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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, curious, is there anyone else on here that cannot cum from a blowjob? Oh believe me, i love getting one, i stay hard and have had some real good blows from skilled people but have never cum from it.. Trying to work out if its linked to my childhood ptsd or something others have.. Gfs trying and realky knows how to work a long sensual bj but i think she s feeling defeated on this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its in ya head

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Which is hinting at my ptsd.. Fkin thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, curious, is there anyone else on here that cannot cum from a blowjob? Oh believe me, i love getting one, i stay hard and have had some real good blows from skilled people but have never cum from it.. Trying to work out if its linked to my childhood ptsd or something others have.. Gfs trying and realky knows how to work a long sensual bj but i think she s feeling defeated on this one "

Lots of guys cant cum from oral.

It could be for all kinds of reasons.

Is it that important? Does it bother you really?

I very rarely cum at all but I still love sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its more wrapping my head around my ptsd, the more I know and understand the more I ve got to work with.. It does bother those giving me the bj, i guess many see it as me not enjoying what they re doing which I sure as hell do but most see the completion as being the proof of pudding and so they put it on me as being weird...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its more wrapping my head around my ptsd, the more I know and understand the more I ve got to work with.. It does bother those giving me the bj, i guess many see it as me not enjoying what they re doing which I sure as hell do but most see the completion as being the proof of pudding and so they put it on me as being weird... "

Speak to your councillor about it.

I can cum from a bj, but it just takes a bit longer.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Its more wrapping my head around my ptsd, the more I know and understand the more I ve got to work with.. It does bother those giving me the bj, i guess many see it as me not enjoying what they re doing which I sure as hell do but most see the completion as being the proof of pudding and so they put it on me as being weird... "

As the ' giver' who likes to see the end result I think it's good to see your thread as I can understand where your gf is coming from. I never gave it thought before fab that just as I don't come from oral alone that a man might not.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"Ok, curious, is there anyone else on here that cannot cum from a blowjob? Oh believe me, i love getting one, i stay hard and have had some real good blows from skilled people but have never cum from it.. Trying to work out if its linked to my childhood ptsd or something others have.. Gfs trying and realky knows how to work a long sensual bj but i think she s feeling defeated on this one "

I’m same tbh

But that’s sensitivity that stops me cumming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only cum from oral once or twice in my life, the vast majority of the time I seem to be teetering on the edge but never quite manage it. To make it worse once I get to that point, nothing seems to finish it for me unless I have a break and start again later.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its more wrapping my head around my ptsd, the more I know and understand the more I ve got to work with.. It does bother those giving me the bj, i guess many see it as me not enjoying what they re doing which I sure as hell do but most see the completion as being the proof of pudding and so they put it on me as being weird...

As the ' giver' who likes to see the end result I think it's good to see your thread as I can understand where your gf is coming from. I never gave it thought before fab that just as I don't come from oral alone that a man might not. "

I was hesitant about thread but figured it may help others raising it, so to speak

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Its in ya head "

I see what you did there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one person has made me cum from one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've only cum from oral once or twice in my life, the vast majority of the time I seem to be teetering on the edge but never quite manage it. To make it worse once I get to that point, nothing seems to finish it for me unless I have a break and start again later."

Yup i get just about there... Forever, they get bored after a while, but for some rhey see it that its them and they lose the sexy feel, luckily gf knows all my stuff and understands... Maybe one day eh

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

most males take longer coming through oral i think, mr northy certainly does, but it is like most thinks a " mind set" issue, and tbh does it really matter if you dont come from it? best not to let it get to you i think

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I've only cum from oral once or twice in my life, the vast majority of the time I seem to be teetering on the edge but never quite manage it. To make it worse once I get to that point, nothing seems to finish it for me unless I have a break and start again later.

Yup i get just about there... Forever, they get bored after a while, but for some rhey see it that its them and they lose the sexy feel, luckily gf knows all my stuff and understands... Maybe one day eh"

Is it because you feel subconsciously guilty about releasing it into her mouth?

Or maybe, again subconsciously, you worry about her kissing you after.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting comments for which I m real grateful. My management of my issues which have surfaced recently, caused by child sex abuse is by understanding it, accepting it then figuring a way to counter it, hence the possibly overthinking which is also a querk of my issues. Sorry if this is too revealing but what the hell, this is me i really appreciate your comments xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely happens for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It rarely used to happen for me.

It just takes longer, and depends on the person doing it tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its in ya head

I see what you did there "

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I never used to cum from a blow job. And still don’t every time. But a few women have persisted. I love it either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, curious, is there anyone else on here that cannot cum from a blowjob? Oh believe me, i love getting one, i stay hard and have had some real good blows from skilled people but have never cum from it.. Trying to work out if its linked to my childhood ptsd or something others have.. Gfs trying and realky knows how to work a long sensual bj but i think she s feeling defeated on this one "

until very recently OP I was the same, no amount of sucking or wanking would make me explode however I met a very lovely lady about 6 mths ago who within 20 mins had a mouthful. I think its down to how relaxed you are and how much the person in front of you is turning you on. In other words you have to really fancy the pants of the lady ??

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I've only ever cum through oral once, many years ago, and that was with a lot of help with her hand. Never stopped me enjoying some most excellent blow jobs though.

I'm not bothered about about cuming in a woman's mouth but if I know the deliverer is goal orientated then I'll tell her I don't cum through oral, and if she really wants my man juice in her mouth then I'll wank and she can finish off when I reach the point of no return.

I don't think it's psychological, just one of them things...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I'm glad this post has come up...

I've never come from a blowjob I thought it was me guess it isn't

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"So I'm glad this post has come up...

I've never come from a blowjob I thought it was me guess it isn't "

Yes..it is good to talk

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"So I'm glad this post has come up...

I've never come from a blowjob I thought it was me guess it isn't

Yes..it is good to talk "

But not with your mouth full

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I honestly think a lot of performance issues are exacerbated by performance anxiety. Relax, enjoy the ride, don't put pressure on yourself or anyone else. If it's meant to be it'll happen

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"So I'm glad this post has come up...

I've never come from a blowjob I thought it was me guess it isn't

Yes..it is good to talk

But not with your mouth full "

I ha e got a big mouth, takes a lot to shut me up

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"So I'm glad this post has come up...

I've never come from a blowjob I thought it was me guess it isn't

Yes..it is good to talk

But not with your mouth full

I ha e got a big mouth, takes a lot to shut me up "

My cock and both fingers of a Twix?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"So I'm glad this post has come up...

I've never come from a blowjob I thought it was me guess it isn't

Yes..it is good to talk

But not with your mouth full

I ha e got a big mouth, takes a lot to shut me up

My cock and both fingers of a Twix? "

Cock and 4 finger kit kat and now we're talking (or not)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something I have never had a problem with and feel for the guys who can't

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By *DGF20Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I am really suprised about this...didn’t expect that so many guys can’t cum in blowjob..to be honest this is the easiest way to cum for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't cum with a bj either. Never have done. Can be a bit embarrassing when the giver is doing all they can and they don't get a mouthful of cum. Glad OP broached this subject as I was thinking I was alone with the issue.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I can never cum from a blow job. But I've given plenty that makes the guy cum

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I can't cum with a bj either. Never have done. Can be a bit embarrassing when the giver is doing all they can and they don't get a mouthful of cum. Glad OP broached this subject as I was thinking I was alone with the issue. "

There are other ways to finish off though as above. Win win all round.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I can't cum with a bj either. Never have done. Can be a bit embarrassing when the giver is doing all they can and they don't get a mouthful of cum. Glad OP broached this subject as I was thinking I was alone with the issue.

There are other ways to finish off though as above. Win win all round."

Exactly ... just enjoythe bj and finish how every it feels best for you

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By *eriousGuyABCMan
over a year ago

( WEST OF ) Chippenham ish

Me neither, never finished from a BJ

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

For a long time I thought I couldn't. It took finding the right person, getting into my head that she did it because she loved it (not just because she thought I did), communication to refine technique (which bits are more sensitive, what things that she did felt best), time, patience, and being properly relaxed. And being able to play with her, but not so much that she gets too distracted.

The result was amazing. I understand why guys like them now. During orgasm, the head of my penis becomes a lot more sensitive. Normally I'll stop moving so it doesn't get too intense. But with someone else in charge, I don't get that option.

I haven't seen her in years, and no one else has been able to do it. That's OK. There's still so much more to enjoy.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Have to be honest, when I tried gay sex I always made guys cum by oral sex, one after about 3 mins

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Have to be honest, when I tried gay sex I always made guys cum by oral sex, one after about 3 mins"

I've had the whole 9 yards, quick, not quick and not at all. I don't take it personally either way. I just want them to enjoy the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have to be honest, when I tried gay sex I always made guys cum by oral sex, one after about 3 mins

I've had the whole 9 yards, quick, not quick and not at all. I don't take it personally either way. I just want them to enjoy the moment."

Same here, cos I love giving as well as receiving.. Though I generally hope its more than a moment.. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My gf looked at your posts last night and was suprised at how many guys don t thru bjs but she also said she loves giving me a bj whether I do or don t cum. I think in many ways its assumed that its the hell sure way of "sorting" a guy out because its not a discussion people have.. Well except people like myself and gf that discussed best way to give one over a pint down the pub.. Lol.. Your comments have been great and very interesting.. Much aporeciated... Enjoy your day peeps

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