FabSwingers.com forum: Is there a right time?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there ever a right time when you meet someone/couple off fab too ask weather or not the go bare back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Usually the answer is never.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Monkey walks in shakes head and heads out again

On your own there OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"God no."

So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"God no.

So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex "

I... Uh... Yeah. Yeah that generally is the assumption.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"God no.

So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex

I... Uh... Yeah. Yeah that generally is the assumption. "

I’ve seen plenty of couples in the forums that say they never have safe sex and it’s always bare back, what I’m asking is how do you bring. That up In a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God no.

So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex "

Unsafe sex is never an option for me.

How do you feel about STDs, op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's only one very specific circumstance under which I'd shag anyone here bare. It involves basements, duct tape, and chastity.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Any time is a good time if the conversation turns sexual, as long as you can appreciate that you may not get the answer you were hoping for, and that you may lose out on it going any further if they are dead against it.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"God no.

So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex

I... Uh... Yeah. Yeah that generally is the assumption.

I’ve seen plenty of couples in the forums that say they never have safe sex and it’s always bare back, what I’m asking is how do you bring. That up In a conversation "

If it’s important to you, you literally just ask. And early on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God no.

So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex

I... Uh... Yeah. Yeah that generally is the assumption.

I’ve seen plenty of couples in the forums that say they never have safe sex and it’s always bare back, what I’m asking is how do you bring. That up In a conversation "

It's simple, you ask them what are there preferences regarding safer sex or not.

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Is there ever a right time when you meet someone/couple off fab too ask weather or not the go bare back? "

If you ask like that no but you can ask their views on protection and make it a mature conversation and boom you get your answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"God no.

So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex

Unsafe sex is never an option for me.

How do you feel about STDs, op?"

I agree I’ve just seen a few feeds saying bare and stuff, I always play safe, I was just a bit stumped to think you could meet a stranger shag the and not ware anything

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Oh OK. Different way around.

If you have concerns, ask until you don't have concerns.

If you think they prefer bare, work that out before you commit.

I thought this was the reverse, when do you get to switch to bare. Generally in this environment you don't.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Tbh on here it's never something I'd consider though and it would hinder my opinion on the person a little, especially if they had ticked the safe sex box.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just seeing some of the things that couples have put up, bare is better and Things like that just made me wonder how they start that conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just seeing some of the things that couples have put up, bare is better and Things like that just made me wonder how they start that conversation "

I imagine it's a fairly straightforward conversation.

They announce they prefer to play bare and let their potential playmate decide if that's acceptable or not.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Is there ever a right time when you meet someone/couple off fab too ask weather or not the go bare back? "

I'd argue yes, fairly early on, don't want to be wasting each other's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time "

First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No worries. You're OK. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No worries. You're OK. Sorry. "

You have nothing to be sorry for

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

If you want to play bare then go for it. Just put it on your profile and display all your veris. Makes it easier for those who play that way to find you.

Personally we never would fuck randoms bare. Don't fancy getting a sti. Only each other and regular testing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time

First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I?

Why do you think that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there ever a right time when you meet someone/couple off fab too ask weather or not the go bare back? "

Early on in conversation. You won't get shot for asking their preference but will save your and their time if those preferences don't match.

Also bear in mind that if someone has ticket safe sex as one of the interests - that only means it's an ineterest and not a requirement (just as any other interests ticket). It only becomes a requirement if it's specified in the profile text.

It surprises me how many people understand other interests as that but read a tick box for safe sex as the requirement.

Mrs

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Put it on your profile op if it interests you,but it will put many off .

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

If you have decided to need a quick exit out of the meet , crack on and ask !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time

First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I?

Why do you think that?"

Seem to put my foot in it all the time, guess I’m not very good at how I word things

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time

First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I?

Why do you think that?

Seem to put my foot in it all the time, guess I’m not very good at how I word things "

It's a learning curve, dont worry about it.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Is there ever a right time when you meet someone/couple off fab too ask weather or not the go bare back? "

Read their profile it usually states if Bb is ok other than that no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best time is just as you’re taking your socks off, let off an air horn to get her/ their attention and shout ‘I TRUST WE ARE ALL GOOD WITH BARE BACK!’

You’ll probably be spend the rest of the evening crying salty tears into your Pot Noodle, but hey at least you asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, in the world of fab it's never. That's reserved for a relationship. However some are into that so if its your thing I'd put it on your profile. Like minded people who are interested in you will express it, those who don't, won't

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time

First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I?

Why? Ask a question and be thought a fool for 5 minutes. Or never ask a question and be a fool for life. Plus a lot of what is offered is only opinion, different folks will say different.

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