FabSwingers.com forum: Different approaches

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.

I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.

So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yeah. Body language and eye contact

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

I find if I click with the person then flirting comes a bit easier, male or female. But it is nicer in person

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

God knows. Ugh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I know the woman finds me attractive , I can flirt

Or try to

I’m pretty shit to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been able to do it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You can practice flirting avec moi

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Ladies, if your shit at flirting you can always practice on me and I can critique your approach

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"God knows. Ugh! "
that's my reaction

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm okish at flirting with a single man., totally pants, and not at all confident when it comes to couples and ladies.

I have no idea why

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I have never flirted with a woman until recently. I enjoy talking and flirting..she makes it easy.

It kind of just fell into place.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.

I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.

So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person? "

I don't flirt with blokes so I may be wide of yhe mark, surely whatever you'd do to flirt with a guy you'd transpose to a lady.

Couples I agree can be awkward.

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Just be yourself

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Far easier in person I think. I find with women you don't want to be the first to make a move in cause you've misinterpreted general platonic flirtiness for actual intent so then you're stuck playing lesbian sheep and waiting for the obvious to create a billboard advertising they want you. When they do make it obvious it's such a thrill though. Men are far easier - stroke their ego and you're giving them a virtual handjob.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.

I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.

So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person?

I don't flirt with blokes so I may be wide of yhe mark, surely whatever you'd do to flirt with a guy you'd transpose to a lady.

Couples I agree can be awkward.

It's really not that straight forward. Men are generally simple creatures, they're much easier to read.

Women I get embarrassed and shy and it makes things a million times more awkward.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The familiarity with women can also be intimate like flirting and... is she being nice or is she interested? Maybe she's straight. I don't want to be creepy.

Baa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it harder to speak with women too

I guess it's because I respect them more than I do guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Far easier in person I think. I find with women you don't want to be the first to make a move in cause you've misinterpreted general platonic flirtiness for actual intent so then you're stuck playing lesbian sheep and waiting for the obvious to create a billboard advertising they want you. When they do make it obvious it's such a thrill though. Men are far easier - stroke their ego and you're giving them a virtual handjob."

This made me think about the fact that most of my female friends are straight too, we don't flirt. I don't flirt with women day to day and tend to assume they are straight yet with men it just happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are mostly time wasters

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Women are mostly time wasters "
the one in your photo thought that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it much easier in person. Personality comes across much better that way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women are mostly time wasters the one in your photo thought that

Which one ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rubi

You can flirt with me anytime

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Rubi

You can flirt with me anytime

Those messages I send are me flirting

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Women are mostly time wasters the one in your photo thought that

Which one ? "
the one who knew how to use facial veet effectively.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I struggle to flirt with men, let alone getting into the world of women. I just tend to be myself

Flirting, if I was any good at it, with a couple I would struggle with. I see flirting as a natural reaction to each other 1-2-1, but I think with a couple I’d be too conscious of upsetting one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rubi

You can flirt with me anytime

Those messages I send are me flirting

Mine are too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women are mostly time wasters the one in your photo thought that

Which one ? the one who knew how to use facial veet effectively. "

You mean that I have been using genital Veet on my face all this long without knowing that it exists a facial one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.

I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.

So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person? "

Definitley!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a natural flirt, it just happens.

The only time it's ever difficult is if I really fancy someone then I'm totally shy

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Rubi

You can flirt with me anytime

Those messages I send are me flirting

I don't even know how to flirt with men. Fortunately somehow they bridge the gap. Women... I talk, they talk, it's great...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm exactly the same. I'm not a good flirt at the best of times but I fear making a fool of myself with women way more than men.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm a Flirty person but not so much with women, I tend to feel in the 'friend zone'.

It's really difficult I think.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just about anyone who has ever met me (Tom) knows that I am an incorrigible flirt. It comes naturally to me. Women, couples, sometimes men too.

There is always one ingredient without which flirting is a total waste of effort. For a really good flirt it is essential that all participants are full of personal confidence backed up by mutual attraction.

So, don’t expect it to be easy wit everyone. If it’s not, either they’re not right for you or the timing is wrong. Don’t be disheartened. Justly move on and try again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a Flirty person but not so much with women, I tend to feel in the 'friend zone'.

It's really difficult I think.

Jo.Xx "

I’ll bet you and PT would flirt up a storm.

Tom xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.

I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.

So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person? "
Just totally depends on the person/s who you are in contact with, some couples are really nice and easy to get along with the same as the singles it’s just the luck of the draw and going on your gut instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to flirt with men, let alone getting into the world of women. I just tend to be myself

Nah you can flirt. I’ve seen it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for flirting with women but flirting with couples, isn't it just about chatting at first?

Tea

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ladies: just ask men outright. It’s much easier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can't speak for flirting with women but flirting with couples, isn't it just about chatting at first?

Tea"

But it's hard to chat with 2 people by message, often you don't know which one is answering and it's hard to turn chat to more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't speak for flirting with women but flirting with couples, isn't it just about chatting at first?

Tea

But it's hard to chat with 2 people by message, often you don't know which one is answering and it's hard to turn chat to more. "

It is harder, I think it just takes practise though.

Whenever I chatted to a couple in the past I always asked who I was talking to initially, that then governed the tone of the messages. Bear in mind though that the couple will most likely be finding the messages clunky and hard to chat effectively too. I usually found that in most of my interactions with couples, things moved onto kik or texts fairly quickly, then it's just like any other chat based conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just assume women see me as a kind of bloke with a minge, and it's only when I see them face to face and perhaps a little twinkle in the eye do I realise they may wanna get scissory with me.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I struggle to flirt with men, let alone getting into the world of women. I just tend to be myself

Nah you can flirt. I’ve seen it "

Haha Doc but it’s quirky and not straightforwards, most wouldn't understand it

. How is the car ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to flirt with men, let alone getting into the world of women. I just tend to be myself

Nah you can flirt. I’ve seen it

Haha Doc but it’s quirky and not straightforwards, most wouldn't understand it

. How is the car ?

Oh it’s yet to be revved up

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.

I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.

So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person? "

I find this surprising. I always assumed the exact opposite to be honest. Women would feel less wary by being approached by one of their own rather than by opposite sex? Especially given the quality (or lack of) of many a man on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to avoid flirting face to face as it would be more like a one man stand up comedy show... Can flirt writing... And I can t recognise someone flirting with me.. Reckon because I don t see anything to warrant attraction to me I don t bother considering flirting or being flirted with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After speaking to a few ladies I know I'm not the only one to feel this way but I was wondering the reasons why.

I find it much more difficult to approach and flirt with women than men. Couples are a complete minefield too.

So how do you deal with it? Is it easier in person?

I personally can't tell with the written word at all, I naturally assume it's to look "more fun" in front of the blokes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a female point of view it’s definitely easier to flirt with other females in person, especially if you’re at a bi event.

On Fab the messaging always seems to turn to girly talk very quickly and we forget about the flirting.

With couples not so much of a difference.

Miss V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of guys are all over our profile until himself steps up to interact, then they get strangely reticent

Any man who knows how to interact with both of us comfortably gets upgraded

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