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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In life we all manage expectations. I manage them every day for other people . However, more and more I find I'm not quite able to manage my own. As a result :quite often things I get excited about (in all aspects not just sex) just aren't quite living up to my expectations.

I now feel like I'm just seeking something more .

Does anyone else struggle with this at times?

How do you get past this ? Or is it a sign I'm just not pushing boundaries enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this massively. I think the hype and hysteria about virtually everything doesn’t help. Can’t but help feel that everything is overrated, at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expect nothing and you will get everything xc

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’ve learnt not to expect anything then 1) I can just enjoy what ever it is for that moment and then 2) you can’t be disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i had expectations first time in a while. Never never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One advantage pessimists have, gets the disappointment over beforehand and then it always ends up better than you think.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH

There's a line in a Cheryl Crowe song that goes..

It's not having what you want

It's wanting what you've got.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

I have the problem of struggling to get excited about things in the first place as I'm expecting to be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a line in a Cheryl Crowe song that goes..

It's not having what you want

It's wanting what you've got.

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Guessing she didn’t do too well in North Korea’s top 40 then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Expect nothing and you will get everything xc"

Expect to be dissapointed and you will never be suprised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Expect nothing and you will get everything xc

Expect to be dissapointed and you will never be suprised "

My dad taught me this. I usually follow it apart from recently

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"Expect nothing and you will get everything xc"

That

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In life we all manage expectations. I manage them every day for other people . However, more and more I find I'm not quite able to manage my own. As a result :quite often things I get excited about (in all aspects not just sex) just aren't quite living up to my expectations.

I now feel like I'm just seeking something more .

Does anyone else struggle with this at times?

How do you get past this ? Or is it a sign I'm just not pushing boundaries enough?

"
keep life simple for a while, pick something you enjoy but never get around to doing and do it and like others have said don't expect anything and you'll be surprised at what you might get, material things for me anyway mean nothing, it's great to have ambition mind it's a driving force in making you achieve but don't live life for work, work to live.

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Lifes a series of linked recoveries, swings and roundabouts, the challenging times are most likely the times we personally improve ourselves and gain the most personal accomplishment as we come out the other side.....even though it may not feel that way...

Or

Stay away from social media or buying into fake happiness or lifestyles lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prepare for the worst and you will always be ready. Anything else is a bonus

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Used to be massively like this, after a few serious bouts of mental health issues I tried mindfulness, it seriously changed my way of thinking, try the head space app for a start. Live in the moment. I'm a totally different person to the one I was 4 years ago.

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could you be depressed OP? That can produce these feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect anything anymore expect to get sucked on a social by time waster who sucks for england during the Eurovision

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Expect nothing and you will get everything xc"

Alternatively, expect nothing as you will probably receive it in abundance.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

In the words of The Rolling Stones :

You can't always get what you want

But if you try sometime you find

You get what you need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't wait until I'm financially able to afford who I really am

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"In life we all manage expectations. I manage them every day for other people . However, more and more I find I'm not quite able to manage my own. As a result :quite often things I get excited about (in all aspects not just sex) just aren't quite living up to my expectations.

I now feel like I'm just seeking something more .

Does anyone else struggle with this at times?

How do you get past this ? Or is it a sign I'm just not pushing boundaries enough?

"

I found this tiny snippet, that helps me to put things in perspective

https://youtu.be/p0p1fjLPjYQ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be like my friend who has no tv or social media ... every day is a grand surprise!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I always wanted a large open fireplace with a roaring fire...I have grate expectations

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I have great expectations; but they can get pipped to the post by the magwitches of the world. But I say havisham at it, and enjoy yourself.

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

Everybody is bit glass half empty,expect higher standard and that's what you will get.

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