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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are you guilty of keeping people on the hook?

You know the ones, the "maybe" people where you chat about meeting but it never seems to lead to any actual plans. The ones you say you'll meet "one day".

Does anyone have you hooked? Has anyone tempted you but left you dangling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have definitely been on the receiving end in the past

If I've hooked someone it was more likely by accident

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I sometimes put people off, but it's more like, yes I want to see you again... eventually. It's not so much a game as, I'm spread thin.

I'm generally cagey about it because people get upset when I reveal my priorities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guilty but it wasnt my fault

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

They had ... but then sudden unexplained radio silence so left dazed and confused

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By *edmark07Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I think were all guilty of this and the vast majority have been on the receiving end too. Question is why. Is it embarrassment by saying sorry not interested or are they a sub, kept on the sidlines just in case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, no I haven't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One day x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not on the hook as such - more people that we've both said if the timing is right and we can work something out it would be good to meet.

If a firm plan has been made to meet though then we meet, it might take a bit of time to arrange but it will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had anyone on the hook, let alone left them dangling. I've been left dangling recently, thinking it's time I kicked her off my friends list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone hangs us out on a hook , its depressing x

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I am pretty sure all women do this.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I am pretty sure all women do this. "

In my case it's just diary management. It's not a game.

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

No I don’t. If I’m genuinely interested I let them know, same as if I just want to chat and be friends. I wouldn’t like it if it was the other way around.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I am pretty sure all women do this. "

*cough* sweeping generalisation

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’m one of those pesky people who actually meets and so it’s very frustrating when I happen upon a maybe person. I don’t dangle anymore. Meet me in within a certain timeframe or move along

As for me having someone on a hook... well they have to be caught first. I was always shite at fishing. Too impatient you see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am pretty sure all women do this. "

Btw, I don’t think it’s purely a female trait. I love chatting and flirting with guys and will add them to my hotlist if they meet my expectations. Unfortunately due to job commitments and real life, it may take a while until we meet. If I don’t keep chatting with them in the meantime however, we’d forget each other and that is just plain sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am pretty sure all women do this. "

Good luck dude

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"I am pretty sure all women do this. "

Best you stick to men then

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By *wesomepearWoman
over a year ago

Northamptonshire


"I am pretty sure all women do this.

In my case it's just diary management. It's not a game. "

This is the same for me, I don’t have huge amounts of free time... then real life things come up too. If I’m talking to someone it’s with the intention to meet up but it just takes time

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For me it’s all down to free time and fitting people into that. Most my meets are in the diary 3-6 weeks before I can see them as normal life has to fit into my kid free time as well.

However, I’m honest up front about it and understand those that don’t or can’t operate like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have someone i met long time ago pop up now and then saying he wants to meet....last time he said he would get back to me when his checked his diary.....but its bull shit and wont meet now anyway

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

That would be a no and a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you guilty of keeping people on the hook?

You know the ones, the "maybe" people where you chat about meeting but it never seems to lead to any actual plans. The ones you say you'll meet "one day".

Does anyone have you hooked? Has anyone tempted you but left you dangling? "

You trying to tell me something here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you guilty of keeping people on the hook?

You know the ones, the "maybe" people where you chat about meeting but it never seems to lead to any actual plans. The ones you say you'll meet "one day".

Does anyone have you hooked? Has anyone tempted you but left you dangling?

You trying to tell me something here "

damn the 45 minute rule

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you guilty of keeping people on the hook?

You know the ones, the "maybe" people where you chat about meeting but it never seems to lead to any actual plans. The ones you say you'll meet "one day".

Does anyone have you hooked? Has anyone tempted you but left you dangling?

You trying to tell me something here

damn the 45 minute rule "

More like a guideline

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you guilty of keeping people on the hook?

You know the ones, the "maybe" people where you chat about meeting but it never seems to lead to any actual plans. The ones you say you'll meet "one day".

Does anyone have you hooked? Has anyone tempted you but left you dangling?

You trying to tell me something here

damn the 45 minute rule

More like a guideline "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But yes, I’ve been guilty of it. I try not to now though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, even with the best intentions... people look and see if there is a better meet to be arranged...

As if there is better...

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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It happens. Men and women tell me it happens and people know they’re doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it happens to the best of us

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"It happens. Men and women tell me it happens and people know they’re doing it "

I think a certain type of person gets off on doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens. Men and women tell me it happens and people know they’re doing it

I think a certain type of person gets off on doing it "

People with dirty anuses

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"It happens. Men and women tell me it happens and people know they’re doing it

I think a certain type of person gets off on doing it

People with dirty anuses"

Not just them

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


"I am pretty sure all women do this. "

In my past experience they do, usually a better option for them is on their radar so they keep you treading water till they they've established the better option is interested, then they ghost you hard!

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

Crap I feel like I'm always on the hook

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am pretty sure all women do this.

In my past experience they do, usually a better option for them is on their radar so they keep you treading water till they they've established the better option is interested, then they ghost you hard!"

You guys know it's not just women who do it right?

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


"I am pretty sure all women do this.

In my past experience they do, usually a better option for them is on their radar so they keep you treading water till they they've established the better option is interested, then they ghost you hard!

You guys know it's not just women who do it right? "

I know, I did it a couple of times in my 20's. Pretty shit when you look back on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am pretty sure all women do this.

In my past experience they do, usually a better option for them is on their radar so they keep you treading water till they they've established the better option is interested, then they ghost you hard!

You guys know it's not just women who do it right? "

Chance'd be a fine thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer when people are able to make straightforward plans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If I want to meet I would let them know, no maybes that's to much like game playing. I like people to spit out what they are thinking or feeling.

Be straight

Be direct

Be true

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I am straight in my talking and what i want and expect it from others. I would soon get bored with being hooked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've been kept on a promise for over 2 years now.

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