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What’s your personal kintsugi bowl?

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By *dam1971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Kintsugi is the Japanese art of sticking a bowl back together but instead of trying to hide the cracks, fill the glue with gold powder and make a feature of them.

Google images is your friend here, but the thought is that the breakage is part of the object’s history and should be displayed. It’s what makes that object what it is right now and its history shouldn’t be covered up.

Do you have marks, either physical or mental that have made you who you are? Do you think it’s better to hide the bits that broke you away, or be proud of them and see them as beautiful?

Sometimes it’s difficult to see this in ourselves but I can certainly see it in others where the damage just makes them more beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a car crash when I was a teenager and have a lot of scars on my arms, hands and one on my forehead.

I’ve had numerous offers to pay to remove them but I like them. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a ton of visible scars from surgeries, self harming, and an abusive ex.

I also have a ton of mental baggage, bipolar disorder, anxiety, ocd, ptsd, I could go on.

I used to try and hide it all, believing people would think I'm damaged goods, or difficult to be around. Now, I'm open and don't hide anything. I'm proud that I've survived it all. I'm proud of who all those things made me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a ton of visible scars from surgeries, self harming, and an abusive ex.

I also have a ton of mental baggage, bipolar disorder, anxiety, ocd, ptsd, I could go on.

I used to try and hide it all, believing people would think I'm damaged goods, or difficult to be around. Now, I'm open and don't hide anything. I'm proud that I've survived it all. I'm proud of who all those things made me "

And so you should be. I know it’s cliched but I do believe ‘what doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger’. Stay beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a ton of visible scars from surgeries, self harming, and an abusive ex.

I also have a ton of mental baggage, bipolar disorder, anxiety, ocd, ptsd, I could go on.

I used to try and hide it all, believing people would think I'm damaged goods, or difficult to be around. Now, I'm open and don't hide anything. I'm proud that I've survived it all. I'm proud of who all those things made me

And so you should be. I know it’s cliched but I do believe ‘what doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger’. Stay beautiful "

Absolutely! Thank you, right back atcha

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I love kintsugi, it's a beautiful concept. I have scars mentally and physically from childhood and one particularly awful partner. I spent a long time thinking that revealing weakness made me lesser but I know now it makes me me and who I am is actually alright. Not perfect and yes I'm flawed but overall I'm good and worth displaying all of me.

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By *dam1971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I love kintsugi, it's a beautiful concept. I have scars mentally and physically from childhood and one particularly awful partner. I spent a long time thinking that revealing weakness made me lesser but I know now it makes me me and who I am is actually alright. Not perfect and yes I'm flawed but overall I'm good and worth displaying all of me. "

And just like kintsugi, you’ve got a gold crack?

I find it difficult to admit to my breakages and being honest with people about them, but it’s much easier for me to see the cracks as beautiful in others.

Wear your scars with pride!

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....


"Kintsugi is the Japanese art of sticking a bowl back together but instead of trying to hide the cracks, fill the glue with gold powder and make a feature of them.

Google images is your friend here, but the thought is that the breakage is part of the object’s history and should be displayed. It’s what makes that object what it is right now and its history shouldn’t be covered up.

Do you have marks, either physical or mental that have made you who you are? Do you think it’s better to hide the bits that broke you away, or be proud of them and see them as beautiful?

Sometimes it’s difficult to see this in ourselves but I can certainly see it in others where the damage just makes them more beautiful "

The things you learn on Fabs... ty Adam, thought provoking and positive xx

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

I have a bust ornament of Girth Minge Fire which was thrown at me recently - luckily, I escaped injury by ducking quickly enough. Unfortunately, however, the ornament smashed into several pieces.

I haven't yet glued it back together, and now think I'll apply the Kintsugi Bowl ethos having read this thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading what some of you have been through ... Wow you're strong women .... Real sorry you've had to go through that ... I just want to cuddle you all and cry a little

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I conceal weaknesses on the Internet and only reveal them to my closest of friends and family outside of that. Its part of who I am as a very private person and I'm not about to change. Physical stuff I'm not bothered about except my feet which I don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always admire bravery like Eileen’s and Meli to wear their scars with pride as they have had significant challenges or those who have survived accidents with permanent scaring. I haven’t received the more challenging blows in life but I have flaws that I’m pretty open about. I don’t glorify them so colouring them good would be inappropriate but as do accept them and do my best where I can to change things. My cracks would probably be better painted a number of subtler shades depending on how well mended they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have 2 physical scars, one on my midriff from an appendectomy and another on my foot, from a d*unken encounter with a lady wearing stiletto heels so neither are visible... I have a few mental scars, mainly from being a mentally/psychologically and financially abusive marriage but I rarely drag those skeletons out of the closet... i just know I am stronger for having survived it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the bowl idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have scars, physical and mental but I'm proud of them and I will never be ashamed or try to hide my story from people because those experiences made me who I am today.

I battled with depression, anxiety and agoraphobia for years and I was completely ready to kill myself at one point. I pulled through and I know I'm one tough cookie. So, cover my broken bits in the brightest glitter you can find and let the world see.

A certain darkness is needed to see the stars!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lived and worked in Japan for two years and Kintsugi isn’t just a concept. People who need it, can either create their own piece of pottery or choose a bowl. They cherish these items, often planting bonsai in them and it is a reflection of their own personal development. Truly beautiful and very personal

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By *dam1971 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I conceal weaknesses on the Internet and only reveal them to my closest of friends and family outside of that. Its part of who I am as a very private person and I'm not about to change. Physical stuff I'm not bothered about except my feet which I don't like. "

I’m the same and find it difficult to share unless it’s a very close friend. Strangely enough it’s sometimes easier to share on here to strangers than to people I’ve known for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love kintsugi, it's a beautiful concept. I have scars mentally and physically from childhood and one particularly awful partner. I spent a long time thinking that revealing weakness made me lesser but I know now it makes me me and who I am is actually alright. Not perfect and yes I'm flawed but overall I'm good and worth displaying all of me.

And just like kintsugi, you’ve got a gold crack?

I find it difficult to admit to my breakages and being honest with people about them, but it’s much easier for me to see the cracks as beautiful in others.

Wear your scars with pride!

"

"There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading what some of you have been through ... Wow you're strong women .... Real sorry you've had to go through that ... I just want to cuddle you all and cry a little "

Don't be sorry!

People have had to deal with far worse than I.

I'm lucky, I'm still here and I'm happier now, the tough times have taught me invaluable lessons and I'm stronger now because of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have cracks , flaws and scars .

The trick is not to let them define you

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Hannah has scars from surgery for cancer. Her journey has a lot to do with why we are together today. I love her scars. They are part of her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuckin' ell, this is weird

I was only looking at these yesterday and reading up on them last night

I can see one turning up Chez Bussy before too long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hannah has scars from surgery for cancer. Her journey has a lot to do with why we are together today. I love her scars. They are part of her. "

That's lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have scars on my legs from various childhood injuries. I was forever doing daft things like trying to do stunts on my bmx or falling out of trees. I love those scars, they're a reminder of an adventurous childhood. I have scars on my arm from self-harm. Don't love those, but I'm not ashamed of them either. They just are. My mental scars are significant but they're also not something to be ashamed of or anything to feel bitter about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like showing them to everyone and anyone as I don't like acting like a victim even though it could inspire other to stand back on their feet.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Many scars mostly from 13 brain surgeries, I dont care about them. Dont like them then dont look xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have some physical scars from different surgeries, they have saved my life both literally and figuratively. But I also have emotional scars from a mentally abusive marriage. I’m not the same person I was, I’m a survivor x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have physical scars that i don’t hide. I have emotional scars that i try to hide but they seem to make an appearance, eventually.

It’s the emotional scars that are the ones that scare folk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lived and worked in Japan for two years and Kintsugi isn’t just a concept. People who need it, can either create their own piece of pottery or choose a bowl. They cherish these items, often planting bonsai in them and it is a reflection of their own personal development. Truly beautiful and very personal "

They smash it up then put it back together as a symbol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love kintsugi, it's a beautiful concept. I have scars mentally and physically from childhood and one particularly awful partner. I spent a long time thinking that revealing weakness made me lesser but I know now it makes me me and who I am is actually alright. Not perfect and yes I'm flawed but overall I'm good and worth displaying all of me.

And just like kintsugi, you’ve got a gold crack?

I find it difficult to admit to my breakages and being honest with people about them, but it’s much easier for me to see the cracks as beautiful in others.

Wear your scars with pride!

"There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in""

I like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lived and worked in Japan for two years and Kintsugi isn’t just a concept. People who need it, can either create their own piece of pottery or choose a bowl. They cherish these items, often planting bonsai in them and it is a reflection of their own personal development. Truly beautiful and very personal

They smash it up then put it back together as a symbol?"

Yep. Some put it back together in an afternoon, others take years.

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Everyone has scars from their lives, you'd have to be a totally cosseted princess not to, of course some have more than others, and some choose to keep them private for whatever reasons. I'm open with mine, not a conscious choice, I just always have been. Perhaps that's not wise, especially online, but I'm too old to change my ways now!

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