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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanity

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Vanity"

How is it vain to love yourself?

My status was sarcastic, but ‘fuck your love yourself’ was an ‘insult’ thrown at me. Why shouldn’t I love myself?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?"
I love you too

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull

You love yourself and that's fine, fuck them who have something against it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a complicated and messed up set of cultural norms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a conundrum for sure.

"Love yourself!" we're always told. Yet when we do we're up ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult? I love you too "

Bloody everyone should love me (love you too buddy)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a conundrum for sure.

"Love yourself!" we're always told. Yet when we do we're up ourselves. "

Those pesky feminists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?"
it maybe came across as arrogant

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You love yourself and that's fine, fuck them who have something against it "

Why would I want to fuck them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?

it maybe came across as arrogant "

But I’ve been told plenty of times that I love myself, yes I do...what’s wrong with that?

The status was just an example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love myself if i dont why should anyone else

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"You love yourself and that's fine, fuck them who have something against it

Why would I want to fuck them?"

Is there only one meaning of fuck?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult? I love you too

Bloody everyone should love me (love you too buddy) "
Awwww I'm blushing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck 'em, fuck the lot of 'em

(And not fuck 'em in the sexual sense)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You love yourself and that's fine, fuck them who have something against it

Why would I want to fuck them?

Is there only one meaning of fuck? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fuck 'em, fuck the lot of 'em

(And not fuck 'em in the sexual sense)

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is just that you love yourself because/and you think you are so perfect rather than simply loving yourself despite your imperfections. It is OK to simply love yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it is just that you love yourself because/and you think you are so perfect rather than simply loving yourself despite your imperfections. It is OK to simply love yourself. "

Why isn’t it okay that I think I’m perfect in my eyes?

Why is it okay to tell me I’m not? (Not that you have, but others did)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vanity

How is it vain to love yourself?

My status was sarcastic, but ‘fuck your love yourself’ was an ‘insult’ thrown at me. Why shouldn’t I love myself?"

There’s nothing wrong with loving oneself. Though, in telling others how “perfect” you perceive yourself to be, comes across as being a little too pre-occupied with oneself = vanity.

If you love yourself, why would there be a need to gloat to others? It comes across as being more narcissistic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Vanity

How is it vain to love yourself?

My status was sarcastic, but ‘fuck your love yourself’ was an ‘insult’ thrown at me. Why shouldn’t I love myself?

There’s nothing wrong with loving oneself. Though, in telling others how “perfect” you perceive yourself to be, comes across as being a little too pre-occupied with oneself = vanity.

If you love yourself, why would there be a need to gloat to others? It comes across as being more narcissistic. "

Because everyone should appreciate me and bow down to be, clearly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

(I also want to point out that no, I do not think I’m perfect. But yes, I do love myself).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the people who messaged you didn’t see the humour behind it?

If I saw a status like that, I would never in a million years message but I would probably be thinking one of two things (if I wasn’t aware of you): someone else has put the status up or you are a bit too far up your own arse.

Absolutely you should love yourself, your mental health shines when you can love yourself but I wouldn’t walk around going ‘I’m so perfect’ etc because that would mean I had reached a level of ‘don’t talk to me if you are not the same level as me’ kind of thing.

But I am aware of you and I do know you like your humour but I can see why some might take it the wrong way.

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(I also want to point out that no, I do not think I’m perfect. But yes, I do love myself). "
we know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is just that you love yourself because/and you think you are so perfect rather than simply loving yourself despite your imperfections. It is OK to simply love yourself.

Why isn’t it okay that I think I’m perfect in my eyes?

Why is it okay to tell me I’m not? (Not that you have, but others did)"

People that love themselves, and that are confident and happy in their own skin, are threatening.

Because others dont understand why you can do it, and they cant

So they attack

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it is just that you love yourself because/and you think you are so perfect rather than simply loving yourself despite your imperfections. It is OK to simply love yourself.

Why isn’t it okay that I think I’m perfect in my eyes?

Why is it okay to tell me I’m not? (Not that you have, but others did)

People that love themselves, and that are confident and happy in their own skin, are threatening.

Because others dont understand why you can do it, and they cant

So they attack"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe the people who messaged you didn’t see the humour behind it?

If I saw a status like that, I would never in a million years message but I would probably be thinking one of two things (if I wasn’t aware of you): someone else has put the status up or you are a bit too far up your own arse.

Absolutely you should love yourself, your mental health shines when you can love yourself but I wouldn’t walk around going ‘I’m so perfect’ etc because that would mean I had reached a level of ‘don’t talk to me if you are not the same level as me’ kind of thing.

But I am aware of you and I do know you like your humour but I can see why some might take it the wrong way.

Danish x"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think it is just that you love yourself because/and you think you are so perfect rather than simply loving yourself despite your imperfections. It is OK to simply love yourself.

Why isn’t it okay that I think I’m perfect in my eyes?

Why is it okay to tell me I’m not? (Not that you have, but others did)

People that love themselves, and that are confident and happy in their own skin, are threatening.

Because others dont understand why you can do it, and they cant

So they attack"

Mmhm.

And if you're confident they can't neg you into bed. How dare you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is just that you love yourself because/and you think you are so perfect rather than simply loving yourself despite your imperfections. It is OK to simply love yourself.

Why isn’t it okay that I think I’m perfect in my eyes?

Why is it okay to tell me I’m not? (Not that you have, but others did)

People that love themselves, and that are confident and happy in their own skin, are threatening.

Because others dont understand why you can do it, and they cant

So they attack

Mmhm.

And if you're confident they can't neg you into bed. How dare you! "

This!

Don’t be confident ladies, it’s bad mmkay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?

it maybe came across as arrogant

But I’ve been told plenty of times that I love myself, yes I do...what’s wrong with that?

The status was just an example "
absolutely nothing wrong with liking yourself but some dont enjoy arrogance and sometimes it's a fine line

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

RuPaul said it best;

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"RuPaul said it best;

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

"

I caveat, loving yourself isn’t the same as thinking you’re perfect though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"RuPaul said it best;

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

I caveat, loving yourself isn’t the same as thinking you’re perfect though."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is not ok to tell someone they are not perfect in the nasty way you seem to have ben on here.

But surely, perfection is something to be aimed at rather than an achievement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"RuPaul said it best;

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

I caveat, loving yourself isn’t the same as thinking you’re perfect though."

Should read the op again then, as that’s what we’re discussing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love myself too so fuck you if you don't like it, we're not meant to be

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"RuPaul said it best;

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

"

I think it's possible. Plenty of people with self esteem issues love deeply. And sometimes it's a further kick in the gut to be told you're incapable when you already hate yourself. (off topic)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sure the OP was joking about perfection but... I see all sorts of (without context) cringey statuses all the time here.

I ignore them. Heavens above.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sure the OP was joking about perfection but... I see all sorts of (without context) cringey statuses all the time here.

I ignore them. Heavens above. "

Yes, I was joking, and have clarified my points if others would like to scroll through the replies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was using my status as an example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with posting such statuses... they make excellent filters

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"RuPaul said it best;

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

I think it's possible. Plenty of people with self esteem issues love deeply. And sometimes it's a further kick in the gut to be told you're incapable when you already hate yourself. (off topic) "

I understand your point, but I think it still holds true actually. I don’t think loving yourself necessarily means accepting or liking everything but it’s about the working on, the aspiration and the movement forward. I genuinely believe not being able to face in that direction will ultimately mean a reciprocal and healthy relationship doesn’t work.

Loving someone else can be done without a reciprocal and healthy relationship but I don’t believe that’s the point of the quote’s aspiration. I find it uplifting, and am someone who has/does struggle. It’s a simple statement so it’s in the interpretation.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm sure the OP was joking about perfection but... I see all sorts of (without context) cringey statuses all the time here.

I ignore them. Heavens above.

Yes, I was joking, and have clarified my points if others would like to scroll through the replies "

I was addressing very much in that context.

I wonder (somewhat off topic) what provokes people to send unsolicited nastiness re statuses. Am I, say, attention seeking when I post about going to the gym? Sure. I'm pointing out that I go to the gym. I'm not saying "please send me an incoherent rant about how fat, ugly, and unfuckable I am that I shouldn't bother". People could just, you know, not do that. Ditto with yours.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"RuPaul said it best;

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

I think it's possible. Plenty of people with self esteem issues love deeply. And sometimes it's a further kick in the gut to be told you're incapable when you already hate yourself. (off topic)

I understand your point, but I think it still holds true actually. I don’t think loving yourself necessarily means accepting or liking everything but it’s about the working on, the aspiration and the movement forward. I genuinely believe not being able to face in that direction will ultimately mean a reciprocal and healthy relationship doesn’t work.

Loving someone else can be done without a reciprocal and healthy relationship but I don’t believe that’s the point of the quote’s aspiration. I find it uplifting, and am someone who has/does struggle. It’s a simple statement so it’s in the interpretation. "

I found that kind of thing quite demoralising when it was the last thing I needed. To each their own!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is nothing wrong with posting such statuses... they make excellent filters "

Exactly. If they don’t want someone as perfect as me, they know to pass me by

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sure the OP was joking about perfection but... I see all sorts of (without context) cringey statuses all the time here.

I ignore them. Heavens above.

Yes, I was joking, and have clarified my points if others would like to scroll through the replies

I was addressing very much in that context.

I wonder (somewhat off topic) what provokes people to send unsolicited nastiness re statuses. Am I, say, attention seeking when I post about going to the gym? Sure. I'm pointing out that I go to the gym. I'm not saying "please send me an incoherent rant about how fat, ugly, and unfuckable I am that I shouldn't bother". People could just, you know, not do that. Ditto with yours. "

It’s a bloody nightmare

But hey, us daft women should just put up our filters eh. Then we can’t moan

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"RuPaul said it best;

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

I think it's possible. Plenty of people with self esteem issues love deeply. And sometimes it's a further kick in the gut to be told you're incapable when you already hate yourself. (off topic)

I understand your point, but I think it still holds true actually. I don’t think loving yourself necessarily means accepting or liking everything but it’s about the working on, the aspiration and the movement forward. I genuinely believe not being able to face in that direction will ultimately mean a reciprocal and healthy relationship doesn’t work.

Loving someone else can be done without a reciprocal and healthy relationship but I don’t believe that’s the point of the quote’s aspiration. I find it uplifting, and am someone who has/does struggle. It’s a simple statement so it’s in the interpretation.

I found that kind of thing quite demoralising when it was the last thing I needed. To each their own! "

It has to be in context of the Drag Race.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm sure the OP was joking about perfection but... I see all sorts of (without context) cringey statuses all the time here.

I ignore them. Heavens above.

Yes, I was joking, and have clarified my points if others would like to scroll through the replies

I was addressing very much in that context.

I wonder (somewhat off topic) what provokes people to send unsolicited nastiness re statuses. Am I, say, attention seeking when I post about going to the gym? Sure. I'm pointing out that I go to the gym. I'm not saying "please send me an incoherent rant about how fat, ugly, and unfuckable I am that I shouldn't bother". People could just, you know, not do that. Ditto with yours.

It’s a bloody nightmare

But hey, us daft women should just put up our filters eh. Then we can’t moan "

How dare us uppity women moan. We should take the shit sandwich* and love it!

* not my kink, don't message me about it please

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Self respect and a sense of self worth are very important.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Loving yourself is a good thing!

If saying you love yourself offends people I think that says more about them than you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving your self doesn't need to be a narcissist thing it's good and healthy and a compassionate thing you can do for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure the OP was joking about perfection but... I see all sorts of (without context) cringey statuses all the time here.

I ignore them. Heavens above.

Yes, I was joking, and have clarified my points if others would like to scroll through the replies

I was addressing very much in that context.

I wonder (somewhat off topic) what provokes people to send unsolicited nastiness re statuses. Am I, say, attention seeking when I post about going to the gym? Sure. I'm pointing out that I go to the gym. I'm not saying "please send me an incoherent rant about how fat, ugly, and unfuckable I am that I shouldn't bother". People could just, you know, not do that. Ditto with yours.

It’s a bloody nightmare

But hey, us daft women should just put up our filters eh. Then we can’t moan

How dare us uppity women moan. We should take the shit sandwich* and love it!

* not my kink, don't message me about it please"

Fuck me, its a sad state of affairs when you have to actually articulate that you dont really eat shit sandwiches.

Bet you'll still get some silly fucker taking you literally though

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm sure the OP was joking about perfection but... I see all sorts of (without context) cringey statuses all the time here.

I ignore them. Heavens above.

Yes, I was joking, and have clarified my points if others would like to scroll through the replies

I was addressing very much in that context.

I wonder (somewhat off topic) what provokes people to send unsolicited nastiness re statuses. Am I, say, attention seeking when I post about going to the gym? Sure. I'm pointing out that I go to the gym. I'm not saying "please send me an incoherent rant about how fat, ugly, and unfuckable I am that I shouldn't bother". People could just, you know, not do that. Ditto with yours.

It’s a bloody nightmare

But hey, us daft women should just put up our filters eh. Then we can’t moan

How dare us uppity women moan. We should take the shit sandwich* and love it!

* not my kink, don't message me about it please

Fuck me, its a sad state of affairs when you have to actually articulate that you dont really eat shit sandwiches.

Bet you'll still get some silly fucker taking you literally though"

Hence the disclaimer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"RuPaul said it best;

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

"

Can I get an Amen?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure the OP was joking about perfection but... I see all sorts of (without context) cringey statuses all the time here.

I ignore them. Heavens above.

Yes, I was joking, and have clarified my points if others would like to scroll through the replies

I was addressing very much in that context.

I wonder (somewhat off topic) what provokes people to send unsolicited nastiness re statuses. Am I, say, attention seeking when I post about going to the gym? Sure. I'm pointing out that I go to the gym. I'm not saying "please send me an incoherent rant about how fat, ugly, and unfuckable I am that I shouldn't bother". People could just, you know, not do that. Ditto with yours.

It’s a bloody nightmare

But hey, us daft women should just put up our filters eh. Then we can’t moan

How dare us uppity women moan. We should take the shit sandwich* and love it!

* not my kink, don't message me about it please

Fuck me, its a sad state of affairs when you have to actually articulate that you dont really eat shit sandwiches.

Bet you'll still get some silly fucker taking you literally though

Hence the disclaimer! "

Some of the disclaimers are so funny in the USA. I bought a microwave when I was living there and couldn’t believe it. Do not stir hot soup with your fingers. Do not put live animals in there. Do not dry a child in there...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm sure the OP was joking about perfection but... I see all sorts of (without context) cringey statuses all the time here.

I ignore them. Heavens above.

Yes, I was joking, and have clarified my points if others would like to scroll through the replies

I was addressing very much in that context.

I wonder (somewhat off topic) what provokes people to send unsolicited nastiness re statuses. Am I, say, attention seeking when I post about going to the gym? Sure. I'm pointing out that I go to the gym. I'm not saying "please send me an incoherent rant about how fat, ugly, and unfuckable I am that I shouldn't bother". People could just, you know, not do that. Ditto with yours.

It’s a bloody nightmare

But hey, us daft women should just put up our filters eh. Then we can’t moan

How dare us uppity women moan. We should take the shit sandwich* and love it!

* not my kink, don't message me about it please

Fuck me, its a sad state of affairs when you have to actually articulate that you dont really eat shit sandwiches.

Bet you'll still get some silly fucker taking you literally though

Hence the disclaimer!

Some of the disclaimers are so funny in the USA. I bought a microwave when I was living there and couldn’t believe it. Do not stir hot soup with your fingers. Do not put live animals in there. Do not dry a child in there... "

They're there because someone did that then sued.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Makes me think along these lines.

"What did women expect joining Fab? I'm a great guy, but shit sandwiches are just part of being a woman in this environment. If you can't handle shit sandwiches then don't be on Fab!

...

Why are there so few women on Fab?"

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Nothing wrong at all with loving yourself.

It's not vain, it's positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should all love ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me think along these lines.

"What did women expect joining Fab? I'm a great guy, but shit sandwiches are just part of being a woman in this environment. If you can't handle shit sandwiches then don't be on Fab!

...

Why are there so few women on Fab?" "

This is a really interesting question. I’d like to know how long single women actually stay on fab too...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Makes me think along these lines.

"What did women expect joining Fab? I'm a great guy, but shit sandwiches are just part of being a woman in this environment. If you can't handle shit sandwiches then don't be on Fab!

...

Why are there so few women on Fab?"

This is a really interesting question. I’d like to know how long single women actually stay on fab too..."

My guess is, given what I'm told by a friend who sends messages to new women (not horrible ones I might add!), less than a week or we're rusted on.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Nothing wrong at all with loving yourself.

It's not vain, it's positive."

Absolutely

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to."

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves. "

Oh no it’s used as an insult pretty often, especially on fab. My status (like I keep explaining) was just one example.

I can upload a photo with no status update and be told it. People can read my profile and be told it.

Fuck it, I can mention on the forums that I love myself and I’ll be sent abuse.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves. "

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Oh no it’s used as an insult pretty often, especially on fab. My status (like I keep explaining) was just one example.

I can upload a photo with no status update and be told it. People can read my profile and be told it.

Fuck it, I can mention on the forums that I love myself and I’ll be sent abuse.

"

You've got to stop being a confident young woman, t'aint right t'aint proper.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Oh no it’s used as an insult pretty often, especially on fab. My status (like I keep explaining) was just one example.

I can upload a photo with no status update and be told it. People can read my profile and be told it.

Fuck it, I can mention on the forums that I love myself and I’ll be sent abuse.

You've got to stop being a confident young woman, t'aint right t'aint proper."

No, I must put myself down, hate myself and bathe in the sweat of the white knights who are here to save me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response? "

Exactly, what’s wrong with thinking I’m perfect? So what if it’s vain?

I remember a woman on the forums who knew she was good looking and got slated a lot for it. Why?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Oh no it’s used as an insult pretty often, especially on fab. My status (like I keep explaining) was just one example.

I can upload a photo with no status update and be told it. People can read my profile and be told it.

Fuck it, I can mention on the forums that I love myself and I’ll be sent abuse.

You've got to stop being a confident young woman, t'aint right t'aint proper.

No, I must put myself down, hate myself and bathe in the sweat of the white knights who are here to save me"

And there we have it.

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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago

Liphook

Discovered meme:


"You’re offered £50,000 but if you accept it, the person you hate most in the entire world gets £100,000. Are you taking it?

Yes. Why wouldn’t I want £150,000?"

Jokes aside, I think self-love is an important and desirable quality. Vanity and hubris are ugly, and I think people may confuse self-love with these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me think along these lines.

"What did women expect joining Fab? I'm a great guy, but shit sandwiches are just part of being a woman in this environment. If you can't handle shit sandwiches then don't be on Fab!

...

Why are there so few women on Fab?"

This is a really interesting question. I’d like to know how long single women actually stay on fab too..."
15 to 20 years some of them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response?

Exactly, what’s wrong with thinking I’m perfect? So what if it’s vain?

I remember a woman on the forums who knew she was good looking and got slated a lot for it. Why?"

As I said self worth is not celebrated in women either on fab or in wider society. In a woman it's called vanity in a man it's called confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surly guys would rather have a woman that loves herself than a woman that loathes herself !!!

Keep loving yourself OP

The alternative isn't an attractive trait to have.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"You don't know you're beautiful. That's what makes you beautiful."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""You don't know you're beautiful. That's what makes you beautiful." "

Fuck those one direction fuck boys

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


""You don't know you're beautiful. That's what makes you beautiful." "

.

I have to laugh

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm beautiful because of age, genetics, skincare, makeup, and staying out of the sun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response? "

I’ve already explained all of this....

It’s not about what somebody thinks of themselves. It’s ‘why’ feel the need to tell everyone about it? It screams of arrogance and vanity.

Just to clarify, as I’m aware of how you all love to latch on to things and scream bloody murder. I’m not saying that it’s then acceptable to throw abuse at someone for it. I merely answered the question in the op, which most of you have neglected; and merely responded to the title.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response?

I’ve already explained all of this....

It’s not about what somebody thinks of themselves. It’s ‘why’ feel the need to tell everyone about it? It screams of arrogance and vanity.

Just to clarify, as I’m aware of how you all love to latch on to things and scream bloody murder. I’m not saying that it’s then acceptable to throw abuse at someone for it. I merely answered the question in the op, which most of you have neglected; and merely responded to the title. "

They’ve also went on to answer other questions that the thread had raised, and the main one is ‘why is it bad to love yourself’ Which was the whole point. My status update was a joke (like I have said many times) and my point in making this thread was to ask why some people think ‘oh you love yourself’ is an insult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response?

Exactly, what’s wrong with thinking I’m perfect? So what if it’s vain?

I remember a woman on the forums who knew she was good looking and got slated a lot for it. Why?

As I said self worth is not celebrated in women either on fab or in wider society. In a woman it's called vanity in a man it's called confidence"

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love myself.

I chose to do that at a time when it would have been easier to call it a day and end my life.

I don't always like myself, that's the truth right there.

Yes, there are behaviours and fears buried within me that I wish I could change, and I'm trying so hard to do that.

I'm learning about myself.

I'm well aware that im far from perfect, and at every stage, every day in my life until the day I do leave this earth i always will be, but at every stage, every day and every moment .... I'll be perfectly me.

P

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response?

Exactly, what’s wrong with thinking I’m perfect? So what if it’s vain?

I remember a woman on the forums who knew she was good looking and got slated a lot for it. Why?

As I said self worth is not celebrated in women either on fab or in wider society. In a woman it's called vanity in a man it's called confidence

True "

Preach.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I love myself.

I chose to do that at a time when it would have been easier to call it a day and end my life.

I don't always like myself, that's the truth right there.

Yes, there are behaviours and fears buried within me that I wish I could change, and I'm trying so hard to do that.

I'm learning about myself.

I'm well aware that im far from perfect, and at every stage, every day in my life until the day I do leave this earth i always will be, but at every stage, every day and every moment .... I'll be perfectly me.

P"

Solidarity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love myself.

I chose to do that at a time when it would have been easier to call it a day and end my life.

I don't always like myself, that's the truth right there.

Yes, there are behaviours and fears buried within me that I wish I could change, and I'm trying so hard to do that.

I'm learning about myself.

I'm well aware that im far from perfect, and at every stage, every day in my life until the day I do leave this earth i always will be, but at every stage, every day and every moment .... I'll be perfectly me.

P"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our culture values humility and self-deprecation above self-worth. It's a bit ridiculous to expect people to pretend they don't know their value as a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response?

I’ve already explained all of this....

It’s not about what somebody thinks of themselves. It’s ‘why’ feel the need to tell everyone about it? It screams of arrogance and vanity.

Just to clarify, as I’m aware of how you all love to latch on to things and scream bloody murder. I’m not saying that it’s then acceptable to throw abuse at someone for it. I merely answered the question in the op, which most of you have neglected; and merely responded to the title.

They’ve also went on to answer other questions that the thread had raised, and the main one is ‘why is it bad to love yourself’ Which was the whole point. My status update was a joke (like I have said many times) and my point in making this thread was to ask why some people think ‘oh you love yourself’ is an insult. "

I have answered that question also. Nobody on the face of the earth has ever said that it was a bad thing.

So this entire threads basis is founded upon the original “people shamed me for preaching of my perfection”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?"

Especially when it’s true!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response?

I’ve already explained all of this....

It’s not about what somebody thinks of themselves. It’s ‘why’ feel the need to tell everyone about it? It screams of arrogance and vanity.

Just to clarify, as I’m aware of how you all love to latch on to things and scream bloody murder. I’m not saying that it’s then acceptable to throw abuse at someone for it. I merely answered the question in the op, which most of you have neglected; and merely responded to the title.

They’ve also went on to answer other questions that the thread had raised, and the main one is ‘why is it bad to love yourself’ Which was the whole point. My status update was a joke (like I have said many times) and my point in making this thread was to ask why some people think ‘oh you love yourself’ is an insult.

I have answered that question also. Nobody on the face of the earth has ever said that it was a bad thing.

So this entire threads basis is founded upon the original “people shamed me for preaching of my perfection”. "

You’re explaining what my own thread means to me

And yes - loads of people on this earth think loving yourself is a bad thing - hence why I made the post!

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By *ommyxyzMan
over a year ago

Crawley

People who don’t like themselves are rarely internally attractive loving yourself is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with loving yourself and there is a Buddhist principle called loving kindness that can help someone to help build that.

I think there is a difference between loving oneself and arrogance.

The difficulty with this is arrogance is very much subjective to people what one person sees as a quirky comment because they feel good about themselves others can see as bragging and arrogance

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?"

Nothing wrong with loving yourself.

Perfection just might have seemed like a stretch though. Maybe that was it. Either that or they didn’t realise your tongue was lodged firmly in your cheek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People make an assumption that loving yourself automatically means you think you're better than they are.

To me it means you aren't prepared to compromise who you are, as you are you, and that's ok.

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?

Nothing wrong with loving yourself.

Perfection just might have seemed like a stretch though. Maybe that was it. Either that or they didn’t realise your tongue was lodged firmly in your cheek. "

Loads of men message me to tell me I’m perfection and when I agree, I’m a stuck up cow who loves themselves. Funny that eh?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"People who don’t like themselves are rarely internally attractive loving yourself is good. "

I have found that people who don't like themselves tend to project that dislike on to others. Emotional intelligence usually goes hand in hand with liking oneself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't say I love myself, but I love life and realised not many years ago that I was letting it pass by - so my motto is now

"life is for living, because we are a long time dead"

OP - just be yourself and happy - simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who don’t like themselves are rarely internally attractive loving yourself is good.

I have found that people who don't like themselves tend to project that dislike on to others. Emotional intelligence usually goes hand in hand with liking oneself."

There are parts of me I don't like. I don't like the damaged bits, the bits where I struggle to have faith in other people, the bit where I wonder what the agenda is of others.

That's there because I've been burnt.

They aren't part of the original me, the old me.

These are the bits I'm working on, I know the reasons, I know some of the triggers.

I reckon that I'm probably more emotionally intelligent because I do recognize them and want to work on them.

Am I kidding myself and really I'm just a damaged doofus?

I do like most of me.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people mistake confidence and self love for a arrogance and/or are threatened by people who know they're great.

I think it's a shame we can't all love ourselves more.

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Close By

I've not read all the posts... Because quite frankly and honestly I could be arsed at the time

However... I do believe it's important to love yourself as who you are.... Not doing so can lead to insecurities and anxiety... Waiting for the "perfect" moment to do something or speak to someone.... I'm starting to learn that what others think about me is far less than how I view myself....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usual internet clusterfuck misunderstanding.

What happened to 'if you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?' For me that simply translates into a bit of self respect and personal awareness, not 'Oh my god, aren't I so wonderful? Everyone else must adore me too..'

Not the same thing at all..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"People make an assumption that loving yourself automatically means you think you're better than they are.

To me it means you aren't prepared to compromise who you are, as you are you, and that's ok.

P"

Perfectly put, and there is a huge difference between loving yourself and even thinking you are perfect and vanity - and frankly someone getting abusive because of a status update needs to take a good long hard look at themselves before pointing fingers at the poster of said status update.

If someone is confident enough to love, or even like themselves for who they are, it should be celebrated not maligned.

The key between loving yourself and vanity is how it is expressed - the latter will usually come with a dollop of arrogance and be expressed regularly but sheesh throwing abuse at someone you don't know speaks volumes and not about the recipient!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People make an assumption that loving yourself automatically means you think you're better than they are.

To me it means you aren't prepared to compromise who you are, as you are you, and that's ok.

P

Perfectly put, and there is a huge difference between loving yourself and even thinking you are perfect and vanity - and frankly someone getting abusive because of a status update needs to take a good long hard look at themselves before pointing fingers at the poster of said status update.

If someone is confident enough to love, or even like themselves for who they are, it should be celebrated not maligned.

The key between loving yourself and vanity is how it is expressed - the latter will usually come with a dollop of arrogance and be expressed regularly but sheesh throwing abuse at someone you don't know speaks volumes and not about the recipient!!"

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"You're on fab and you live in Great Britain.

Loving yourself or having high self esteem is seen as a bad thing. Women must be humble and modest doncha know.

Low self esteem is rewarded especially on fab (hmmm wonder why) .

The men who enjoy and aren't threatened by women with confidence, self belief and a healthy self love are the only ones worth listening to.

I’m sure that the negative response was I’m response to gloating that “I’m perfect” on her feed. Which is far different from simply loving themselves.

Why would someone thinking they're perfect elicit an unsolicited negative response?

Exactly, what’s wrong with thinking I’m perfect? So what if it’s vain?

I remember a woman on the forums who knew she was good looking and got slated a lot for it. Why?

As I said self worth is not celebrated in women either on fab or in wider society. In a woman it's called vanity in a man it's called confidence"

Spot on

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Surly guys would rather have a woman that loves herself than a woman that loathes herself !!!

Keep loving yourself OP

The alternative isn't an attractive trait to have."

Some people actually prefer and target others with low self worth.

Makes them easier to manipulate.

Sad but true.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Surly guys would rather have a woman that loves herself than a woman that loathes herself !!!

Keep loving yourself OP

The alternative isn't an attractive trait to have.

Some people actually prefer and target others with low self worth.

Makes them easier to manipulate.

Sad but true."

Particularly in a place like this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving yourself doesn't mean you think you're the smartest, most talented or beautiful person in the world. It's the ability to look after yourself, to know when to put your needs before others and to know when to stop deleting and sacrificing yourself to please others. How can that be wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loving yourself doesn't mean you think you're the smartest, most talented or beautiful person in the world. It's the ability to look after yourself, to know when to put your needs before others and to know when to stop deleting and sacrificing yourself to please others. How can that be wrong?"

Yes yes yes

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usual internet clusterfuck misunderstanding.

What happened to 'if you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?' For me that simply translates into a bit of self respect and personal awareness, not 'Oh my god, aren't I so wonderful? Everyone else must adore me too..'

Not the same thing at all.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loving yourself doesn't mean you think you're the smartest, most talented or beautiful person in the world. It's the ability to look after yourself, to know when to put your needs before others and to know when to stop deleting and sacrificing yourself to please others. How can that be wrong?

Yes yes yes

P"

And knowing this means you can delete yourself free of any resentment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?"

Good for you! So what if you love yourself it's a good starting point I say ignore those who's say otherwise, I'm not sure why people get so upset by what others put on their status on here. Dont like keep scrolling

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By *retty GoodMan
over a year ago

Cardiff Bay

I like self confidence

I dislike self important people

Think you definitely need to like yourself and who you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Loving myself” / “up my own arse” - are all what I’d call throwaway insults, they’re often not used in a proper context and are bait material for a response. To some any response is better than nowt, which is a rather sad state of affairs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?

Good for you! So what if you love yourself it's a good starting point I say ignore those who's say otherwise, I'm not sure why people get so upset by what others put on their status on here. Dont like keep scrolling "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"“Loving myself” / “up my own arse” - are all what I’d call throwaway insults, they’re often not used in a proper context and are bait material for a response. To some any response is better than nowt, which is a rather sad state of affairs.

"

Yep

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By *ewtoyouXXXMan
over a year ago

rochdale cowboy


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?"

Man I love you lol you feel free to express yourself balls to those who criticise you for it

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By *ewtoyouXXXMan
over a year ago

rochdale cowboy


"“Loving myself” / “up my own arse” - are all what I’d call throwaway insults, they’re often not used in a proper context and are bait material for a response. To some any response is better than nowt, which is a rather sad state of affairs.

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Love who u are so carry on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Exactly, what’s wrong with thinking I’m perfect? So what if it’s vain?

I remember a woman on the forums who knew she was good looking and got slated a lot for it. Why?"

There’s nothing wrong with being vain but there’s also nothing really wrong with someone thinking you’re bit of an arrogant arse for saying it. What is wrong is for the latter to message their thought process to you as it’s uninvited.

If it’s the same time woman I’m thinking of, it was more her delivery style than the actual content of what she was saying.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I love myself; after all, what's not to love?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Exactly, what’s wrong with thinking I’m perfect? So what if it’s vain?

I remember a woman on the forums who knew she was good looking and got slated a lot for it. Why?

There’s nothing wrong with being vain but there’s also nothing really wrong with someone thinking you’re bit of an arrogant arse for saying it. What is wrong is for the latter to message their thought process to you as it’s uninvited.

If it’s the same time woman I’m thinking of, it was more her delivery style than the actual content of what she was saying."

Yeah, there was that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?"

I agree with you, however I’ve never loved my self, I often struggle to like myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love me, love myself is my way of being and it is nothing to do with being arrogant or vane.

I love myself before I love anyone is a cofidence thing and we should all love ourselves first before loving others and it is the kind love not vanity it is pure. I am not going to say love you all because you lot will take it the wrong way. Love is many different forms shapes and sizes although one cannot measure it. It means your body is at calm with yourself and no one can touch it. It is a special love should try it some time to all those that do not love themselves and it is nothing to do with spending hours on how your body is either go on give love a chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they were obviously just jealous because you ARE perfect

i love that you love you !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"they were obviously just jealous because you ARE perfect

i love that you love you !"

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'm Flawed and fecking Fabulous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one will do it otherwise, or least won't do it as I expect them to do so. So by loving myself, I love myself the way I'd love to be loved love

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Rather like the gentleman thread yesterday, perhaps it’s not for you to say you’re perfect but for other to say so?

Don’t ask me. I’m still confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me think along these lines.

"What did women expect joining Fab? I'm a great guy, but shit sandwiches are just part of being a woman in this environment. If you can't handle shit sandwiches then don't be on Fab!

...

Why are there so few women on Fab?" "

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Vanity

How is it vain to love yourself?

My status was sarcastic, but ‘fuck your love yourself’ was an ‘insult’ thrown at me. Why shouldn’t I love myself?"

We should love ourselves, accept ourselves for who we are. And spread the love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loving yourself doesn't mean you think you're the smartest, most talented or beautiful person in the world. It's the ability to look after yourself, to know when to put your needs before others and to know when to stop deleting and sacrificing yourself to please others. How can that be wrong?

Yes yes yes

P

And knowing this means you can delete yourself free of any resentment. "

What does delete yourself mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big difference between loving yourself and declaring you’re perfect, loving yourself is excepting the imperfections. If you’re at ease and comfortable with yourself, it’s plain for others to see and doesn’t need to be said.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"What’s so bad about loving yourself?

My status earlier on was ‘man I’m so perfect’ and a lot of men didn’t like this. Was accused of loving myself - so what?

How is that an insult?"

I have learnt to love my self and I do. I think part of loving ones self is acceptable of yourself and giving your self a break. However I'd take anyone who says their perfect with a pinch of salt. I think we're all far from perfect. I think a key part of good healthy mature love for ones self (and anyone else) is being accepting and ok with our imperfections.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vanity

How is it vain to love yourself?

My status was sarcastic, but ‘fuck your love yourself’ was an ‘insult’ thrown at me. Why shouldn’t I love myself?

We should love ourselves, accept ourselves for who we are. And spread the love"

And also spread our legs

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

It's your profile put whatever you like on it, if people don't like well who cares, it's yours.....

Love yourself till your blue in the face and don't let anyone tell you otherwise, we,r not here to appease and change to fit in....

You do whatever you like OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loving yourself doesn't mean you think you're the smartest, most talented or beautiful person in the world. It's the ability to look after yourself, to know when to put your needs before others and to know when to stop deleting and sacrificing yourself to please others. How can that be wrong?

Yes yes yes

P

And knowing this means you can delete yourself free of any resentment.

What does delete yourself mean?"

I took it as to stop being yourself, changing to please other people and fit their ideals rather than remaining being the true you

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loving yourself doesn't mean you think you're the smartest, most talented or beautiful person in the world. It's the ability to look after yourself, to know when to put your needs before others and to know when to stop deleting and sacrificing yourself to please others. How can that be wrong?

Yes yes yes

P

And knowing this means you can delete yourself free of any resentment.

What does delete yourself mean?

I took it as to stop being yourself, changing to please other people and fit their ideals rather than remaining being the true you

P"

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Big difference between loving yourself and declaring you’re perfect, loving yourself is excepting the imperfections. If you’re at ease and comfortable with yourself, it’s plain for others to see and doesn’t need to be said. "

Exactly. I can agree completely with the notion of loving yourself, but given the original declaration of perfection, most of this thread seems to have careered headlong down a path based on a false premise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Big difference between loving yourself and declaring you’re perfect, loving yourself is excepting the imperfections. If you’re at ease and comfortable with yourself, it’s plain for others to see and doesn’t need to be said.

Exactly. I can agree completely with the notion of loving yourself, but given the original declaration of perfection, most of this thread seems to have careered headlong down a path based on a false premise."

I used my status as an example and on this thread explained that many times. I’m well aware that people will not know my ‘im perfect!’ Status was sarcasm. Although it doesn’t mean I should have gotten abuse for it either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 24/06/19 21:03:43]"

Get your name wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People preach for others to love themselves. When they do, it's considered arrogant. You can only love yourself if you never advertise it. Be humble in your Self love. Never tell anyone how special you find yourself.... Self deprecating is the way to go. Then you'll have droves of messages telling you how beautiful you are! 

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 24/06/19 21:03:43]

Get your name wrong? "

Shit! You caught me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 24/06/19 21:03:43]

Get your name wrong?

Shit! You caught me "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People preach for others to love themselves. When they do, it's considered arrogant. You can only love yourself if you never advertise it. Be humble in your Self love. Never tell anyone how special you find yourself.... Self deprecating is the way to go. Then you'll have droves of messages telling you how beautiful you are! 

Holly"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a conundrum for sure.

"Love yourself!" we're always told. Yet when we do we're up ourselves.

Those pesky feminists "

Indeed. They need a good spanking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adorn me

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I adorn me "

I'd adorn you too.

(Couldn't resist, sorry!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do my best to show love to myself and nurture myself when I can. I accept myself as I am more than ever, so if that’s loving yourself then anyone who thinks it’s a bad thing isn’t seeing it as I do. And that’s fair enough but we’re not talking about the same love for self.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone should love themself! Though their is a difference between confidence and arrogance.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Be brave, show heart, know thyself and appreciate all the flavours and colours that you have. Glory in your wisdom and laugh at your foolishness. Stand when others sit, walk tall regardless of your height. Burn bright but not hot, catch the compliments as they are thrown and thrown them back at pace.... be beautiful, be glorious and most of all, love thyself, if we all did that, how much more love there would be in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I adorn me

I'd adorn you too.

(Couldn't resist, sorry!)"

You do what you like my lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be brave, show heart, know thyself and appreciate all the flavours and colours that you have. Glory in your wisdom and laugh at your foolishness. Stand when others sit, walk tall regardless of your height. Burn bright but not hot, catch the compliments as they are thrown and thrown them back at pace.... be beautiful, be glorious and most of all, love thyself, if we all did that, how much more love there would be in the world."

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By *r on the EdgeMan
over a year ago

accrington

For one to truly love someone, one must first love themselves

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By *entish79Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Big difference between loving yourself and declaring you’re perfect, loving yourself is excepting the imperfections. If you’re at ease and comfortable with yourself, it’s plain for others to see and doesn’t need to be said.

Exactly. I can agree completely with the notion of loving yourself, but given the original declaration of perfection, most of this thread seems to have careered headlong down a path based on a false premise.

I used my status as an example and on this thread explained that many times. I’m well aware that people will not know my ‘im perfect!’ Status was sarcasm. Although it doesn’t mean I should have gotten abuse for it either way

"

Of course you shouldn’t have gotten abuse for it, and I said in my first post that people should have realised you weren’t being entirely serious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LJ likes to love himself in the shower when we are apart

He had to love himself today but cum Thursday i can do all the loving for him

Holly

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