FabSwingers.com forum: Bbw and fat?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello. I have written in my profile 'i prefer the bbw lady's', I was going to write 'i prefer fat women'.

Don't want to cause offense to anyone, but I'm consciousness that I would, if I used the word 'fat'. I know it's just a word, but some people may find it offensive.

But I do see women put 'I'm fat' on there profiles, where as some women write 'im a bbw'.

What is people's opinions on this. (Hope this post doesn't cause offence).

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

I'm fat. Some people find it offensive but it's all to do with context.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm fat. Some people find it offensive but it's all to do with context. "

I genuinely do prefer the bbw lady. But like I say, I don't want to cause any offense.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a minefield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The rules of fab dictate that someone will be offended by something you say, no matter how innocuous. Don't worry about offending some. Say what you want to say, if someone likes you, they'll let you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think the BBW term comes accross better. But alot don't like labels as such so either way someone will get offended lol.

I am fat but if a guy said Id like your fat I wouldn't be impressed and he wouldn't get any further so I'm voting for bbw.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I’m fat; I’m not a huge fan of BBW as it kinda makes me feel fetished as if my size/shape/volume is the only thing I’ve got going for me. However, everyone is entitled to their own affiliation with whatever descriptors they like.

Thing is, I’m less likely to be engaged by anyone actually specifying a body size as a preference as I find it all rather one dimensional (

). I’m me, unique and more complex than my fatness and I’m seeking people that click with that rather than the need to filter preferences/shop more easily.

That’s no condemnation of anyone that does though, just this is my approach.

If you feel the need to write your preference then just write as suits you, not as suits others. It’s your profile to find the people that you click with.

Good luck and really hope you enjoy the site.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I'm fat. Some people find it offensive but it's all to do with context. "

To be fair others will be offended by BBW (Personally I'm not a huge of the lable).

At the end of the day we are, who we are. Use the labels you want to use as long as you happy in your self and with the labels you use. Anyway I really don't see what's so negative about being larger? It doesn't mean your any less valid as a human or any less sexy. When it comes to attraction it's very subjective anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like the term BBW (clearly detailed in my profile).

I'm fat and that's that

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

(Excuse typos!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like the term BBW (clearly detailed in my profile).

I'm fat and that's that

Oh, and another think I'm a fucking LONG way from being beautiful

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m a large lady who doesn't particularly like the BBW acronym, other ladies prefer it so unfortunately you can’t please everyone, just use words that you find the most acceptable and use that on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not state your preference as women, then work back from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not bbw im fat but yes would prefer for someone not to call me fat....i know very confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about I like woman of a curvier larger figure? Or I like woman size 18± for example?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about I like woman of a curvier larger figure? Or I like woman size 18± for example? "

I was just about to write this! Fat is seen as offensive to some, even to those that use it about themselves but as Estella said BBW seems to fetishize things, like you like them purely because of that.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I’m just fabulous

No, I’m now fat. But don’t need it pointing out by other people either.

You’re damned if you do......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello. I have written in my profile 'i prefer the bbw lady's', I was going to write 'i prefer fat women'.

Don't want to cause offense to anyone, but I'm consciousness that I would, if I used the word 'fat'. I know it's just a word, but some people may find it offensive.

But I do see women put 'I'm fat' on there profiles, where as some women write 'im a bbw'.

What is people's opinions on this. (Hope this post doesn't cause offence)."

You're a bloke

Whatever you say on here, it won't be right

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

It’s a tricky tightrope to walk. To be on the safe side err away from the fat word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer fat to bbw.

You'll never please everyone. As long as you're polite, I wouldn't worry too much

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By *ragonage24Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm fat. Some people find it offensive but it's all to do with context.

Not fat, however, beautiful is the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer large to BBW or fat, though Fab doesn’t give many options to describe me x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I'm fat however not a bbw, I'm not fat enough or beautiful.

I can say I'm fat but wouldn't want anyone else to say it to me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

O.P. It's YOUR profile. It's better t to say that you are looking for fat women than end up with someone who thinks she's a BBW and then you finally confess that you like FAT women.

To me BBW's are big but firmish cos they are meant to be big ..... others are FAT.

End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the term "I'm fat" as fat isn't a body type, fat is something you have not something you are.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I'm fat however not a bbw, I'm not fat enough or beautiful.

I can say I'm fat but wouldn't want anyone else to say it to me. "

I think you look great. I don't bullshit and I think you should love yourself more...... you look very attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we correlate the word fat with a negative as opposed to a descriptive

It is often used to cause offence or upset

BBW is a very general 'polite' term in my opinion

You should be able to get across what you like without causing offence to those it excludes and without excluding those that you seek to attract

Wording is everything

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I'm fat however not a bbw, I'm not fat enough or beautiful.

I can say I'm fat but wouldn't want anyone else to say it to me.

I think you look great. I don't bullshit and I think you should love yourself more...... you look very attractive. "

Aww thank you that's so kind of you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we correlate the word fat with a negative as opposed to a descriptive

It is often used to cause offence or upset

BBW is a very general 'polite' term in my opinion

You should be able to get across what you like without causing offence to those it excludes and without excluding those that you seek to attract

Wording is everything "

Exactly the word fat is often used as insult. You never hear "shes a large stupid cow" for example.

That's why I streer clear of calling/describing my myself or anyone else as fat.

So my advice to the OP is larger, 18+ would make it clear what you’re looking for and not have such negative connotations.

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By *candiumWoman
over a year ago

oban

I'm fat. Don't like BBW. I'm bigger than some peoples idea of BBW also I don't see myself as beautiful.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Perhaps BBW should be replaced by LAW, large attractive woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got called a bbw in a message today...I'm a size 14 and worked my ass of to get to here. *Crying emoji*

Hate the term even when I was a size 18/20

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello. I have written in my profile 'i prefer the bbw lady's', I was going to write 'i prefer fat women'.

Don't want to cause offense to anyone, but I'm consciousness that I would, if I used the word 'fat'. I know it's just a word, but some people may find it offensive.

But I do see women put 'I'm fat' on there profiles, where as some women write 'im a bbw'.

What is people's opinions on this. (Hope this post doesn't cause offence)."

Depends on how they see themselves, bbw means big beautiful women and I don’t see that in me so yea I’m just fat I’m affraid

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Why not leave it out altogether and just go by photos?

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By *uttyjonnMan
over a year ago

SEA

Why not say you won't meet slim ladies

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Id just say fat. Cause thats what i am. No need to dress it up

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By *retty GoodMan
over a year ago

Cardiff Bay

Just be yourself and write what you want mate.

It’s your profile no one else’s

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your thoughts. U did take the bbw line out. Go from there and see what happens. Good to see ladies and men be honest and open about themselves. Happy fabbing people.

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By *heffmMan
over a year ago

sheffield

isn't clinically obese the correct terminology?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its personal preference. I'm not a fan of the term BBW myself.

I state I'm a size 20 and have lumpy bits that jiggle. I describe myself as having a fuller figure mostly.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

I have a cake shelf.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a cake shelf.

Lol. I like that

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