FabSwingers.com forum: I am enough

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im way too much

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I’ve had enough

Know that feeling sometimes

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Can you ever have enough?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

given enough redbull or coffee i am

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By *att71Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Are any of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably not

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I am what I am!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

No. Not yet. Maybe one day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m enough yes

Not enough for some , but for me - yes

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

stop this thread weve had enough aready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think you can be enough yet still strive for betterment

I am far from perfect, yet I am enough

I do wish more people would recognise this in themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what others want from me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends what others want from me. "

I'm thinking more self worth than meeting the wants of others

BTW, the new avatar, where did THEY come from?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes. I know what you mean OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to be x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends what others want from me.

I'm thinking more self worth than meeting the wants of others

BTW, the new avatar, where did THEY come from?

Well I am enough for me, I'm happy with myself but I'm not enough for others.

I don't know, they just kinda happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am what I am! "

And what I am needs no excuses...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you can be enough yet still strive for betterment

I am far from perfect, yet I am enough

I do wish more people would recognise this in themselves"

It's sad how many people don't appreciate themselves. My self worth depends on no-one else, just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times.

Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was.

I'm finally starting to believe that I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm too good probs

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’m too much

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times.

Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was.

I'm finally starting to believe that I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its probably about all Ive got so it will have to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No im not

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

For some, yes

For some, no

For others, far too much

For me, I'm perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more than enough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably a bit much tbf

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Is enough ever enough.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"I’m too much "

For some maybe

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"I’m too much

For some maybe

Ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I am, even if I do give myself a hard time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for him

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

"I’m too much

For some maybe

Ha! "

Are you

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Yes I aam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some they have had more than enough of me, for someone else they can’t get enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just glorious me

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I'm just glorious me

Yes you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times.

Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was.

I'm finally starting to believe that I am.

I had the same with my Dad

(I assume) he did it in good faith and in an attempt to push me to strive for excellence

Just one example was coming home from school all chuffed with myself, having got 90%+ in an exam

His reaction : "you know what they call that in my job? Scrap! - unless you get it 100% right, it goes in the bin, it's useless"

I was well into my 20's before I confronted him over it. I can't even remember what I'd done, but he had started to knock it

I didn't make a big fuss, I just said "fuckin 'ell Dad, whatever I do, it's never good enough is it? If I won the lottery, you'd be on my back for not doing it on a rollover week"

I saw him physically recoil

He had no idea - or he never thought I'd challenge him

He has been as right as rain ever since

He's an old man now, he's softened, he's recently told me that he's proud of me and the way I've turned out

I didn't need that, but it helped and I'll take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times.

Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was.

I'm finally starting to believe that I am.

I had the same with my Dad

(I assume) he did it in good faith and in an attempt to push me to strive for excellence

Just one example was coming home from school all chuffed with myself, having got 90%+ in an exam

His reaction : "you know what they call that in my job? Scrap! - unless you get it 100% right, it goes in the bin, it's useless"

I was well into my 20's before I confronted him over it. I can't even remember what I'd done, but he had started to knock it

I didn't make a big fuss, I just said "fuckin 'ell Dad, whatever I do, it's never good enough is it? If I won the lottery, you'd be on my back for not doing it on a rollover week"

I saw him physically recoil

He had no idea - or he never thought I'd challenge him

He has been as right as rain ever since

He's an old man now, he's softened, he's recently told me that he's proud of me and the way I've turned out

I didn't need that, but it helped and I'll take it"

Yep, exactly how I had it.

Then when I got with my ex I tried to better myself, started working in a school and got a few qualifications, nothing major but NVQs.... his reaction to the work I was putting in and when I passed was probably worse than my mums. He didn't dismiss my efforts but picked holes in other ways, I remember him saying "you've put all that fucking effort in for an NVQ, you know what those pieces of shit stand for don't ya? Nearly very qualified... ain't worth the paper it's written on so if you wanna waste your fucking time, do it on something worthwhile"

I never challenged the mother. Saw no point and thought it really wouldn't achieve much apart from upsetting her if she actually listened to what I was saying of course. I have bugger all to do with her now and I don't see the point in creating agro over something I can't change that won't have any effect on the future either

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’ve always been quite self sufficient and a reasonable level of self confidence. No one has ever been dissatisfied or disappointed with my sexua......what was the question again?

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I'll get my coat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times.

Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was.

I'm finally starting to believe that I am.

I had the same with my Dad

(I assume) he did it in good faith and in an attempt to push me to strive for excellence

Just one example was coming home from school all chuffed with myself, having got 90%+ in an exam

His reaction : "you know what they call that in my job? Scrap! - unless you get it 100% right, it goes in the bin, it's useless"

I was well into my 20's before I confronted him over it. I can't even remember what I'd done, but he had started to knock it

I didn't make a big fuss, I just said "fuckin 'ell Dad, whatever I do, it's never good enough is it? If I won the lottery, you'd be on my back for not doing it on a rollover week"

I saw him physically recoil

He had no idea - or he never thought I'd challenge him

He has been as right as rain ever since

He's an old man now, he's softened, he's recently told me that he's proud of me and the way I've turned out

I didn't need that, but it helped and I'll take it

Yep, exactly how I had it.

... and despite all that, you ARE good enough, just embrace it

I don't think we've ever spoken, but I am here enough to witness how well liked you are here. People are genuinely fond of you - and that's looking past the fun and frivolity

That doesn't happen to just anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve always been quite self sufficient and a reasonable level of self confidence. No one has ever been dissatisfied or disappointed with my sexua......what was the question again?"

Ello stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had enough

Stop it. Don't put negative thoughts in my mind

The weather is lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you can be enough yet still strive for betterment

I am far from perfect, yet I am enough

I do wish more people would recognise this in themselves"

This OP

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I’ve always been quite self sufficient and a reasonable level of self confidence. No one has ever been dissatisfied or disappointed with my sexua......what was the question again?

Ello stranger

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that’s what I say to my cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times.

Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was.

I'm finally starting to believe that I am.

I had the same with my Dad

(I assume) he did it in good faith and in an attempt to push me to strive for excellence

Just one example was coming home from school all chuffed with myself, having got 90%+ in an exam

His reaction : "you know what they call that in my job? Scrap! - unless you get it 100% right, it goes in the bin, it's useless"

I was well into my 20's before I confronted him over it. I can't even remember what I'd done, but he had started to knock it

I didn't make a big fuss, I just said "fuckin 'ell Dad, whatever I do, it's never good enough is it? If I won the lottery, you'd be on my back for not doing it on a rollover week"

I saw him physically recoil

He had no idea - or he never thought I'd challenge him

He has been as right as rain ever since

He's an old man now, he's softened, he's recently told me that he's proud of me and the way I've turned out

I didn't need that, but it helped and I'll take it

Yep, exactly how I had it.

... and despite all that, you ARE good enough, just embrace it

I don't think we've ever spoken, but I am here enough to witness how well liked you are here. People are genuinely fond of you - and that's looking past the fun and frivolity

That doesn't happen to just anyone"

Thank you Bussy, that means an awful lot to me and I admit gave me a lump in my throat. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve always been quite self sufficient and a reasonable level of self confidence. No one has ever been dissatisfied or disappointed with my sexua......what was the question again?

Ello stranger

that’s what I say to my cock"

I don't see mine half as much as I used to either

These days, we only meet if I stand in front of a mirror

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I am enough for me, although i suspect others find me wanting.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"No im not"

Yes you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not enough."

Why do you think that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am enough for me, although i suspect others find me wanting.

That's enough then

To me at least

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’m enough. More than enough. However I won’t be that for everyone and that’s fine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I am. I know I am even when other people think I'm not. It's a useful mindset to have and I'm fortunate to have had it most of my life.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Always room for improvement, but the saying 1 step forward 2 back creeps in at times.

I’d love to have more self confidence at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not enough.

Why do you think that?"

Because every I start thinking that I am, people ahow me that I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just can't get enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not enough.

Why do you think that?

Because every I start thinking that I am, people ahow me that I'm not."

It has to come from you, not others

Sorry you feel otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wonder.

My whole life I've doubted my worth.

I think I am...I hope I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Since my mid - late 20’s my feelings self worth have been on a steady upward trend with a couple of dips due to guilt about things I’d done. However on the whole I am content with who I am and don’t feel the need to be anything more than myself. There are things I can change but I’ll get round to that when I’m ready.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I feel enough if I am well dressed. Otherwise I feel like a total failure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer depends on how I'm feeling on the day and today it's not so much

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Nope apparently not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread led to me having a "moment" last night. It's not a bad thing by any stretch, yes I was upset but that's part of the self discovery route.

26 years. That's over half my life of being told I wasn't.

I realised unlearning something you were taught for 26 fucking years of your life is gonna take more work than I thought.

You can know something but not necessarily believe in it, and I think that's where I am now.

I know the mother and the ex were wrong, but I don't quite believe fully in myself just yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you?"

I most certainly am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn right i am! Taken me a long time to know this but i am more and plenty more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This thread led to me having a "moment" last night. It's not a bad thing by any stretch, yes I was upset but that's part of the self discovery route.

26 years. That's over half my life of being told I wasn't.

I realised unlearning something you were taught for 26 fucking years of your life is gonna take more work than I thought.

You can know something but not necessarily believe in it, and I think that's where I am now.

I know the mother and the ex were wrong, but I don't quite believe fully in myself just yet

I initially felt guilty for posting the thread having read this, but on reflection, fuck that

You ARE enough and you're on the right tracks to owning

Part of that is reflection

It helped me - it's not always been sunshine and flowers in Bussy Towers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread led to me having a "moment" last night. It's not a bad thing by any stretch, yes I was upset but that's part of the self discovery route.

26 years. That's over half my life of being told I wasn't.

I realised unlearning something you were taught for 26 fucking years of your life is gonna take more work than I thought.

You can know something but not necessarily believe in it, and I think that's where I am now.

I know the mother and the ex were wrong, but I don't quite believe fully in myself just yet

I initially felt guilty for posting the thread having read this, but on reflection, fuck that

You ARE enough and you're on the right tracks to owning

Part of that is reflection

It helped me - it's not always been sunshine and flowers in Bussy Towers x "

No no no, you should absolutely not feel guilty at all, coz we all need these moments to rationalise, reflect and understand.

So thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am enough.

Like me or dislike me, love me or loath me. This is who I am and I'm not changing for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I am. I know I am even when other people think I'm not. It's a useful mindset to have and I'm fortunate to have had it most of my life.

To some people we are nothing.

To some people we are everything.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

Im a small french egg- so im definitely un œuf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel I am no. But I'm working on it

Holly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im a small french egg- so im definitely un œuf

Enough!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes I am. I know I am even when other people think I'm not. It's a useful mindset to have and I'm fortunate to have had it most of my life.

To some people we are nothing.

To some people we are everything."

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often wonder.

My whole life I've doubted my worth.

I think I am...I hope I am. "

I’m newish here. From your profile, pics and veris from those who know you, you are clearly a great person. You are really attractive and people speak very well of you.

I understand the self-doubt, but ultimately the only person you have to be enough for is yourself. If you aren’t enough, or are too much for someone else, then they don’t deserve you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread led to me having a "moment" last night. It's not a bad thing by any stretch, yes I was upset but that's part of the self discovery route.

26 years. That's over half my life of being told I wasn't.

I realised unlearning something you were taught for 26 fucking years of your life is gonna take more work than I thought.

You can know something but not necessarily believe in it, and I think that's where I am now.

I know the mother and the ex were wrong, but I don't quite believe fully in myself just yet

The hardest habits to break are the ones we don't realise are habits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread led to me having a "moment" last night. It's not a bad thing by any stretch, yes I was upset but that's part of the self discovery route.

26 years. That's over half my life of being told I wasn't.

I realised unlearning something you were taught for 26 fucking years of your life is gonna take more work than I thought.

You can know something but not necessarily believe in it, and I think that's where I am now.

I know the mother and the ex were wrong, but I don't quite believe fully in myself just yet

The hardest habits to break are the ones we don't realise are habits."

So unbelievably true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure.

For one I wasn't.

For another I was too much.

For me,some days yes and some days no

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