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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How would you ladies go about asking someone out? I habe loads of confidence on dating apps or when out but other than that I wouldn't know where to start

The guy in question is someone I work with. We both started around the same time. I know he is single from chatting while working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a chick but I can give you a mans view.

Tactfully steer the next conversation you have with him towards food and if he divulges his favourite meal (you may need to prompt him a bit) then casually drop in that you cook a terrific “insert his food choice” and you’d love to cook it for him sometime.

Men love food, especially when cooked by hot women.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Hey.

Fancy a curry?

No...Oh

Shag then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not a chick but I can give you a mans view.

Men love food, especially when cooked by hot women.

Men = Food. Got it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey.

Fancy a curry?

No...Oh

Shag then?

I was actually thinking kebob but ok, you’ve twisted my arm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not a chick but I can give you a mans view.

Men love food, especially when cooked by hot women.

Men = Food. Got it. "

My work here is done.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Fancy a pint?

My round, and I'll throw in a bag of scratchings, sweetpea....

*swoons*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I concur! Food anytime!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'd say 'would you like to go for a drink?' Or the more likely option wait until he asked me

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd not generally date someone from work but if I wanted to, I'd not probably term it a date, as I'd steer conversation towards us spending time together away from work. Once you are free of working constraints, it would then be about us getting to know each other, as this doesn't need to be a rigid process. Once you both gain more personal intimacy and understanding of each colour, I would then develop things towards us being romantic friends. Feel free to flirt. With the summer here, it opens tons of opportunities to get out. Walks, picnics etc can all lead on to doing far more things, potentially exploring your mutual interests.

Be sure that you are fully able to manage a relationship or it ending, if you are working with someone. As well as facing resistance from someone who may not perceive such relationships as appropriate. He may or may not be quick on the uptake, perhaps just seeing you ad friendly - so become affectionate and give him some come ons, so you get him to assess what his interests are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd not generally date someone from work but if I wanted to, I'd not probably term it a date, as I'd steer conversation towards us spending time together away from work. Once you are free of working constraints, it would then be about us getting to know each other, as this doesn't need to be a rigid process. Once you both gain more personal intimacy and understanding of each colour, I would then develop things towards us being romantic friends. Feel free to flirt. With the summer here, it opens tons of opportunities to get out. Walks, picnics etc can all lead on to doing far more things, potentially exploring your mutual interests.

Thanks for the advice.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For me it would be if they fancy a drink after work and then see how the chemistry goes from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't cook

Ok just do us a cheese toastie then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't cook

Ok just do us a cheese toastie then

I'd end up all weird and flustered and end up just bringing a sandwich to work for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't cook

Ok just do us a cheese toastie then

I'd end up all weird and flustered and end up just bringing a sandwich to work for him

That could actually work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask him if he fancies grabbing a drink sometime

If he doesn't drink, sack him off. Boring piece of shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell you suck cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell you suck cock "

Can you imagine a work mare saying that to you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He asked me out for a drink tonight. Granted there are few others going so won't read to much into it.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"He asked me out for a drink tonight. Granted there are few others going so won't read to much into it."

Well that’s a start, hope you have a great night

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He asked me out for a drink tonight. Granted there are few others going so won't read to much into it.

Well that’s a start, hope you have a great night

Nothing happened. I thought it might but at the end of the night he kissed me on the cheek before putting me into a taxi

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He asked me out for a drink tonight. Granted there are few others going so won't read to much into it.

Well that’s a start, hope you have a great night

Nothing happened. I thought it might but at the end of the night he kissed me on the cheek before putting me into a taxi

Maybe he didnt read the signals right and didnt want to push his luck

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Tell you suck cock

Can you imagine a work mare saying that to you?"
neigh

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Maybe he didnt read the signals right and didnt want to push his luck

A kiss on the cheek sounds promising to me, unless he's the type that gives them to everyone. I'm the absolute worst at reading signals - in his position I'd be terrified of even going that far.

Tell him you had a great night and would love to do it again. Smile at him while you say it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe he didnt read the signals right and didnt want to push his luck

A kiss on the cheek sounds promising to me, unless he's the type that gives them to everyone. I'm the absolute worst at reading signals - in his position I'd be terrified of even going that far.

Tell him you had a great night and would love to do it again. Smile at him while you say it."

I'm terrible at reading signals myself so that doesn't help. He is working with me till the end I'd July so ideally I'd love to bed him before then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask him...he'll either say yes or no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey.

Fancy a curry?

No...Oh

Shag then?

That would work for me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just ask him...he'll either say yes or no.

I tried that yesterday. Well when I say tried I mean I was all pumped up to ask and then chickened out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just ask him...he'll either say yes or no.

I tried that yesterday. Well when I say tried I mean I was all pumped up to ask and then chickened out

If you've just been paid, ask him whats hes doing after work, if he says nothing just say "we've just been paid, fancy getting something to eat?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He will be one lucky guy!

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I tried that yesterday. Well when I say tried I mean I was all pumped up to ask and then chickened out

I feel your pain! Been there so many times myself. Don't put it off too long. You have a deadline.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tried that yesterday. Well when I say tried I mean I was all pumped up to ask and then chickened out

I feel your pain! Been there so many times myself. Don't put it off too long. You have a deadline."

I know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He finally asked me out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He finally asked me out

Congratulations I hope it goes well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He finally asked me out

Congratulations I hope it goes well. "

He didn't call it a date but it is dinner tomorrow.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"He didn't call it a date but it is dinner tomorrow. "

I don't care what he calls it. That's a date, and it's happening. That's fantastic! Enjoy it, and may it lead to much, much more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He finally asked me out

To be honest if a girl likes a guy the guy theres nothing hotter than a straight forward girl that just goes for it

And to be fair judging by your profile and public pics he probably fancied u anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He finally asked me out

Congratulations I hope it goes well.

He didn't call it a date but it is dinner tomorrow. "

DJohn said - it doesn’t matter what he actually calls it, he knows it is a date.

From what you have said he sounds as though he is interested (a kiss of the cheek and making sure you got home safely in a taxi) but does not want to over step the mark.

Men are generally crap with signals so a quick kiss and lots of touching (hands and arms) will give him the clues that you are interested in more than just a meal.

Enjoy

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"He finally asked me out

Perfect, have a fantastic time

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I like a happy ending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In this situation it was always, do you fancy going for a drink? Second date meal. I was doing the asking but I would have said yes if the tables were turned. However I was usually pretty upfront if I found someone attractive back in the day. I’d be much more cautious these days as the social norms in organisations have changed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like a happy ending."

Me too

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I like a happy ending.

Me too

Let us know how it goes,I love a happy happy ending.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like a happy ending.

Me too

Let us know how it goes,I love a happy happy ending."

It went well. We didn't deal the deal. We are both off tomorrow so he text to see if I wanted to do something.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Arrange a lunchtime gathering with others in the office, then get chatting to him.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I like a happy ending.

Me too

Let us know how it goes,I love a happy happy ending.

It went well. We didn't deal the deal. We are both off tomorrow so he text to see if I wanted to do something."

Well this certainly looks like it is moving in the right direction

have a great time tomorrow

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Tomorrow is the day. I can feel it. Wear your sexy knickers

Or none. None works too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a happy ending.

Me too

Let us know how it goes,I love a happy happy ending.

It went well. We didn't deal the deal. We are both off tomorrow so he text to see if I wanted to do something."

Fingers crossed for you xoxo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like a happy ending.

Me too

Let us know how it goes,I love a happy happy ending.

It went well. We didn't deal the deal. We are both off tomorrow so he text to see if I wanted to do something.

Fingers crossed for you xoxo "

Thanks

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

This is better than a Nescafé Gold Blend advert..

Showing my age

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is better than a Nescafé Gold Blend advert..

Showing my age

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We finally done it

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yay. Happy for you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yay. Happy for you x"

Happy endings all round.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Yay. Happy for you x

Happy endings all round."

Double meaning intended? X

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"We finally done it

Woohoo! Really happy for you. And mamy, many more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell you suck cock

Can you imagine a work mare saying that to you?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could be simple and to the point and just say you fancy watching so and so movie. Is it something he'd want to see and if he said yes, suggest you go together and take it from there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yay. Happy for you x

Happy endings all round.

Double meaning intended? X"

Of course

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"We finally done it

Now that made me smile, someone happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We finally done it

Lucky guy

. So when do you break him into the world of FAB or do you think you will need to be all vanilla?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We finally done it

Lucky guy

. So when do you break him into the world of FAB or do you think you will need to be all vanilla?

Theres nothing vanilla about him between the sheets. I think I'll be greedy and keep him to myself for a little while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I think I'll be greedy and keep him to myself for a little while."

Brilliant. Enjoy yourself.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"We finally done it

Lucky guy

. So when do you break him into the world of FAB or do you think you will need to be all vanilla?

Theres nothing vanilla about him between the sheets. I think I'll be greedy and keep him to myself for a little while."

Great news

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We finally done it

Lucky guy

. So when do you break him into the world of FAB or do you think you will need to be all vanilla?

Theres nothing vanilla about him between the sheets. I think I'll be greedy and keep him to myself for a little while.

Great news

Thanks

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over a year ago

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