FabSwingers.com forum: When did you first Fall In Love?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was a bit of an awkward looking nerdy kid at school and I was teased a lot because of my height. I didn't really pay attention to boys until I hit the age of 13. My "All-Girl's School" was built next to an "All-Boy's School" I noticed my "first true love" through a fence, watching him play football. I married him aged 22. His family were millionaires, I was picked up by his Dad for our dates in a Rolls Royce. They are mostly happy memories.

Do you remember when "you first got the feels"? How old were you. How long did it last? Did you marry your childhood sweetheart like me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And the prize for zero interest in a thread goes to......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had lots of infatuations from an early age, but I first really fell for a girl when I was 14. Sadly our relationship was short-lived due to the sly, jealous, back-stabbing, untruthful actions of my so-called best friend. It still feels slightly painful to recall those feelings of unrequited love. I think the experience adversely affected all future relationships and the tarnishing of my reputation unconsciously drove my behaviour to fulfil the reputation I was given. I’ve struggled with the demon born of that experience since.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I never fell in love. I thought i was when i was 18 but it wasnt then again when i was 24 and it wasnt. It wasnt until i was 41 i fell in love properly

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I didn't fall in love until I was about nineteen or so.

She was honestly like no one else I'd met before or met since - full of love and so much energy and passion and vigour for everything. When she spoke to you you felt like you were caught up in her whirlwind of life and that her sole focus was you. Her intelligence and tenacity were mirrored in my own. We argued like fuck but gosh it was good when it worked.

We dated for around three years or so and it was all consuming and intense. Sadly it didn't last but it's shaped my views and behaviours on relationships both platonic and sexual. For better and worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well ... there were no Rolls Royce’s for me

I fell in love twice .... a long time ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know that I fall in love more like a weird obsessional infatuation. I remember the first who I expressed it to and he is probably still running 22 yrs later. I learnt a few lessons about how to keep most of the obsessional infatuation stuff inside and just let the sweet bits show

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i had lots of infatuations from an early age, but I first really fell for a girl when I was 14. Sadly our relationship was short-lived due to the sly, jealous, back-stabbing, untruthful actions of my so-called best friend. It still feels slightly painful to recall those feelings of unrequited love. I think the experience adversely affected all future relationships and the tarnishing of my reputation unconsciously drove my behaviouer to fulfil the reputation I was given. I’ve struggled with the demon born of that experience since."

I'm so sorry to hear that. My Nanny married 5 times abd fell in love in her 80s. She always kept positive about finding love again. All her husbands died though. We used to laugh that she would be investigated as a gold digger. She wasn't, just outlived them. What I'm try to say is hopefully one day you will find someone.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I first fell in love in1978, went onto marry him but after 20 years I called it quits, in 2008 I met a rather lovely chap who I had a swinging relationship with and we had lots of fun together, his ill health and family situation drive us apart in the end, and about 5 years ago I started charting to someone who broke down my walks, who kiss melted my heart, who made me laugh like a child at farts and stupid stuff, who gave me confidence, we could sit quiet and just enjoy music or watching a film, we visited places together and I truly loved him, I used to joke that sometimes he could see the love hearts popping out my eyes at him

it was s gentle sensual love and I think it was the best of all

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By *unningFoxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have been in love twice.. Once with my best friend and other a guy I dated and than he got another but still “played” with me. Unfortunately both unrequited love it seems.. They both kept be close and hurt me like hell.. I never knew how to be in relationship really as I have never had good example in my life

It is what it is.

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

I was 10 y/o. So was she. We kissed on a school trip. It lasted about a week. Until she traded me with another girl, 'boyfriend' for 'boyfriend'. Broke my heart until I found out it was fishfingers fir tea and all was well in the world again. I remember her name and can still see her in my minds eye although I haven't seen her since I was 11.

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By *ickyRoosterMan
over a year ago

Uppendown

*The relationship lasted about a week. Not the school trip or the snog

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I fell head over heels for a girl in Wales, I was about 12. The feelings were one way only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I saw my first Ducati 888, sadly I could never afford her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I got my first German Shepherd puppy, those eyes, ears and face were to die for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age 14. Still in love with the guy now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aged 15. Married him at 17. He's no longer with us but he'll always have my heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you I did find someone else

My demon is still alive and kicking though.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

About two years ago.

Unfortunately he doesn’t love me.

I’ve been pining for him like a wounded puppy ever since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first love I was with from 14 to almost 18. He got d*unk and kissed my ex friend who was throwing herself at him on a night out. I punched him in the face, punched her and then went to punch him again before the bouncers lifted me up and put me outside. I had my one and only one night stand that night as went and fucked the cousin of someone he knew and returned to the home we shared the next morning

Amusingly his mum (who I adored) rang my mum to tell her that he had got a rebound girl who was almost my double. (this was while I was having daily phone calls to take him back). The last I heard they were still together. He kept adding me on Facebook and she kept making him delete me.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I fell in love in 1996 with my best friend at the time, he still makes my heart flutter to this day he is my world. You would think after all these years the love would fade but not for me, it has deepened and grows more each day.

We are blessed for sure.

u D.

Jo.Xx

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Jays catalogue lingerie section

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first love was when I was 14. He was the same age and we were both socially awkward and shy, but it was a lovely relationship that lasted a year and was revisited a few times in the subsequent 2 years. He professed to still love me when we were in our 20's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Age 14. Still in love with the guy now

Nearly as young as me. It's really nice to hear and a happy mummy and daddy = a very happy baby to follow x

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Jays catalogue lingerie section

Oops kays not jays

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I was 5 and he was 8. My tooth had fallen out on our gravel driveway and he managed to find it for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are some "lovely" stories but also some very sad ones. I do think that really loving somebody is an essential nutrient of life and for our happiness. I think it's hard wired into all of us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 19 and in the air force and fell head over heels in love with the most beautiful person I've ever met we drifted apart when I was 20 but even after all these years she still in my heart and always will be

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"There are some "lovely" stories but also some very sad ones. I do think that really loving somebody is an essential nutrient of life and for our happiness. I think it's hard wired into all of us?

In theory but I’ve never been in love like I imagine it could be.

Despite a 7 yr, 22 yr and 19 month relationship

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"There are some "lovely" stories but also some very sad ones. I do think that really loving somebody is an essential nutrient of life and for our happiness. I think it's hard wired into all of us?

In theory but I’ve never been in love like I imagine it could be.

Despite a 7 yr, 22 yr and 19 month relationship

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how do you imagine it could be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Age 14. Still in love with the guy now

Nearly as young as me. It's really nice to hear and a happy mummy and daddy = a very happy baby to follow x"

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 19 when I first met him . I was married but very unhappy (got married at 16 as I was pregnant and it seemed like the right thing to do, it wasn't) anyway we met on line and over 2 years built this amazing connection. I took the plunge and went to Manchester to meet him. It was quite an experience. Over the years we saw each other often. He broke my heart a few times. Married his first wife. Left her . I finally divorced my husband, but he had found wife no 2! He's now about to divorce her. We are still friends but that's all. I think I had a lucky escape

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Despite a 7 yr, 22 yr and 19 month relationship

how do you imagine it could be?"

Really nice, and you just know that the other person loves you. You don’t get cheated on, there’s no violence or mind games. And you both support each other, not just all one way.

I guess

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Despite a 7 yr, 22 yr and 19 month relationship

how do you imagine it could be?

Really nice, and you just know that the other person loves you. You don’t get cheated on, there’s no violence or mind games. And you both support each other, not just all one way.

I guess

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yes. being in love (for me) is so easy. No drama no arguments no game playing. Just wanting to make each other happy

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By *estless nativeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Just before I turned 15, cute cheshire girl I met on holiday, had a long distance romance for 6 years afterwards.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I guess

yes. being in love (for me) is so easy. No drama no arguments no game playing. Just wanting to make each other happy"

Yes, like that

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I guess

yes. being in love (for me) is so easy. No drama no arguments no game playing. Just wanting to make each other happy

Yes, like that

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hang in there it will happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I was about 11 years old. Had the one girl I really fancied 'stolen' by a friend lol. Didn't really get serious until my early twenties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once at 8 then at 19 and then another and never will again. I'm done with love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 15, he was a bit older. We lost our virginity together. We were together about 10 months and had as much sex as we could squeeze in between observant conservative parents, A and O levels. He went on to pursue his dreams in the face of considerable parental opposition and made a success of them. He looks amazing now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 9 yrs old and we were at the same school. She always called me her dreamboat and although our paths crossed all through our school years, we were never an item, probably because I mixed with the wrong crowd. After 6th Form, I never saw her again. ..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I guess

yes. being in love (for me) is so easy. No drama no arguments no game playing. Just wanting to make each other happy

Yes, like that

hang in there it will happen"

Thank you, I have given up though

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I fell in love in 1996 with my best friend at the time, he still makes my heart flutter to this day he is my world. You would think after all these years the love would fade but not for me, it has deepened and grows more each day.

We are blessed for sure.

u D.

Jo.Xx

I think I fell in love with you first

the minute I seen you in fact! Even when we were just friends

And I fall in love with you every day! Ever since then!

I love you too my baby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are some "lovely" stories but also some very sad ones. I do think that really loving somebody is an essential nutrient of life and for our happiness. I think it's hard wired into all of us?

In theory but I’ve never been in love like I imagine it could be.

Despite a 7 yr, 22 yr and 19 month relationship

It can be bloody hard to find that. It's very hard to find someone that carries no risks in that what's happened in the past, will happen again with them and be a repeat of the old pain? Is any love better than none at all? Absolutely not in my opinion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the needle first landed on the spinning black vinyl disc . A crackle and the hum of the record player .

No sleep till Hamersmith , Motorhead .

It began my love of music , its changed and bands have come and go , spanning many musical genres .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When the needle first landed on the spinning black vinyl disc . A crackle and the hum of the record player .

No sleep till Hamersmith , Motorhead .

It began my love of music , its changed and bands have come and go , spanning many musical genres . "

There is absolutely nothing like the sound of vinyl. I'm with you there Taff. However, I'm a Mowtown and Soul girl, my love for that genre of music is strong x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When the needle first landed on the spinning black vinyl disc . A crackle and the hum of the record player .

No sleep till Hamersmith , Motorhead .

It began my love of music , its changed and bands have come and go , spanning many musical genres .

There is absolutely nothing like the sound of vinyl. I'm with you there Taff. However, I'm a Mowtown and Soul girl, my love for that genre of music is strong x"

Its perfect , oh gosh I have music spanning all the genres lots of soul and Motown too

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I fell for a girl when I was 16, she was so far out of my league but we'd been friends for a while and a moonlit stroll on the beach one summer night led to us kissing and getting together, it didn't last very long as they don't at that age, but it was sweet while it did.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"When the needle first landed on the spinning black vinyl disc . A crackle and the hum of the record player .

No sleep till Hamersmith , Motorhead .

It began my love of music , its changed and bands have come and go , spanning many musical genres .

There is absolutely nothing like the sound of vinyl. I'm with you there Taff. However, I'm a Mowtown and Soul girl, my love for that genre of music is strong x"

I'm a big soul boy, huge part of my life since I was around 11/12yo

Still regularly attending allnighters, weekenders and anything northern soul related.

Big vinyl collector and love the rvo nights that has an authenticity about it that you don't get with digital music and half the pleasure is knowing that the guy playing it has probably got 10 stories about how he aquired that particular record.

You'll often find me digging through record stores and random places looking for a gem

Ktf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When the needle first landed on the spinning black vinyl disc . A crackle and the hum of the record player .

No sleep till Hamersmith , Motorhead .

It began my love of music , its changed and bands have come and go , spanning many musical genres .

There is absolutely nothing like the sound of vinyl. I'm with you there Taff. However, I'm a Mowtown and Soul girl, my love for that genre of music is strong x

I'm a big soul boy, huge part of my life since I was around 11/12yo

Still regularly attending allnighters, weekenders and anything northern soul related.

You'll often find me digging through record stores and random places looking for a gem

Ktf "

I'm this way with books. I adore antiquarian books and old instruments. I'm dreaming of a harpsichord at the moment. I've never gotten in to the vinyl obsession....YET.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When the needle first landed on the spinning black vinyl disc . A crackle and the hum of the record player .

No sleep till Hamersmith , Motorhead .

It began my love of music , its changed and bands have come and go , spanning many musical genres .

There is absolutely nothing like the sound of vinyl. I'm with you there Taff. However, I'm a Mowtown and Soul girl, my love for that genre of music is strong x

I'm a big soul boy, huge part of my life since I was around 11/12yo

Still regularly attending allnighters, weekenders and anything northern soul related.

You'll often find me digging through record stores and random places looking for a gem

Ktf "

Me too, with the digging. I have a dedicated music room, twin Decs and a mixer

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I was 12 years old. At the time I was a typical lad...footie, rock music etc. Went on a school field trip and the girl in question stood behind me while on a class visit to a museum. She moved close to an exhibit and stood to my right. I turned to look at her. That moment will live with me forever. I thought she was the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was 12 years old. At the time I was a typical lad...footie, rock music etc. Went on a school field trip and the girl in question stood behind me while on a class visit to a museum. She moved close to an exhibit and stood to my right. I turned to look at her. That moment will live with me forever. I thought she was the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen. "

That's so sweet, it's amazing how we never forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 15. I'm now 26 and I will marry that man this year. I remember falling in love very well and it has only got better since then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was 15. I'm now 26 and I will marry that man this year. I remember falling in love very well and it has only got better since then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love really easily but I dont think I've ever been really loved back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 19, met through a mutual friend and it just felt as if it were the right fit.

Unfortunately, it ended, not mutually and I felt lost. Now I’m in a better place, feeling as if the right one will not be so easily met and gained, but it will make the connection worth more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been in love

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never been in love

Nooo. That's not good.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first love was unrequited, I was 14 and besotted, he saw me as his kids sister's dorky mate.

Then there was my ex, who broke my heart and my spirit.

But honestly, I've never been more in love than I am now...I've found my person and tbh, what I feel for him pisses all over anything I've felt for anyone else in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I saw my baby girl for the first time, and every time after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just about given up.

I’ve been close to, and cared about a few men, but it feels like I’m incapable of falling in love. Whenever I meet someone I spend most of my time convincing myself that there are a million reasons that it won’t last. Not surprisingly - it doesn’t !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never been in love

Nooo. That's not good. "

I have loved people and things though, so I suppose thats similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back end of september last year i knew it was different the minute i locked eyes with her tried to fight it but some things are just meant to happen to you i spent the previous 38 years emotionally redundant i cared but never loved until that moment

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I was a bit of an awkward looking nerdy kid at school and I was teased a lot because of my height. I didn't really pay attention to boys until I hit the age of 13. My "All-Girl's School" was built next to an "All-Boy's School" I noticed my "first true love" through a fence, watching him play football. I married him aged 22. His family were millionaires, I was picked up by his Dad for our dates in a Rolls Royce. They are mostly happy memories.

Do you remember when "you first got the feels"? How old were you. How long did it last? Did you marry your childhood sweetheart like me?"

I think I've loved, but never been "in love" if that makes sense.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'm not a love at 1st sight person but when I was 15 I saw the most beautiful guy. We moved in the same circles and got to know each other and I loved him totally from the beginning

3 children and many trial and tribulations later we separated after 18 yrs. I still loved him and him I, but it no longer worked.

We became great friends, there for each other. Sadly he passed away just before Christmas. Leaving a legacy of 3 kids and 2 beautiful grandkids and many good memories. RiP T x

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

"I love really easily but I dont think I've ever been really loved back. "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My first love was unrequited, I was 14 and besotted, he saw me as his kids sister's dorky mate.

Then there was my ex, who broke my heart and my spirit.

But honestly, I've never been more in love than I am now...I've found my person and tbh, what I feel for him pisses all over anything I've felt for anyone else in the past.

That's wonderful for you, especially after all you have been through. Shall I buy a hat anytime soon

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I'm unloveable.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

When I was 5

it only lasted till hometime.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm unloveable.

No you're not. I love you as my friend x

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I'm unloveable.

No you're not. I love you as my friend x"

I'll rephrase. I'm not fall in loveable.

Love you too......muchly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you remember when "you first got the feels"? How old were you. How long did it last? Did you marry your childhood sweetheart like me?"

It was in Greggs.

I whipped out my sex bat and battered an old lady to death with it because I loved her.

She died.

M x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My first love was unrequited, I was 14 and besotted, he saw me as his kids sister's dorky mate.

Then there was my ex, who broke my heart and my spirit.

But honestly, I've never been more in love than I am now...I've found my person and tbh, what I feel for him pisses all over anything I've felt for anyone else in the past.

That's wonderful for you, especially after all you have been through. Shall I buy a hat anytime soon

Not anytime soon...but one day, I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm unloveable.

No you're not. I love you as my friend x

I'll rephrase. I'm not fall in loveable.

Love you too......muchly.

There’s a curse upon the Byron’s, I swear it!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I spent my teenage years falling in and out of love. I was more romantic than Barbra Cartland. And our Fifth form had some exceptionally handsome fellas.

Plus Rick Astley was about *swoon*

Morten Harket *swoon swoon*

And i had a bit of a thing for Cary Elwes and Lindsay Buckingham.

Happy Days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I 'fell in love' when I was about 14 with a boy, that lasted on and off for a couple of years, we went out (you know the usual when you are that age 'will you go out with me?' and you never actually go out) for a bit but I stayed in love with him until we left school. I met up with him a few years back and he is such a knob.

I fell in love with my ex husband when I was 20 and we married not long after, he was a childhood friend and we stayed together for 15 years.

But I now know what love actually is, I obviously didn't know what love was until I met doughnut.

Danish x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I can say I’ve never been in love. I’ve cared for the people I’ve been with and would, and did, do anything for them but love no.

The only true love is for my lad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you remember when "you first got the feels"? How old were you. How long did it last? Did you marry your childhood sweetheart like me?"

I was 16 first time but I never got to marry her as she dumped me two years later for a mate of my brother. As they eventually married and were together a long time she made a good choice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can say I’ve never been in love. I’ve cared for the people I’ve been with and would, and did, do anything for them but love no.

The only true love is for my lad "

In some respects, you are very lucky to be able to share your love with your child. That is something I've never felt. Do you think one day you will find love romantically?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I can say I’ve never been in love. I’ve cared for the people I’ve been with and would, and did, do anything for them but love no.

The only true love is for my lad

In some respects, you are very lucky to be able to share your love with your child. That is something I've never felt. Do you think one day you will find love romantically? "

Honestly Dana I don’t think I will. I don’t intend on having another relationship and not actively looking for one either.

However, I don’t suppose anyone can ever really say no, if it happens it happens. One of my uncles found love for the first time at 85

I am very lucky to have my lad, it’s something I never thought I’d have and he wasn’t planned, but I’d not change it either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in lust a few times, but never love... I'm far too selfish

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Harlow

When I met my lovely lady, driving her home from a club in Clacton-on-Sea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I thought I fell in love at 16, looking back I fell in love with the freedom of being out of the family home until 10pm and someone with a car.

Then I thought I fell in love with my sons dad, we were together 7 years. I do have an awful lot of respect for him nowadays, I do think I loved him at some point but things change and different sides to people show.

Then after that I thought I fell in love with my ex. Tried for 11 years to make it work, I was blindsided and tricked by a narcissist, so I didn't love him, I loved the ideals and lies he spun me.

Then I met B, and that was the moment I realised I had no idea what real intensely achingly beautiful love was up until that point...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well, I thought I fell in love at 16, looking back I fell in love with the freedom of being out of the family home until 10pm and someone with a car.

Then after that I thought I fell in love with my ex. Tried for 11 years to make it work, I was blindsided and tricked by a narcissist, so I didn't love him, I loved the ideals and lies he spun me.

Then I met B, and that was the moment I realised I had no idea what real intensely achingly beautiful love was up until that point...

Wow, well you deserve all the happiness in the world and you two seem perfectly matched. So pleased for you Princess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, I thought I fell in love at 16, looking back I fell in love with the freedom of being out of the family home until 10pm and someone with a car.

Then after that I thought I fell in love with my ex. Tried for 11 years to make it work, I was blindsided and tricked by a narcissist, so I didn't love him, I loved the ideals and lies he spun me.

Then I met B, and that was the moment I realised I had no idea what real intensely achingly beautiful love was up until that point...

Wow, well you deserve all the happiness in the world and you two seem perfectly matched. So pleased for you Princess x"

Thank you Dana, I think I needed to go through all the crap stuff then spend a few years on my own to be able to find myself, then I did (although I still am of sorts) it happened... When I wasn't looking and least expecting it!

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Well, I thought I fell in love at 16, looking back I fell in love with the freedom of being out of the family home until 10pm and someone with a car.

Then after that I thought I fell in love with my ex. Tried for 11 years to make it work, I was blindsided and tricked by a narcissist, so I didn't love him, I loved the ideals and lies he spun me.

Then I met B, and that was the moment I realised I had no idea what real intensely achingly beautiful love was up until that point...

Jo.Xx

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I first fell in love when I was 17..and he became my husband... For a long time... But then I fell in love again and it was only then as I hit my 40th birthday did I realise what true love is. Sadly that ended too and I experienced the real pain of my heart breaking. I'm not sure I'll ever find that again... Maybe we aren't meant too... But I live in hope... One day xx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

My first love was a girl I started seeing just before I was 16 - we'd known each other for years before that it lasted until I was 17 and a half and was a typical first love situation, we were very rarely out of each other's company and totally besotted - then I joined the Navy and we took what we thought at the time was the "grown up" decision to split up as I would likely be away for long periods - trouble was when things started getting tough in the Navy (for unrelated reasons) the homesickness and missing her kicked in, and ultimately led to me leaving before finishing my training - a decision I have regretted for the rest of my life. When I left she was already with another guy, who she ended up marrying and is still with today as far as I know.

Ironically I think had we not made the "grown up" decision and had stayed together we'd have split up naturally at some point and I probably would have had the career I had dreamed of - not that I blame her in the slightest, it was the "unrelated reasons" that sparked the homesickness and missing her, which led to me using them as an excuse to leave I think.

Still think of her fondly off and on and am pleased for her she has had a good life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My first love was a girl I started seeing just before I was 16 - we'd known each other for years before that it lasted until I was 17 and a half and was a typical first love situation, we were very rarely out of each other's company and totally besotted - then I joined the Navy and we took what we thought at the time was the "grown up" decision to split up as I would likely be away for long periods - trouble was when things started getting tough in the Navy (for unrelated reasons) the homesickness and missing her kicked in, and ultimately led to me leaving before finishing my training - a decision I have regretted for the rest of my life. When I left she was already with another guy, who she ended up marrying and is still with today as far as I know.

Still think of her fondly off and on and am pleased for her she has had a good life."

Oh god "The things we do for love", but you were very young at the time and at that age, I guess we didn't really think of the impact it would have in our later years?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I had lunch today with an ex girlfriend from 25+ years ago.

We still love each other. But we've never been in love.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Still think of her fondly off and on and am pleased for her she has had a good life.

Oh god "The things we do for love", but you were very young at the time and at that age, I guess we didn't really think of the impact it would have in our later years?

Exactly that - I was a young arrogant 17 and a half year old who thought he knew better

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Still waiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Age 14. Still in love with the guy now

age 18

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Age 14. Still in love with the guy now

age 18

You two... Get a room

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