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By *YC Sausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Long story short, went through a real bad few years and my confidence was at its lowest it’s ever been.

Recently I thought “fuck it” and started going to socials and became more active on tinder and the results have been truly amazing!

I’d class myself as a 4/10 maybe 5/10 at a push. But if you consider my dadbod and compare it to the younger Tony then I’m a 3/10 at best. And I know how picky the girls on here can be due to the amount of single males on here.

In the last week I’ve had some amazing meets, with girls who wouldn’t even look at me in the street. I’m talking of 8’s, 9’s and even a 9.5!!! (Would have been a 10 if she was local lol). I’m not objectifying women, just trying to paint a picture of how beautiful these women actually are! And not one has been a one off meet! Ok one was but already arranging a second meet with her. Which means that not only do they have the looks, but they have the personality to match as well!

So to all those single makes posting “why can’t I meet anyone?” I say get active in the forums, get to your local clubs, update your status regularly and get your name out there. Treat the women with respect, don’t be pushy, and if you get rejected (which I have been a LOT), reply with a genuine appreciation of them taking the time to let you know that they weren’t interested. And if they don’t reply, move on. No point sending abuse, it’s not going to help you.

Motivational rant over. Hope you all have a great day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you OP

Great advice...but scoring this women out of 10 is a bad idea....if they read this, I'd imagine they'll be a tad annoyed, I would be...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good for you OP

Great advice...but scoring this women out of 10 is a bad idea....if they read this, I'd imagine they'll be a tad annoyed, I would be..."

Eileen you're a 9 you should be happy you're fit and op all about the confidence. Still I ain't getting meets though I'm sure my luck will change

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By *YC Sausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Good for you OP

Great advice...but scoring this women out of 10 is a bad idea....if they read this, I'd imagine they'll be a tad annoyed, I would be..."

I was just trying to paint a picture verbally of how attractive (both inside and out) these women are. I didn’t know if another way to get my point across so vividly.

I do understand your point though. Hopefully, people will read it in the positive light that it was intended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good for you OP

Great advice...but scoring this women out of 10 is a bad idea....if they read this, I'd imagine they'll be a tad annoyed, I would be...

I was just trying to paint a picture verbally of how attractive (both inside and out) these women are. I didn’t know if another way to get my point across so vividly.

I do understand your point though. Hopefully, people will read it in the positive light that it was intended. "

Totally get what you were trying to do...hopefully they will too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a happy ending OP. Well done you

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Aww Op. Self confidence is great and this is incredibly positive to read.

(The whole rating thing... it's really subjective isn't it? You might be someone's 9/10, the women might be someone's 3/10).

I think that being happy with who you are goes a long way, people are naturally more attracted to those they feel more comfortable with. Here's to you meeting many more 8+ women.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Just on the whole linear scale rating thing, I once got scored an eleven out of ten...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Just on the whole linear scale rating thing, I once got scored an eleven out of ten..."

See Op - so subjective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just on the whole linear scale rating thing, I once got scored an eleven out of ten..."

It doesn't count if its from your mum...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great you have your confidence back buddy , positivity is a key . Moaning in the forums or on your status will never look good your right .

Though rating others is not a good thing in my eyes , take people as the come and how you interact with them

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By *YC Sausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Just on the whole linear scale rating thing, I once got scored an eleven out of ten...

See Op - so subjective. "

Hilarious!!! Made me laugh out loud that x

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

When we first started meeting single guys one of them advised us that it was all about the networking on this site. Getting yourselves to socials which leads onto party invites (some of the time).

We always pass this advice on to any single guys we meet now.

Great advice op and well done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just on the whole linear scale rating thing, I once got scored an eleven out of ten..."

I can believe that. But what were you being rated for exactly?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

OP, I understand and agree with your approach completely. The most important part of what you said is respect.

I (Luke) used to be a singleton on this scene. I went to clubs with the attitude of being smiley, friendly, non-pushy and not entitled. I went with the view that if I managed have genuine and relaxed conversation with somebody about anything, I would come away happy. The result: I got laid every time.

Respect goes a very long way in this world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a happy ending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice one op....i could do with a confidence boost grr. Have lots of fun x

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown


"Long story short, went through a real bad few years and my confidence was at its lowest it’s ever been.

Recently I thought “fuck it” and started going to socials and became more active on tinder and the results have been truly amazing!

I’d class myself as a 4/10 maybe 5/10 at a push. But if you consider my dadbod and compare it to the younger Tony then I’m a 3/10 at best. And I know how picky the girls on here can be due to the amount of single males on here.

In the last week I’ve had some amazing meets, with girls who wouldn’t even look at me in the street. I’m talking of 8’s, 9’s and even a 9.5!!! (Would have been a 10 if she was local lol). I’m not objectifying women, just trying to paint a picture of how beautiful these women actually are! And not one has been a one off meet! Ok one was but already arranging a second meet with her. Which means that not only do they have the looks, but they have the personality to match as well!

So to all those single makes posting “why can’t I meet anyone?” I say get active in the forums, get to your local clubs, update your status regularly and get your name out there. Treat the women with respect, don’t be pushy, and if you get rejected (which I have been a LOT), reply with a genuine appreciation of them taking the time to let you know that they weren’t interested. And if they don’t reply, move on. No point sending abuse, it’s not going to help you.

Motivational rant over. Hope you all have a great day x"

Well said that man. As I've met this very nice chap(not in the biblical sense obviously....harrumph) and as a bi guy I can categorically state that you are underselling yourself. You are at least a five and seven eighths (rounded up to six unless you've been decimalised since Saturday). Seriously though, great advice. Take it easy mate

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Confidence is an attractive trait that many a person finds sexy. The secret is to temper it with some humility so as to not cross over into cockiness.The appeal wears off then.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Well done OP, I had to start off with 2's and 3's and work my way up.

I remember my first 8 like it was yesterday.

One time I thought I had a 9 on my hands then she took off this Rabbit Bra thing and I realised she was only a 7, duped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keys are keys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rating people ... not my thing

To someone - you’re their ‘10’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not into doing a number rating on looks, But I'm glad you've had some nice meets OP. You seem like a decent man on here

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rating people ... not my thing

To someone - you’re their ‘10’

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Awwww. This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Could you point me in the right direction to find mine please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rating people ... not my thing

To someone - you’re their ‘10’

Awwww. This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Could you point me in the right direction to find mine please "

Your 10 ... will find you

Certainly not someone who would rate someone either

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Good for you. I use that rating game, but only when buying clothes. I look in the mirror and if I don’t score the look 9 or 10 it goes back on the shelf. When I haven’t applied this method the clothes have ended up in the charity shop! Suppose it applies to anything in life if you think about it!

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rating people ... not my thing

To someone - you’re their ‘10’

Awwww. This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Could you point me in the right direction to find mine please

Your 10 ... will find you

Certainly not someone who would rate someone either "

He rated himself first. Just to show that even though he feels he's not that desirable, someone he thinks of as very attractive wanted to meet him.

I think it's really sweet. I don't think he's meaning anything bad by it at all.

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By *YC Sausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Rating people ... not my thing

To someone - you’re their ‘10’

Awwww. This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Could you point me in the right direction to find mine please "

Can I point at myself?

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