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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Following on from a thought that I had on my previous thread, I thought I'd give this a go.

Often how we see ourselves is very different from how others do; whether it be a very negative view of ourselves or in some cases a case of over inflated ego.

So in terms of redressing that balance I thought it might be good to see how others see us.

The way this works; post how you see yourself, honestly and then others can reply to you on the thread constructively.

No bitching or nastiness please, but also no saccharine compliments and currying favour, this only works if everyone is respectful and honest.

Please also remember folks that it's personal opinions only.

OK...

Let's see how this goes!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Go ahead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go ahead. "

If you post how you see yourself first, then we can go from that. It's about comparison as much as feedback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tall, ginger and pale? Can't really argue with that, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

eh I see myself as a bit of a pouty goof ball that posts a lot of nonsense on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self doubting

Under achieving

Using humour to escape from uncomfortable situations

Rarely display emotions in public/to others

Reserved

Stubborn

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tall, ginger and pale? Can't really argue with that, surely?"

OK, I was thinking about character more than just physical representation. Looks do play a part but I'm asking for a touch of introspection too.

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Red head. Bubbly. Mad. Funny. Happy. Not for everyone one but hey ho. Abit like marmite

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Honest. Straightforward. Opinionated. But underneath warm. kind and soft as shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as a jolly affable chap , friendly , happy and positive . Kind and polite too

I like to think people like me or should I say Taff , though my persona on here and in real life are quite the same .

I was called uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey the other day ha ha , so don't mention the fishing trip

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"eh I see myself as a bit of a pouty goof ball that posts a lot of nonsense on here "

Thanks Mikki, that's the sort of thing I was thinking of. Now it's up to others to state what they think constructively

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obnoxious, facetious, sarcastic, self-important, arrogant, confident, entertaining.

Though, I can also at times be: shy, caring, loving and selfless.

I'm a total paradox.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"Self doubting

Under achieving

Using humour to escape from uncomfortable situations

Rarely display emotions in public/to others

Reserved

Stubborn"

Ah I always thought you were confident erring on very and not particularly reserved. I guess I read you and add my own interpretation to your words.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The way I present here, I'd say I'm smart, reasonably sure of myself, and don't take shit. Friendly when I have the bandwidth or don't feel it'll be abused/ misconstrued. I hint at other sides to me but don't go into it openly.

I'm also acutely aware that this is a persona. Based on the real me, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who stands up for what they believe in, even if it goes against the grain.

Random as fuck.

Caring and considerate but not afraid to speak up if I feel something is unjust.

Tentative at times, and unsure of myself.

Sensitive yet strong.

And pretty fucking funny.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm ok...

Physically I'm fat and fairly plain and ordinary. I don't get attention in the real world. I get it here because I take an alright selfie and have nice lips.

Personality wise I genuinely think I'm lovely. I have a lot of self doubt and insecurities but I'm also fairly quick witted, articulate and above all great company. I'm a likeable delight

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"eh I see myself as a bit of a pouty goof ball that posts a lot of nonsense on here "

I see you as sharp acerbic and rather wry, I think you use humour as a tool to get your point across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Red head. Bubbly. Mad. Funny. Happy. Not for everyone one but hey ho. Abit like marmite "

This is exactly how I see you too. Plus sassy, sexy and smart.

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"Red head. Bubbly. Mad. Funny. Happy. Not for everyone one but hey ho. Abit like marmite

This is exactly how I see you too. Plus sassy, sexy and smart."

Aw thanks someone gets me

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"I see myself as a jolly affable chap , friendly , happy and positive . Kind and polite too

I like to think people like me or should I say Taff , though my persona on here and in real life are quite the same .

I was called uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey the other day ha ha , so don't mention the fishing trip

"

I think you're all of those things Taff. I also remember that you're almost fiercely loyal to friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way I present here, I'd say I'm smart, reasonably sure of myself, and don't take shit. Friendly when I have the bandwidth or don't feel it'll be abused/ misconstrued. I hint at other sides to me but don't go into it openly.

I'm also acutely aware that this is a persona. Based on the real me, though. "

I see smart, determined, opinionated, stubborn with a very individualistic style and outlook on life. Perhaps a little unsure of your own abilities but your confidence is growing since the weightlifting and pm threads started.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I’m rather jolly nice if I do say so myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Obnoxious, facetious, sarcastic, self-important, arrogant, confident, entertaining.

Though, I can also at times be: shy, caring, loving and selfless.

I'm a total paradox."

From what I've seen of you, you're opinionated, tenacious and articulate although not willing to accept that you *might* be wrong.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Self doubting

Under achieving

Using humour to escape from uncomfortable situations

Rarely display emotions in public/to others

Reserved

Stubborn"

Never thought any of those, but then we haven't met. You do not come across at all reserved.

Jo x

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I see myself as a jolly affable chap , friendly , happy and positive . Kind and polite too

I like to think people like me or should I say Taff , though my persona on here and in real life are quite the same .

I was called uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey the other day ha ha , so don't mention the fishing trip

"

You are always bright and cheerful Taff, summed yourself up pretty well I'd say

Jo x

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

A great friend and a horrible enemy.

Loving, caring and generous.

Will always tell the truth as I’m a crap lier.

Can be a little stuck up.

Confident, witty and funny.

I have my insecurities and self doubts which can show every now and then.

Attentive, affectionate and loyal.

Love male attention and have definitely sound my inner sexy

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Someone who stands up for what they believe in, even if it goes against the grain.

Random as fuck.

Caring and considerate but not afraid to speak up if I feel something is unjust.

Tentative at times, and unsure of myself.

Sensitive yet strong.

And pretty fucking funny.

P"

This will be utterly swayed by the fact I adore you but yes, you are all of those things. And so wonderfully loving and a great believer in others. Authentic.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"A great friend and a horrible enemy.

Loving, caring and generous.

Will always tell the truth as I’m a crap lier.

Can be a little stuck up.

Confident, witty and funny.

I have my insecurities and self doubts which can show every now and then.

Attentive, affectionate and loyal.

Love male attention and have definitely sound my inner sexy

"

*found not sound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Self doubting

Under achieving

Using humour to escape from uncomfortable situations

Rarely display emotions in public/to others

Reserved

Stubborn

Ah I always thought you were confident erring on very and not particularly reserved. I guess I read you and add my own interpretation to your words. "

That's because you don't know me in real life, you just see the online image.

I try to be more light hearted and engaging online as opposed to real life. I'm interacting with a group of people so being shy and reserved doesn't really work.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Physically: Skinny, not attractive, nice eyes

Mentally: Together, self assured (arrogant), thoughtful and frivolous, weird

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I see myself as pretty confident in my work and as a wife and mum.

Here I'm not so confident, but it's still early days.

I guess I hide behind pics taken at good angles.

I'd like to think people see me as a nice, fair person. I hope I treat people like I'd like them to treat me.

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I project a positive image even though sometimes I don't feel that way.

Occasionally, I kid myself, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone who stands up for what they believe in, even if it goes against the grain.

Random as fuck.

Caring and considerate but not afraid to speak up if I feel something is unjust.

Tentative at times, and unsure of myself.

Sensitive yet strong.

And pretty fucking funny.

P"

I have to agree with you, at least from the forum experience that's pretty spot on, especially the 1st and last point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself as pretty confident in my work and as a wife and mum.

Here I'm not so confident, but it's still early days.

I guess I hide behind pics taken at good angles.

I'd like to think people see me as a nice, fair person. I hope I treat people like I'd like them to treat me.

Jo x "

I enjoy your posts and seeing you grow in confidence in the forums . Always fun and polite, and your pictures are marvellous,

Only one thing more to add , move to north Wales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Physically: Skinny, not attractive, nice eyes

Mentally: Together, self assured (arrogant), thoughtful and frivolous, weird"

Physically: beautiful. An artist’s muse, sensitive and delicate (yeah yeah I know you don’t like that but still).

Mentally: challenging, self assured, very witty, spontaneous, a tad arrogant and totally off your rocker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Self doubting

Under achieving

Using humour to escape from uncomfortable situations

Rarely display emotions in public/to others

Reserved

Stubborn

Never thought any of those, but then we haven't met. You do not come across at all reserved.

Jo x"

Really, not even stubborn ?

I'm not so much reserved here as it's about engaging with others but in real life it's the opposite

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"Physically: Skinny, not attractive, nice eyes

Mentally: Together, self assured (arrogant), thoughtful and frivolous, weird

Physically: beautiful. An artist’s muse, sensitive and delicate (yeah yeah I know you don’t like that but still).

Mentally: challenging, self assured, very witty, spontaneous, a tad arrogant and totally off your rocker "

Haha couldn't have said it better

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"Hmmm ok...

Physically I'm fat and fairly plain and ordinary. I don't get attention in the real world. I get it here because I take an alright selfie and have nice lips.

Personality wise I genuinely think I'm lovely. I have a lot of self doubt and insecurities but I'm also fairly quick witted, articulate and above all great company. I'm a likeable delight

"

I'd agree with the last paragraph yes. The first is possibly those self doubts surfacing. You're definitely likeable.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Physically: Skinny, not attractive, nice eyes

Mentally: Together, self assured (arrogant), thoughtful and frivolous, weird

Physically: beautiful. An artist’s muse, sensitive and delicate (yeah yeah I know you don’t like that but still).

Mentally: challenging, self assured, very witty, spontaneous, a tad arrogant and totally off your rocker

Haha couldn't have said it better "

Is there a safeguarding officer on fab?

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"Physically: Skinny, not attractive, nice eyes

Mentally: Together, self assured (arrogant), thoughtful and frivolous, weird

Physically: beautiful. An artist’s muse, sensitive and delicate (yeah yeah I know you don’t like that but still).

Mentally: challenging, self assured, very witty, spontaneous, a tad arrogant and totally off your rocker

Haha couldn't have said it better

Is there a safeguarding officer on fab? "

Behave someone is saying something nice about you

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

In all honesty right now I'm not sure how I see myself. Greatly conflicted is a good description.

Torn

In flux between who I want to be but also nothing worth of note or unique. Confident but greatly lacking confidence.

Oh also definitely somebody who rambles on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self doubting

Keep to myself

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Mmmm i’d Say i’m:

Bit fiery

Bit moody

Not very approachable

Dry humoured

A loner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am just a bloody nuisance most days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obnoxious, facetious, sarcastic, self-important, arrogant, confident, entertaining.

Though, I can also at times be: shy, caring, loving and selfless.

I'm a total paradox."

Selflessness doesn't exist.

I definitely find you funny and confident, and the arrogance usually comes in with humour so I say that's a positive one if anything.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I see myself as pretty confident in my work and as a wife and mum.

Here I'm not so confident, but it's still early days.

I guess I hide behind pics taken at good angles.

I'd like to think people see me as a nice, fair person. I hope I treat people like I'd like them to treat me.

Jo x "

You’ve always come across well on the posts i’ve seen, so i’d agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I am just a bloody nuisance most days"

And what’s wrong with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I am just a bloody nuisance most days

And what’s wrong with that?"

Well I do bugger all to change it so....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"eh I see myself as a bit of a pouty goof ball that posts a lot of nonsense on here "
I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obnoxious, facetious, sarcastic, self-important, arrogant, confident, entertaining.

Though, I can also at times be: shy, caring, loving and selfless.

I'm a total paradox.

From what I've seen of you, you're opinionated, tenacious and articulate although not willing to accept that you *might* be wrong. "

I agree with all of that, apart from possibly being wrong. That just cannot happen, ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obnoxious, facetious, sarcastic, self-important, arrogant, confident, entertaining.

Though, I can also at times be: shy, caring, loving and selfless.

I'm a total paradox.

Selflessness doesn't exist.

I definitely find you funny and confident, and the arrogance usually comes in with humour so I say that's a positive one if anything. "

I love you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I am just a bloody nuisance most days

And what’s wrong with that?

Well I do bugger all to change it so.... "

So you must be ok with it and the people you think you are annoying deserve it

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"Mmmm i’d Say i’m:

Bit fiery

Bit moody

Not very approachable

Dry humoured

A loner"

I think you have a brilliant sense of dry humour. Your posts often make smile with your quick and easy wit. I don't know if you want to be approachable if that makes sense? But you come across as being very caring and loving to those who you choose to be that way with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as light hearted occasionally sarcy, very social and approachable

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"eh I see myself as a bit of a pouty goof ball that posts a lot of nonsense on here "

I see you in the same way,but also someone that doesn't take nonsense from anyone else,is great fun and someone with the mentality of take me or leave me I really don't give a hoot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Physically: Skinny, not attractive, nice eyes

Mentally: Together, self assured (arrogant), thoughtful and frivolous, weird

Physically: beautiful. An artist’s muse, sensitive and delicate (yeah yeah I know you don’t like that but still).

Mentally: challenging, self assured, very witty, spontaneous, a tad arrogant and totally off your rocker "
was that about you or someone else?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Someone who stands up for what they believe in, even if it goes against the grain.

Random as fuck.

Caring and considerate but not afraid to speak up if I feel something is unjust.

Tentative at times, and unsure of myself.

Sensitive yet strong.

And pretty fucking funny.

P"

Yep I'd agree apart from the tentative bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself as light hearted occasionally sarcy, very social and approachable "

Have to agree with you although you do let that well hidden intelligent side emerge for a few seconds now and again . The proverbial bar owner who keeps order by keeping everyone happy through lightening the atmosphere...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself as light hearted occasionally sarcy, very social and approachable

Have to agree with you although you do let that well hidden intelligent side emerge for a few seconds now and again . The proverbial bar owner who keeps order by keeping everyone happy through lightening the atmosphere..."
lol thankyou

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Mmmm i’d Say i’m:

Bit fiery

Bit moody

Not very approachable

Dry humoured

A loner

I think you have a brilliant sense of dry humour. Your posts often make smile with your quick and easy wit. I don't know if you want to be approachable if that makes sense? But you come across as being very caring and loving to those who you choose to be that way with."

Thank you Meli x

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

I'm one of life's good guys;

Caring, thoughtful, intuative and good company.

Perceptions can sometimes be skewed by my confident demeanour, leading others to see me as arrogant and egotistical - believe me though, there's a sensitive soul beneath the outer casing.

I don't suffer fools gladly, and enjoy the company of others equally matched on an intellectual level.

At times, I'm probably too nice for my own good...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm one of life's good guys;

Caring, thoughtful, intuative and good company.

Perceptions can sometimes be skewed by my confident demeanour, leading others to see me as arrogant and egotistical - believe me though, there's a sensitive soul beneath the outer casing.

I don't suffer fools gladly, and enjoy the company of others equally matched on an intellectual level.

At times, I'm probably too nice for my own good..."

You like your persona of being arrogant but I don’t think you are really. Your comments in threads are sometimes totally inappropriate but you do that on purpose so realise what the consequences will be. You enjoy playing the windup merchant. At other times you offer help in a positive funny way.

Egoistic? Yes. Smart? Not sure but could be depending on the working definition we’re using

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Opinionated, argumentative, unloveable, angry, frustrating, hurtful cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Opinionated, argumentative, unloveable, angry, frustrating, hurtful cunt. "

Did I just walk into a domestic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sarcastic , reserved , nice ... I honestly don’t know

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I see myself as Mrs Average who is a great friend but quite shy in social settings. I know some people find me aloof which I find a bit upsetting because I'm really not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seemyself like a total failure but I do have nice shoes.

I try to be above average by adding a cock ring yet it makes my hard on becomes a lob on.

On a regular basis I cry under the shower because all those moments will be lost in time... like tears in rain or in that case in the water drops that come from my shower that cant even give me hot water ! Even my shower failed me. Mind you not paying the bill may have been the causs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself like a total failure but I do have nice shoes.

I try to be above average by adding a cock ring yet it makes my hard on becomes a lob on.

On a regular basis I cry under the shower because all those moments will be lost in time... like tears in rain or in that case in the water drops that come from my shower that cant even give me hot water ! Even my shower failed me. Mind you not paying the bill may have been the cause"

I'd like to add that the perception that others have on me doesn't have to be my reality anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sarcastic , reserved , nice ... I honestly don’t know "

Observant, diplomatic, in the know, on the ball plus more confident than you lead us to believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How I see myself?

I'm a decent bloke, intelligent, good heart, good head, common sense, probably more mate material than fuck material, prone to making ill timed daft comments, but make some on point ones too

Not much to look at, but personality and the way I carry myself wins me admirers as does my warmth, understanding and patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sarcastic , reserved , nice ... I honestly don’t know

Observant, diplomatic, in the know, on the ball plus more confident than you lead us to believe "

Oh I’m not confident at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seemyself like a total failure but I do have nice shoes.

I try to be above average by adding a cock ring yet it makes my hard on becomes a lob on.

On a regular basis I cry under the shower because all those moments will be lost in time... like tears in rain or in that case in the water drops that come from my shower that cant even give me hot water ! Even my shower failed me. Mind you not paying the bill may have been the causs"
your not such a bad bloke can I borrow your leaf blower now please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sarcastic , reserved , nice ... I honestly don’t know

Observant, diplomatic, in the know, on the ball plus more confident than you lead us to believe

Oh I’m not confident at all "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seemyself like a total failure but I do have nice shoes.

I try to be above average by adding a cock ring yet it makes my hard on becomes a lob on.

On a regular basis I cry under the shower because all those moments will be lost in time... like tears in rain or in that case in the water drops that come from my shower that cant even give me hot water ! Even my shower failed me. Mind you not paying the bill may have been the causs your not such a bad bloke can I borrow your leaf blower now please "

Only if it is to use on boobies ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself like a total failure but I do have nice shoes.

I try to be above average by adding a cock ring yet it makes my hard on becomes a lob on.

On a regular basis I cry under the shower because all those moments will be lost in time... like tears in rain or in that case in the water drops that come from my shower that cant even give me hot water ! Even my shower failed me. Mind you not paying the bill may have been the cause

I'd like to add that the perception that others have on me doesn't have to be my reality anyway. "

You Me Fabulous are a whole load of natural forces in one tidy package. No one is really sure which one is going to appear and what level of devastation you will leave behind. Many are left wondering what the fu*k was that about after you post but that’s exactly what you want so that’s fine.

And yaas. I’m just saying what I think about you all after reading forum comments. Your reality or your persona, it doesn’t matter

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"I'm one of life's good guys;

Caring, thoughtful, intuative and good company.

Perceptions can sometimes be skewed by my confident demeanour, leading others to see me as arrogant and egotistical - believe me though, there's a sensitive soul beneath the outer casing.

I don't suffer fools gladly, and enjoy the company of others equally matched on an intellectual level.

At times, I'm probably too nice for my own good..."

I don’t think your as confident as you make out. You can be lovely and you definitely are not what you make out to be on the forums.

You are amazing guy when you show the real you and your not sidetracked. You are extremely intelligent, sweet, protective and thoughtful.

I’m actually really pleased I got to see this side of you. Even if it did go a little wrong x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I am just a bloody nuisance most days

And what’s wrong with that?

Well I do bugger all to change it so....

So you must be ok with it and the people you think you are annoying deserve it "

Haha I dunno about deserve it, they haven't complained so possibly like, or at least, don't mind it... I know some pretty weird people

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I see myself as:-

Polite

Honest

Genuine (that word)

Sarcastic

Loyal

Self conscious (hot tubs at clubs)

Friendly

Assertive

A true Goddess (must be capital G)

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I seemyself like a total failure but I do have nice shoes.

I try to be above average by adding a cock ring yet it makes my hard on becomes a lob on.

On a regular basis I cry under the shower because all those moments will be lost in time... like tears in rain or in that case in the water drops that come from my shower that cant even give me hot water ! Even my shower failed me. Mind you not paying the bill may have been the causs"

You brighten my day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seemyself like a total failure but I do have nice shoes.

I try to be above average by adding a cock ring yet it makes my hard on becomes a lob on.

On a regular basis I cry under the shower because all those moments will be lost in time... like tears in rain or in that case in the water drops that come from my shower that cant even give me hot water ! Even my shower failed me. Mind you not paying the bill may have been the causs"
I think you are a funny guy but sorry don't like the shoes, that may hurt your feelings but so be it

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Opinionated, argumentative, unloveable, angry, frustrating, hurtful cunt. "

I don't see much of the above on here,well certainly not the unloveable,angry etc bit. I see incredibly intelligent,funny,flirty,deep,thoughtful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself as:-

Polite

Honest

Genuine (that word)

Sarcastic

Loyal

Self conscious (hot tubs at clubs)

Friendly

Assertive

A true Goddess (must be capital G)

"
yes I get that about you, always respectful and helpful

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I see myself ad lacking in confidence, short, fat ugly. I have a kind heart and will do anything for others.

I like to find the positives in all situations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself ad lacking in confidence, short, fat ugly. I have a kind heart and will do anything for others.

I like to find the positives in all situations.

"
awwww well you're hardly ugly and definitely not fat and you always come across well here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as honest, kind but awkward and quiet in groups. How others see me? Probably aloof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy, bubbly, a bit awkward and annoyingly sarcastic at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happy, bubbly, a bit awkward and annoyingly sarcastic at times. "
not really noticed the sarcasm but the happy and bubbly yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happy, bubbly, a bit awkward and annoyingly sarcastic at times. "

Nah. You’re not annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Geeky outsider with an odd sense of humour that juxtaposes a relatively pretty and innocent looking exterior. Doesn't shy away from conflict but doesn't seek it either. Balanced and non-judgemental as a rule. Very open but finds making connections difficult.

I've clearly invested far too much thought into this so I should also add that I'm quite vain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happy, bubbly, a bit awkward and annoyingly sarcastic at times. "

Really not annoying. I would say positive and introspective with a healthy dose of curiosity about others. Kind and compassionate without being gushing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do I think of myself? Bit of a fuck up. Temperamental, emotional, impulsive, exploratory. A bit creative and a bit arty.

I know there are people who think I'm egotistical, vain, attention-whore, argumentative, immature, annoying, self centred and the like. Feel free to make yourselves known, so we don't have to pretend to be friendly. You dont know me, so it won't sting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awkward

A little shy until I get to know people

Self deprecating

Fat

Loving

Loyal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself as honest, kind but awkward and quiet in groups. How others see me? Probably aloof "

Distant but not uncompasionate. Very settled and content in your identity.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Most of the time I feel strong.

I dont take things too seriously unless I have to.

I like to see things through rose tinted spectacles.

I don't like to give too much of myself away ..on here at least.

I like to think I have empathy and respect for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Geeky outsider with an odd sense of humour that juxtaposes a relatively pretty and innocent looking exterior. Doesn't shy away from conflict but doesn't seek it either. Balanced and non-judgemental as a rule. Very open but finds making connections difficult.

I've clearly invested far too much thought into this so I should also add that I'm quite vain. "

I'd agree with all but the vain bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time I feel strong.

I dont take things too seriously unless I have to.

I like to see things through rose tinted spectacles.

I don't like to give too much of myself away ..on here at least.

I like to think I have empathy and respect for others"

that sounds like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do I think of myself? Bit of a fuck up. Temperamental, emotional, impulsive, exploratory. A bit creative and a bit arty.

I know there are people who think I'm egotistical, vain, attention-whore, argumentative, immature, annoying, self centred and the like. Feel free to make yourselves known, so we don't have to pretend to be friendly. You dont know me, so it won't sting."

Principled, compassionate, loyal. Great self-awareness and quickly get the measure of others, but not afraid to change your perceptions when faced with contrary evidence.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I see myself ad lacking in confidence, short, fat ugly. I have a kind heart and will do anything for others.

I like to find the positives in all situations.

"

You really are not fat or ugly. I think you're a great laugh, fun, flirty and a bloody great baker of cakes for people who don't always deserve them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happy, bubbly, a bit awkward and annoyingly sarcastic at times. "

I wouldn't say annoying.. brutally sarcastic at times fits better.. but I like sarcasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A former teacher once said to our class..when you walk down the street there's really 3 of you walking down..the person you think you are ...the person others think you are ..and the person you really are ....

......kinda summed it all up really ..hard to argue with that one ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do I think of myself? Bit of a fuck up. Temperamental, emotional, impulsive, exploratory. A bit creative and a bit arty.

I know there are people who think I'm egotistical, vain, attention-whore, argumentative, immature, annoying, self centred and the like. Feel free to make yourselves known, so we don't have to pretend to be friendly. You dont know me, so it won't sting.

Principled, compassionate, loyal. Great self-awareness and quickly get the measure of others, but not afraid to change your perceptions when faced with contrary evidence. "

I do say sorry if I think I may have made a mistake.. I'll give you that

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"Following on from a thought that I had on my previous thread, I thought I'd give this a go.

Often how we see ourselves is very different from how others do; whether it be a very negative view of ourselves or in some cases a case of over inflated ego.

So in terms of redressing that balance I thought it might be good to see how others see us.

The way this works; post how you see yourself, honestly and then others can reply to you on the thread constructively.

No bitching or nastiness please, but also no saccharine compliments and currying favour, this only works if everyone is respectful and honest.

Please also remember folks that it's personal opinions only.

OK...

Let's see how this goes! "
If you were doing this on a professional basis there'd be a whole piece of work to be done around contracting and reassuring the client, and even then you'd expect it to be a while before they open up.

My gues is this process is no different...

Nothing of value can be said that quickly....

Mt Icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do I think of myself? Bit of a fuck up. Temperamental, emotional, impulsive, exploratory. A bit creative and a bit arty.

I know there are people who think I'm egotistical, vain, attention-whore, argumentative, immature, annoying, self centred and the like. Feel free to make yourselves known, so we don't have to pretend to be friendly. You dont know me, so it won't sting.

Principled, compassionate, loyal. Great self-awareness and quickly get the measure of others, but not afraid to change your perceptions when faced with contrary evidence.

I do say sorry if I think I may have made a mistake.. I'll give you that "

yeap yer dead moody lately

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I like to be nice, other people find this annoying but I genuinely think the world would be a better place if others were too, I'm passionate, loyal and I try to always see the positive in things however this trait has led to me being nieve at times. I lack confidence and ability to rock the skin I'm in.

Hit me.

Jo.Xx

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"What do I think of myself? Bit of a fuck up. Temperamental, emotional, impulsive, exploratory. A bit creative and a bit arty.

I know there are people who think I'm egotistical, vain, attention-whore, argumentative, immature, annoying, self centred and the like. Feel free to make yourselves known, so we don't have to pretend to be friendly. You dont know me, so it won't sting."

The you I have know is a pretty cool dude. I found a warm open and non judgemental guy. And I really like you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A former teacher once said to our class..when you walk down the street there's really 3 of you walking down..the person you think you are ...the person others think you are ..and the person you really are ....

......kinda summed it all up really ..hard to argue with that one ..."

Kind of the point of the thread really.

I often think that we see ourselves a certain way and get stuck in certain thought processes where we tell ourselves we're 'this'.

I think it's good to see things from an outside perspective and shift that internal narrative.

Y'know, healthy n shit.

Tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do I think of myself? Bit of a fuck up. Temperamental, emotional, impulsive, exploratory. A bit creative and a bit arty.

I know there are people who think I'm egotistical, vain, attention-whore, argumentative, immature, annoying, self centred and the like. Feel free to make yourselves known, so we don't have to pretend to be friendly. You dont know me, so it won't sting.

Principled, compassionate, loyal. Great self-awareness and quickly get the measure of others, but not afraid to change your perceptions when faced with contrary evidence.

I do say sorry if I think I may have made a mistake.. I'll give you that

yeap yer dead moody lately"

I'm not. I'm just doing other things and not had as much free time for Fab related chattering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do I think of myself? Bit of a fuck up. Temperamental, emotional, impulsive, exploratory. A bit creative and a bit arty.

I know there are people who think I'm egotistical, vain, attention-whore, argumentative, immature, annoying, self centred and the like. Feel free to make yourselves known, so we don't have to pretend to be friendly. You dont know me, so it won't sting.

The you I have know is a pretty cool dude. I found a warm open and non judgemental guy. And I really like you."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Following on from a thought that I had on my previous thread, I thought I'd give this a go.

Often how we see ourselves is very different from how others do; whether it be a very negative view of ourselves or in some cases a case of over inflated ego.

So in terms of redressing that balance I thought it might be good to see how others see us.

The way this works; post how you see yourself, honestly and then others can reply to you on the thread constructively.

No bitching or nastiness please, but also no saccharine compliments and currying favour, this only works if everyone is respectful and honest.

Please also remember folks that it's personal opinions only.

OK...

Let's see how this goes! If you were doing this on a professional basis there'd be a whole piece of work to be done around contracting and reassuring the client, and even then you'd expect it to be a while before they open up.

My gues is this process is no different...

Nothing of value can be said that quickly....

Mt Icebreaker"

OK, you get filling in and drawing up, the rest of us will be enjoying the thread, even if it's of no value.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physically; fat and curvy, wonky boobs, scarred skin, bright hair that is cool and though I wear a lot of make up, it's well applied. 4/10.

Personality; I think I come across very confident though I'm not. I'm a dreamer who tried to be positive. Very open minded and empathetic. Lloyal and honest to a fault at times. Self deprecating and often feel like a fuck up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do I think of myself? Bit of a fuck up. Temperamental, emotional, impulsive, exploratory. A bit creative and a bit arty.

I know there are people who think I'm egotistical, vain, attention-whore, argumentative, immature, annoying, self centred and the like. Feel free to make yourselves known, so we don't have to pretend to be friendly. You dont know me, so it won't sting."

I'd describe you as strong minded rather than egotistical or argumentative. It's good you're not afraid to say what you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself ad lacking in confidence, short, fat ugly. I have a kind heart and will do anything for others.

I like to find the positives in all situations.

"

Definitely not fat or ugly!

The nice things I agree with

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"Following on from a thought that I had on my previous thread, I thought I'd give this a go.

Often how we see ourselves is very different from how others do; whether it be a very negative view of ourselves or in some cases a case of over inflated ego.

So in terms of redressing that balance I thought it might be good to see how others see us.

The way this works; post how you see yourself, honestly and then others can reply to you on the thread constructively.

No bitching or nastiness please, but also no saccharine compliments and currying favour, this only works if everyone is respectful and honest.

Please also remember folks that it's personal opinions only.

OK...

Let's see how this goes! If you were doing this on a professional basis there'd be a whole piece of work to be done around contracting and reassuring the client, and even then you'd expect it to be a while before they open up.

My gues is this process is no different...

Nothing of value can be said that quickly....

Mt Icebreaker

OK, you get filling in and drawing up, the rest of us will be enjoying the thread, even if it's of no value. "
I didn't tell anyone not to enjoy the thread, I just did a slightly elliptical job of telling you something about me by expressing concerns about this process. Ah well. Crack on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to be nice, other people find this annoying but I genuinely think the world would be a better place if others were too, I'm passionate, loyal and I try to always see the positive in things however this trait has led to me being nieve at times. I lack confidence and ability to rock the skin I'm in.

Hit me.

Jo.Xx "

You’re positive and gentle and try to avoid or reduce the tension that very often arises in certain threads. You’ve always been respectful but held to your opinions and I don’t think you’re naive, more a glass half full sort of person. . Confidence? It’s all in the mind so if that’s what you think, time to change it

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm, physically I’m a bit fat and old, not pretty. I’m a bit reserved but friendly, can be flirty. X

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

A well meaning, basically decent but socially awkward buffoon whose attempts at humour often come across as flippancy.

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown


"Red head. Bubbly. Mad. Funny. Happy. Not for everyone one but hey ho. Abit like marmite "

Fairly accurate. But then I love marmite

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

I think i'm nice enough. Maybe a little mischievous at times

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I didn't tell anyone not to enjoy the thread, I just did a slightly elliptical job of telling you something about me by expressing concerns about this process. Ah well. Crack on. "

I understand what you're saying but I think you're discounting the benefit that can be found in just talking to friends or strangers even.

A counselling dynamic requires trust in order to be of benefit but that delves into the depths of a person's psyche. Getting feedback about how other perceive you isn't counselling, it's no different than asking your friend "what do you think of me?" A person doesn't require therapy in order to indulge in a touch of introspection.

Personally, I think your concerns are rather excessive and you're not really grasping the intent of the thread.

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown


"I see myself as a jolly affable chap , friendly , happy and positive . Kind and polite too

I like to think people like me or should I say Taff , though my persona on here and in real life are quite the same .

I was called uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey the other day ha ha , so don't mention the fishing trip

"

I don't know you at all Taff. Don't think we have even interacted on the forums but, for what it's worth, I would say that, judging by your posts and how other forumites react to you, you are exactly how you describe yourself.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Awkward

A little shy until I get to know people

Self deprecating

Fat

Loving

Loyal "

You come across as none of how you feel.

You are warm welcoming and lovely

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Hmm, physically I’m a bit fat and old, not pretty. I’m a bit reserved but friendly, can be flirty. X "

You are a fantastic lady . You say how it is.

You are carimg and loving to all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm, physically I’m a bit fat and old, not pretty. I’m a bit reserved but friendly, can be flirty. X

You are a fantastic lady . You say how it is.

You are carimg and loving to all x"

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perception I can do anything I did in my 20's

Reality I really need an afternoon nap, and 4am is late enough to party.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

How do I see myself ?

Well up until I had the misfortune to have a heart attack 18 months ago I was a confident , affable , cheerful and very sociable chap . I worked with the public , had stacks of mates , and the wife and I would go out swinging three times a week .

After that I became more insular , we no longer go out swinging , I’ve lost contact with the mates which shows how shallow all that was , and it seems that all I do on these forums is upset people .

Fortunately my relationship with my wife has gone from strength to strength and we are so happy . I’ve retired from work and I’ve never been happier if the truth be known . I have no need to get myself involved with anything stressful .

So despite knowing that I’ve created this persona here that’s one of intransigence , that I’m unwilling to embrace all the new stuff going on around me , that I have no empathy and so on , I can’t say I’m at all bothered . The things that matter in my life - my wife , my family , my health are all I care about now .

To be liked / respected by a bunch of strangers on a swingers site is way down the list of priorities for me now . I’m not sure it ever was if I’m honest . Those who have been around long enough will know I’ve never been backward in coming forward with sharing my opinions and thoughts relating to this lifestyle . And this hasn’t always gone down too well with some of you . Nor has my sense of humour which can be very dry , and certainly a lot of my views are stuck back in a previous era .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as an average bloke who blends into crowd, I don't see how anyone would see me as special tbh

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"How I see myself?

I'm a decent bloke, intelligent, good heart, good head, common sense, probably more mate material than fuck material, prone to making ill timed daft comments, but make some on point ones too

Not much to look at, but personality and the way I carry myself wins me admirers as does my warmth, understanding and patience"

I am one of your admirers... I think your a classy guy and one I respect on here x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"How do I see myself ?

Well up until I had the misfortune to have a heart attack 18 months ago I was a confident , affable , cheerful and very sociable chap . I worked with the public , had stacks of mates , and the wife and I would go out swinging three times a week .

After that I became more insular , we no longer go out swinging , I’ve lost contact with the mates which shows how shallow all that was , and it seems that all I do on these forums is upset people .

Fortunately my relationship with my wife has gone from strength to strength and we are so happy . I’ve retired from work and I’ve never been happier if the truth be known . I have no need to get myself involved with anything stressful .

So despite knowing that I’ve created this persona here that’s one of intransigence , that I’m unwilling to embrace all the new stuff going on around me , that I have no empathy and so on , I can’t say I’m at all bothered . The things that matter in my life - my wife , my family , my health are all I care about now .

To be liked / respected by a bunch of strangers on a swingers site is way down the list of priorities for me now . I’m not sure it ever was if I’m honest . Those who have been around long enough will know I’ve never been backward in coming forward with sharing my opinions and thoughts relating to this lifestyle . And this hasn’t always gone down too well with some of you . Nor has my sense of humour which can be very dry , and certainly a lot of my views are stuck back in a previous era .

"

I always enjoy reading your posts. They’re always refreshingly honest, open, no bullshit. I’ve noticed a change in your posting style since you had your heart attack, mostly that you’re not so throwaway with your comments. They are more thoughtful. More insightful as to you as a person.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"How I see myself?

I'm a decent bloke, intelligent, good heart, good head, common sense, probably more mate material than fuck material, prone to making ill timed daft comments, but make some on point ones too

Not much to look at, but personality and the way I carry myself wins me admirers as does my warmth, understanding and patience"

You give some lovely thoughtful replies on advice threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm a "fly under the radar" type of person, nothing special and very forgettable... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice."

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

"

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold "

Docs hot...we wouldn't need the water bottle

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated."

and scared of LIONS,,,,,RUN!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold

Docs hot...we wouldn't need the water bottle"

Hes a smashing bloke

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold

Docs hot...we wouldn't need the water bottle

Hes a smashing bloke "

Mikki, you've got style, you seem fun and a no bull shit kinda person...I admire that.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice."

Think you've mostly got it spot on - I'd add genuine and a good friend to others to that list - you've a very caring side that shines through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold

Docs hot...we wouldn't need the water bottle"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gorgeous, funny, intelligent and rude but I love myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold

Docs hot...we wouldn't need the water bottle

Hes a smashing bloke "

That’s really sweet Mikki thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

Think you've mostly got it spot on - I'd add genuine and a good friend to others to that list - you've a very caring side that shines through "

I could say many of those things about you too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do I see myself? Thoughtful, considerate, respectful, balanced, open and honest (too honest sometimes), lack self-confidence and prone to bouts of awkwardness, self-deprectating. Open minded and fairly uninhibited. Chronic overthinker. Treat others as I'd like to be treated."

And a bloody good friend

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold

Docs hot...we wouldn't need the water bottle

Hes a smashing bloke "

Mikki - mad as a box of frogs but adorable too - funny, outrageous and couldn't give a shit what others think but has a caring side too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone who stands up for what they believe in, even if it goes against the grain.

Random as fuck.

Caring and considerate but not afraid to speak up if I feel something is unjust.

Tentative at times, and unsure of myself.

Sensitive yet strong.

And pretty fucking funny.

P"

Actually best couple on the forums by a mile, not stuck up their own ass and caring, considerate, kind and funny

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By *lvis11Man
over a year ago

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A showman with a sexy voice and destinctive hip shuffle and and a love of eating burgers on the toilet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time I feel strong.

I dont take things too seriously unless I have to.

I like to see things through rose tinted spectacles.

I don't like to give too much of myself away ..on here at least.

I like to think I have empathy and respect for others"

I’ve seen a depth to you that goes well beyond what you present on here and value your warmth and affection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold

Docs hot...we wouldn't need the water bottle

Hes a smashing bloke

Mikki - mad as a box of frogs but adorable too - funny, outrageous and couldn't give a shit what others think but has a caring side too "

I’d agree with all of that and add hot as fuck :and creative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold

Docs hot...we wouldn't need the water bottle

Hes a smashing bloke

Mikki - mad as a box of frogs but adorable too - funny, outrageous and couldn't give a shit what others think but has a caring side too "

yes,,if any lions chase you I,ll distract them,,well a bit,,then I,ll run too n yer on yer own ,x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Most of the time I feel strong.

I dont take things too seriously unless I have to.

I like to see things through rose tinted spectacles.

I don't like to give too much of myself away ..on here at least.

I like to think I have empathy and respect for others

I’ve seen a depth to you that goes well beyond what you present on here and value your warmth and affection.

"

That's good to know xx

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Warm, friendly affectionate, quietly confident with moments of self-doubt, articulate, thoughtful, witty, flexible, open-minded, a bit lazy and procrastinating, philosophical, optimistically realistic, on here a reforming self-deprecator and sexually out of practice.

I have always found you to be Wise, experienced and warm.

yes like a hot water bottle when you,ve got a cold

Docs hot...we wouldn't need the water bottle

Hes a smashing bloke

Mikki - mad as a box of frogs but adorable too - funny, outrageous and couldn't give a shit what others think but has a caring side too

yes,,if any lions chase you I,ll distract them,,well a bit,,then I,ll run too n yer on yer own ,x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honest. Straightforward. Opinionated. But underneath warm. kind and soft as shit"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Red head. Bubbly. Mad. Funny. Happy. Not for everyone one but hey ho. Abit like marmite "

And warm, friendly and great to chat to x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"eh I see myself as a bit of a pouty goof ball that posts a lot of nonsense on here "
A gnasberry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself as a jolly affable chap , friendly , happy and positive . Kind and polite too

I like to think people like me or should I say Taff , though my persona on here and in real life are quite the same .

I was called uncle Bryn from Gavin and Stacey the other day ha ha , so don't mention the fishing trip

"

All of those and so much more. Very fond of you

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

The half Italian can be a bit firey, sexual, passionate the life and soul of the party that doesn't take much very seriously.

Craves the simple things that someone someday will fill that

void. I'm creative and arty.

I'm not very trusting anymore more so since being here. But I always have hope.

I try to make the best of what I have physically. I'm fit especially for my age and I'm proud of that. I'm very competitive.

However I can be quiet very unsocial and prefer the company of animals to humans. With I dont care less attitude.

Can be loving but not many people ever see that side to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The half Italian can be a bit firey, sexual, passionate the life and soul of the party that doesn't take much very seriously.

Craves the simple things that someone someday will fill that

void. I'm creative and arty.

I'm not very trusting anymore more so since being here. But I always have hope.

I try to make the best of what I have physically. I'm fit especially for my age and I'm proud of that. I'm very competitive.

However I can be quiet very unsocial and prefer the company of animals to humans. With I dont care less attitude.

Can be loving but not many people ever see that side to me.

"

I see you more as a lady in latex swinging from a web but maybe that's my fantasies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way I present here, I'd say I'm smart, reasonably sure of myself, and don't take shit. Friendly when I have the bandwidth or don't feel it'll be abused/ misconstrued. I hint at other sides to me but don't go into it openly.

I'm also acutely aware that this is a persona. Based on the real me, though. "

You are very articulate, open, great to talk to and a depth of thought and feeling that isn’t alwYs apparent from your persona. You’re also humorous too in a dry witty way.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"

The half Italian can be a bit firey, sexual, passionate the life and soul of the party that doesn't take much very seriously.

Craves the simple things that someone someday will fill that

void. I'm creative and arty.

I'm not very trusting anymore more so since being here. But I always have hope.

I try to make the best of what I have physically. I'm fit especially for my age and I'm proud of that. I'm very competitive.

However I can be quiet very unsocial and prefer the company of animals to humans. With I dont care less attitude.

Can be loving but not many people ever see that side to me.

I see you more as a lady in latex swinging from a web but maybe that's my fantasies "

Only on a Sunday afternoon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The half Italian can be a bit firey, sexual, passionate the life and soul of the party that doesn't take much very seriously.

Craves the simple things that someone someday will fill that

void. I'm creative and arty.

I'm not very trusting anymore more so since being here. But I always have hope.

I try to make the best of what I have physically. I'm fit especially for my age and I'm proud of that. I'm very competitive.

However I can be quiet very unsocial and prefer the company of animals to humans. With I dont care less attitude.

Can be loving but not many people ever see that side to me.

I see you more as a lady in latex swinging from a web but maybe that's my fantasies

Only on a Sunday afternoon "

crime doesn't wait for a Sunday afternoon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone who stands up for what they believe in, even if it goes against the grain.

Random as fuck.

Caring and considerate but not afraid to speak up if I feel something is unjust.

Tentative at times, and unsure of myself.

Sensitive yet strong.

And pretty fucking funny.

P"

Loving, a fabulous friend, empathetic, encouraging, insightful, helpful and very lovable

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"

The half Italian can be a bit firey, sexual, passionate the life and soul of the party that doesn't take much very seriously.

Craves the simple things that someone someday will fill that

void. I'm creative and arty.

I'm not very trusting anymore more so since being here. But I always have hope.

I try to make the best of what I have physically. I'm fit especially for my age and I'm proud of that. I'm very competitive.

However I can be quiet very unsocial and prefer the company of animals to humans. With I dont care less attitude.

Can be loving but not many people ever see that side to me.

I see you more as a lady in latex swinging from a web but maybe that's my fantasies

Only on a Sunday afternoon

crime doesn't wait for a Sunday afternoon"

It does where I live (trust me). The only thing I've seen today was a chicken walking down my rd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Physically: Skinny, not attractive, nice eyes

Mentally: Together, self assured (arrogant), thoughtful and frivolous, weird"

So much more to you than meets the eye on here but I don’t know you yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see myself as pretty confident in my work and as a wife and mum.

Here I'm not so confident, but it's still early days.

I guess I hide behind pics taken at good angles.

I'd like to think people see me as a nice, fair person. I hope I treat people like I'd like them to treat me.

Jo x "

I enjoy your presence but don’t know you well enough to comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m struggling to do justice to this right now. I’ll come back to it in the morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope ... Friendly, courteous, a little flirtatious, not too serious ... and probably far too laid back.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I’m struggling to do justice to this right now. I’ll come back to it in the morning "
What's this thread about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fat. Ugly. Rude. Antisocial. Can't be bothered making an effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m struggling to do justice to this right now. I’ll come back to it in the morning What's this thread about?"
you tell us what your perception of you is and the we say how we perceive you

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I’m struggling to do justice to this right now. I’ll come back to it in the morning What's this thread about?you tell us what your perception of you is and the we say how we perceive you "
I'm OK honest decent fun loyal and happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The half Italian can be a bit firey, sexual, passionate the life and soul of the party that doesn't take much very seriously.

Craves the simple things that someone someday will fill that

void. I'm creative and arty.

I'm not very trusting anymore more so since being here. But I always have hope.

I try to make the best of what I have physically. I'm fit especially for my age and I'm proud of that. I'm very competitive.

However I can be quiet very unsocial and prefer the company of animals to humans. With I dont care less attitude.

Can be loving but not many people ever see that side to me.

"
omg I'm fit and very competitive but I'm caring and trusting,I'm extremely creative and can be arty but as the Italians would say allura,difficult to say from the rare times I've seen you here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m struggling to do justice to this right now. I’ll come back to it in the morning What's this thread about?you tell us what your perception of you is and the we say how we perceive you I'm OK honest decent fun loyal and happy."
Well their ya go and you come across as all of those things

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