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By *pforsomefun12340 OP   Couple
over a year ago

leicestershire

We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..

Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Closer the betterbi say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will advise you not to shit on your own doorstep, but fuck it you’re adults, I’m sure you’re smart enough to make an informed decision

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By *pforsomefun12340 OP   Couple
over a year ago

leicestershire

Yep we are, I was just finding out people's views..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on what you are happy with if you don’t mind people knowing or if you want to keep it totally quiet I would say to close but that’s Down to him as well as some others don’t like people knowing

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I've blocked most locals x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone I could potentially bump into in the supermarket or similar scenario. The cynic in me can't trust anyone to maintain discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer not to shit on my own doorstep as i live in a very small close knit community... i won't meet anyone within a 20 or 30 mile radius usually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say personally I'd like to think nothing negative can come of it however that's not always the case. If I got to know someone pretty well and trusted them then yeah, I would be comfortable being so close, however you never really know people and what they can be capable of it you get on their wrong side, and that can be easy to do even though you'd not think it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The closer the Better, the only important thing Is to be sure Who I'm meeting with, I've been stalked in the past and it's not a pleasant experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All depends on what you are happy with if you don’t mind people knowing or if you want to keep it totally quiet I would say to close but that’s Down to him as well as some others don’t like people knowing "

This. Kiss your private life goodbye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..

Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views! "

I had a fuck buddy who lived in the same suburb. He was friends with my neighbour as I later discovered, that combined with his becoming clingy lead to a very careful termination of our relationship.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd generally not, when I will be hardly able to know someone well enough to decide, nor keep a big distance between me and them, if it turns uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know really, there is always the assumption that people will turn weird, no reason they should, they're just people but it might put me off if I thought I might bump into them regulary.

Keeping 'swinging' as a seperate identity I suppose is easier if people are further away. If more of a friendship was wanted with people you trust, local would be easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..

Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views! "

I got talking to someone on here and eventually we worked out we live 4 streets apart!! The neighbourhood around here has too many nosey neighbours so we agreed that's far too close for comfort and decided not develop things any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there in the same house and related that's too close WAY TOO CLOSE x

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"If there in the same house and related that's too close WAY TOO CLOSE x "

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By *urvy Girl 79Woman
over a year ago

Near Bourne

I live in a small town and most of my meets have lived in the same town. We are all adults wanting discretion and I've not had an issue. For me it's very convenient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will advise you not to shit on your own doorstep, but fuck it you’re adults, I’m sure you’re smart enough to make an informed decision "

Stop being sensible

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

I met someone on the same street.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"I met someone on the same street. "

Did you say hello?

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

Some people decide you can’t be too careful, so they don’t meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nose to nose not good unless kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like local.

I'd love to find a walking distance FWB

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By *lloverkisserMan
over a year ago

preston

Close can be exciting or a bloody nightmare. Have met married females whose hubby have no idea. To see them walking down the street together can be interesting

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

We tend not to meet folk in the same town. That said we have sort of broken that rule possibly.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

There's no such thing as too close for us. We've often bumped into swinging friends in town, which is fine by us - after all, other people don't know how we know each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not interested in getting to know locals. That's just my preference though. I don't think it's such a bad thing if you're comfortable with it. Being close probably comes in very handy when you both fancy some sexy fun and you can say "I'LL BE THERE IN 30 SECONDS!"

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..

Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views! "

Meeting someone from my own town is way too close for me. I have a very public job, serving a high number of many different people. So it wouldn’t be in my best interest to meet with anyone that is likely to come in.

That said, a chap who I met off another site and decided not to play with after meeting for a social, came in with his family. He lived in a town 11 miles away and had called in on the way to the airport. I let it slipped where I worked (the early days of me meeting people off the internet). So don’t know whether it was intentional or not, but I was very discreet of course, since it works both ways and knew he wouldn’t dare try anything in front of his family. He messaged me much later to explain, but I never answer. I never saw or heard from him again.

If it wasn’t for my job, I probably still wouldn’t meet anyone from the same town.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Local is awesome for me as I don't drive, I have one friend who lives on the same estate and another only 10min walk away... Suits me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a client once in same building turned out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a client once in same building turned out "
omg on your door stairs then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a client once in same building turned out "
client?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The closer the better for me. So much easier and more frequent that way.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!

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Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!

Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel? "

I was just about to say the same. She’s including the fishermen.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!

Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel?

I was just about to say the same. She’s including the fishermen. "

It pays to be thorough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8 houses away

We met through a friend on here. We did come to a decision though that it was just too close.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

London is huge so easy to get lost and I’ve never met anyone that lives in my postcode

But there was a guy from Scotland I saw once and he walked down the street as I was outside a pub with my mates, it was one of those “oh shit” moments, but he behaved and texted 5 mins later

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

Go with your gut instinct.

Could be the start of something wonderful, or could be the start of something woeful.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!

Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel?

I was just about to say the same. She’s including the fishermen.

It pays to be thorough "

I'm often out on the sea, kayak, sup, boat.

I'm taking no chances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!

Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel?

I was just about to say the same. She’s including the fishermen.

It pays to be thorough

I'm often out on the sea, kayak, sup, boat.

I'm taking no chances

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Kayak dating, now there’s a thing. Beats meeting in the supermarket.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!

Doesn’t half of that go into the Channel?

I was just about to say the same. She’s including the fishermen.

It pays to be thorough

I'm often out on the sea, kayak, sup, boat.

I'm taking no chances

Kayak dating, now there’s a thing. Beats meeting in the supermarket. "
and definitely beats meets, beating meat in the supermarket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you want to bump into them at a later date say in the local Tesco or out walking the dog.

I once met a local ish couple, 6 miles away and I cringe every time I see them in town.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would you want to bump into them at a later date say in the local Tesco or out walking the dog.

I once met a local ish couple, 6 miles away and I cringe every time I see them in town. "

I make friends with people I meet so bumping into them would be ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a 30mile exclusion zone around my house!

"
do a swat squad come in if it's breached?

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast


"Would you want to bump into them at a later date say in the local Tesco or out walking the dog.

I once met a local ish couple, 6 miles away and I cringe every time I see them in town.

I make friends with people I meet so bumping into them would be ok. "

Exactly!, discretion and respect paramount

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"We live in a small village and we have just got talking to someone, literally within half a mile..

Just wondered how close you all class as too close for comfort? Any opinions welcomed, just wanted to find out everyone else's views! "

I think it's lovely you live so close to your parents.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Closer the better

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