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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How strict are you when it comes to fab?

Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?

Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?

Do you ever stray from them?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Pretty much stick to my filters on fab, unless someone catches my eye from the forums outside my filters, then I'll message them.

In clubs it's a case of who catches my eye x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally do have a list of dos and don’ts listed on my profile, but they’re more guidelines than actual rules. Cause there are always exceptions and all that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pretty much stick to my filters on fab, unless someone catches my eye from the forums outside my filters, then I'll message them.

In clubs it's a case of who catches my eye x"

I quite like when they do. There's been the odd person outside my age limits I've quite enjoyed sending a wee wink or message if I know they've been trying to get my attention and they're hot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I literally do have a list of dos and don’ts listed on my profile, but they’re more guidelines than actual rules. Cause there are always exceptions and all that.

"

Sometimes it's the ones who don't fit in who turn out to be most fun I think.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Pretty much stick to my filters on fab, unless someone catches my eye from the forums outside my filters, then I'll message them.

In clubs it's a case of who catches my eye x

I quite like when they do. There's been the odd person outside my age limits I've quite enjoyed sending a wee wink or message if I know they've been trying to get my attention and they're hot. "

Me too. My filters are guidelines. Rules are meant to be broken and it's usually a nice surprise when they are x

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By *uncouple_12Couple
over a year ago

bristol

We’re laid back are only rules are condoms are a must and no anal

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I make it up as i go along. Like pretty much everything else I do

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have some rules, more guidelines. Some stuff which goes unstated but guides me.

I rarely stray from them and almost always regret it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is a bit war and peace , but I find think there are any do's or donts on there

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By *attooed gentMan
over a year ago

anywhere everywhere

Dont have do's and don'ts but tend to play it how I see it if someone catches my eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My biggest rule.... don't abuse my trust.

We're kinda working out our rules/boundaries at the moment. As a fledgling couple it's gonna take time to truly discover each others and our own niggles/hard lines etc. At times it may come to trial and error... and when we get there we'll probably both find something that was a hard line back then isn't so much now, or vice versa.

I may bend on some stuff when it comes to the type of person (there's one I'm struggling with in my own head at the moment) but that will come down to the individual I think.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m French, rules don’t apply to me.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Rules are made to be broken

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I don’t have rules, I have discernment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How strict are you when it comes to fab?

Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?

Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?

Do you ever stray from them?

"

I try not to listen to the ‘fab etiquette ‘...... I am here to express myself, if you likey likey then great . If you don’t then....... what am I having for tea?

Peace

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Picky or fussy or just plain discerning?

I have guidelines more than rules, and if my tickle is fancied ....

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Main rule is social meet first ... tends to be set in stone

After that it's played by ear

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I try to stick to mine. Social first. Really does depend on attraction and trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a free flowing creative...no rules man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a reason my profile looks the way it does now.. it took years of changing. Unfortunately.

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By *at1Man
over a year ago

bedford


"Rules are made to be broken "

100% in agreement

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

Exceptions are where unknown excitement lies

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I don’t have many rules apart from sensible ones around safety. Any rules I do have, age for example, can be and have been broken. It all depends on attraction and connection. I’m here for a good time not to paint by numbers.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"My biggest rule.... don't abuse my trust.

We're kinda working out our rules/boundaries at the moment. As a fledgling couple it's gonna take time to truly discover each others and our own niggles/hard lines etc. At times it may come to trial and error... and when we get there we'll probably both find something that was a hard line back then isn't so much now, or vice versa.

I may bend on some stuff when it comes to the type of person (there's one I'm struggling with in my own head at the moment) but that will come down to the individual I think.

P"

I had a good friend from a couple. They met both separately and together. They had just one rule - which was very easy to stick to - namely they only slept/spent the night with each other - never other meets! I’d agree with this I think. It’s not sexually restricting at all - but most would agree that it’s the act of actually sleeping with someone (and snuggling up and waking up for sleepy sex) that is the most intimate! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t have many rules apart from sensible ones around safety. Any rules I do have, age for example, can be and have been broken. It all depends on attraction and connection. I’m here for a good time not to paint by numbers. "

I shall put my crayons away then and I enjoy painting my numbers too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just have 1 rule. I never break it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only rule I follow is to check the consistency of the behaviour of someone.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

As someone else said - Rules are made to be broken. For the main I stick to my likes/dislikes but occasionally I will defer from that - if there is a good reason too

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"The only rule I follow is to check the socks of someone.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only rule I follow is to check the socks of someone.

"

Oh yeah socks are very important they make great condoms

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I have them, 2 are bendable at my discretion and have been. 3 I won’t change my mind on at all and one is breakable if I’ve known someone a long time and the trust is there.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"How strict are you when it comes to fab?

Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?

Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?

Do you ever stray from them?

"

I was advised by an experienced couple that a list of don'ts is a massive turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to make the rules up as I go along on fab. What I'm looking for has been known to change, so then I just update my profile accordingly. I know what I want when I see it!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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I don’t have lists. The two things I mention are not sending me penis photos and crude/rude messages. Those are non negotiable and I won’t read or answer because I’ve politely asked people not to do it so they should respect my wishes and I’m pleased to say they do.

Other than that I don’t mind chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im strict as i need to be

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Im strict as i need to be"

Oh my...

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"How strict are you when it comes to fab?

Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?

Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?

Do you ever stray from them?

"

Rules only set limits and close doors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours are social meets first, safe sex, no anal and no kissing.

We know the no kissing on the lips is a turn off for most but then we’re not desperate to play.

We’re sure a suitable couple will come along at some point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My one rule is don’t take a phone call from your ex when I’m penetrating your vagina with my erect penis, at least wait till I’ve disappointed you and then call him while I’m sobbing next to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How strict are you when it comes to fab?

Is your profile a list of dos and don'ts?

Do you have a set criteria when it comes to meeting?

Do you ever stray from them?

I was advised by an experienced couple that a list of don'ts is a massive turn off. "

It is. Negativity attracts negativity.

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By *at1Man
over a year ago

bedford


"I don’t have lists. The two things I mention are not sending me penis photos and crude/rude messages. Those are non negotiable and I won’t read or answer because I’ve politely asked people not to do it so they should respect my wishes and I’m pleased to say they do.

Other than that I don’t mind chatting "

I don't think you chat most time Babs, I tried chatting with you 8 months ago you ignored me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My biggest rule.... don't abuse my trust.

We're kinda working out our rules/boundaries at the moment. As a fledgling couple it's gonna take time to truly discover each others and our own niggles/hard lines etc. At times it may come to trial and error... and when we get there we'll probably both find something that was a hard line back then isn't so much now, or vice versa.

I may bend on some stuff when it comes to the type of person (there's one I'm struggling with in my own head at the moment) but that will come down to the individual I think.

P

I had a good friend from a couple. They met both separately and together. They had just one rule - which was very easy to stick to - namely they only slept/spent the night with each other - never other meets! I’d agree with this I think. It’s not sexually restricting at all - but most would agree that it’s the act of actually sleeping with someone (and snuggling up and waking up for sleepy sex) that is the most intimate! X"

That's something I personally agree with.

The abuse of trust can come in many guises though, including the person they are meeting not respecting that or other rules and pushing for more. Maybe because they don't understand the dynamic, maybe because they really couldn't give a flying fuck about the dynamic and only care about what they can get, or maybe because they see it as a game of oneupmanship. When it's a fledgling couple some people seem to think it's ok to make comments like "well if they're trying to control who you meet they aren't proper swingers" or something similar, instead of respecting the newness, understanding they're working their own things out and giving them space, bringing their future into question almost before it's even begun.

Hey ho. Horses for courses and some people will always be vultures/predators.

P

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I find as a rule how people are represented on FAB can be quite different to how you'd find them in real life. I found this often to be the case with people I've run into in clubs who I've recognised from FAB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only rule I have is for me, and it's trust my instincts. They are probably a bit heightened on here but they havn't failed me yet.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Don't shit on your own doorstep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only rule I have is for me, and it's trust my instincts. They are probably a bit heightened on here but they havn't failed me yet. "

Which is, of course, a shame for many of us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't shit on your own doorstep."

Or your neighbour's. They really don't like it..

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