still see myself as short, fat and ugly.

I've a kind heart and will help others.

I try not to be nasty until there is a need for me to be.

I think you're short sexy and hot. And really nice. "

Thank you x

Your one straight talking lady who doesn't stand for any bs.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Is this a thread where you'll have to say nice things about me Tea?

"
I see you as intelligent and wordly wise. Find it hard to believe your still in your 20a with your knowledge. Your also self aware

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're all brilliant then?

This was better when it was done by pm, there was a certain brutality about it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"You're all brilliant then?

This was better when it was done by pm, there was a certain brutality about it.

"
Didnt like or understand him when he first used the forums but ive come round now

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I like to be nice, other people find this annoying but I genuinely think the world would be a better place if others were too, I'm passionate, loyal and I try to always see the positive in things however this trait has led to me being nieve at times. I lack confidence and ability to rock the skin I'm in.

Jo.Xx"

On the forums you are all of those positive things Jo - your niceness isn't annoying, it's an incredibly positive thing to be. You do sometimes come across as uncertain but you shouldn't lack confidence, it's easy to say that, not so easy to do. I hope you find the inner belief in how wonderful you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last word

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