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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you asking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What are you asking?"
... recently name down on a organized social event....along with few others I may add...no replys ...but a post up later... staying to all not reply to...(.was reading between the lines)...not fitting Into their criteria..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you asking?... recently name down on a organized social event....along with few others I may add...no replys ...but a post up later... staying to all not reply to...(.was reading between the lines)...not fitting Into their criteria.. "

That's a bit off..

You should have asked what their criteria was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone's organising a function they surely have the right to say yes or no to potential attendees. Obviously if it's in a club or public place they can't actually stop you being there but if it's in private, even if that's just a function room I don't see why it should be open to anyone and everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What are you asking?... recently name down on a organized social event....along with few others I may add...no replys ...but a post up later... staying to all not reply to...(.was reading between the lines)...not fitting Into their criteria..

That's a bit off....

You should have asked what their criteria was"
.. someone did...but they didn't reply.. either on fourm or pm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up to them who they invite. Same as a fuck party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everyone that wanted to come got an invite it would be a massive sausage fest, even with only a quarter of the blokes turning up

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"What are you asking?... recently name down on a organized social event....along with few others I may add...no replys ...but a post up later... staying to all not reply to...(.was reading between the lines)...not fitting Into their criteria.. "
Not guilty it wasn't me , you are welcome anytime

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be."
... exactly.. should be open to all regarding age /gender etc..up to each Individual to decide who to chat to...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What are you asking?... recently name down on a organized social event....along with few others I may add...no replys ...but a post up later... staying to all not reply to...(.was reading between the lines)...not fitting Into their criteria.. Not guilty it wasn't me , you are welcome anytime "
...lol ty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If everyone that wanted to come got an invite it would be a massive sausage fest, even with only a quarter of the blokes turning up "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If everyone that wanted to come got an invite it would be a massive sausage fest, even with only a quarter of the blokes turning up "
... limited of people is understandable...but a reply saying that would have been nice....but that wasn't..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be."

I think there's a difference between balancing numbers and exclusivity though and the OP doesn't make it clear which this is - I can totally understand an organiser trying to have a balance of single blokes, single women, TVs and couples for instance if that's done on a "first come first served" basis and would have no problem with that - however if there were a criteria such as "looks" or "body shape" then that is different, especially if the criteria weren't disclosed as part of the event announcement.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be.

I think there's a difference between balancing numbers and exclusivity though and the OP doesn't make it clear which this is - I can totally understand an organiser trying to have a balance of single blokes, single women, TVs and couples for instance if that's done on a "first come first served" basis and would have no problem with that - however if there were a criteria such as "looks" or "body shape" then that is different, especially if the criteria weren't disclosed as part of the event announcement."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If everyone that wanted to come got an invite it would be a massive sausage fest, even with only a quarter of the blokes turning up ... limited of people is understandable...but a reply saying that would have been nice....but that wasn't.. "

That would mean me replying to tell almost 200 men they couldn't come to my first one... All info I put on the forum thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set? "

I used to organise the Bradford social with my ex partner, the only criteria we had was single guys had to me members for over 3 months, unverified couples and ladies had to chat to us on the phone, no show were blocked from future socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and we limited the number of single men

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be.

I think there's a difference between balancing numbers and exclusivity though and the OP doesn't make it clear which this is - I can totally understand an organiser trying to have a balance of single blokes, single women, TVs and couples for instance if that's done on a "first come first served" basis and would have no problem with that - however if there were a criteria such as "looks" or "body shape" then that is different, especially if the criteria weren't disclosed as part of the event announcement. "
... Been to a few.and never been a issue stated like that..and _tarbeck. Yours too wasn't a issue lol

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be.

I think there's a difference between balancing numbers and exclusivity though and the OP doesn't make it clear which this is - I can totally understand an organiser trying to have a balance of single blokes, single women, TVs and couples for instance if that's done on a "first come first served" basis and would have no problem with that - however if there were a criteria such as "looks" or "body shape" then that is different, especially if the criteria weren't disclosed as part of the event announcement. ... Been to a few.and never been a issue stated like that..and _tarbeck. Yours too wasn't a issue lol "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be.

I think there's a difference between balancing numbers and exclusivity though and the OP doesn't make it clear which this is - I can totally understand an organiser trying to have a balance of single blokes, single women, TVs and couples for instance if that's done on a "first come first served" basis and would have no problem with that - however if there were a criteria such as "looks" or "body shape" then that is different, especially if the criteria weren't disclosed as part of the event announcement. ... Been to a few.and never been a issue stated like that..and _tarbeck. Yours too wasn't a issue lol "
..keep up the good work

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be.

I think there's a difference between balancing numbers and exclusivity though and the OP doesn't make it clear which this is - I can totally understand an organiser trying to have a balance of single blokes, single women, TVs and couples for instance if that's done on a "first come first served" basis and would have no problem with that - however if there were a criteria such as "looks" or "body shape" then that is different, especially if the criteria weren't disclosed as part of the event announcement. ... Been to a few.and never been a issue stated like that..and _tarbeck. Yours too wasn't a issue lol ..keep up the good work "
If a social does not add you to the list they should at least give you a reason as to why not x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you asking?... recently name down on a organized social event....along with few others I may add...no replys ...but a post up later... staying to all not reply to...(.was reading between the lines)...not fitting Into their criteria.. Not guilty it wasn't me , you are welcome anytime "
thankyou

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be.

I think there's a difference between balancing numbers and exclusivity though and the OP doesn't make it clear which this is - I can totally understand an organiser trying to have a balance of single blokes, single women, TVs and couples for instance if that's done on a "first come first served" basis and would have no problem with that - however if there were a criteria such as "looks" or "body shape" then that is different, especially if the criteria weren't disclosed as part of the event announcement. ... Been to a few.and never been a issue stated like that..and _tarbeck. Yours too wasn't a issue lol ..keep up the good work If a social does not add you to the list they should at least give you a reason as to why not x"
.ty....lol criteria..is theirs apparently..(whatever that maybe)lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set? "
If a it's themed cryterror yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set? If a it's themed cryterror yes"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set? If a it's themed cryterror yes

This "
I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set? If a it's themed cryterror yes"
???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set? If a it's themed cryterror yes

This I agree "
..??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set? If a it's themed cryterror yes

This "
...no themed

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Criteria for events are usually listed on the host's profile.

They are usually pretty standard things like must be verified, or must have public photos.

Even though events are social, a host likes to know the people they are inviting are genuine, and are also likely to turn up, as numbers are always limited by venue capacity, and others may have been turned away.

Occasionally an invite may be withheld if a host is concerned that someone may not gel well with their other guests. Antagonistic forum behaviour or status updates could be reasons for this.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The Sussex social is run by a new couple who have blocked men from contacting them so I can guess what their criteria is.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

An organized cryteria? I'm intriged!...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Criteria for events are usually listed on the host's profile.

They are usually pretty standard things like must be verified, or must have public photos.

Even though events are social, a host likes to know the people they are inviting are genuine, and are also likely to turn up, as numbers are always limited by venue capacity, and others may have been turned away.

Occasionally an invite may be withheld if a host is concerned that someone may not gel well with their other guests. Antagonistic forum behaviour or status updates could be reasons for this."
..but shouldn't people be allowed to make own mind up if want to"gel" with others...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Criteria for events are usually listed on the host's profile.

They are usually pretty standard things like must be verified, or must have public photos.

Even though events are social, a host likes to know the people they are inviting are genuine, and are also likely to turn up, as numbers are always limited by venue capacity, and others may have been turned away.

Occasionally an invite may be withheld if a host is concerned that someone may not gel well with their other guests. Antagonistic forum behaviour or status updates could be reasons for this."
awwww we not taking P in this thread lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"An organized cryteria? I'm intriged!..."
...lol no think you find we are intrigued.. ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Criteria for events are usually listed on the host's profile.

They are usually pretty standard things like must be verified, or must have public photos.

Even though events are social, a host likes to know the people they are inviting are genuine, and are also likely to turn up, as numbers are always limited by venue capacity, and others may have been turned away.

Occasionally an invite may be withheld if a host is concerned that someone may not gel well with their other guests. Antagonistic forum behaviour or status updates could be reasons for this.awwww we not taking P in this thread lol "
....no we are not...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"An organized cryteria? I'm intriged!......lol no think you find we are intrigued.. .."
. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The Sussex social is run by a new couple who have blocked men from contacting them so I can guess what their criteria is. "
. Yep

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"An organized cryteria? I'm intriged!......lol no think you find we are intrigued.. .."

So are we

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Organise one yourself and then you can decide.

If people go to the trouble of organising an event they’re entitled to set the criteria.

Simples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"An organized cryteria? I'm intriged!......lol no think you find we are intrigued.. ..

So are we

Jo.Xx "
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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Organise one yourself and then you can decide.

If people go to the trouble of organising an event they’re entitled to set the criteria.

Simples."
...if could find a venue suitable I would...and there wouldn't be a issue..on anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The social thread is interesting. You're not the only ones to be ignored by the 'hosts'.

Did you pay them anything?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The social thread is interesting. You're not the only ones to be ignored by the 'hosts'.

Did you pay them anything? "
...no?

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Criteria for events are usually listed on the host's profile.

They are usually pretty standard things like must be verified, or must have public photos.

Even though events are social, a host likes to know the people they are inviting are genuine, and are also likely to turn up, as numbers are always limited by venue capacity, and others may have been turned away.

Occasionally an invite may be withheld if a host is concerned that someone may not gel well with their other guests. Antagonistic forum behaviour or status updates could be reasons for this...

but shouldn't people be allowed to make own mind up if want to"gel" with others..."

Nope... Hosts are generally experienced enough to be able to decide this for themselves. It is their party after all, and if they want to ensure that they have a good mix of people who will get along, have plenty of chat, laughs, etc., they're more likely to extend invites to people they already know will make that effort, or at least people who have attended other events and were well-received.

Again, antagonistic, sulky behaviour and an air of entitlement as if hosts owe you an invitation won't get you anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Sussex social is run by a new couple who have blocked men from contacting them so I can guess what their criteria is. "

That doesn't mean anything. If someone wanted to come, they had to say so on the forum thread, then I would contact them to let them know if they were invited or not. Lots of people were invited that I would of had blocked

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Criteria for events are usually listed on the host's profile.

They are usually pretty standard things like must be verified, or must have public photos.

Even though events are social, a host likes to know the people they are inviting are genuine, and are also likely to turn up, as numbers are always limited by venue capacity, and others may have been turned away.

Occasionally an invite may be withheld if a host is concerned that someone may not gel well with their other guests. Antagonistic forum behaviour or status updates could be reasons for this.

awwww we not taking P in this thread lol "

I think somehow my piss might be wasted here

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Organise one yourself and then you can decide.

If people go to the trouble of organising an event they’re entitled to set the criteria.

Simples."

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Criteria for events are usually listed on the host's profile.

They are usually pretty standard things like must be verified, or must have public photos.

Even though events are social, a host likes to know the people they are inviting are genuine, and are also likely to turn up, as numbers are always limited by venue capacity, and others may have been turned away.

Occasionally an invite may be withheld if a host is concerned that someone may not gel well with their other guests. Antagonistic forum behaviour or status updates could be reasons for this...

but shouldn't people be allowed to make own mind up if want to"gel" with others...

Nope... Hosts are generally experienced enough to be able to decide this for themselves. It is their party after all, and if they want to ensure that they have a good mix of people who will get along, have plenty of chat, laughs, etc., they're more likely to extend invites to people they already know will make that effort, or at least people who have attended other events and were well-received.

Again, antagonistic, sulky behaviour and an air of entitlement as if hosts owe you an invitation won't get you anywhere. "
... wouldn't attend now if payed me!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Criteria for events are usually listed on the host's profile.

They are usually pretty standard things like must be verified, or must have public photos.

Even though events are social, a host likes to know the people they are inviting are genuine, and are also likely to turn up, as numbers are always limited by venue capacity, and others may have been turned away.

Occasionally an invite may be withheld if a host is concerned that someone may not gel well with their other guests. Antagonistic forum behaviour or status updates could be reasons for this.

awwww we not taking P in this thread lol

I think somehow my piss might be wasted here"
..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It looks like a social to find people who will want to play together. Specific types. I'm not their type but I see no problem with that.

I do agree it's rude of them not to reply to people who have asked for an invite, but as most women and couples on here gleefully say they never bother replying to messages, "oh well!"

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Having now read through the social thread - to be absolutely fair to the organisers they've offered a perfectly reasonable explanation as to why they might not have replied a day or so ago.

I've never organised one, but know plenty of people that have and it's a logistical nightmare trying to keep an even balance, making sure that the area they have booked I both big enough, and will be filled.

Talking about criteria is a little unfair OP as it doesn't appear there is anything underhand going on at all - you requested an invite 5 days ago, 3 weeks after the event had been posted and I suspect you'll find they are already close to the size limit of the area booked and are having to juggle people as a result.

Perhaps a little patience is all that was needed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having now read through the social thread - to be absolutely fair to the organisers they've offered a perfectly reasonable explanation as to why they might not have replied a day or so ago.

I've never organised one, but know plenty of people that have and it's a logistical nightmare trying to keep an even balance, making sure that the area they have booked I both big enough, and will be filled.

Talking about criteria is a little unfair OP as it doesn't appear there is anything underhand going on at all - you requested an invite 5 days ago, 3 weeks after the event had been posted and I suspect you'll find they are already close to the size limit of the area booked and are having to juggle people as a result.

Perhaps a little patience is all that was needed."
..if that was the issue then that would be acceptable..if told....but don't think it was

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I wouldn't be attending a social that was potentially exclusive to some.

I see socials as all inclusive, or they cease to be what I define a social to be."

With you on that one, it’s what puts me off them altogether

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set? "

If I'm organising.. then I play by my rules. Only people I want to invite. Tough shit if you dong like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I can see there are mixed feelings/comments on this thread..which everyone is entitled to have and respect to you all.and thankyou for them. apologises to all if offended by it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should this be for all who request / like to attend.or should there be a "crytera" preference on people set?

If I'm organising.. then I play by my rules. Only people I want to invite. Tough shit if you dong like it. "

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