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"Who are cheating on there partners and why? " Are you? | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me " And you're still with her because .... | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me " How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me And you're still with her because ...." Lots of reason my friends | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? " 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me And you're still with her because .... Lots of reason my friends " Let’s hope no one sees your face on here then! | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me And you're still with her because .... Lots of reason my friends Let’s hope no one sees your face on here then!" Agreed ! | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me " The worse kind of husband. | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit " It's obviously gone off the boil then hasn't it? Do you think that you can rekindle your relationship, or are you just looking for an escape route by cheating on her? | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit " Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off" Kind of why I wondered what the draw of staying with was ... if you're not happy ... change what isn't making you happy | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit " And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P | |||
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"Once, during a game of monopoly I took an extra 100. But it wasn't intentional. Does that count? " SINNER | |||
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"Who are cheating on there partners and why? Are you? " No I’m here to meet nice people lol x | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P" It works both ways, she might not be giving him any attention but it is always the man who is accused of it | |||
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"I have an open marriage so no cheating here  "Cool x | |||
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"Here as a couple .. so no cheating here either No secrets no lies" It works for u both so good on u x | |||
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"What about you OP?" I’m single just curious why people cheat x | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P" Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off Kind of why I wondered what the draw of staying with was ... if you're not happy ... change what isn't making you happy" I am happy with her just no sexual chemistry and no effort from her end maybe she's unhappy with me | |||
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"What about you OP? I’m single just curious why people cheat x" I think there are so many reasons people do it ... some for genuine reasons .. some for selfish reasons | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P It works both ways, she might not be giving him any attention but it is always the man who is accused of it" I'm not saying at all that it's one way or the other and I'm not accusing him of anything. He's already said she isn't making any effort so I've taken that as the truth, I'm simply asking if he is putting in his share so to speak. If he is then fair play to him, if he isn't then he needs to shoulder some of the responsibility. P | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off Kind of why I wondered what the draw of staying with was ... if you're not happy ... change what isn't making you happy I am happy with her just no sexual chemistry and no effort from her end maybe she's unhappy with me" 2 way honest communication is something to try | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit It's obviously gone off the boil then hasn't it? Do you think that you can rekindle your relationship, or are you just looking for an escape route by cheating on her? " Escape route prob | |||
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"It works both ways, she might not be giving him any attention but it is always the man who is accused of it" I had a 3 year relationship with a lass back in the 80's, don't know why I bothered really | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit Two years isn't long, if you are not compatible after that short time then I would be off Kind of why I wondered what the draw of staying with was ... if you're not happy ... change what isn't making you happy I am happy with her just no sexual chemistry and no effort from her end maybe she's unhappy with me 2 way honest communication is something to try" Yes agreed , I don't think the sexual chemistry will come back tbh | |||
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"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. " Some people do enjoy the thrill and risk factor ... that's the part they get off on | |||
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"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. " There’s maaaaaaaaany complex reasons why people cheat | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh " Fair play to ya for trying. You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know. It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense. She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while. Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating. P | |||
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"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. Some people do enjoy the thrill and risk factor ... that's the part they get off on" Yes see ur point x | |||
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"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. " There are lots of reasons why people cheat, it isn't always about sex | |||
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"There’s maaaaaaaaany complex reasons why people cheat" I must say that you have a very mature head on young shoulders  | |||
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"There’s maaaaaaaaany complex reasons why people cheat I must say that you have a very mature head on young shoulders "It’s been said many a time  | |||
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"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. There are lots of reasons why people cheat, it isn't always about sex" Guess its about feeling wanted too and wooed again . Bit of attention x | |||
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"I’m separated and he knows I’m on here. Even drops me off at clubs when I need it. I’m the worst liar and couldn’t be arsed with the hassle. Saying that I’m a magnet for bloody married men!!! "Why married men? Is it the excitement? X | |||
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"I’m separated and he knows I’m on here. Even drops me off at clubs when I need it. I’m the worst liar and couldn’t be arsed with the hassle. Saying that I’m a magnet for bloody married men!!!
Why married men? Is it the excitement? X"No not at all. I don’t choose them. They approach me. Always disappointed when they say oh btw I’m married | |||
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"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. There are lots of reasons why people cheat, it isn't always about sex Guess its about feeling wanted too and wooed again . Bit of attention x" Thats part of it for me defo | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh Fair play to ya for trying. You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know. It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense. She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while. Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating. P" That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh Fair play to ya for trying. You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know. It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense. She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while. Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating. P That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her " It's good to talk ... she may surprise you! | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh Fair play to ya for trying. You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know. It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense. She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while. Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating. P That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her It's good to talk ... she may surprise you!" The good news is that she can recover from pnd. The bad news is that you can't undo cheating. | |||
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"There’s maaaaaaaaany complex reasons why people cheat I must say that you have a very mature head on young shoulders
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"I've heard it said often men cheat to stay in a relationship and women cheat when they want to exit the relationship their in." That's a good way of putting it I chest to feel like I can stay with her | |||
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"I've heard it said often men cheat to stay in a relationship and women cheat when they want to exit the relationship their in." Hmmmm ..  | |||
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"I've heard it said often men cheat to stay in a relationship and women cheat when they want to exit the relationship their in." That has me thinking P | |||
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"I've heard it said often men cheat to stay in a relationship and women cheat when they want to exit the relationship their in. That has me thinking P" Me too. Although the fog isn’t clearing much for me yet | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me The worse kind of husband." Let's not judge please. | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh Fair play to ya for trying. You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know. It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense. She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while. Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating. P That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her " It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh Fair play to ya for trying. You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know. It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense. She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while. Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating. P That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck" Definitely agree, I have told her to speak to the doctor as I've tried helping her with it to no avail | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh Fair play to ya for trying. You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know. It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense. She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while. Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating. P That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck Definitely agree, I have told her to speak to the doctor as I've tried helping her with it to no avail " Part of depression for some people is an inability or unwillingness to talk about it, especially to a professional. At one point with my mum things got to a stage that both my dad and I spoke to a gp at her surgery, they can't do anything unless the patient themselves approaches them but it makes them aware there's a problem and if they go in about something else they can ask questions. | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh Fair play to ya for trying. You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know. It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense. She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while. Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating. P That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck Definitely agree, I have told her to speak to the doctor as I've tried helping her with it to no avail " I've been in a similar situation to the one you're currently in, if I could offer you a few honest words... Firstly; talk to her, she will know that something is up with you and that you're not fully invested with her. It may be contributing to how she's feeling currently. Secondly; if you don't want to be with her, then do the right thing. End it and do it with respect, you are going to have a relationship with her through your child for a very very long time, mutual trust and respect is paramount in that. You child will grow up better knowing two happy parents than two miserable ones. Thirdly; depression is an awful awful thing, it is debilitating and insidious, get her help and get her talking. It is an illness, just the same as cancer and it can be just as hard to survive. Relationships aren't just about sex, they are about support and mutual care, sometimes it's uneven and you feel like you're doing the heavy lifting. If you're only in it for the fun times then respect her enough to let her find someone that will give her the full package. Tea | |||
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"Some great advice , thanks everyone who commented. Xx" I think this one did well Threads with this title can get a little personal and opinionated People seem to be behaving | |||
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"Me and because I ain't getting my end away with her and she makes no effort for me How long have you been together and what drew you to her in the first place? 2 years and she used to make the effort and is fit And how much effort do you make? I ain't talking poking her on the back with your pork sword, I'm talking showing her she's valued, appreciated and respected. Helping out around the house perhaps? Making romantic gestures maybe? P Alot actually always look smart smell nice and take pride in how I look for her, always take the bins out look after our kid all the time when I'm home and take her out for food and pay what not, she don't do fuck all for me tbh Fair play to ya for trying. You're little one must be very young if you've only been together 2 years. They can be extremely tiring as you well know. It can be terribly hard to feel sexy after having kids. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but there's a possibility there's more at play, maybe PND or simply not being able to get her head out of "mum mode" and back into girlfriend mode if that makes sense. She may not even realise it's happening. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? It's pretty common for sex drive to diminish after children for a fair while. Maybe a good honest talk would be better than cheating. P That is a good point I have never thought of it from her view tbh, I know she had been suffering from pnd recently but she hasn't bothered with me for ages. I really should talk to her and say we have lost the spark together, but tbh my main priority and interest is being with my son so don't really want to split with her It's hard living with someone who is depressed whatever the reason. It's a horrible illness that affects everyone around it. You might find that she's not able to talk at the moment but if you want the best outcome for both of you it might help if you spoke to somebody to try and get a better understanding. Good luck Definitely agree, I have told her to speak to the doctor as I've tried helping her with it to no avail I've been in a similar situation to the one you're currently in, if I could offer you a few honest words... Firstly; talk to her, she will know that something is up with you and that you're not fully invested with her. It may be contributing to how she's feeling currently. Secondly; if you don't want to be with her, then do the right thing. End it and do it with respect, you are going to have a relationship with her through your child for a very very long time, mutual trust and respect is paramount in that. You child will grow up better knowing two happy parents than two miserable ones. Thirdly; depression is an awful awful thing, it is debilitating and insidious, get her help and get her talking. It is an illness, just the same as cancer and it can be just as hard to survive. Relationships aren't just about sex, they are about support and mutual care, sometimes it's uneven and you feel like you're doing the heavy lifting. If you're only in it for the fun times then respect her enough to let her find someone that will give her the full package. Tea" Wise words | |||
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"I think people cheat because they get bored of the same routine. Like having eggs and bacon every day. Spice it up , have outdoor sex , share toys be spontaneous. If that don’t work end it and move on. They say there is 1 special person for everyone u obviously haven’t found him or her yet. " You are so right, so easy to get stuck in a rut of kids, life and work. It's hard being a parent, can take its toll. As well as bring lots of joy obviously. Jo x | |||
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"I agree I need to end it really instead of hurting her just need to man up lol " Don't let this be something you look back on and wish you'd done differently. | |||
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"I agree I need to end it really instead of hurting her just need to man up lol Don't let this be something you look back on and wish you'd done differently. " Thanks for advice, feel like I'm wasting life now tbh but am not unhappy, weird situation and feeling x | |||
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"I agree I need to end it really instead of hurting her just need to man up lol Don't let this be something you look back on and wish you'd done differently. Thanks for advice, feel like I'm wasting life now tbh but am not unhappy, weird situation and feeling x" It's easy for me to say with the benefit of hindsight and at more than twice your age. Good luck to you and everyone involved | |||
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